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Q: 17/F

Okay. so i just got two bottles of Zantrex-3. I heard its suppose to be a really good weight loss pill. Im 5'5" and about 165lbs so i really need to lose the weight. Has anyone used it before? I use to take Trimspa and i liked it, but I just wanted to try something new. I took the zantrex yesterday for the first time and it made me feel kinda sick and shaky =/
I felt the same way one one of my pills (not a weight loss pill) my doctor told me to eat something about 10-20 minutes before taking the pill, and take the pill with a full glass of water. That advice worked great for me.
Hope this works for you.

Q: for a girl thats 5'4 5'5 how much should she weigh? kilos and pounds?
13 years old.
whats a good weight?
the person below me is wrong, if you weight 100 pounds and are 5'4 or 5'5 that means you're wayyy to skinny.

if you are 5'4 you should weigh anywhere from
115-135 pounds according to body mass index.

if you are 5'5 you should weigh anywhere from
120-140 pounds.

Q: what is the best digital scrapbooking software for the apple/mac computer? also, is there a free one that is good until i think i need a more advanced one?
you just gave me the ambition to get into scrapbooking, i looked all over for a program and i've finally found one!!

it's free!

http://www.scrapblog.com/

you don't have to download anything so i'm pretty sure it will work with mac!

good luck and thanks for the desire to get into scrapbooking

Q: whenever im not with my boyfriend, all i ever talk about is him. like CONSTANTLY. and im like always depressed when im not with him... is that like, weird?
ugh i know exactly how you feel! i'm the same way and everyone points it out to me. they all get annoyed i guess so somethings i try to keep in my mind.

Q: first off if you read this i just wanna thank you =)

okay this is probably normal..but i always get sexual attractions for my boyfriend and when we make out and stuff i always get extremely wet...i think thats good? however, im so afraid to have sex even though i definetly know we're not gonna for awhile...so is it normal to have sexual attractions yet not wanting to have sex?

also, when alot of people make out the hands move...he kinda just puts his arms around me and they stay there basically the whole time...does that mean anything? i tried moving his hands and he goes with where i move them to but then they just stay there and i want him to know that its okay for him to move them..without tellnig him that, so how do i drop little hints?

btw, hes told me that hes never been this crazy about a girl before but we havent said "i love you" yet because we both feel its too early in the relationship to decide yet...

any advice on anything would be really appreciated!
haha TOTALLY normal! and you kinda get that butterfly feeling ya know?

alot of times when you see hands moving its in films that are extreamly exaggerated, he may be too focused on kissing you to do so. Or are you talking about moving his hands to your private parts? if so he just may be nervous just talk to him while ur kissing him and say you don't have to be afraid to let your hands explore, or something that you're comfortable with saying.

good luck to you!!

Q: So i just got a new dog yesterday! I love it we adopted it and it is so cute. Its names is Lily. Anyways we also have a cat that we have had for 16 years. currently we have the dog in a cage in the garage b.c that is what the lady said to do becuase it is not house trained. so today to try it out we brought lily in the house and my cat freaked out. he started hissing and crying and almost attacked lily. What should we do to get the cat adjusted to lily. I want to bring lily inside so she doesnt have to sleep in the garage.
that's how my cat acted when we brought a kitten home, now she's totally fine with her.
it took a little bit for her to get adjusted but now they love each other :]
what you gotta do is show your cat that you still love them, because cats can be very jealous creatures.

Q: ok so saturday night is homecoming and my dress is strapless and i have quite a tan line. so my question is how do i get rid of it before saturday night
try getting a hard shower brush or looufa to help scrub off dead skin that will leave you with a lighter complexion making your tan less notice able. also try tanning and put a sunblock on the rest of your body and tan as long as you need to to even it out a bit.

Q: okay, this is getting out of hand. these dots on my legs are getting worse and worse every night. do you think i have beg bugs? look at these links. please help me. i have a halloween party soon and my costume is very short and you can see my whole leg.

1. http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2iv1r1x&s=4

2. http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=51oja&s=4
(sorry about the mess :D!)

3. http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2uibqyr&s=4

this is absolutely discusting!
please tell me what this is, its been going on for a while. i have no recently shaved my legs because of this [thinking it was a reaction from the razor] could i have beg bugs??
Do you have pets? Tis the season for fleas :[ that is exactly what mine looked like last year exactly in october. I suggest everything everyone else is saying, wash everything!

also, have you been using a new laundry detergent, fabric softener, soaps or anything new that you could possibly be allergic to?

To get these little nasties to heal i found that cortizone 10 and Neosporine work wonders, also try an antihestamine like benedryl.

Q: I want to know what guys like on girls "down there" -- bush, triangle, totally shaved, etc? I always hear that different guys like different things, so what do you guys personally like?

