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can people see who asks the question on advicenators? i mean like i'm asking this question, can anyone find out that it's me?
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no, they can't
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I have an anger promblem,i mean i get mad at the litte things.And its hard to stop ,all my friend know i lose it fast.But i've been getin to fights more and more with friends.And they say i need to be clam and stop getin mad.I've tryed siting in my room in the cornor with music on.It works for a bit but,after that i go crazy.
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Well, I don't know you very well and to answer this question correctly I probably have to know you better. But from the sounds of it, you may have some bottled up emotions that you need to let out. Try and find someone to talk to if you need to let anything out... whether it's frustrations with something or someone, or just any kind of problem. You can always talk to me about anything if you need someone. Also, I don't know if this is your case, but there is a personality disorder called borderline personality. People with this disorder get easily frustrated and irritated and tend to have anger problems. I'm not saying you have this but it is a possibility. If this anger problem keeps occurring you may want to talk to your parents about it or seek some kind of help. But for now, just make sure to talk to someone about anything that's bothering you. I hope my advice helps... have any other questions or need anything else just let me know!!
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what do you do when a girl who you truly like chooses a different guy over you for the 3 time and still wants to talk
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It sounds like this girl probably only likes you as a friend. Since she chooses other guys over you, that means that she's not romantically interested in you, because she obviously likes these other guys. Just because she still talks to you doesn't mean that she likes you as more than a friend. She probably just likes talking to you and being no more than friends. Just learn to accept the fact that the two of you will only be friends and get out and meet some other girls... who knows, maybe she'll even change her mind about you!
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hey this guy i know said that he loved me, but i never saw him before and know nothing about him..and after he told me he loved me i asked him if he knew anything about me and he said my name and then he said isent that enough..he was acting really retarded..and now every time i talk to him hes like hey babe, what's up sexys...should i go out with him?! (link)
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He kinda sounds like a creep to me. He's just being a weirdo.. I don't think he really loves you. I'm assuming you met him online, but I could be wrong. Don't go out with the guy unless you really know him well. But this doesn't sound like the kind of guy you want to be hanging out with anyways.
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Ok, so Im sopussed to go on this vacation to this rented house on a beach with my moms side of the family and Im not really close to them like yeah I never talk to anyone of them but no matter how much I begged not to go my mom still said I had to; but then when my brother asked not to go she didnt care. So Im kinda already mad at my mom for that. Then my friend could go to help me not be so miserable but my mom wont help pay for her with the money that she was gonna use for my brother. Im inbetween going and not going because #1 there is a SLIGHT chance it could be fun, but #2 it could be really boring, #3 my mom would be miserable without one of us kids around with her, and #4 Id get a grand tan. So if you were me would you go? (link)
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I would definitely go. You will most likely have a little bit of fun at least... and, hey, if you don't at least your friends will be jealous of your fabulous tan! Besides, if you don't go you might regret it, and you would wonder what it would have been like if you did go. It's not like a vacation like this pops up every day. You can stay at home any day.. this is your chance to do something different. So I say go on this trip and make the most out of your vacation... HAVE FUN!!
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I started my period this morning (not for the first time, I've had it for 2 years) and I had REALLY bad cramps and I never usually get cramps.
They were so bad, I couldn't get out of bed.
I know cramps are normal but is it normal for your cramps to start after 2 years of not having them?
and also I vomited today. I've never vomited from my period before but my mom said she used to every month when her period came.
Is that normal!? Especially after two years of not having any trouble with my period.
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Almost the same thing happened to me. I had mine for a while and then all of a sudden I got these horrible cramps. It's completely normal, so there is no need to worry. You also don't have to worry about the vomitting, because that happens to a lot of my girl friends. I guess it's just something that goes along with your period... it sucks, but you just have to deal with it.
P.S. Oh, and I recommend IB Profin for cramps... it's good for really bad ones.
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okay so me and my boyfriend where messing around( grinding) so anyways my mom walked upstairs and thought we were having sex she didnt freak out and i said something to her she didnt really respond.i usually just let things go with her like go to sleep or something and then she wont be mad anymore but i dont know???
i need opinions and i will rate high
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If you don't say something to your mom things could get a little awkward. I think that you should just talk to her and say something like... "So, about what you saw the other day..." just bring it up like that, and then assure her that you two weren't doing anything. If you don't talk to her about it she may think that you two are doing something that you're really not. She may not show it, but your mom may really be concerned about you and your boyfriend, so you might want to say something to her just so she is assured that she has nothing to worry about.
