Well hello kiddies...If you're in need of an honest advice then you've come to the right person... because I'll say WHATEVER I think is right whether you like it or not...
Member Since: December 3, 2003
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Last Update: May 17, 2004
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Ok, everyone thinks that I have the perfect life. people are always telling me that i am a dumb blonde who never has any problems. They think that i have always been rich and always have been perky and all that stuff. That is not my life storym there is so much more than that. How do i get them to understand without telling them that i had a bad life?
Blondie (link)
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If you're always gonna think of what others are thinking of you, you will never be happy and will be miserable for the rest of your life. Stay away from those people who makes you feel bad. You shouldn't waste your time worrying what others think of you but rather focus on your happiness instead. Do things that makes you happy rather than doing things that will make you look good to others.
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Okay so here it goes!*Greg* keeps teasing me like playing around.He tells me im a stalker and he says he doesnt know where he got it from he just says its funny.So he goes to my church,school,and hes in my carpool.Today he told the girl in my carpool*julia* that I asked him out.Shes like "*mary* how could you"! And then she told me and I like looked at him and he started cracking up!And when we wait for our parents to come pick us up he takes my backpack and puts it somwhere.He also looke through it when im walking with it on.
So acouple of weeks ago I was at *julias* house and *greg* was there. Cuz julias brother is friends with him. We mostley were in julias room for the time so he kept coming to the room and talking to us which julia said that he NEVER does. So we all played uno attack wile we were there and he never won so he told me that i jynked him.
Oh and hes one year older then me. So im not sure of anything really.
And whenever im wearing a sweater he decides to pull my hood and send me back and he LOVES to flick me! Its kinna anoyind, but I'd like to know Does he like me or what?
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He probably does because he's giving you all this attention or it's also possible that he enjoys having you around and would like to be your friend so please don't jump into conclusions.
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my friend ........ likes me and i dont like him and i heard from my friends and alot of other people that he is going to ask me out but i dont like him. i dont know what to do i dont want to go out with him but i dont want to hurt his feelings because he really likes me and a laot of people say i should go out with ........ but i dont like him what should i do ???????? (link)
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You shouldn't do something that will make you feel uncomfortable just because your friends says so. Just simply tell your friends you don't like him and will not go out with him if he asks you out. If they are your real friends they would understand and will not force you to do anything that is against your will. This is what you call peer pressure and the way to handle this kind of situation is if you think you're right and they're wrong then follow what your heart and minds says and not what other people tells you to do.
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I have a problem, I put posters all over my walls, I act depressive & miserable, just because thats how I am, and I write poetry & i do things I want to do, and I wear black nail polish and tons of bracelets, But I dont have much money to buy the clothing, and everyone thinks Im weird becasue I act what they say I am *goth* but I dont really dress like one, I try to explain that I dont have alot of money right now and Im not poor, but my mom doesnt like paying for me, because I liek to get these clothes that are exspensive at hot topic. . I like the music too. . I dont know why I just do, so I decided that maybe My heart is telling me I should be. . Gothic. I wouldnt mind being gothic either, but is it the right path for me? I dont care much whne people make fun of me, I just ignore it, like they are invisiable, its like I enter my own world and I am just staring at things, I dont see outside of my head and someone said i looked like I was possed by the devil! I like love satan! I cant help it, it is just my beliefs Im not trying to fit in, im not trying to be cool its just how I freaking feel! I like to wear dark make- up and black is like my fave color, I try to mix my clothes ot make i look funky, untill I get some money to buy more clothing. . I just got a bass/guitar too . . I am also ina school with tons of ghetto people, they always make fun of me and make me go through a life of torture, I only have acouple friends there, and thne I have 3 others outside of school who live where I used to live, I have 7 friends in school, 10 friends total, but 2 out of 10 are guys and the rets are girls, and htey guys r kidna my firned but not really like they act like my firned but they barely talk to me, well one of them makes me laugh all the time and talks to me. . Well
All I wanna know is, am I following the right path? LyA, Bye!
Signed, Confused. (link)
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As I always say "Be Yourself". I'm sure this stage you're into will pass as you mature so wear whatever you want to wear as long as you're not stepping on other people's shoes...who cares what other people say about you. If you will always worry what others will say or think then you will never be happy. Those guys/gals who still hangs out with you despite the fact that you are different are your true friends. It doesn't matter how many friends you have it's the quality of the friendship that you have with them that matters that most.
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a girl likes me i dont like her and she wont leave me alone.what do i do
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Ignore her and try walking away whenever she approaches. If she insist on talking to you give a lame excuse as to why she come with you or why you have to go. Try not to put yourself into a situation where you'll have direct contact with her. Hopefully she gets the hint that you're just not interested. If this doesn't work, then maybe you'll just have to tell on her face you don't like her at all and would appreciate it very much if she leaves you alone - sounds rude but she shouldn't jump into conclusions that you'll be reciprocating how she feels towards you. A girl should wait for the guy to confess his feelings and not the other way around.