Also, do guys like large labia or small?
My boyfriend likes it shaved, but he just recently told me to do a "landing strip", he still hasn't gotten to see it yet but I guess he likes that, and i dont think guys really have a preference as to which kind of labia, just don't worry about it cause it's not something you can fix with out surgery.

Q: ok so my problem is that my vagina has a really weird smell and i thought i might have an infection or something so i went to the doctors and she told me that i didnt have an infection, but she did say that sometimes your diet can effect the way it smells and i was just woundering does anybody no how i can change my diet to make it smell better down there cuz i really want to fix it, last time i was with my boyfriend he was going to finger me but i wouldnt let him because of the smell, please help
Cut out dark meats, junk foods, and greasy foods from your diet. Snack on fruits and veggies and keep hydrated with water :]

Q: I have an appointment with my lady doctor to discuss my birth control pill (that I'm on to regulate my period). However, I think I have a vaginal infection so I will mention it to her. Will she decide to give me a pelvic exam? I'm not really scared I just want to be prepared ahead of time so I know what to expect. And I'm not sexually active in any way and I never had an exam down there before.

Will she just suggest a medication or take a look?

(please answer this if you know from personal experience).

17/f
Well ususally doctors give you an exam before being put on the pill (whether you're sexually active or not) and they almost always do a follow up 6 months later and that ususally includes a pelvic exam. If you mention the infection she may want to take a look. If you're nervous about that go to a store and get a yeast infection testing kit, and if you do have a yeast infection then get Monistat or any other type of yeast infection treating kit that doesn't require a perscription. If you have no luck there then yes I do suggest mentioning it to your doctor. Most will suggest going to your doctor right away, but I found the kits to work flawlessly.

Q: i was on the depo shot for 6 months and gained 15 pounds. i am terrible at remembering the pill ( plus im concerned about the weight gain) and the nuva ring is really uncomfortable( and im concerned about the weight gain) if i use spermicide and a condom every time i have sex should i be okay? just trying to get unbiased opinions here.
**EDIT**
yep you'll become fertile again, either after 4 years or about a month after you get the IUD taken out.
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condoms are 99.9% effective (when used properly) regaurdless if you are using any other type of birth control method. Spermicide is also a good "just incase" method. Just be careful with what kinds of spermicides you mix with certain kinds of condoms.

Here's another suggestion, try looking into an IUD like mirena. Its a little "T" shaped plastic or copper piece that doctor can insert in the cervix. It's a minor procedure, with no need for "down time". I'm pretty sure you can choose to be sedated for the procedure. Oh and there is some pain that goes a long with it for a day or so that just feels like menstrual cramps. The IUD is effective for 4 years and can be taken out sooner if you'd like.

Q: I am in love with this costume
http://i36.tinypic.com/23u25x5.jpg
but I found it randomly on some journal blog. I don't know where it's from. Does anyone know where I can get this costume?? I found this one on 3wishes.com
http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41N2Q0Q6J2L._AA280_.jpg
but it's not the same :( so does anyone know where I can get the first bunny costume. I will give fives, thanks
they are both very cute, i havent been able to find that one in particular but here are some ones that i found similar or very cute. I tried to keep in mind the price, i think around 30-40 is a good price for a costume, most of them these days are around 60-70.

http://www.fantasytoyland.com/rgc-81470.html here is one that is similar, click to enlarge cause the pic is real tiny

http://www.flirtcatalog.com/p-80812-bunny-babe.aspx?pagenum=1&pagesize=50&sortby=name&prevurl=c-907-sexy-animal-costumes.aspx

http://www.flirtcatalog.com/p-85691-gangsta-bunny.aspx?pagenum=1&pagesize=50&sortby=name&prevurl=c-907-sexy-animal-costumes.aspx

http://www.electriqueboutique.com/womens-shoes/Leg-Avenue-Heffs-Fantasy-Play-Bunny-Costume/C-83257.html i think this one is adoreable!

http://www.electriqueboutique.com/womens-shoes/Sexy-Vinyl-Pink-Heff--Leg-Avenue-Bunny-Costume/C-83235.html this one is like the same material of the first costume u wanted

http://www.electriqueboutique.com/womens-shoes/Adult-Fantasy-Leg-Avenue-Playboy-Styled-Dress/C-83007-PNK.html here is the second one you found here i found it for 10 dollars so you cant beat that!

http://www.yandy.com/Sexy-Bunny.php

http://www.costumesupercenter.com/csc/prod/101371/i/1/product.web

http://www.costumesupercenter.com/csc/prod/100656/i/1/product.web this one is realativly similar

http://www.pierresilber.com/bunny2.html this one is pretty similar too

well thats 10 i dont wanna overwhelm you with them so i'll edit my answer if i find the real one!

hope this helps

Q: My little sister is going to having a sleepover Halloween party next month. She will be having some of her best friends over to spend the night, probably a total of 10 other girls her age. They will be having all sorts of party treats, including games, costumes, junk foods, and movies (the normal ones though like Mean Girls, High School Musical, Camp Rock with the Jonas Brothers).

