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alright so, just a couple weeks ago my hair started getting really gross feeling and it felt like shampoo was still in it when it was dry and washed and scrubbed several times. I was using herbal essences, so my mom went to buy paul mitchell to see if it'd help, it worked for about a day then got to be the same thing again. We then found a Pantene Pro-V clarifying shampoo that removes shampoo build up and helps oily hair, well now it seems to be working pretty good, but the hair closest to my scalp is still gross, and sometimes at the crown of my head it gets bad again. I dont know what to use! i just want my old hair back! (link)
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the more frequently you wash your hair, the more oil is produced. what you need to do is cut back on washing your hair. You can use a rosemary rinse, with rosemary leaves and hot water to clarify your hair on the days you dont wash it. your hair might be really gross for a week or two, but it soon will adjust and you will have a much less oily scalp.
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Well I've been married goin on about a year, I love my wife, we've been together since middle school, and we've been havin sex since middle school! Its always been, good you know the basic sex life! Well here's the problem, I've always told her to up her anty u know(get a lil crazy in bed) well since we've been married she has, well not quite what I expected, she likes me to slap her and choke her, I've never been that wild, so I act like I love it, but I really can't stand it! I jus don't know how to tell her? I don't wanna break her heart or be rough durin sex, wait it gets worse we have sex every night, and before it was 3 times a month, please I need some advice, what should I do? (link)
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just tell her your uncomfortable. She might be a little embarrassed, but if she loves you, she will respect your comfort zone. Work it into a conversation about what you imagine really good sex to be. That should get your statement out gently and help you guys to find a nice mid-ground that both of you will enjoy.
xo vivi
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Hello everyone :D
Alrighty so I'm 17 years old, turning 18 in September. I've been raised with a mother who is cooky in the head, but has a strong religious side, although her other side might be extremely contradicting. But, on the other hand, I have been raised along a father as well, who is open minded, easy going, and just a tad bit religious, nothing big though. My dad's side is Catholic, my mom's side is Evangelist(i think). I, on the other hand, went to a Christian church, not sure what kind though, since there are many under Christianity. To be honest, yes, I believe in God, but I'm not devoted to church, nor am I very religious, I'm more like my father. Umm, recently, my boyfriend who is 18 years old has had his first communion, and confirmation. He talked to me, and it seriously got me thinking when he asked me the question, "Are you baptised, and if you aren't, would you like to be?". I found out I am NOT baptized, but I'm not sure about the second question. Can someone please shed some light?
-What is the purpose of being baptized?
-What if you aren't baptized and never get baptized?
-What religions require baptism and which don't?
- Pros and cons?
Any info would be greatly appreciated!!
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baptism is when church officials pour water on babies so they dont have to float around in limbo after they die.
if your not devoted to the church then dont bother.
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I am a 24 year Male from India. I am a Gay and I always wanted to live a bachelor life in peace. I graduated 1 year back and I had a problem with my family regarding my post graduation and future career. And I fractured my right elbow 6 months back in a motorbike accident because my brother forced me to learn to drive motorbike. I told him I was scared to drive. I had to undergo surgery to fix my elbow with pins and screws. It still hurts. Nobody else know that I am gay. I dont honestly want a gay marriage either.
Doctor told me I cannot lift heavy weights again. It feels terrible to think that I have to live alone with a compromised right arm all my life and I spent 3 hours finding out ways to commit suicide in google. The thought of the moment of accident is just painful. I need someone to encourage me and advice me. Please help!!!!!
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you should find a good therapist, and take the time now with your arm healing to figure out where you want your life to go. maybe you need to move to a different city/state, pursue the carer that you want, ect...dont kill yourself.
