-Hey world I've been on here awhile now i just wanna say being on here has been great! im not a specailist but im here for anyone that needs someone to talk to. :) feel free to ask me anything and don't feel ashamed, im not here to judge.we all have daily battles,but it doesn't mean we have to face them alone.with that being said I look forward to meeting you ;)
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Hey, so is going to be a bit long, I'm sorry. My ex and I split up about half a year ago and we decided at the time that I would keep our dog Spot because she would be moving in with her dad and he and his wife have like 5 cats. I didn't want any complications so I asked her to give me full custody of her and I would give her visitation rights. Well, after we split up, the break up got really difficult. I gave her more than two months to move out her things and it got to the point where I had to start threatening to throw her stuff out so that she would come get them. We had a lot of arguments after the break up to the point that I don't want anything to do with her anymore because every time she came by to pick up her stuff, which was more than several occasions, she would make things really difficult and hard. I really didn't mind being friends with her then, but her attitude just made it really hard and I've never considered ever beings friends with my exes because of the drama. I'm a bit traumatized by the negative interaction that we had after the break up and I just cannot and do not want to associate with her anymore, but she insists on seeing the dog. The more often she wants to see the dog, the more often I have to see her. I feel like if I already have to deal with her presence and if she wants to be more involved in my dogs life then she's going to have to start paying up the costs to care for a pet. Since we've broken up I've been paying for all of her food and taking care of her. I really don't understand her desire to see Spot at all because when we were together I was still the one that took her out when she needed to be outside, fed her, and gave her baths. Whenever she was home and my dog was in the way she was yell at her and say "Move!"
Why is she so keen on seeing my dog? Every time she visits she only spends 15 minutes outside with her and comes inside my apartment and will sit there for almost an hour.
Recently I told her that she can see the dog, but I don't want her in my apartment anymore. What are my options and what should I do? I've considered giving her my dog as well if she gets the chance to move out of her dads, but I think I'm better suited for my dog because she is a golden chow mix and can be headstrong sometimes. My dog only listens to me and I don't know how Spot will be with her. Since she left, Spots attitude has changed for the better for some reason. She doesn't pull as often as she does on the leash and she listens to me better when I tell her to "leave it" and "lets go", she use to be a bit aggressive with strangers being within visible sight, but now she can walk away from them and I really love it. (link)
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Honestly, I think she wants you back. She still cares about you. Because as you said she didn't really care for the dog before, but now she always wants to see the dog. She's using the dog as an excuse. Just like she uses her things being there because she knows if she gets all of her things out,there's no reason for her to be there. Which means that she couldn't see you. From the looks of it maybe you're the one who called it off? She makes things difficult Because that's her way off showing she still wants you. It's not much of an answer but maybe it will help put things In perspective for you about your ex's behavior towards you.
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Hi,
I'd like to buy online some toys for my two little kids on www.snapdeal.com using simpleshoppinglink.com because their conditions are good for me since I live in Germany.
But I dunno if this company isn't a scam.
Has anybody tried this one? (link)
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Have you tried amazon.com? They have new and used thing's. They also have reviews for the product. Also go to Google and type in the websites and then type reviews. Or you can type is ( ) a spam site? Tgere then should be results for your website. Also
Make sure they deliver to where you live which they should. I hope this helps
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
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It's not easy to adjust to new places. But it my not sound like much advice ,but be yourself. A lot of kids feel the pressure to grow up because they think its "cool" be yourself and watch your friends start to come around. There's nothing better than having friends that are there because they like you for you. Do they Have any clubs to join at your school? Maybe you can start there. I hope this helps. Be yourself friends will come
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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I think you should think about the things that made you love god so much,what inspired you,was it a church group, club? Maybe a book you read,a movie you saw? I think just finding a way for you to be yourself and show your love through that. It'll draws people attention to you. I hope this helps. Sirry for the wait.
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I am 27 years old and I'm FINALLY about to get started on my dream job as a writer and a comedian. I know it sounds like a stupid dream, but I'm actually making it happen and I've got a good fall back plan.
Here are my questions. The first is how do I choose just one style of comedy I want to do? It's been said to me, or at least implied, that actors do their best when they choose one style to specialize in and choose their inspiration from that style. I can't decide what I want to do. As for inspiration or influences I've had, there have been many. I love Phil Hartman, John Ritter, Mike Myers, David Spade, John Belushi, Robin Williams, and Chris Farley. A lot of those guys have different styles. Hartman although a nice guy in real life, was known for playing weasels. Ritter was gifted and physical comedy, Myers and Williams are gifted at creating an array of different characters, Spade is a smart mouth, and Belushi and Farley often played dumb guys and poked fun at their weight. How do I choose which way to go?
