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Hi, I'm just really out in life to have some fun, trying to keep homework, my life, my friends, my pets and school under control. I wouldn't call me the average teenager because I am quite different with my personal circumstances. But I can honestly say I wouldn't have it any other way (well maybe some changes). I have learnt good and bad things the hard way and watched friends get hurt- I haven't been through it all but I'm working on it. Help you? I'm not sure but lets see how well this advice column goes. Ask Shaylee :)advice
What do you think is the best way to figure out if a guy likes you? Lets say....you think there is a pretty high chance he does....so what do you think?
ps-i rate anyone who tries to answer this question! youre making my day by just helping me out on this!
Flirt with him, i flirt with all my friends its lots of fun. Plus he can't feel uncomfortable about it, if he brings it up and makes out you have the biggest crush on him in a mean way then you can laugh it up about him taking it seriously. I've done this before... *sigh, poor guy. Never saw it coming hhehehe. So flirt- smile, lead him on without doing anything. See what he does- bet he likes you back
ok i am an awesome bball player but i get nervous when boys come and watch me play.. im afraid they will laugh if i miss a sot or somthin....what should i do...help me and FAST
Pretend they aren't there, dance like no-one's watching- seriously and you will play the best you ever could. Block out there presence watch the ball its jsut you and the ball. Don't worry abut it- it will make it worse but don't worry about that either. They won't laugh, if they do then laugh at them when they miss something, don't worry they won't think less of you if you miss the ball. They will probabley be impressed that you are even playing
i'm a 17 yr old male that has a false reputation of being gay. i'm actually metrosexual and almost all the school assumes i'm gay. how can i show my peers that i'm straight without betraying who i am.
Ignore it seriously, if you leave it alone they will get bored of it eventually. You shouldn't have to prove yourself to anyone out there. If your friends can't accept you and not belive you when you say your not gay then they really aren't good friends are they... If they are going to believe rumours about you then they are not worth it, and trying to show them you're not, might actually make it worse as you will be in "denile". Just deny it when you want and laugh when the rumours come around, laughter is the best way because then the people will feel stupid for believing it. Just relax and screw what everyone else thinks
My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me?
Arrgh many many parents are like that, don't fret- I wouldn't call it sexist thou....
Okay well they said themselves, they don't mind you just the boys and they are looking out for their baby girl aren't they. *sigh, so you have to get them to trust the guys. Invite a bunch of friends over to your house so your parents can meet some of them so then when you go out you can go "oh... im going with jack" then they can rest easy as they know him and trust him. It is a valid excuse and probabley mostly true, but if you prove them wrong then they will have to trust you. Or make up another excuse- whch I highly doubt. If they trust the people you are with then you will be fine.
im 14/f...and the hair that i have above my upper lip has gotten really dark and noticeable...its embarassing...my mom says not to shave it, im scared to get it waxed, it hurts when you pluck it, and well is there anything else?!
If you are afraid of waxing then get a salon to do it, also another great alternative is the creams you can get from chemists. I would highly recommend Nair, its by far the best on the range in my opinion. Don't shave it, use cream or get it waxed. Much better, and just one thing about waxing- it hurts for that second but after that its fine. Don't not wax because of the pain- plucking is a much worse alternative- but don't feel that you stick out, many many women have this problem.
ok well i like this guy we'll call him bob..well bob and i had detention together during skool i had it all day he comes in for lunch..well bob sat n front of me n like kept turnin around n lookin at me and then hed pretend to stretch n then lean back on my desk with his arms on the desk for awhile. then he would talk to this kid brandon and then they started smiling and looked at me. so what im asking is what do you think that means does he like me or is he just doin that because he knows i like him? thanx a bunch ill rate high!
Awww thats so cute, he is definately showing interest in you, and if you do like him- smile back when he smiles, flirt with him. Lead him on, see what he does, if he continues then go for it.
So when he looks at you- don't look away, when he smiles- smile back, when he flirts with you, flirt back, it will be a lot of fun trust me and just go for it, sounds like a fun detention
does anyone know any ways to cover up cuts?
This is one of the many reasons to give up cutting, scars aren't a pretty site. That's right it can scar- hope you don't mind explaining that to someone. There are so many reasons why it is wrong how addictivie it is and how it gives you relief from it all but its very very bad and I had to learn that the hard way. Seriously go and get some help it will make it better, it hurts others involved and no matter how screwed up your life is right now you could at least think of the people who care for you. Stop it and get some help- last thing you want on your mind if your fucked up is how to hide the scars
I been having a lot of problems latley!!!! well i've been cutting because well my best friend started going out with the guy i relle relle loved, even though she loves him to i didn't want her to go out with him but she did and i'm happy for her and all but i wish i was his girlfriend instead and this boy he is our relle good friend we can depend our lives on him! i luv him and he luvs me just he only wants me as a friond so i've been cutting but the thing is my best friend found out and she didn't tell any1 but i thought that the boy relle should know because he's a big partr of this and now they kno and i feel so ashamed that i cut i want to stop causei don't want them unhapy and i don't want any1 to find out but i rele do want to keep doing it cause it helps me!!!!!
Thanx,
~lost lover~
Don't cut just don't do it why
because its addicitive, I learnt that the hard way; like smoking "ill only do it once" then you can't stop- for a weird fucked up reason its addictive
Its not healthy- smart comment there, but what you are doing is replacing emotional pain with physical pain- not good at all not to mention it does actually add to the pain rather then take it away
This surprised me but not only are you hurting yourself but those around you. There ARE people out there who care about you and you can make them cry by doing this. