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I am very open minded, will try pretty much anything at least once. I love to live life to the fullest and try to think as optimistically as I possibly can! I'm also pretty random and am always being creative & unique. One of my favorite things to do is to dance in the rain! It just makes life not seem so bad, as if you're starting anew...
I work at a newspaper doing classifieds and legals. I am a bisexual woman who is married to her soul-mate! I have no kids of my own as of yet, but I do have two wonderful step-kids that I love as if they were my own. I suffer from depression and being overweight, those are two things i am working on right now!
I've just switched over to living a vegetarian lifestyle. I want to lose weight and be healthy the right way. I have studied up on being vegetarian A LOT and own 3 different books on the subject. I try to make sure that I get all the appropriate nutrients and vitamins throughout my day. :)
I have been through a lot in my life (sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, miscarriages, depression, aloneness, bullying, etc), just like everyone else I'm sure! I love answering questions and will offer the best advice I possibly can!
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17/f
5'1 115 lbs
Is it possible to see slight toning results in two weeks if I speed walk on the treadmill everyday for 1-2 hours and use a resistance band to tone my triceps and biceps?
If not, how long do you think it would take to start seeing some form of results?
Thanks :)
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Usually you will see results in 3-6 weeks of working out at least 3 times a week. You may see slight toning results in 2 weeks. It just depends on the person.
After 4-6 weeks though (if you're using the same workout) you will most likely hit a plateau where you won't see a whole lot of results after that point. Just make sure to change up your routine at least every 6 weeks!
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14 - F
well a lot of my stupid femalefriends are getting mad at me for the most ridiculous reasons. so i'm down to even less femalefriends. i'm cool with that cause girls suck cause they cause so much drama.
well. i realized that i am pretty attractive, so it's a LOT easier for me to make guyfriends. it's just that, i have like, five guyfriends [only two female friends, haa] & like, they just feel sorta uncomfortable when i talk about other guys. & no, they all like another girl, not me. like, i say, "he's sooo hottt," & my friend is like, "ok..." & i don't WANT to make him uncomfortable but i can't really talk to my femalefriends about my crush & all.
so, i'm asking,
HOW DO I GET MY GUYFRIENDS TO LOOSEN UP AROUND ME? make them less uncomfortable? let them know they can talk about ANYTHING with me?
i'm not the type of girl who says, "ew" to everything cause i don't find many things gross, either.
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Well the truth is that guys mature a lot slower than girls. Most guys, at your age, don't want to hear about how another guy is hot (unless he's into boys). There's not a whole lot you can do about them being weird about you talking about other guys.
They also may be uncomfortable because they may like you in a romantic way (even if they say they don't). Guys don't always like to tell a girl face to face that they like her because they're afraid of rejection.
Eventually they will loosen up around you and get used to the things you say & do. You can't be making them that uncomfortable if they're sticking around!
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i don't trust many people, and when i finally do i always mess things up. i will admit that i jump to conclusions when i hear something i don't want to. and i also ALWAYS say things i don't mean when i'm upset or angry. i'll just automatically think that it's true and start freaking out on the person. i feel bad for my friends, they don't deserve this. i currently lost my best GUY friend of four years because i heard he did something he promised he never would do to me, and without asking him i just flipped out on him, and told him that we shouldn't be friends anymore because of this and now four years of friendship ended just like that. he won't even talk to me. i do have trust problems because of what people have put me through in the past, but why do i always do this? i try my hardest to listen, but i get so mad right away when i hear something and from there on, i have my mind set. i always find myself saying "don't talk to me" when i'm angry or i'll say something even more hurtful. i can't control this. (link)
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Wow! This sounds a lot like me a year ago! I think that the best thing for you to do is to talk to a therapist or a doctor.
I ended up being diagnosed with depression and social anxiety. I had to get a prescription for anti-depressant/anti-anxiety meds.
Trying to handle this all on your own isn't going to work to well as it will most likely just make you even more frustrated with yourself and other people.
If you don't want meds and can't afford a therapist, I would suggest getting the following book:
The Freedom from Depression Workbook by Les Carter and Dr. Frank Minirth
It has helped me tons and you can get it fairly cheap on amazon.com. Also there are other workbooks by those two that could help you also!
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my mom says i cant get a cell phone until im 16! can anyone help me think up some reasons so i can get a cell phone? my mom wants 20 reasons! i dont care if u only have 1 anything will help! i only have 5 reasons so far. (link)
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This is all i can think of for now! Hope it helps!
1. She will be able to call you anytime she needs to.
2. You will have a way of calling for help if the need arises.
3. You would be able to keep in touch with friends and family.
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im 12 years old an dim pregnant.... how do i tell my mom... please dont call me a slut..... i was kind of presured but that doesnt matter.... but please how do i tell my mom with out her killing me (link)
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First off, you're not a slut. Second, you shouldn't be having sex at that age and Third, if a guy pressures you into it, you CAN report him! I'm not saying this to lecture you at all.