Second question is what do I do if my family doesn't support me? My parents do support me as do my sister, my aunt, and my uncle. However, my granddad on my mom's side, my grandmother on my dad's side, and my brother don't support me at all. They seem to want me to fail. I could understand them just wanting me to be realistic, but that doesn't seem to be their problem. Their problem seems to be more that they don't want me to succeed, they don't care, or in my granddad's case, he just doesn't like my humor. We don't like each others humor actually. I don't like most of the jokes he makes, but I laugh at them anyway to be polite, but he won't do the same. Anytime I make a joke in front of him, it's just awkward silence. I know he doesn't have any faith in me to be successful. Aside from him, One aunt was extremely negative about my goal and on uncle didn't even bother to watch the first performance I did.
I guess that's it. Does anyone have any advice for me? (link)
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Let me be one of the first to say congrats on Making your dream come a reality! Im not a professional or smuggling but if you feel comfortable at doing different types of comedy.. do different types! Do them until you get to know which one suits you better.i feel you should always do research. Watch your favorite comedians,take notes. As far as building a fan base create a YouTube. (It may sound dumb or cheezy..) but think alot of musicians, actors and comedians are getting discovered off of YouTube. And go from there! As far as family the most important thing is you have a dream and you're planning to follow through. The most important person wHo needs to believe is you! there will always be people that love (and unfortunately hate or may not get your sense of humor)but don't give up and keep working on dream! Also if they have local gigs that you can perform at then you should try out. I hope I helped in some way. Good luck!
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How should I say I like you to a boy if I'm a young girl? We've been friends for a while and now I want to be more than friends. I don't want to ask him so it sounds awkward and puts him in a weird position. How should i ask him without making him feel uncomfortable? (link)
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It really depends, I think that the best way is to ask yourself, " what would he do?" Being that you his friend you might know his reaction to things. Also a good thing is just to ask him. Hypothetically an example : hey what do you think of friends dating?" Or (depending on your age) maybe try doing things to show you like him. I hope this helps in some way good luck!
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I don't really know that my guy likes me or not but i think so that kind of he likes me ......... But sometimes he just shows that he hates to hell and sometimes he just turns back looks at me....... i seriously don't know what to do plz!!!!! I am from INDIA (link)
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Well, depending on your age guys show how much they like a girl depending on their age. Also it also depends on the guy .. seeing that he's looking at you is kinda tricky to say. If he stares at you til you notice and he acts shy.. Then he probably does. Do you guys speak to each other? I think you should try talking to him. . If not maybe try doing things to show him that you like him (if you like him back) overall it really just depends on the type of guy he is. But I do strongly advise to talk to him. Good luck I hope this helped in some way ♡
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Hi, so I've been dating this girl for a few weeks. Now she is REALLY beautiful, all the guys are after her. I even received a text from one of her guy friends saying he was going to try and steal her from me. She also hangs out at some other guy's houses the whole time. I know she is loyal, as am I, I just get worried because we really love each other, but she lives in Texas and i live in Tennessee. It's just that I've dealt with long distance relationships before, they don't work out. But with her, I know it will last a long time. I'm just wondering, should I be worried? Should i keep loving her? :( (link)
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Long distance relationships have their challenges, but every relationship has obstacles. part of being with someone is having trust and another is communication. Have you guys talked about that text message? Did you tell her how it make you feel? If she doesn't care or if she makes you feel as tho it could be anything more than just a text . You should leave. In relationships especially long distance relationships. There should always be that security that you're the only one. You should talk more about that "friend" texting and figuring out a solution together. I hope this helps good luck!
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Hi Everybody,
So I am 19 years old and recently my mother and younger brother moved away, and I moved into my fathers house. As well as my boyfriend of 3 years even more recently moved away. I now live with my older brother, younger sister, step mom and father. I cannot be upstairs for long periods of time because I have some issues with my sister and I get very mad and irritated with her because she does not know what an inside voice is. Anyways, my mother and I are very close, and she is truly my bestfriend. And ever since everyone moved away I feel very lonely. I have never had many friends, so I basically sit in my room and do homework, and go to work, and go to college. I get very anxious not having anyone to talk too, and I have a strong desire to get a dog. I feel as though a dog could lift my spirits and save me from becoming depressed. The problem is, my step mom and sister have 4 cats 1 small dog and 1 guinea pig. I was close with my mother dog but she obviously moved away with my mother, and I just want to feel wanted. I know that having a pet that I could love and would love me back, and keep me company would fix my problem, but how on earth am I supposed to convince them? They know I want a dog, but they don't realize that I need a dog. (link)
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That's kinda tough. I would say that simply you just have been feeling the need to have a companion. Because everyone moving has taken a toll on you.even tho everyone has their own pet already, you would just prefer one of your own ,if not a dog maybe a guinea pig. (You could say that it could keep the other company. Which it is proven they are happier with other guinea pigs around)
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills). (link)
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Honestly I'm not sure what your question is. . But I can assure you ending your life is priceless! You have alot going for you. I think that you should try ralking about switching medication. Its supposed to help release your burdens not add to them. I understand what it's like to not want to live anymore, the feeling of being not normal and feeling like no one understands how you feel and that life seems to be very difficult to get through . Im pretty sure your family is only trying to do what they think is best. But please don't end your life. I hope this has helped in some way.