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I feel very sick lately.
after walking up the stairs or standing or walking for a bit i feel like i might vomit.
it hurts to breath in deep and i cough alot and it hurts my sides. alot. today after standing in the hall way, going downstairs and walking down the block i almost threw up, kept gaging and coughing which hurt so much i was doubled over, and it hurt to move.
what could this be?
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I nor my fellow advisors here can tell you what exactly it is. You need to tell your parents that they need to bring you to the doctor. Please do it right now before your condition gets any worst.
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OK, I was at school today and a fifth grader who I danced with at a dance ONCE asked me out through one of my friends. I'M AN EIGHTH GRADER!!!! I told my friend to tell him no thatnks and I think she DID carry on the correct message but I think he told everyone we were going out and now people are making fun of me because they think I'm going out with a fifth grade russian. I mean, I don't care that he's russian but isn't the girl supposed to know when she's going out with somebody and now I have a dance tonight and I'm afraid he's going to ask me to dance and I really don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to get any rumors started again. Please respond quickly because I have to leave at 7:15. I need to know what I should do and I don't trust myself to make the decision. Now it's 4:26
Unknowingly Dating (link)
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You have two options here, First option is you could call him up and tell him that your friend told you that he wanted to ask you to the dance and that you would like to tell him yourself that you are not interested because... (make up some lame excuse or something)in that case you'll be sure he won't ask you to dance tonight. Second option is, if he ask you to dance tonight, just simply say "No thanks" and walk away. Don't worry about getting his feelings hurt because he shouldn't be spreading a rumor that you two were together when in fact you're not. Stay away from him as much as possible. Gossips like this dies on it's own...Keep your chin up and have tonight!
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...I have my very *first* job interview coming up! And since it's my first one, I am very nervous. :) I want the job mostly because I need to raise some money- but I know that's not the answer that the manager will want to hear. Any suggestions about what to do for the interview, other than dressing up? ;)
Much Love!
-Turc (link)
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I suggest doing a search on job interview in the internet. There are hundreds of websites that gives information on what to do during an interview. There are also websites that includes questions that are normally asked in an interview. I suggest jotting those questions down and having an answer prepared just incase that questions pops up during your interview. Goodluck!
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My friend asked me if I was goth, I didnt know what to tell her. . I mean goths dont usually go right out and yell IM GOTH! But she asked and I always tell the truth, I said ya. She said ew ur weird. . . She asked me this online, she hasnt seen me for weeks. . and I have maracuously changed, not because this lifestyle has become popular, but because I found it deep down in my heart. She got mad at me and everything .. she gave me a necklas and now she wants it back, she said she'd call the cops if i did anything to it, which i didnt and anyways its mine she gave it to me, is being gothic worth it, i rlly ant to be and i like being this. . but should I give up our friendsship and go gothic, or forget gothic and be ehr frined, I think I should forget her, but please tell me if Im right! (link)
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I personally think being gothic is weird but that doesn't mean I would stop being a friend to you...BECAUSE BEST FRIENDS ACCEPT EACH OTHER'S DIFFERENCES...Just because you have a diffent taste in life doesn't mean you are a bad person. I wouldn't waste my time on her if I were you and move on.
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WOW... I am only 16 and my ex (for now) saying we are getting bak together very soon.. back to point today we had unprotected sex and like he went all the way what the possibilties of me getting pregnant? hes 19 and hes says hes in love with me and he will never leave me (like a permant basis) and like there is this girl thathe asked out and like she sed no but hes saying hell never ask her out again.. what should i do (link)
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Please be smart and never do this again. The possiblity that you're actually pregnant right now is very high. If you will be sexually active with him make sure he wears protection. Not only can you get pregnant but you're also in a high risk of getting STD's. Nobody can predict the future so you can't really tell if you would be together forever. What if one of you have a sudden change of heart?...I just hope that you are not pregnant and make sure this never happens again...It is totally appalling to think that you would bring in a child into this world totally unprepared and unfit to be parent. Please do not destroy yourself by putting yourself into this kind of situation again!
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Ok. So, I'm sort of interested in an ex of mine. It's been a long time since we dated, and he has a girlfriend now. But, we're starting to talk again. I mean, I don't plan on trying to break him and his girlfriend up or anything. But, I find myself liking him again. And, I want to keep talking to him, and become good friends. And maybe something more will come out of it. Is this a bad idea? Thanks. (link)
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I don't see anything wrong with you being friends again and hoping (just hoping nothing more, nothing less) will come out of it...It's not like he's married or something...But be sure not to flirt with him, control yourself when he's around and whatever happens do not make the first move for a reconcillation. He would do this himself if he still has feelings for you.