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My boyfriend asked me out about 5 weeks ago. We had an immediate connection (which I didn't have with my other exes) and I felt comfortable with him immediately. Well now I am having trouble keeping the big ily to myself! I really would like to say it, but at the same time, I know it's probably too early. I feel like I do love him (i feel the way i did with an ex who i went out with for a year and a half). But I want this to be a good relationship, and I want to truly mean it when I say it (but I feel like I would?) Please help! I'm confusing myself. (link)
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I would wait, because the case is that you probably really really like him,(like is very often mistaken for love) and 5 weeks seems a little soon to say that. Wait for another month or so to let some of the excitement clear,and so you have some more time to examine your feelings. Then consider saying it
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Hey i was planning on waxing my bikini line for the first time, any tips?? im doing it at home by my self cause i dont want my mom to know im doing it. i have the wax and the strips and everything cause my mom waxes my eyebrows for me, so i have access. i just need a little help. i know to go against the growth. but. helpp please :DD (link)
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you should really just set up an appointment. its really difficult/painful to attempt to do your own bikini wax, especially if its your first time. your mom doesnt have to know, just find a nice, reasonable place in your area and walk/take the bus/ get someone to drive you/drive yourself there. tell your mom you went to lunch with a friend or something. if you still insist on doing it yourself, use hot wax (the kind you heat in the microwave) and start the strips about 1 inch out from the side of your pubic bone, and work inwards as needed. for the top of the bikini line, take off 1/2 to 1 inch of hair. do not even try to do your labia, because you will probably rip your own vagina off. also, get some aloe vera gel to rub on afterwards, this will reduce redness and inflammation .
xo vivi
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Does anyone have any weight loss success stories?
I work out 4x a week, drink nothing but water, and eat pretty healthy and can't seem to lose a pound. I'm losing all my motivation.
Anyone got any good inspirational stories of their own so I don't result to starving myself again? (link)
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the trick to weight loss is not simply a healthy diet and exercise, you need to actually burn more calories per week than your body uses to break even. say your body needs 2000 calories to use per day, and you burn calories 2000 4 days a week. your weekly calorie consumption is 11900. this is the number of calories per week that is keeping you going, not gaining or losing weight. if your not losing weight you need to lower the weekly number of calories taken in. do this by exercising 6 days a week, and cutting your diet down by 250 calories less per day.(never go below 1200 if your a girl, never go below 1500 if your a guy) you should see some mild changes withing a month or so. if you apply your information to this concept, you will probably lose 1 to 2 pounds per week, depending on your metabolism. if you screw up a week, dont sweat, you wont lose any weight that week, but you wont gain any either (probably)
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I'm looking to make some extra money and I have noticed that there are lots of toddlers in my neighborhood. I am going to take a babysitting class where I learn the heimlich maneuver, etc.
Other information:
I am in 10th grade. (Straight A student!..but that probably doesnt help)
16 years old and a girl.
We live in a middle class neighborhood
How much should I charge? I was thinking 8 dollars per hour, + 2 dollars per hour with any amount of friends over. Is that too much?
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you should charge an 10$/hr rate for 2 kids, 8$/hr for one, if they have friends over, tell the parent that you charge extra, so the parents of the friend can pay you the added amount
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i dont know if its because its getting warmer out, but lately, my eyeliner wears off by like the middle of the day. iapply a black pencil liner to the bottom and while in school it pretty much all wears off during the day. how can i stop my eyeliner from wearing off without reapplying it throughout the day? thanks! (link)
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along with the excellent advice given by the person who suggested a layer of eyeshadow, it mightg also help to use a waterproof eyeliner (it works for me)
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okay this is REALLY stupid.
butttt i have wavy/curly hair (depending how i sleep that night lol)
i kind of have side swept bangs..i can style my hair so that i have it but lately ive just been having a slight side part without bangs.
so i was wondering. i kind of feel like all the more attractive girls at my school have bangs...lol
but then my friend was telling me how some of the most beautiful celebrities and models dont have bangs..but im not a celebrity so it doesnt really matter..?
i like my hair both ways
should i style with bangs? (link)
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why not try styling with bangs one day, and if you like it, then make a habit of it, if you like your hair better without bangs, then stick to that.
xo vivi
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hey im having a birthday party and i want to rent a funny movie to watch.
any movies such as 40-year-old virgin, zack and miri, american pie, etc. is what im looking for
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i will give these a number from 1 to 10 on funniness
forgetting sarah marshall(10)
role models(9), superbad(7), nick and norahs infinite playlist(8), not another teen movie(6.5), mean girls(7), pineapple express(10), eurotrip(9), monty python and the holy grail (personal favorite)(10), the breakfast club(7), saved(5), zoolander(9), wedding crashers(10), the breakup kid(6).....
