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Well, I like this guy and he likes me. He likes me back but he is not allowed to date. We act like we are dating when there is no one else around but any time that there is any one around he just gets really weird. HELP! (link)
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Act normal around each other until he is allowed to date. Then maybe he wont be as awkward. Try to keep it on low key(;
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I dated a guy for two months. He's 27 and I'm 24. He was really sweet but seemed to think I was a 'goddess' and said he could imagine dating with the intent of marriage. I broke up with him because of the pressure- this is my first relationship and he seems ready for things I'm not ready for. Also I'm in a late bloomer so I'm in college and I have no idea where I'll be in 1 year. It was my birthday and he sent told me he wishes me the best and sent me a long love poem. He also said he knows I made the right decision for myself by breaking up. Is it normal to feel like I want him back even though breaking up seemed healthier? Should I ever contact him again? (link)
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You should keep in touch until you decide whether or not you still like him.
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Hey there. I'm a 21 year old female and I have struggled with bulimia off and on for about 4 years. It started when I got to college and used it as a way to deal with stress. I was dating a guy at the time and he was the only one who realized that I had a problem because I was mostly bulimic with anorexic periods mixed in so it was pretty easy to hide and I got very good at it. Leaning on my boyfriend and only my boyfriend made me very dependent on him. I should have seeked help much earlier on but refused to admit that it was a real problem until after we broke up. In a way I think this issue was part of our breakup. I have never been in counseling but I confused in my doctor and he will often put me on a very mild dose of Prozac when I'm going through a stressful time because my bulimia only really surfaces when I am stressed out even though I work out every day and do other stress management practices, I suffer from pretty intense anxiety and I really like the months that I'm on the Prozac but don't like being dependent on medicine. I'm not sure all of this is relevant. I suppose I just don't want to get any responses that urge counseling or other suggestions related to the bulimia because it is not really what I'm asking here.
My problem is I have been with my current boyfriend for quite some time now and he is the love of my life. But I keep these issues from him. Granted, the majority of our relationship I have had it under control and been completely free of bingeing and purging. I have been starting to struggle recently and have told my two closest friends and discussed starting on the medication again. And I feel guilty. Like I'm lying to him by not telling him what's going on. It's a deeply personal issue and I am so scared to tell him and have it ruin our relationship like the last one. And I know I know, if it's truly meant to be he should be able to work with me/support me blah blah I know this... But it's so difficult to work up the courage to tell him. It's the worst thing about myself and I don't talk about it anyone, ever, anymore besides my doctor or to let my friends know I'm back on medication (my doctor said this is a safe thing to do for antidepressants). I guess I'm asking if this is something that I truly need to tell him... and if it is, how? Because I physically don't feel able.
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You don't need to tell him anything. He might appreciate the honesty, but it's your body.
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So, I'm in seventh grade and I have had this crush on a boy ever since sixth grade started. He used to be one of my close friend's friend in fifth grade before my friend moved away, so I know a bit about him. It gets really hard for me to focus in any classes I have with him, I'm not overly obsessed or anything but I just really like him but as I'm pretty shy I don't know how to tell him because we've maintained a friendly-acquaintance relationship over a year now, and I haven't even had the nerve to open up to a friend as him, let alone tell him I like him... I'm just way too shy and afraid he just won't look at who I am as just a friend again, or that word will get around the school and people will bug me about it. Can anyone help me to let him know I like him, and what to do if things go wrong? Or, at the very least, how we can be good friends? (link)
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Tell him and if he reacts badly say it was a dare. It's old but it works.
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Im 17 and I recently found out I was pregnanedt I want to tell my family but im scared. My boyfriend already knows and he told me not to worry he'll take care of both of us he really is a a great guy but I was wondering how do I just tell my parents because im not confortable with talkin to them about certain things like sec and subjects related to it I guess thats how I got into this in the first place I just want the best answers to tell my family that im pregnant. Please and thanks for the help. (link)
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Tell them straight up. This might end in a fight, but hopefully your family will be supportive about it. Don't be mad if it doesn't end well.
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right now im in the 8th grade and i want to know what's the best way to study...i have like 4 test tomorrow and i really need help..so if anyone can help me i will surely appreciate it....thanx alot!!!! (link)
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1. Research (the subjects.)