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Ok, I'm only 16, and maybe I'm just being stupid. And maybe some of you will think I'm just bitter because I'm single. But, it's not that I'm bitter or jealous. I just don't understand why people my age so immature about relationships? I mean, they post everywhere on the internet about how "hot" their boyfriend/girlfriend's are. And it's like, if they're going to post something about them, then why not post about the things that REALLY matter? Like, for instance, how: funny, brilliant, and/or talented they are. I just don't get it. I mean, one day, they're going to be old and wrinkly, and def. not hot. But, they will be more funny, brilliant, and/or talented. And, I'm not saying a physical attraction isn't needed, because it is. But, why is it that most people are so pathetically consumed with the things that are the least important in relationships? Ahhhh. Some days, I wish I weren't 16. (link)
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If you really think you're that mature, then you shouldn't let petty things like this bother you but rather find them shallow, silly or even funny but not annoying as you claim. I suggest you concentrate on your on life and not on other people's lives. Live in a lifestyle according to your age because your only sixteen once.
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A good girlfriend of mine from college killed herself on Saturday after a fight she had with her fiance. She was never the kind of girl I would have ever guess to do this sort of thing. So when she called me that night I wasn't in the mood to go party (my boyfriend and I had had a huge fight)I ignored her call and turned off my phone. She called me four times, that night. Monday morning she was found dead. The police called me Monday afternoon, it is thier policy to investigate each death to be sure it is a suicide. They said that my number was the last one on her phone as a listed call.
I am devistated. I cannot face anyone. I resent my boyfriend because of his picking a stupid fight. I feel as though I really screwed up. I was not their for her and she reached out to me.
But my question is why me? Her and I were good friends in college but we had lost touch since she had been engaged we talked maybe every couple of weeks and only briefly. We're always saying that we needed to make plans but it never happened. She was always close to her mom and I am sure she had better friends than me, I know her best firend lived far away. But Mellisa was the kind of girl who always had tons of friends. Why out of all the people she could have called would she call me? I am always going to carry around this responsible feeling and it really is bringing me down. I just feel so powerless.
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Please don't feel guilty that she took her life. This situation is out of your hands. Maybe she considered you a real friend that is why she called you...but that is her fate. Keep in mind that is not your fault and it's okay to grieve for now but sooner or later you need to move on with your life and put this ugly situation behind.
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Well I think the subject pretty much gives away what I'm going to ask you...what should we do?
We went to see a film (The Last Samurai btw) on Sunday.
I'm 16, he's 18. Clubbing (my friends suggestion) is not really an option).
Any ideas? (link)
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Did he ask you out for a second date already or are you just assuming he'll ask you out again? Because if he asked you out already, shouldn't he have plans as to where you guys are going? If he hasn't popped up the question yet, I advise you to just tight and wait till he ask you out again. It will seem as if you're very eager to be with him than him to be with you if you make the first move and this might turn him off...If he did ask you out and he let you decide where to go then it's okay. There's lots of things you can do, you can always go watch a movie again (Along came Poly's no.1 in the movies right now)or go to some arcades and play video games. Have fun!
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When I was going out with my ex boyfriend,*Greg me and his best friend were sort of into each other.Actually really into each other. It turned out Mike was going out with someone else so I dumped him. After that Mike made sure that me and his friend didn't hook up. I was avoiding Mike, so he made sure whenever I was talking to him that he was in the situation. It got uncomfortable for us to be together. So I haven't seen or talked to the friend,*Marc for a while. But I can't get him out of my head. I really miss him, and I can't stop thinking about him.However I know it would hurt Greg if I went out with MArc,and I don't want to hurt him since he sounds sorry for what he did. But I'm still lusting after Marc...what do I do? (link)
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What should you do? I think you should stop lusting and learn how to love and to be loved. I hope you know what lust means. There's too many men involved in your life. Take a break from all this and start life anew. Have more respect for yourself and don't get involved with too many guys because this would make you look like a slut. If you have that impression from other guys, they wouldn't take you seriously and would just lust after you. If a guy really likes you and respects you, they would go after you themselves instead of the other way around.
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OK, this is really hard to explain but when I was in 2nd grade, (6 years ago) My dad got into a car accident that wasn't his fault. Because of that, his back has never been the same, he wasn't able to do as much fun stuff with me and my siblings. When I was in 5th grade, (4 years ago) Dad's lawyer tryed to sue the guy in the truck that slammed into him. The guy in the trucks lawyers did some things that I don't like. They followed us around to try to find out if Dad was really hurt or not and they sent guys to watch our house with video cameras. Since I live out really deep in the woods, I would get dressed in my bedroom with the windows not shaded. It turns out they were watching me the whole time. It's been 3 years and I keep thinking that they messed up my life. And I feel guilty that my dad had to go through that. It was the first time I saw him cry. What should I do?