Now onto your question. The best way to tell her, is to honestly just sit her down with no distractions and tell her face to face. Don't write a note, text, email or call her on the phone. Sit her down and tell her what happened from the beginning and about you being pressured into sex.
Tell her about the pregnancy and discuss your options. Make sure you have a plan and idea on what you think you might want to do. Don't wait too long to tell her, because having a child at your age is very dangerous. There are many options available though!
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Me and my fiance are trying to get pregnant..and I wasn't sure but Everytime we have sex and he cums in me when i stand up it comes out. I was wondering if that happens to everyone. I read on a website that you should lay still for like 30 minutes after you have sex if you're trying to get pregnant.. I dunno I'm just wondering whats the best way to get pregnant and best positions.. Thanks i will rate high! (link)
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You do need to lay there for at least 20-30 minutes afterwards if you're trying to get pregnant. Otherwise when you stand up (like you mentioned) gravity will make it come right out again. Not every woman needs to lay there, some women get pregnant without even trying!
Doggy style is a good position. Any positions where you are in a seated position aren't that great for conception (ie cowgirl, reverse cowgirl). Good luck and let me know if you have any more questions on the subject. :)
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I was considering trying the whole vegetarian thing. I won't be doing it because of "animal rights" or anything like that. Instead, I am looking to do this strictly to improve my overall eating habits.
More than likely I would still eat fish and occasionally chicken. My question to you is:
Is following a vegetarian diet any healthier than a normal one? (link)
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Vegetarians can be a lot healthier, but only if you eat the RIGHT way. Even vegetarians can be unhealthy if you don't get the proper vitamins & minerals and eat too much junk food.
You need to make sure you eat a lot of diversity in your diet. A good rule of thumb is to think of your plate as a pie chart for nutrition: a quarter of it needs to be protein (ie beans, tvp, meat, tofu, etc), another quarter of it needs to be grains (brown rice, pasta, whole wheat bread, etc) and half of it needs to be vegetables!
Eat fruit for something sweet and don't be afraid to try something new! You need to take a multivitamin for vegetarians and also make sure you get a vitamin b12 supplement or eat things with vitamin b12 in it (meat is the main source, but you can also eat Red Stars Nutritional Yeast because it's fortified with b12. i sprinkle it on pasta!).
Make sure you research what vitamins and minerals you need, recipes you want to try and what foods contain what essential nutrients necessary to your new diet. I just recently became vegetarian and I made sure I researched what I needed to do to make sure i'm not deficient in anything! If you have any more questions pertaining to this, feel free to ask!
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im a 14 girl and i masterbate a lot i guess. like atleast once a day but today i did it like 3 times but my clit. felt numb and took a while for me to orgasm and i had to press hard. does this mean i should lay off for a while or what? thnx :) (link)
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When you masturbate too much your clit will go numb and it WILL be harder to achieve an orgasm because it is overstimulated. Especially if you do it back to back to back. It's not a permanent situation and it won't hurt you any. Hope this helps! :)
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Why did I lose weight fast? I only been dieting for 10 days and people have been telling me I looked like I was losing weight, so when I weighed myself I found out I lost 15 pounds. Someone told me that a person could only lose 1 pound a week while dieting. Why did I lose 15? I didnt starve myself and I did work out.Will losing weight fast negatively affect me later?I'm not overweight either, I just wanted to get rid of my stomache, so I walked and did sit ups (link)
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As long as you aren't starving yourself or using other unhealthy methods (pills, laxatives, throwing up, etc), don't worry about it. When you're just starting out exercising and eating right you will lose weight fast the first week or two. It's just water weight, not fat!
Now if you continue to lose tons of weight every week for long periods of time then you may need to see a doctor, but unless that happens I wouldn't worry about it. Just keep doing it the right way, like you are, and you will be just fine.
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ok so im 14 (girl) and i've looked up some "stuff" on the internet but only on google! then i found in my tool bar that my history of what i searched (just the words i searched) is still there. my mom works with computers but im not going to ask her how i can delete the history. i didn't look at porn or anything just looked up stuff like "sex" and then went to images but on google it doesn't really show anything. do you know how to delete this history? it's in my tool bar. so on top there is the search bar and below that "file, edit, view, tools, help" and then a search engine thing that says google and has all these symbols going across. on the google there is an arrow with my history! do you know what i'm talking about? and thank you so much! :) and just wondering. it's normal to look up stuff like sex on the internet when your a 14yr girl right? (link)
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Under tools or history there should be something that says clear recent history, clear private data or something of the sort. Hope this helps!
And to answer your last question, it is normal to look up sex when you are a 14 year old girl. Don't worry about it, knowing information about sex can only help you in the long run because it will help prevent stupid choices regarding sex! :)
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i was trying to lose weight,i was 122 pounds and now im 123.8!
i gained 2 pounds! how do i lose weight,im going to florida in july. (link)
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Don't do anything drastic that's for sure! Drastic and fad diets will only work for a short period & then you will gain everything plus extra back. Here are some tips I suggest:
Eat more veggies, drink more water, lay off the dairy and most meat products (with the exception of like fish or turkey) until after your florida trip. Also start walking for 30 minutes a day at least 5 days a week. Good luck!
