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sorry angie i havent been on here for a while alots been going on. for starters me and my boyfriend are doing very good since the last time i talked to you about what was happening. we worked everything out and were good. he left to the navy on 02/11 hes in boot camp right now in illinois. and hes not allow to talk on the phone or anything. the last time we spoke was on the 02/13 for like 30 secs. because thats all the time they gave him, and now i wont here from him until 2 weeks from now. i really sad because we had everything good and i really MISS him ALOT!!! = [ i didnt know it would be this hard but it is, and the plans that we talked about previously before he left he still wants to go ahead with them when he gets back. what i wanna do is move to pensacola to take up a police academy and college and become a cop and my best friend since 6th grade lives up there and when we were in middle school her dad and my mom were really good friends and she use to live with me and her dad said if i come up there i can stay there rent free. but the only problem is my mom is trying to stop me from going. i told her everythings set, my mom just doesnt want to let me go and i hate that she keeps holding on to me telling me im not going i can stay with here and take up the academy but i dnt i wanna move i want to start my life the way i want to. with my boyfriend whos also going to be in pensacola as part of his boot camp and hes going to pick to be stationed in jacksonville. i really want to get out of my house. and i really think im going to do!!!
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Hey!
First of all, I'm really sorry, I know that you asked me this a long time ago, but I've just been soo busy lately.
Okay, so I have a few small pieces of advice for you. The first thing is, I need to picture something. You sound like an optimist, which is really great, its soo much better to be an optimist than a pesimist. However, once in a while, you need to look at the situation from a different point of view. Think about your life in a worst case senario type of view for a minute. Think of what will happen if you move to Pensacola (Or jacksonville? Sorry I'm canadian, I have no idea where we're talking, it's probably like really well known, lol my guess would probably be really off of where it really is :P). What if you can't get into the police academy? what happens if you and your boyfriend break up (Eek.)? What happens if you can't get a job as a police officer in jacksonville (?)? What if you for some reason can't stay at the friend's parent's house? What happens if you need to start paying rent and you don't have enough money? what if your boyfriend isnt able to be stationed in jacksonville? These are just a few of many of the things that could potentially happen. And your mother is probably thinking of all of these things. You have to understand, she cares about you, and it may seem that she just wants to keep you in her watch, to ruin your life, but she wants you to stay because she thinks thats whats best for you. What you need to do, is think of all of the answers to those questions and many more. then give the answers to your mom. Tell her to be patient and respectful. Tell her that you arent trying to do this to go against her, that this is your dream. then explain it all to her and see what she says. she may not take it well, but you have your life thought out, (Once you plan for all of the possibilities that is) so its really up to you.
Making a choice like this is a really big decision, so you can't treat it lightly. Over think everything!!!
As far as you and your boyfriend. I dont know if you can email or write him, but what I would do, is I would write an email to him everyday (Even if you can't send it). My best friend went away for a while and I really missed her, so every day I wrote an email to her. They were massive and long and just talked about my day and what was going on in my life. The stuff I would tell her if she was with me. i still managed to send them to her, but I doubt that she read them all, there were a lot. It was just a way to keep her closer to me while she was gone. So basically even if you can't talk to him everyday, you can still pretend that you are talking to him. It sounds kind of lame, but trust me, it works.
I hope that answers your question, keep me posted okay? I promise I'll get back to you faster next time. Good luck, love ya lots!
Angie91
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