-Violated (link)
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Sometimes things happen in our life that we have no control of...and this is one of those things. Please don't feel guilty about this. It's not your fault this happened. If your parents have the money to hire a lawyer to put those peeping toms behind bars I'm sure they would...As for you, you should try real hard to put this behind your back and live a normal life. We all have bad experiences that we have to forget in order to go on. If you're having difficulty dealing with this, I suggest you talk to your parents into putting you into counseling or therapy....but remember, only you can help yourself. Be strong not only for yourself but also for your loved ones!
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I really like this guy and I asked him out yesterday and he said Not Today what does that mean?
FRom PLease HElp ME (link)
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It means he's not really interested in you...because if he was he would say yes or if he really can't because his schedule doesn't permit him, he would set up another date where you two can go out. Let this be a lesson to you that you should wait for a guy to ask you out if you're not sure that he likes you.
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My friend hasn't been doing her homework and she has 6 zeros in the grade book. I'm afraid she is going to fail. What to do? (link)
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Find out what's bothering her and tell her that you're concerned that she's going to fail. Ask her if she needed help and find ways how to help her. Invite her to come over your house and study or do homework together or vice versa if your parents will let you do that. She must be going through something for her to act like that.
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I'm about as butch as the next girl. I don't shave anything, I hate make up, I have a mean left hook, I don't take any crap on the street. My husband is a sweetheart, I found a rare gem in him, but his bull dyke best friend hates me. I have tried EVERYTHING to befriend her. I have tried ignoring her, I don't know what else to do. She HATES me. She tells total strangers what a seething bitch I am (well, I am) and she has tried to break us up many times. She has even threatened me with physical violence. I don't tell him who to be friends with or not, but she just won't let up. It's making him take a 2nd look at his friendship with her, and I'm afraid he's going to leave her behind. What can I do? I think she may be jealous of me. Does she want him, or me, or both of us. She has a history of sleeping with his other girlfriends, but I'm not bi. I'm letting him sort this one out for himself, but I feel kinda bad about it.
Violet (link)
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It's about time you speak up. May I remind you that you're the WIFE and she's just a friend... Tell your husband that she's harrassing you and that she's treatening you with physical violence. If he doesn't do anything about this and continues to be friends with her - there's something fishy going on. I would start looking for a divorce lawyer if I were you...I mean what kind of a man would favor somebody like her over his wife? The least he could do is to avoid this girl completely.
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OK, Here's the deal. I kind of dated a guy a while back and when we stopped talking, I turned to his ex-girlfriend and found out a lot of stuff about him. It took so long to get over him and I can finally say that I AM OVER HIM for sure. Anway, his ex and I became confidants and we talked trash about him to each other all the time (ya know like girls do) and in a way, I really think that she's to be credited for me getting over him. Well, we were talking one night and I knew that the two of them had slept together when they were dating (they went out for like 2yrs.) and I told her that I was glad that I hadn't slept with him. He was her first and the only guy that she has slept with. She found out not too long ago that she has cervical cancer...she told me this and continued to inform me that her doctor had told her it was from HPV (the std). Ofcourse, she and I are both convinced that this guy is responsible for giving it to her (after all, he is the only guy that she has ever slept with). That's not my only problem: he has no idea that she has cancer and she is sooo scared to tell him. He and I share a mutual friend and that friend just happens to be my best friend (the two of them on the other hand hardly ever talk). So here's where the advice comes in, "our" friend knows about the cancer thing with the girl (he knows her too) and he has been on MY back about it ever since he found out (an accident by the way)...he wants me to tell the guy that he is carrying HPV and that his ex has cancer. I KNOW that he needs to know but why should I have to tell him??? I haven't even seen the guy in six months, he's dating someone now and chances are they're sleeping together. I would hate for someone else to get a venerial disease just because this guy is the selfish slug of a man that he is but i don't know what to do....PLEASE HELP! (link)
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You were right in thinking that you're not in a position to tell him. This issue is supposed to be confidential. If anybody tells him this it would look as if his exgirlfriend (now your friend) is back stabbing him and would probably act defensive and spread some nasty rumors against her in return. Since she doesn't have the face to tell him this herself, I suggest helping her compose a letter to him explaining her situation...make sure to tell him to go to the doctor and get himself tested for VD...Do not put any emotions on the letter just plain facts so he wouldn't be so defensive about it...also mark the letter confidential and send it to him discreetly. Hope this helps.
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