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My mom and I had an argument over braces the last week and she got really mad. I'm going to get them anyway and she won't talk to me. It's been almost a week and she always ignores me..and doesn't tell me wen it's time to eat or anything.. PLEASE don't tell me to sit her down and have a talk..we don't have that kind of relationship..and I can't wait it out! Please don't critisize..I rate!
I won't tell you to sit down and talk, because I know exactly how you feel. I don't have that type of relationship with my mother either.
If she ignores you, don't say or do anything that she can ignore. Make your own food and don't offer any, so you don't have to eat hers. Don't tell her when you're going places, because then she'll get mad and actually talk to you. I think it's kind of immature that your MOM ignores you. Usually for me, it's the other way around.
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i have this problem, i wont sleep for days and when i do sleep its for a very short time. i also really like to play supersmash bros and other assorted videogames and they keep me up often, and when im not playing them im dreaming about them and wanting to play them. Why cant i sleep is it my videogame habits or am i sick like insomnia? can anyone explain?... IM NOT NORMAL!!!!
Wow. You need a new hobby. Try doing something physical. You'll sleep better, and you probably won't be dreaming about playing video games. I don't think you do enough productive things during your day to make you tired. Also, eat enough foods, get your daily intake of vitamins and such.
I doubt you're sick, but it's always a possibility.
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i have liked this guy 4 a year now and the other day he told me how he truely feels about me and then i did the same. and today i asked him if he would every consider havin a realtionship with me and he said ya for shu every body deseves a chance as long as you mean tha lovin part, and am just lookin for a girl tha i can stay with for a long time. and i dont know what to say more to get him to ask me out! he gave me a kiss today and i did the same back but i dont know what to do can someone plz help me and tell me what to tell him more? plz and thank you.
If he just recently told you how he felt about you, he probably just started feeling this way. Since he told you that he considered having a relationship with you and that everyone deserves a chance, then he should ask you out if he honestly likes you.
Just be a good person to him. Be your natural, sweet self, and everything should go good. :o)
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Okay i used to be REALLY good at school, but now my last report card i got four C's and one D. Wich is really bad for me! i got ONE A and that was in gym! I'm trying to get into The School Of Proforming Arts (a highschool) and you need amazing Grades to get there! How do i get good grades with still being able to hang out with my friends enough?
You may want to hang out with your friends less... I'm sure you're a smart person, and at the moment, your focus can't be on friends. You have weekends and the entire summer, unless you fail a class (if your school system is like mine, you'll take summer school).
Immediately after school, get your homework done as accurately and quickly as you can. If you really want good grades and be able to hang out with your friends, you can do it. I believe in you.
♥ We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. -Aristotle
♥ Successful people have learned to make themselves to the thing that has to be done when it has to be done, whether they like it or not. -Aldous Huxley
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Alright so me and this girl were best friends for about 2 and half years and we always liked each other but she always was in a relationship and I was too and then finally she dumped her b/f and I was single so we hooked up went out for 2 months and then things didnt work out we broke up then we had a thing for about 2 weeks that didnt work then we tried being friends but she never payed attention to me she was always with this other guy they ended up going out and I got kicked out and she said we shouldnt be friends no more and I've been trying for the last 3 months to get my best friend back and she has tried a few times to fix things but I always screw up some how and now she says were over and I should give up but I dont wana give up and I dunno what to do I miss her a lot and I just really want her to be atleast my friend again if we cant be best friends do you got any ideas...
Don't give up... A best friend is someone who shares your same interests and knows all of your secrets. I lost mine awhile ago, and finally got her back after weeks of missing her. You really don't want to lose that relationship- best friends come one in a million.
Write her a letter. Tell her that you miss her, and why, and write down all of the wonderful things about her; remind her of the fun times you two had together before all of the relationships with boys came along. Let her know that she is still YOUR best friend, although at the moment you may not be hers.
Whatever you do, don't let the relationship fail... She is your best friend and has been for over two years. She'll notice the differences in her life when she realizes the mistake she made, and she'll want to be your friend again. You never know what you have until it's gone.
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ok im confused at school i get made fun of alot because im smart. well normally i just bottle it up and dont do anything because im weak but what i have noticed is sometimes i will get so pissed off that if anyone who hasnt even done anything to me so much as slightly bothers me i blow up at them. i guess i just want to know how can i channel my anger more so at the ppl who piss me off because i hate blowin up at my friends but i cant blow up at the ppl that make fun of me cause im weak as shit and im just confused i dont know wut to do can someone please help me..
Out of all the things in the world to get made fun of, they chose your intelligence. People make fun of others because they're jealous; and in your case, they want to be as smart as you. Don't get mad that they make fun of you, at least you have your priorities straight.
Take getting teased about being smart a compliment. Intelligence gets you into good colleges, and gets you farther in life than not being smart ever will.
