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Backstabbing friendd.
Im18/f and my cousin is 17/f.My cousin and i have been best friends like foreverr and in the past few years shes been kinda mean to mee. not really treating me like a good friend. but ive always forgiven her. And shes always the one who gets the guys and alwayss flirts with them and i have never had a bf beforee. Shes more outgoing and im kinda shyy. but this passed december she gave this guy my phone number for his friend and me and his friend started talking and we started to like each otherr. and i was so happy becasue i actually thought that i would get a bf and then on christmas when she was over my house she asked me for his phone number and i gave it to her. and she texted him and they started talkng and the three of us hung out at her house one dayy. and i kind of noticed that maybe they like each otherr. then he asked me why i told his friend why i liked him just as a friedn and i said that i want to be just friends for noww cause i felt like i didnt know him that well yett. so then he started talking to my cousin and he told me that he liked herr and then i found out that she liked him and now they are going outt. and one time she talked about me to my other cousin who im reallly close with and she said some mean stufff. and now the guyy is such an asshole all of a sudden.i mean i dont like him anymore or anything but it just pisses me off that they both got what they wanted. and i didnt do anything to either of themm. and me and my cousin havent talked or anything in like a month.
what should i doo? please hellppp.
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My cousin is also my best friend. We have been that way since we were born. My father always told me that it might not last. The reason why your cousin might be doing this stuff is because you are her family. She thinks you will always be there for her no matter what she does to you because you are family. It sucks that it happens but I think that is why. You have to show her that the stuff she does is not always going to be forgiven.
Family grows apart especially with close cousins. You aren't like her and she knows it. Hang out with some people that aren't friends with her. You may be able to step out of your shell some more. Know that she is family and I am pretty sure that she will always be there for you.
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Hey!
This has happened to me before. Friends can be jerks sometimes. but the funny thing is, they sometimes don't even seem to know that they are doing it.
First of all lets talk about the guy, because thats easier. He's an idiot. he didnt realise that you are a totally awesome girl that he could be with. Guys tend not to be patient, and they go for the girl that is quicker, rather than the girl that is sweet and sensitive. It sucks, but it isnt always going to be liek that. Someday soon, you will meet a great guy, and he's going to be willing to take things slowly. So do me a favour, dont worry about this jerk, because you giving him a second thought(good or bad) is just like giving those guys more power. They do it to girls all the time, and it really should stop, but its not going to stop by you paying any attention to it.
Now for your friend/cousin. Okay, well there are two ways to deal with this. One, you can give up on the friendship and never talk to her again, or two, you can be a good person and step up to try and fix it.
For the first one, well it's pretty self explanitory. She treats you badly, whats the point of having a person like that in your life?
For the second one, though you hate the way she treats you, she is you cousin/friend and you love her, she just hurt you really badly. You need closure. you need to tell her what happened, tell her why you are upset, tell her that she can't do that to you. But you also need to forgive her. you need to be the big person. tell her she screwed up, but you want to try and make amends. she may not treat that well, but then revert back to the first option. if she doenst care enough about your friendship to try and change, well then she isnt worth worrying about. maybe she is just being immature, and if thats the case, then she will grow up and realise that she was an idiot. It will happen eventually, but you can never predict when it will be.
If everything works out and she makes an attempt to change, but quickly reverts back, gently tell her what she is doing, and if that doesnt work, then again, see choice one. you have to remember how awesome you are. She is lucky to have you, and if she can't see that, then its not worth it. it just isnt worth it. I know you want to try and fix things, and hopefully this time it can be fixed, but sometimes it just isnt meant to be. it'll be really sad it that is the case, but just remember what a great person you are you don't need her to make you that great person, and you definitely don't need her bringing you down.
I've been through this before and I know its tough, but you'll get through this, don't worry okay? Good luck. And I hope I helped! Love ya,
angie91
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