My little sister is only 10 years old, and recently turned 10 at that. My mom is trying to decide on a good bedtime for her and her best friends. She knows they'll want to stay up late for Halloween, plus they will be having a sleepover party, so she isn't sure what time is really appropriate to call it lights out.

So, I am wondering what other people thing about a 10 year old's bedtime during a Halloween slumber party. What time would you suggest my little sister and her best friends should be tucked in bed?
Well personally I think it should be based around what their parents think, like what time they plan to pick them up and everything...And honestly, when i was that age, and it was lights out time we stayed up all night anyway. I dont really see a problem with letting them stay up one night until they decide to go to sleep. the lack of sleep won't affect their health over one night, they most likely dont have to do anything functional the next day, like school.

oh and i have a suggestion to make, instead of those normal movies, have them watch halloween movies, like the ones for kids, here are a few that i could think of

hocus pocus
casper meets wendy (or any casper movie really)
the halloweentown movies (i believe there are 3 of them)

Q: ok wellll for halloween i want to have a really slutty costume so i was wondering if any one had ideas? im going to a party with my bf and im gonna dress really slutty hehehe. thanks!!
try going to www.forplaycatalog.com
they have a lot of slutty costumes for cheap if u click on sexy halloween costumes and then click the under $30 link in the side bar,
like half price what they normally are, and free shipping :] cant get better than that.
oh and you get a free gift too, i still dont know what it is cause my order still hasnt come yet.

i got this costume http://www.forplaycatalog.com/store/Halloween_Costumes___Costumes__30_and_underFPSKT1?Args=
that my boyfriend fell in love with

Q: This year for Halloween I want to be a song. Example: "Devil With the Blue Dress" by The Greatful Dead - Pull it off by wearing a blue dress and devil horns and tail.
Two years ago my sister was the witch doctor. (Self explanatory) I have no idea what song to be. My friend suggested "Janie's Got a Gun" by Aerosmith but I couldn't pull it off other than carrying a gun around...any ideas???
maybe you can wear a name tag that says janie on it, and have the gun, and then incorporate the band who created the song by wearing an aerosmith shirt.

Q:
Ok, for Halloween, i want to go as a Bimbo or a hooker or something like that. So i want to dye my hair blond for it.

My hair is Black... so what would i have to do to get it blond... and how many times??

also... do you think my hair might fall out?
like if i bleach it?

It'll only be for 1 night, but i don't want to get a wig.

thanks.
your hair might not fall out but i can almost assure you that it will break, and when it breaks it can break off so i'ts really short, like boy's hair. what's so bad about a wig? and hookers can have black hair too it doesnt have to be blonde.

oh yeah and since you're going from black to blonde bleach will just make it orange.

Q: This is a really weird question but I figured I would give it a shot.

So lately (and by lately I mean the past year or so) I have been crying at the drop of a hat and I don't know why.

Whether I'm happy, sad, angry, annoyed or whatever, I cry. I used to be able to sit through a chick flick without shedding a single tear and now, even if it's some goofy romantic comedy, I'm practically bawling from the sickeningly happy ending.

It's just weird because I never used to have this problem and frankly it's kind of embarrassing sometimes. I can't even watch certain commercials now without losing it.

Does anyone else have this problem? Is there any way I could possibly fix this or is it just my hormones being wacky?

with in the past year did you start any new medications? how long ago did you hit puberty? all these things should be considered. it could possibly be your estrogen levels that are higher than normal

Q: 15/f
I am loosing hair EVERYWHERE. It's crazy! Everytime i take a shower, run my hands through my hair or brush it. It's just everywhere! It has been more than normal lately
I dye my hair with natural instincts and wear clip in extensions everyday. Could that be the reason of it or is there something wrong with me?

Thanks in advance
your hair is probably dehydrated, the same thing was happening to me, i talked to my hair dresser and they said it was breakage, so that's probably your case too. try using hello hydration shampoo and conditioner by herbal essence it's amazing and makes your hair sooo soft.

good luck

Q: My dog really hates the smell of coffee. She won't go anywhere near it. I was wondering why this is? Thankyou for your time!
i guess the answer below me is generally right, but also, imagine someone with really bad b/o, and you try to avoid them, it's simply because the smell is unpleasent.

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