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well, first of all, let me just point out that i've been struggling with an eating disorder for almost a year now. But, finally, I'm getting some help. The thing is, that I have to follow a meal plan, for two weeks. I can't leave my meal plan, and if you've ever had an eating disorder, I think you can understand why. After these two weeks are over, or on the designated days that I'm allowed to be out of my meal plan, I can go out to eat, and have a better idea of what I can eat without feeling worried or anxious. But, right now, I just really want to stick to my meal plan because that's where I feel "safe." The thing is, at work, people are always ordering out, and giving me things to eat. In my house, their always cooking more things, it's like a restaurant in here every day because we cook for so many people, like neighbors, and other family members. People are always inviting me to go out to lunch, or to dinner. But, I can't just tell them I have an eating disorder and explain to them why it's important that I follow my meal plan. It's only for two weeks, and until I'm done following it, I can't move on to the next step. So, what can I tell people? How can I ensure that I'm following it for the next two weeks without interruptions. If you can help me out with this, I would really appreciate it! Thank you and God bless you. Have a nice Easter! :) (link)
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i understand completely. i have been in the same situation. the best thing to do is politely decline, perhaps suggesting a time to go out to eat at a later date (once you can deviate from the meal plan.) its totally ok to simply say you are busy, or already made plans if you dont want to share your private information. you could also invite people over to your place to have food that fits with your meal plan, if your worried about seeming weird.
xo vivi
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today me and my boyfriend had sex in the beach water. for like 5 minutes just to see how it felt.
is that bad? can i get like sick or something? =/
i hope not! (link)
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no, you wont get sick. ocean water actually has antiseptic properties, because of all the salt, so you should be just fine!
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This year, I finally dated the guy I've had a crush on for 4 years. I never thought I would even talk to this guy, let alone date him. Basically, it was a dream come true, for 10 days. He broke up with me for a couple of reasons. He's really into music and wanted to focus on that, and that we kind of rushed things. So it was a mutual break up. We were still good friends after. But now its been two weeks since then, and we're talking again. And texting every day. It's obvious that we both are attracted to one another, and I'm still dying for him back. Anyway, we decided to hang out this Friday. The only thing is, what should we do? I think it would be awkward to have him over, just because he was over my house the day before he broke up with me. We really just need to have a fun time and I can hopefully prove to him that we're meant to be together. Does anyone have any ideas?
Oh, and has anyone had a relationship where you broke up towards the beginning, but ended up getting back together and have stayed together?
Thank you so so much. I really want this boy back! (link)
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something that i find really fun to do on casual dates is to go like to a carnival type thing, or go cart racing! depends on where you live, but food and the beach and a guitar go well together...
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alright, i found two amazingly cute bathing suits on the target website. unfortunatly, both are out of stock. i was wondering if you know of anyones that look close to these two and are IN stock!
here are the links to each.
bathing suit #1:
http://www.target.com/Xhilaration-Polka-Dot-Swimwear-Yellow/dp/B000TKO04S
this one i am just looking for a yellow polka dot bikini, like the song i know!
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bathing suit #2:
http://www.target.com/Xhilaration-Green-White-Stripe-Swimwear/dp/B000IZVCOA
except for this one i would like more of a halter top.. and also just a green and white stripe bikini..
thank you so much!
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id try victorias secret online. go to the PINK swim section...they have very similar styles to the ones you posted, and prices are reasonable
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Okay they didnt really explain how this work so my question is if you get the depo(birth control)shot every 3months and you have unprotected sex and let the guy(you know)in you. How high is the risk of pregnancy?
Please answer ASAP!
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the risk of pregnancy using a depo shot and no condom is about 93/96% effective if used correctly (not that great). if i were you, id use a condom as well
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Okay, so I've always considered myself to be straight since I have never had a crush on a girl or anything like that. I don't have the same feelings for girls (sexual tension) as I do for boys. My relationships have always been with boys, and I've never thought of a girl as anything more than a friend.
