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wild n crazy
Well I've been married goin on about a year, I love my wife, we've been together since middle school, and we've been havin sex since middle school! Its always been, good you know the basic sex life! Well here's the problem, I've always told her to up her anty u know(get a lil crazy in bed) well since we've been married she has, well not quite what I expected, she likes me to slap her and choke her, I've never been that wild, so I act like I love it, but I really can't stand it! I jus don't know how to tell her? I don't wanna break her heart or be rough durin sex, wait it gets worse we have sex every night, and before it was 3 times a month, please I need some advice, what should I do?
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Hey i think you should realize that you're not in such a hard situation. i think she might have got confused when you told her to anty up a little bit. her antying up made her try to imitate what she has seen in movies or any sexual she has seen. i think you should be honest with her and let her know that you are not really comfertable doing this. I think that you should try to figure out another way to please her in bed, or another way to enjoy sex or stimulating eachother. Are you into trying new things? then how bout trying some sex games for couples, or there is alot of other stimulating objects. Being honest is the best thing to do. And if you're afraid of talking to her in person try to find another way to communicate with her.
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Hi. Every couple's sex life is unique, and it's hard for an outsider to help with so little information, but this is my two cents' worth. Since she has only (probably) had sex with you because you've been together since you were so young, she probably has no idea what you were trying to ask for when you wanted to get wilder in bed. She may have heard about or seen this type of action in a movie, and thinks that is what you want. You should definately have described what you wanted instead of making her guess. Another thing: practically no woman on the planet sincerely wants sex daily. It hurts after the third or fourth day in a row, even with adequate lubrication. It seems as though she's afraid you are going to stray if she isn't fulfilling your needs at home. Because you've asked for more, she's going to make darn sure you have so much sex that you'll have no interest in getting it elsewhere. What you need to do is be very, very honest at this point. If not, you are doomed in this relationship. She is feeling insecure and you are just plain worn out and kind of scared of her. You have nothing to lose by opening up, and everything to gain. Don't hurt her feelings, though. Tell her that you realize she was trying to please you, but that you just can't keep up the pace! You've grown up together to this point. The next step is to learn to talk about what you truly want in the bedroom to stay compatible. Keep the conversation sweet and light, don't be negative, but do be honest. You may be surprised to hear that she'll be relieved to soften and slow things down, too. Good luck!
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just tell her your uncomfortable. She might be a little embarrassed, but if she loves you, she will respect your comfort zone. Work it into a conversation about what you imagine really good sex to be. That should get your statement out gently and help you guys to find a nice mid-ground that both of you will enjoy.
xo vivi
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