If you have anger, write it down. Whoever it may be towards, just write it down. You can read it and laugh about it later, and think about how much of an idiot those people were. Wait until you get older, they'll regret it and you'll be happier that they made fun of you instead of you making wrong choices.
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ok my cuzin wants me to stand up in her 15th birthday they have another name for it but i can't spell it and i'm not gonna waste my time trying to spell it anyways i got 3 months i want to lose some weight! please give me tips on wat to eat and excersing i rate high and do u know how much weight i could possibly lose in 3 months ?
If she's Mexican, it's probably a Quinceanera. It's a traditional 15th birthday party for most Mexican girls. :o)
What to eat: Make sure you include something from each category in the Food Pyramid at least once a week. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables, and drink lots of water. Water flushes out the toxins in your body. If you want to lose the most weight you can, cut the soda and high fattening foods right out of your diet.
Exercising: Mix your cardio workouts with crunches, lunges, or any other type of basic workout. Cardio (Running, rollerblading, jumping rope, swimming) increases your metabolism, and helps you lose weight in all areas of your body. You can't spot reduce- crunches and sit ups won't help you lose fat in your stomach, but they will increase the muscle. You must add cardio to your workouts if you want to lose extra fat.
The weight loss depends on your metabolism and how well you follow your diet. You can usually lose 1-3 pounds a week.
1 pound/week for three months: 12 pounds eliminated
2 pounds/week for three months: 24 pounds eliminated
3 pounds/week for three months: 36 pounds eliminated
Hope I helped!
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i joined lacrosse and my legs hurt really bad from running.. how can i make it feel better?? and do you have any lacrosse tips?
Is it a pain in your legs, or just soreness from working your muscles?
If it's a pain, you may want to see a doctor. You could have tore something, or did some other sort of damage.
If being sore is the case, you probably overworked yourself, and haven't ran this much until recently. If you run this much often, your body will adjust to the new changes and it won't hurt that often. If you stretch your muscles (I know... it hurts), they'll feel much better. Also, icy hot and icing on and off for twenty minutes at a time could help.
I don't know anything about lacrosse, but I looked up a few websites for you.
www.laxtips.com - Suggestions, includes sound files
www.e-lacrosse.com/milltips.htm - Mark Millions tips
I hope I helped!
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i am a 17/m and i really want to do something sweet for mine and my girlfriends anniversary. i already have a dinner planned out but i want it to be more sexual. I am not a virgin and i know she isnt either but i want to know things that girls like guys to do to them, even sex if thats what girls like. Thnx, i rate high
That's the nicest thing.
Before you do anything sexual, ask her if she's comfortable doing it. Even if she isn't a virgin, she may want to be confronted with your plans. If you're shy, and it's hard to talk about it, hint around. If she's alright with it, shoot for the moon my man! Ask her what she wants you to do to her, and then tell her what you want done to you.
For sweet things: Make a list- "101 Reasons Why You're The Greatest." Write each of your reasons on a seperate piece of paper and wrap them in a fancy gift box. ♥ Build her a web page telling her why she's so special to you. Mention great moments and add some images and cool links to topics that interest her. Surf the web with her one day, and just "stumble upon it." Or, try having someone send her an anonymous e-mail with the link, inviting them to the page. But: There are so many viruses these days, she may delete it; the first option is best. ♥ Take her to the park and push her on the swings... ♥ Make her a CD with all of the songs that she adores on it. She'll LOVE it. ♥ Bake cookies together. :o)
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hey does anybody know of any good sites where i could get music for my xanga site i will rate high for good and reasonable answers.
oh yeah i'm looking for eminem-
song- mockingbird thanks :)
FREE MUSIC SITES
Try www.xanga.com/a__music__x
Or, www.xanga.com/music__galore
Hope I helped!
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Ive been down in the dumps lately about alot of things..first off my parents split up after a 22 yr marriage..then i didnt make my aau softball team that i make every year...and then things didnt work out with the guy i thought i liked. I really am depressed..i know i am..the symptoms are all there. I need something that will hype me up a little..ne suggestions?
Your parents splitting up was probably a good thing. Something had to have went wrong, not necessarily a bad thing, but right now it's probably for the best. Not making your AAU softball team is one of lifes little disappointments. You're still able to practice and play softball, just work at it and there's always next year! About the boy thing: We all have them problems.
Suggestions: Make contact with family and friends. Go to the movies, get a jogging buddy, or talk on the phone with someone you're fond of. Spend time with someone you consider to be positive, productive, and in a good state of mind. Also, try writing down all of your feelings in a journal. You'll look and read through them and be amazed at how you've changed. If you're afraid that someone will read your journal, rip up your entries and throw them away. And lastly, be around people who are active and spend less time alone.
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how do you know if you have mono? like what are the symptoms? does it have symptoms? i dont know anything about it and so i dont really know if i have it...! thanks yall!