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My wife and I have been married for 47 years. Admittedly shew has made some good financial decisions over the years but now I am concerned about something very serious. We have approximately 95,000.00 in nth stock amrket. ait goes up and down, most.y down lately. I want it all sold and the money put into the bank where it never goes down. She refuses and I hate confrontation. She will simply not talk about it. I asked her one question that I thought would seal the sell it all deal. "Is there more of a chance of it getting to 100,000 or going to 80,000.00"? we've all seen the crashes and we're to old to go through another one. What do you suggest? (link)
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Well..it really depends on what the stock is. Im not a professional in that category but i do think that it is smart to save what you have . i think maybe you should suggest to take half out of stocks and keep another in. better safe than sorry. also i would just try to do more research on your investment. I hope everything works out for you and your wife!
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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
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That's very tough.. I think overall you should tell him. Because you don't want to carry that guilt. It isn't fun and probably won't be an easy thing. But I think that he can respect the fact that you told him. it could all still work. He could forgive you and it wouldn't be so bad but I think that you should call him about it. (Unless you're going to see him soon) if you tell him. I think he can at least appreciate your honesty. I hope it works out good look
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Hi thanks for the advice! I thought about trying to tell someone but then I'll get teased for being scared of a girl And for backing down from a fight. I suppose that would be better than getting beat up though. One of her friends told me today that shes just messing with me because she knows I'm afraid of after what happened, and that she probably wouldn't beat me up on school grounds at least, because she could get kicked of the gymnastics and cheerleader teams. I don't know though, she pretty much beat me up once already so I don't know what to expect? (link)
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Another route to go could be to talk to her coach. .but I think to do that it could be a hit or miss.. she could leave you alone if you did that or it could make bulling worse. I think that the best route like I said before is to just ignore her and talk to your dad :) I hope I helped in some way . Good luck!
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Hi im a boy in the 7th grade and I recently went to a playground over the weekend thats just outside the county where i live and witnessed a girl who goes to my school beating up a boy really bad for whatever reason I don't know. He wasn't anyone I knew he probably went to the school in that area. Anyway she finally let him go and he was limping and crying as he went by me and the girl and her friend were laughing at him and saw me standing there in shock and her friend said something"Tina kick his ass too" so she came at me I pushed her away but she was able to punch me in the face and take me down and started To get me in a headlock and punch me some more. Well I was able to get away and on my bike. Now after that I was so scared out of my mind of her and I knew I would see her in school. so today she's been hassling me intimidating me, by coming up behind me at lunch and said "I love making boys cry" and "I won't let u get away next time"
I don't know what to do! I never been afraid of a girl before and im scared and nervous as hell! Im to nervous to tell anybody esp my dad! Not sure how he would react and I don't want to admit to anybody that I'm scared of her, but im definitely scared of her after what I seen her do to the other kid and what she did to me! and another girl who's on her gymnastics team told me she knows im afraid of her now and said she overheard her saying she plans on beating me up after school to get out of practice! Any advice please! (link)
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She only picks On people she knows that she can. Most bullies do that. I'm sorry that she is picking ob I would talk to your dad.ydon't have to say it's a girl or you could change it to seem like someone else . Also if you act like she doesn't scare you, she may leave you alone.I know that you are it may help. I hope you that everything gets better
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Feeling like my mum doesn't give a damb. I am in agony because of the emotions I have that are because of being hurt by my stepdad physically and emotionally. The pain is geytwto the stage that I won't be able to go to school and will end up back in the shit hole called hospital. It is getting worse every time he's near me and my family. I just can tell if he's near them weather asleep. One minuite I am having a brilliant dream then I wale up in agony and hear del downstairs. I cannot cope much longer and need to get away so that I don't go to hospital for months on end again. I know my family needs him to see them but they know full well I despice what he has done to me for all my life he's sadly been in. I want to leave this world half the time to get away. I feel that my family would rather have me in hospital than at home that that del can come back so I'm going to go and live with my dad before I do either, get out this world or in the shit hole. I've tried non stop to try and get through this with my family but every time I try it is thrown in my face. I've just talked to mum and she I mad at me because she is 'annoyed that I get angry when dels here'. The only people who, even knowing Everything about how ALL the family fell, still don't understand how mum can be wanting del around after emotionally hurting me all my life. All my life mum has always said that if anyone hurts her kids, in any way, no matter what they'll be out her life. But it must be worse that someone that is meant to be there parent hurts a child, especially with disabilities. The only way I can be relieved is on my PS3 or doing it/art. Please if you can give advice on what to do. I've got two sisters who care about del, some how, but hate and blame me for what's going on.