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hey um well i have a sister who is about 2 1/2 years younger than me and she gets all the attention and is really popular and pretty and im like... jealous of her. it's like she should be looking up to me when i'm looking up to her! hmm what should i do!?
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embarassed (link)
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This is a tough problem. I'm not going to tell you to like sabtage your sister or anything. You can't stop her from being popular and pretty. You just need to change your mindset in order to stop being jealous. Look at all of your good qualities and remember that those qualities make you unique. I know this sounds really cliche, but you just have to accept the fact that your sister is the way she is. Try not to focus so much on your sister, though. Think about yourself and what you can do to feel good about yourself. Being jealous of your sister won't get you anywhere. Try to get over your sister and think about the kind of person you are and why people like you. Maybe look at your sister's qualities and see what makes her popular if you really want to be popular. If she's more open and outgoing, then maybe you should try being outgoing. But for now, just appreciate who you are, and if people see that you love yourself, they will love you.
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hi/ i am 16 years old girl and never had a bofriend, is that a bad thing, first there was a boy and he said that he like me, but the very week we met he move out of my school, so we became talking on the phone, and he said that i was his girlfriend, but we never wet on a date or kiss, that very week he ask me out to watch movie, but my dad didnt allowed me to go, i lied to him that i have to babysit my brother, he said ok another time we could go, but he never ask me out again and we were talking, but we never saw eachother. one night he told me that we should be friends that his ex want him back, from then he never called me, he just disappear, since then no boy has ask me out or something like that, i have never been kiss or do anything sexuall in my life, am just asking is that normal or am i gay or maybe i havnt find the right person. Please i need ur help
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That is completely normal. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 16, and we've been going out for a year now. It's different for everyone. Just wait, I will assure you that you will find the right person. Now, I can't tell you if you are gay or not, but I know that you will find someone and this someone will be a good one, because you aren't one of those girls who is constantly dating around. I consider that a good thing. I know it's hard and you've probably heard this a million times, but try to have patience and the right person will just show up... sometimes when you least expect it.
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Hey Every One i been dateing my boyfriend 1year and 2 mounts i love him so much he mean everyt thing to me i dont know what i will do with out time well i will just asked the question well here i go he is talking about getting marryed 1 day and have kids soon and he talk about have sex to when ever i talk to him an the phone i say i am ready when ever i see him he say are u ready to have sex then i well just not saying anyting i dont want to loser him he say that he well not but what should i do?
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If you are not ready then you need to let him know. If he really loves you then he will wait until you are ready. He's not worth it if he forces you into something or breaks up with you just because you aren't ready. Since you two have been going out for so long, I'm sure he will accet the fact that you aren't ready.
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ive got all these fruit flies. i think they've nested somewhere in my room! wat can i do?!? how can i get rid of them?!?!? (link)
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spray some wasp spray around.... or call the exterminators
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well i want to go to the movies with a friend of mine, but its a girl. how do i ask a girl to go somewhere (without having a group)without it sounding like a date? (link)
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just be like... "Oh I kinda wanted to see (name a movie)... could I take you along with me?" You know something subtle like that. Someone said that one to me once and I didn't think it sounded like a date at all... today is actually our one year anniversary, so who knows what could happen with you two.
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hey..well on IM all of a sudden this guy told me he loved me but the only thing he knew about me was my name and i told him he didn't but he saying he does..but i don't believe him should i? (link)
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Don't believe him... he's just being weird.. he's probly some fat old creepy man... you have to watch out for those!!
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does anyone know any good new cd's that have recently come out??..i need some ideas..thanks
PS. Any Kind Of Music But Country And Like Reall Hard Rock& Metal
Thanks anything will get you 5's...just give me a few suggestions tho. (link)
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The new Fall Out Boy cd is out which is just fabulous. The new Hot Hot Heat cd is AMAZING.... new Starting Line cd... hmm All`American Rejects has a cd coming out July 7. These are all Rock cds... nothing too harsh.
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ok so i know you guys get this a lot..but i really need specific details on how to tell if a guy likes you..any help would be appriciated(sp?)
thnx in advance!:) (link)
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Ways to tell if a guy likes you.
*Finds ways to compliment you
*You catch him staring across the room
*His body language: ex- he is turned towards you during class, points his feet in your direction
*Makes up random topics just to start a conversation with you
*He laughs at you even when you're really not that funny
*He finds little ways to touch you or poke you
*Sometimes he'll tease you a little... but not too harshly
Hope that helps... need anything else, or need to ask me more about this guy just write to me!!!