It's spread by direct contact, such as kissing... Symptoms include: Chills, fever, sore throat, fatigue, and swollen lymph nodes. Treatment and recovery can take three to six weeks- complete bed rest is needed.
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There is this guy i like... i've liked him ever since... well... 2 month.. and he has a g/f!! what should i do... shoould i tell him how i feel or should i just keep it to myself? Thank you for listening :-)
If you think you should tell him how you feel, or you just need to get it off your chest, go ahead. There's always hope that he may like you back, but then there's always the chance of rejection, which in this case is much higher because of the fact that he has a girlfriend.
If he ends up liking you, you're all set! But, in advance, don't ever do anything with him while he's with someone else. It would only lead to other problems...
If he doesn't like you, however, it may be hard to accept it... Everyone eventually gets over it. If for some reason, this happens, take up a new hobby. Painting, writing, reading, running... Anything.
Good luck!
♥ Summer
Hey does anyone know any good ways to lose about 5 pounds for the summer? My friend wants to go to the beach but i dont look right in a bathingsuit. Any tips would be REALLY helpful Thanx
*I rate High*
I'm sure you're probably already active, but if you have a tight schedule (school, after school activites) here are some simple things you can do anywhere: Stand rather than sit; sit up rather than lie down; walk rather than ride in a car; ride a bike rather than ride in a car; use stairs rather than an elevator or an escalator; walk around rather than stand still; run or jog rather than walk; walk briskly rather than walk slowly; or use body power rather than a machine.
Other things, which require time, are running or jogging, swimming, jumping rope, or bicycling. You could start a plan, there's probably so many, but the one I would choose is: Running or jogging three miles, four times a week, and attempting to run this in less than 27 minutes. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables, cut down on soda and potato chips, and other foods that are high in fat. NOTE: If you take in fewer calories then you burn, you'll lose weight.
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so ive liked this guy forever-since the begining of the year..but he had a girlfriend until recently. hes liked me too but he had a really serious girlfriend (for a year!!) and then when he was single i had a boyfriend. now we are both single and weve been hanging out ALOT. weve kissed and held hands and he is soo sweet. hes always like callin me babe and stuff. and he told me to listen to some songs that remind him of me. hes just so sweet. well he told me he really likes me..but he doesnt want a girlfriend right now so we can be "close friends". what does this mean? hes not using me because hes just not like that..hes soo sweet. and i really like him. and we go to the same school. also, his ex recently started talking to me...and shes soo nice and still likes him...shes like making me feel bad for hangin out with him. but i dont know...what do i do?
If he's not one to use, then he probably likes you. Since he recently got out of a one year relationship, he probably doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment. If you hang on, and give him time, I'm sure you guys will end up being together. About his ex-girlfriend talking to you: don't tell her things that you guys do together, and don't answer her questions, because from my experience, she'll get jealous. Don't feel bad for hanging out with him, there's a reason they aren't together.
♥ Summer
can you get aim without being a member of AOL?how?
Yes. Go to AIM's website, www.aim.com and click 'For Your Computer' and click your type of computer. An alternative is going to www.download.com, and searching for AOL Instant Messenger; which is usually under the category, Most Popular.
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Hey, first off, let me start off by saying I'm fifteen years old and I'm a freshman in high school. I am involved in local theatre productions. For the longest time, since as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be famous. I wanted to be a model or an actress. I mean, when you really ask "what do you DREAM of doing?" I dream of singing before a crowd or being in magazines modeling or being in a film. It just seems to me that this is so out of reach and that I will never be able to be this. I kind of let it escape my mind and thought of other career options, but I think about this every once and awhile and it's hard to forget this "dream". I wonder if maybe it keeps popping in my mind for a reason? So, I was wondering if anyone could give me any insight as to how they feel about this, and whether or not you think I should pursue this and how to start. ANY sort of comment would be very helpful!
A dream is something that somebody hopes, longs, or is ambitious for- usually something difficult to attain. Make your dream a goal. Select one goal to work toward; List what you will do to reach this goal; Identify others who can help you and support your efforts. While working at your goal, write down the progress you are making. Give yourself a reward once you have achieved a part of your goal. Visit: www.jc-centers.com, www.johnrobertpowers.net/index.html, or www.barbizonmodeling.com, for information on your provided interests.
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I have a large and painful canker sore in my mouth that won't seem to go away. I've tried salt water and o-zone water (water that has anti-bacterial purposes). Are there any other remedies that'll help that I don't need to go and buy stuff for?
Canker sores are expected to go away in 4-14 days. Nutritional deficiency and the overproduction of acid in your stomach are both associated with canker sores. To fix these, take multivitamins and drink 6-8 glasses of water a day.
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when having sex do you do anything special to make him have a better orgasm?
Things to do to possibly make him have a better orgasm are: rub or play with his testicles gently, be vocal (moaning or screaming, whichever you prefer), and tell him what you want him to do to you and having him return the favor.
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