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i need to lose likeee 30 pounds asaaappp and no healthy way is gonna get it done so i was jw hows the best way to do it? thanks babesss (link)
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Honestly the healthy way is the only real way to go. You can try pills, shakes, fasting and fads & you will lose weight fast. The problem is your health suffers a major blow, it's too hard to stick to for long periods of time and you will eventually gain it all back and then some.
Some little tips: chew your food very well (like 20 times or so), eat without distractions, try to incorporate more veggies into your diet, drink loads of water and increase your activity. Find an exercise (or sport) or any other activity you like to do (skating, walking your dog, etc), and just have fun doing it.
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what does yellowish greenish discharge mean? (link)
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It usually means you are sick or have some sort of infection. I would go to the doctor to have them check on you. It may or may not be serious, but it's better to be safe then sorry when it comes to your health.
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I don't cut to see blood. when i cut myself i get a scab, a mark, a bump. Where can i go to get help. but i can't talk to friends or family about it. who else?? (link)
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If you don't feel like you can confide in friends or family, try your school counselor. They usually offer pretty good advice and will listen to you. Just know that they may talk to your parents if they feel that there is concern! It may be better that way though because you would have someone else's perspective in your situation and not to mention you would have someone else's support & advice!
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i am 13 and i want to babysit this summer do you think that i should contact people or wait a few more years (link)
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Go ahead and contact people to babysit. As long as you are a responsible and caring babysitter, people will respond to that nicely! I started babysitting at 13 myself! If you want to make sure you know how to take care of certain situations, you could take a class on CPR training. That way if something happens you would be prepared. I would start off with little kids instead of babies though for now....
PS if you do decide to start babysitting now, make sure you have a "babysitter pack" of things for kids to do! You can put coloring books and crayons, story books, games and stuffed animals in the pack! Good luck! :)
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My cat is obsesicive over my office chair? is this becoming a problem? should i get help or put my cat to sleep? please help!
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You don't need to put your cat to sleep! Does the cat have enough toys to play with? Try getting the cat a toy with catnip in it! That way the kitty will be obsessive about the toy and not your chair! You could also just get a new office chair and sell/trade/give away the other one if the previous advice doesn't work out too well!
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My mom doesn't have long distance on the phone at home and my best friend from Washington wants to call me. I know I can't call out to her because the phone won't let me since we don't even have long distance coverage. If my friend calls me (it is long distance for her too, of course) with her long distance coverage will I be charged for picking up the phone and answering it?
And, no, this is NOT a cell phone. It's a landline at our house! (link)
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On a regular land line phone, you won't be charged if a friend calls you long distance and you pick it up. The person that would be charged is whomever is making the phone call. So answer that phone! :)
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I know every girl is different down there. The problem I have is that my vagina is huge. Really it is. I won't go into much detail but I can put a lot more than just two fingers in me if I want to. And I only had sex with ONE guy before and that was like a year ago!
Is this normal? Should I see a doctor about my big vigina? I don't want to like ruin the mood when a guy sees it. What causes a wide vagina anyway? Is there anything I do to fix this? (link)
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There's nothing wrong with you at all. It just depends on the woman because as you mentioned, everyone is different. Genetics may play a big role in the size. If you are talking about your "entrance area" you can practice what are called kegels. It will help tighten that area up.
What you do is use the muscles that are used to stop urination. If you aren't sure what muscles they are, practice the next time you urinate. Try and stop the flow. Once you get that down, you can practice that anytime anywhere. You just squeeze those muscles really tight, hold a few seconds, release and repeat!
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I bought this really beautiful dress but I've lost some weight already this summer and I'm down a good size if not more. The dress is now too loose and I won't be able to wear it like I wanted to unless I can get it fixed or something. Now, I know that people use to be able to go places and get their clothes tailored to suit them better but I don't know if anything like that exists now.
Can I get it downsized or something? Where would I go? How much would it cost? And what should I say to the person if there is a place that does this sort of thing? Just like it's too big or...what? (link)
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You should be able to go to any store that sells suits, ties and/or dresses. They usually have tailors in those places and if not they can direct you to someone that can. Also, around here there is a lady that owns a laundry place who tailors stuff for others. All they would really need to do is measure you and take it in to whatever measurements are needed.
PS Congrats on losing weight!!!!! :)
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Where do you think people go when they die?
What happens, for instance, to the mind?
And their being (not as in the body)?
Where does it go? (link)
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Personally I believe in reincarnation. I like to believe that i'm going to see my loved ones again, either in another lifetime or as something else in the current lifetime. I believe that the souls and "being" of a person lives forever! Hope this helps!
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