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okay i have this friend but i like him as more then a friend ...we've never seen each other but we talk on the phone almost every day ...i want to find out if he likes me as just a friend or as more ..how should i ask?? ....o and i want to see him some where do any of you guys have any suggestions?
ill give every one 5's who trys to help!
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Go to a park or something... that's always a lot of fun.. or get ice cream, and just hang out with him. Maybe say, "So, I've been thinking and I really like hanging out with you because I think you're (then say what you like about him)... and I think I might like you as more than a friend." Say something along those lines. If he likes you as more than a friend, then good for you! But if not, just let him know that he shouldn't let this affect your friendship and that you didn't mean to weird him out or anything.
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f/13. school's pretty much over but i have a one hour day on friday june 24. i like this guy but i'm not sure if i should continue liking him over the summer. but i highly doubt that he would ever like me. last year whne i liked him i got over him during the summer, but then when school started i liked him again. do you think i should continue liking him this summer?
signed, summer lovin' doesn't happen so fast (link)
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First of all, you can't just decide whether or not you are going to continue liking someone. You either like them or you don't... it isn't your choice... it's just how you feel. I figure that if you aren't going to see this guy over the summer, your feelings for him will probably fade like they did last summer. The reason you liked him again during the school year was because you saw him more often. If you do see him over the summer, then by all means go for it and try talking to him... maybe get his screen name if you don't already have it. See if he wants to hang out with you and a group of friends one day. But if you're never going to see him this summer then move on and don't get hung up on just one guy that may never happen. Get out, have fun, and maybe you'll meet a new hottie.
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I am a 13/f and never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
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I remember going through this when I was your age. You remind me of myself when I was 13. The random staring is definitely a sign that he is attracted to you. One way to tell if he likes you is when you're sitting in school... if he has his body turned toward you or if his foot is pointed in your direction that's a sign that he likes you. Just look at his body language and you will notice these things. If he finds random excuses to talk to you then he probably likes you. If you get the guts to do it, maybe talk to his friend or have a friend talk to his friend to see if he likes you. I hope this helps... if you need anything else just let me know...I'm glad to help! Let me know how everything goes! thanks a bunch!!
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okay so there's this girl i've found myself quite infatuated with. and things seemed to be going jim dandy and the world seemed to be turning right for once. and then to my shock and dismay it comes out that she has an eating disorder. she refuses to eat, refuses to do anything but excersize and sip water. and she is slowly killing herself with this. i try to tell her that it's not good. i try to tell her of the damage it can do to her. and i try to tell her that it hurts me too (it can send me to tears.. and i never ever cry) and i try all that i can to let her know that it's terrible but nothing will ever work. i feel so useless and worthless and like she's gonna slip through my fingertips and i wont be able to save her. and well i really have no idea what to do or where to go. and i need some help from somewhere in order to help her. this is not good. yet she feels that it will make her feel better about herself. i just don't understand how slowly killing yourself makes you feel better. agh this is so saddening. someone please help me, somehow. (link)
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Maybe you should not only tell her how much it can hurt her, but how much it hurts you. Maybe if she knew how much you cared about her and how much it would mean to you if she did something about this disorder she would do something about this problem. Talk to her and tell her that it hurts you to see her like this. If she doesn't listen you should probably talk to a doctor or at least to her parents, because this is a big problem and sometimes it takes a lot more than one person to fix.
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my girlfriend latly has been ignoring me, and she has a real short fuse with me. Whenever i try to do somthing that shows i love her, she takes everything the wrong way and is like "why are you doing that" or somthing. we thought it was PMS a while back but she's been like this a while now. then i cant ever really show any affection for her, because (well i think anyway) that she feels crowded with this girl, who might i add is completly obsessed with her...the girls name is Ally, and all is CONSTANTLY hugging on, or holding onto my girlfriend and i think thats part of the reason she is acting the way she is. i cant pull her away for a long enough time to give her our first kiss and we've been together for 4 months. she doesnt ever really want to cuddle durring any movies at my house, because if ally happens to be there then ally is on her, and she doesnt want to leave/be rude to ally...sometimes she will blow me off for no apperent reason at all or with some excuse. is there anything i can do to make my girlfriend pay a LIL more attention to me, or is it pretty much hopeless? (link)
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I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds like your girlfriend isn't worth the trouble. I mean, I don't know her like you do, but from what you're saying it sounds like she's not being fair to you. You are showing affection and trying to be a good boyfriend, but she is pushing you away. You deserve someone who will show the same affection that you show them. You deserve someone who will appreciate what you do for them. I say get over this girl and find a girl that deserves you and who you deserve.
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