2. Answer (any questions in your mind.)
3. Write (down notes in blue pen.)
4. Memorize (key details.)
RAWM
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does anyone know where I could go to school online for free by the way i'm in 8th grade please help me (link)
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1. Connections Academy
2. k12
3. e-achieve
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I recently found out that my father has gotten married for the sixth time. I haven't seen him in five years. I am currently seventeen and live in Kentucky. I know that my father is an abusive, selfish man. He cheats constantly. He has a thing for young girls. Girls my age, and he's around forty now. I don't know his wife's age, but I do know that she will be abused emotionally and physically. I am honestly amazed that someone as lazy as him could put so much effort into tearing down another person. He never keeps a job for longer than a month, never pays child support, and just generally does little to support his children or anyone else. He preys on vulnerable women, finding younger girls with low self esteem, who are easy to manipulate. I need to know, is there anything I can do about this? Anything at all? Legally or otherwise. I feel responsible for this, for this woman's safety and for my father's actions. I know I'm doing nothing wrong myself, but years ago I watched this man put a young woman in the hospital. I need to do something. So please. If there's anything you can think of, any way I could make the authorities intervene, please tell me. (link)
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Alert them until they do something about it.
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Hello! I’m currently a senior in college and I’m 21 years old. i’m currently seeking advice that relates to a guy I’m currently talking too who is also in college and is 22. Basically we started talking a little over a month ago and met on Tinder. I actually had made a tinder because I was bored not because I wanted a hook up. Turns out I messaged him first and we really hit it off. And we eventually started texting. So far we have been on two days and they both have been really great and he said I made a good impression. The only issue is that he isn’t a big texter. He was honest with me and told me that he isn’t on his phone a lot and he responds to me sometimes 5-6 hours later. But when he does respond he aplogizes for responding back so late. Anyways, I’m really interested in him and really would like to spend more time with him. i’m afraid to tell him that though because I don’t want to come off as clingly or desperate. Also we haven’t really talked about what either of us are looking for. I know that he doesn’t want to hook up but how do I bring up that conversation without scaring him off" Also is it too early to ask him if he’s interested in me" Maybe I’m just over thinking it....
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If he didn't like you why would he be talking to you on a dating site. He could have just not replied.
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I should begin by saying our dad is really good at sleight of hand tricks and stuff like that. That's how he was able to pull this off.
On Sunday, my sister and I were having fun racing each other from one side of our backyard to the other. We were catching our breath between races when our dad said something and made us jump. We hadn't realized he'd come up behind us. He said he'd been watching us race and that he wanted in. He bet us that if we won, he'd do all our chores for us for a month. If he won, we'd do even more chores than usual for a month. We agreed and took our mark. When our dad yelled "Go!" we took off running as fast as we could. We were halfway to the finishing point and ahead of him when we both found ourselves being jerked off our feet and onto our butts! Dad quit running at this point and just walked to the finish line.
Turns out he'd tied a rope to the belt loops of our pants and during the race we'd run past a tree on opposite sides. I gotta give him credit, I didn't see that one coming!
Only problem is now he really does expect us to do the extra chores even though there's no way we could've won. Is it fair of him to hold us to this bet? If no, then what should we say to convince him to let us off the hook? (link)
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No, he cheated.
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I'm the same person who posted about taking off a semester to work/save up money. :)
I'm starting to worry about how I'll handle my new job since I'm used to working from home and making my own hours (to a certain degree).
I'm really not used to waking up early and I just found out I'm going to have to wake up at 7am for this job. I tend to sleep through alarm clocks and have had this weird thing my whole life where I'll turn my alarm clock off without even consciously realizing I'm doing it and going right back to sleep. When I wake up I don't even remember turning the alarm clock off, but have had people confirm I did.
I usually wake up around 10am and I am on occasion able to wake up earlier for important things like doctor appointments, but waking up continuously early is something I've never been able to master. At some point I wind up sleeping through my alarm or turning it off without even thinking about it and going back to sleep. I'm an extremely deep sleeper and tend to get "stuck" in dreams where I can't wake up. I've had alarms set on max volume before and slept through them because I was dreaming.