I've told mum everything about how I fell except suiccide and hatmfull thoughts but makes no difference. Social services are involved but don't feel able to talk to them. Please give me advice as I don't know what to do. (link)
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Im sorry for your pain. But as someone mentioned earlier uou need to tell the services. They are there to help you. I understand it can be scary but they deal with alot of families and people who go through the same things that you have gone through. You have so much to live for! Life has it's ups and downs but you'll make it. Please think about talking to the services they can help make your situation better. I hope that you will find happiness.
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To make a long story very short, I was in a relationship with this guy and we broke up about a month ago. The breakup was bad, because he broke up with me for another girl that he unintentionally got pregnant. He apologized later and I have since forgiven him. We started to become friends again, and it was good. A week or two goes by and he starts talking to me about liking this other girl. That would be fine in most circumstances, but he also said he still had feelings for me. That confused me for a while, but then I figured out how much of a liar he was in the relationship. The next week I told him that I still loved him and how I felt about his lying behavior. I told him because I couldn't get the thoughts out of my head and it was driving me crazy. After we talked about it, now he acts like we aren't friends. He says "we're cool" and there are no grudges or anything, but he won't hang out with me outside of the events I have to see him at. Those events are weekly, by the way, and now I'm left feeling like I have to pretend everything is fine in front of all of our mutual friends. Its not fine, and if those people knew what he did they may not want to be his friends. I know this sounds really messed up, but I still want to be his friend in spite of all the things we've been through. My real question is how do I go about rebuilding this friendship if I can? Should I apologize for telling him how I felt, and making him feel weird? I mean whatever I do, I know this guy will lie to my face, because I've caught him so many other times. However I don't want to loose a great friend I used to have, I've already lost him as a lover, I can't stand to loose him as a friend too. Is it hopeless, or is it fixable? (link)
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Well situations like this are hard to tell to me you should tell him how you feel about everything. Sometimes it can work out .if he really cares it will things like this take time. I think since he lies alot you should brace yourself, he might say things that could be hurtful and not mean them.. I do believe it could work out. I hope everything gets better!
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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My question(s) to you are 1 do you want to flirt or are you playing hard to get? Are you interested? I feel the best way is being direct with your actions. You can do that without being mean just be yourself. If you would like him to stop jyst say . I'm not interested in you in that way. (If you're not interested. I hope this has helped you .good luck!
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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I feel that you should apologize to the person you harmed. I believe you probably Have and I feel you should forgive yourself. Turning yourself in I feel is the right thing as what to face it could vary. if you mean legally that can range like I said before. The biggest thing is trying to move on and vowing never to allow yourself to get to that point. I hope the you can find peace. I wish you well.
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I have known this boy since elementary school and we are seniors in high school now. I never really liked him in this way until this year.. I sit at the same table with him And 3 other classmates with whom we share a friendship with that's hard to explain. One of my girlfriends at the table knows how I feel towards him And she notices how we fight like a married couple. I really like him And he talks to me like I'm his wife or something. We argue all the time but I think it's just a part of our chemistry. My question is how do I know if he really likes me the way I like him or if he's just joking all the time. By the way he's only dated white And Hispanic girls in the past And I'm African American And so is he. (link)
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You guys are friends and the best thing is to think if you're really interested in the relationship. If so you guys are friends so tell him how you feel. Explain what you're feeling. Hopefully everything will work out for the best. If things don't it'll be his loss.
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I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain. (link)
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Honestly, im not really sure what you're asking. .but im sorry whatever it is that is causing you pain.im guessing that seeing you day dream about more Painful things ..could be paranoia thinking of things that could happen worse. . I would hope whatever pain your dealing with I hope you find away to live your life happier. I hope you find a better and happier daydream, to dream. Again I'm sorry for what you are dealing with.
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