However, sometimes I like to imagine myself having sex with women. Sometimes a threesome or more. Something about the naked female body intrigues me. Female porn turns me on. I've often wondered if I'd ever sexually experiment should the right person come along. But I don't really want to be bisexual, since I'd never have a relationship with a girl. So am I still straight? (link)
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well, there's nothing wrong with being intrigued by the female body, and studies show that most women have have had or have sexual fantasies involving other women, and do not necessarily call themselves bisexual. you are the one who gets to decide if you want a label put on you or not, but id say exploring your sexuality in such a way would not make you bisexual...just curious!
xo vivi
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I'm a 13 year old female and i've been getting the urge to masturbate.
-am i too young to masturbate?
-does it hurt?
-how do i do it?
please help me! i dont know anything bout it but i've just heard of it. (link)
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you most certainly are not too young to masturbate. masturbating is a safe and healthy way to express ones sexuality. there are no real rules as to how to masturbate, and if it hurts then adjust what you are doing so that it feels good. the most common way to achieve an orgasm is to stimulate the clitoris, which is located at the upper end of the vagina(the one thats closer to your pubic area)begin by gently rubbing it, and proceed until you feel the need to stop. you might want to use a lubricant, such as vaseline or olive oil(i know, it sounds weird, but it is a safe and effective method...hope this helps xo vivi
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hey i was wondering how i could do my make-up like hers:
http://fc08.deviantart.com/fs45/f/2009/100/a/0/Secret_by_ValentinaKallias.jpg
it doesn't have to be exactly like that but similar. step-by-step would be greatly appreciated. thank you! (link)
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so, this eye makeup isnt too difficult to do,it just requires alot of blending. you want to start with a good foundation swept over your face, and maybe just use chapstick or a natural tone on your lips,as eye makeup this dark looks best with even looking skin and natural lips. you will need a charcoal/black eye pencil, matte dark brown shadow,a dark brown or black mascara and a shimmery gray shadow. start by sweeping the gray shadow across the lower area of your upper lid.then take the charcoal pencil, and line your upper lid. dont worry about perfection, as you will smudge it gently until it is blended evenly across your lid with the gray shadow. next line your bottom lash line with the pencil. take care to line in between all of the lashes(this can be tricky) as this is what gives the look its polished as opposed to tacky quality. after you have done that, dust some of the gray shadow just under the bottom lash line. next take the brown shadow and brush it in the outer creases of your lids, and under the gray shadow on the bottom, taking care to blend it all together. next add a little mascara to upper lashes and the outer lower lashes and your good. xo vivi
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ok so there is this guy i liked since the beginning of the skool year. at first we didnt talk too much when he walked me and my friend to our class in the morning. then after our homerooms changed he still walked me to class but my friend didnt come with us. we started to talk a lot and would try to see each other when ever we could. there was this other girl that likes him too and she started to get jelous because he was always so happy when he saw me and not when he saw her(kind of funny actually because he knew her since 1st grade.)Sounds like he really likes me doesnt it. Well recently in my English class we had to write sonnets because we were studing Shakespeare. i wrote my sonnet about him and asked him if he could tell me if it was gay or not. i emailed him on myspace to see what he thought an dhe thought it wasnt gay and it was really cute. i asked him if he knew who it was about and he said he knew withing the first couple of lines. i asked him if he felt the same way. you know what he said, I quote "to be honest not really nothing wrong with you i just dont see you that way" stupid right. i was sure he liked me. but i have two questions #1 y did he do that? was he playing me or just trying to be a really good friend? (i know two questions in one) #2 wshat should i do? still be friends or just shun him and hope he changes his mind? i really like him and care for him. i have never felt this way about a guy before. i trust him and could tell him anything. please help. ohh this happend last night (thursday) i really need help this weekend he walks me to class all next week and i really need to know what to do.
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so. i have had so many situations like this. it sounds like this guy is really cool, and a genuinely good friend. one thing i know about crushes is that you take every little sign that the person you like gives, and add it to your he loves me/ he loves me not list in your head. i think that may be the case here, he was being his friendly self towards you, and you (with reason) took it to be expressions of similar feelings. my opinion is that he was trying his best to be a really good friend, and you should stay friends with him. men are simple creatures, if you shun them they will think you dont like them at all, and will go away forever. and you never know, if you guys end up becoming really close friends, he might just start liking you someday! my experience is that friendships like this do have the potential to turn into something more serious
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