Even worse, a couple years ago I tried to work a job where I had to wake up early and flat out couldn't make it through the day. I would fall asleep at my desk and not be able to stop myself. I would just one minute be awake and then 5 minutes later be asleep. This also used to happen in classes. Honestly, I probably have some kind of narcolepsy. I can't go more than 5 hours or so without NEEDING a nap.
I eat healthy, exercise, take vitamins, and otherwise take care of myself so it's nothing related to a bad diet. I've tried caffeine, but it doesn't really have an effect on me other than making me feel anxious.
I was just wondering if maybe you guys have any advice for how to wake up and stay awake throughout the day? If I take a lunch break I get especially sleepy right after I eat. I did find out there's a Starbucks next door, but my previous experiences with caffeine makes me think grabbing coffee won't help.
I also can't really take naps during breaks because there's about a 1% chance i would actually wake up and go back to work. They would probably find me 5 hours later still asleep in my car.
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1. Go to bed earlier.
2. Drink a LOT of water.
3. Wake up earlier. (I know it sounds crazy, but this actually helps. It gives you more of a chance to wake up and your not in as deep of a sleep so you can wake up easier.)
4. Go for a run.
5. Take a cold shower.
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Hello. 21/F. I felt like I needed to vent somewhere but I can never tell anyone my true feelings. I am already 21 y/o but I have never had a relationship with anyone, I have never even kissed. My younger brother has already had countless girlfriends and has done it all. My youngest sibling, my sister, has just recently been kissed by the boy she likes. While I am very happy for her, I just felt this deep wave of depression come over me. It was awful. I have liked so many guys but never managed to have any of them reciprocate the feelings back. Recently I was beginning to wonder if I should just resign to the fact that I will probably stay alone for the rest of my life. I'm not very sociable, and its very hard for me to be in social situations, so its easy for me to become lonely after a certain period of time. The few guys who have shown interest in me I have not seen that way, are too old or young for me (usually ends up just creeping me out).
This is when it occurred to me... that maybe I just wasn't that interested in guys. This past year I began to question my sexuality because I started to notice that I've never had a boyfriend and usually the guys I'm interested in are unattainable in some form or way. I started to try and imagine myself being with a girl... and was surprised to find that I didn't really mind the idea. My family though... is not very supportive of the LGBT community. I myself was supportive before I started questioning myself, but now I'm scared. If it turns out that's who I really am I don't know if I'd ever be able to tell them. I don't think I could. But I still don't know because I haven't dated either sex, and personally, I believe in falling for a person for who they are, not for their gender. I'm very confused and don't know what to do next because this is giving me a lot of anxiety. (link)
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There is someone out there for you. Just you wait.
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What do I do if my girlfriend wants an abortion but I want to keep the baby? (link)
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Tell her that the baby deserves a chance. If you want to keep it and she doesn't then you should take care of the baby. It's your's too.
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I've been in a relationship for about 11months, and this is the second time we are dating.. The first one lasted for about a year and five months then we ended it on mutual agreement.. Two days ago, my boyfriend (now ex) called me and told me that he found his calling and after many years of running away from it, he decided to do what God wants him to and he doesn't want distractions.He also said that the first thing that came to his mind in the list of distractions is his relationship.. He said he wants to cut it off and he loves me but he needed to do so. I was shocked, I couldnt cry or talk, I was shaking allover.. I old him earlier in our relationship that it takes quite a long time for me to fall in love, then I fell in love with him, and now he broke it off again.. I feel sad, wasted, devastated and my friends have been trying to calm me but it's not working.. Everything I do reminds me of him.. What can I do to get over it cs it's hurting me.. (link)
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He said he still loves you. If he considers you a distraction then he must think of you a lot. Just remember that true love is possible.
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Hi 18/F
My bf and I have been togheter for 3 monthes now but it's getting a bit difficult for me because he is not affectionate but I am. I try not to push him too much but it makes me sad sometimes and I feel he doesn't care. I really like him. On top of that my mom is forcing me to break-up with him. Help me plz?
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You are 18 so you do not have to break up with him if you don't want to.
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I'm a 14 year old female. Early this morning I was about to wake up-my dream was concluding and I went to open up my eyes. However, suddenly I was frozen in place and unable to move anything. Everything around me was brown and I began to hear two male voices telling me I'd "never get out of this." My initial reaction was to call for my parents but I was unable to make any sound. This only lasted a minute or two but it was extremely scary. I really don't understand what happened and why it happened but I'd really like it to not happen again, so does anyone know about this kind of thing? (link)
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You may be hiding some deep emotions about a problem that you think you may not be able to get out of. Talk to a trusted adult or friend about this.
