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saying i love you
17/f
My boyfriend asked me out about 5 weeks ago. We had an immediate connection (which I didn't have with my other exes) and I felt comfortable with him immediately. Well now I am having trouble keeping the big ily to myself! I really would like to say it, but at the same time, I know it's probably too early. I feel like I do love him (i feel the way i did with an ex who i went out with for a year and a half). But I want this to be a good relationship, and I want to truly mean it when I say it (but I feel like I would?) Please help! I'm confusing myself.
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I would wait. The fact that you're debating it tells me you're not ready. And I know how exciting it can be to tell your boyfriend, but you said it yourself, you want this to be a good relationship. Well, in my humble experience, it works best to hold off on the 3 words.
The Snow Patrol has a good song [I believe it's them], called Chasing Cars, and they have a line that I love:
"Those three words are said too much
But not enough,"
What that means is people say "I love you!" so much, but they don't really mean it; they say it because they feel like they have to or they are confused. And, of course, there are the few teenagers who actually ARE in love and end up with their high school sweethearts and get married and have kids and grow old together. But, that's very rare.
So, just wait. When you feel like he has the same thing to say back, and you feel like you have no worries about saying it, it may be the right time. But it's not like I can tell you that on July 19th, 2009 at 3:00 pm, you should tell him; that's absurd! =]
--Jack
(17/m)
Happy Easter!
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I would wait, because the case is that you probably really really like him,(like is very often mistaken for love) and 5 weeks seems a little soon to say that. Wait for another month or so to let some of the excitement clear,and so you have some more time to examine your feelings. Then consider saying it
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You guys sound so adorable! I love it! I would reccomend that you talk to him about it. After all, he is your boyfriend, he is there for love and support! There is no shame in loving someone. The hardest thing is finding out what love means to you! Long story short, if you feel like you love him, you do. Love isn't something that has a definition, it just "is".
So go for it! Maybe just say "I feel like I love you". Then you aren't springing it on him in three little words without allowing a conversation about it.
I wish you the best of luck with your man, and I appreciate your question, very cute! Have a good night :)
<3/ariannekp
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