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23/f
I'm not really sure how to express myself right now I just want to vent to someone to listen. I come from a loving family and could get whatever I possibly wanted. But I sometimes feel so sad that I am going no where in life I always feel everything is my fault. I care about people before i care about myself. I would kill myself to save another person. Growing up I can remember this would happen and I think it is getting worse. Whenever I do something wrong and I make someone angry I start hurting myself when I get in a fight with my boyfriend I start punching myself and pinching my arm I slap myself across the face and I tell myself how useless I am and how my mother should have never had me. Is this normal? I don't know if I want to express my feelings to my family about this. I don't want to be put into a physc place and I feel like if I say something people are going to think I'm dramatic. I just needed someone to vent to about this. No one knows about these. I often think about cutting myself but I don't think I have the courage to take something and cut myself with it. What's wrong with me? (link)
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You may have bipolar disorder. This is not a horrible thing. My best friend has it. Just don't end your life when you have so much too live for. Killing yourself wont help anyone! Suicide is a chain. If you do it, despair might cause someone else to do it.
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When I was around the age of 10 I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder, but I'd say I've had it all my life. Every year it got worse, when I was 12 I had my first panic attack and ever since I've had them badly. I am now 16 and I can't leave the house because of my anxiety and panic attacks. I just feel so alone and hopeless and I don't know what to do, I was wondering if anyone had any tips or advice for how to get through anxiety. Thanks in advance!! (link)
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I had my first panic attack when I was ten. I was holding back all my emotions. I needed to just let go. This is what helps me with panic attacks:
1. Count to ten as you imagine all your problems fading away.
2. Close your eyes and pretend that you have a force field around you.
3. Think of all of your problems flaws.
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I have one of the worst cases of chronic generalized anxiety disorder. I am not able to drive or work no matter how desperately I want to. And my family and my psychiatrist has admitted to that as well.
I'm falling more into clinical depression by the day, because I'm stuck at home all day. I feel meaningless and worthless.
I just want to help people somehow. Make them happy. That's all I've ever wanted to do. But I don't know what I can do since I can't concentrate or focus because of how horrid my depression is (which makes me seem "slow in the head" to people).
What can I do, please? (link)
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It is not your fault. I have been diagnosed with Tourette's Syndrome since I was five. For most of my life I felt like life wasn't worth living. People will always see things differently but it doesn't mean that you are what they see. You are what you see. You are not a mistake. You have a purpose. Depression does not define us. We define it.
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17/female/south africa
I'm not sure how to ask this question because I'm not sure exactly what I'm asking. How do you know if you have body dysmorphic? I've always had very bad body image problems even when I was underweight many years ago. And it leads to me wanting to become bulimic and I haven't yet but it's on my mind constantly and everytime I see food. And I've also been thinking I may be depressed. 5 years ago when I was 13 I self harmed and was depressed. I had gone through sexual abuse as a child until I was 13 and I did modeling from age 2 until 14. I just feel like there is something off with me or that I have some disorder such as bipolar, depression something. I can never fall asleep - currently it's 3:15am and everyone's sleeping and I'm listening to demi lovato dancing. I get irritable easily lately and I feel withdrawn from family. I'm always tired in the day with headaches. I have really bad anxiety but I always have stress and anxiety. I have really bad paranoia lately like I get so stressed out getting in a car or going into a shop because I can feel that I'm gonna get in a accident or something bad will happen. I don't know what it is or what I have but I really feel I have something. I don't wanna say anything to my parents and I can't go see a counselor because they are expensive, I can't get to one on my own, and I can't go to my school counselor because I'm running for prefect and can't be seen as unstable. If anyone can just help give me some idea of whats happening to me.
The only grown up I feel like I can talk to is my teacher but she left my school to Europe a year ago and we do still keep in contact and she has helped me through a lot and I trust her but I don't want to annoy her with my problems and Im not sure if I should message her? (link)
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If you have a disorder you should be proud. These are the thing that make you you. No matter what has happened in your past. Talk to your teacher. She will probably feel really special that she was the one that you trusted. Stand above it all.
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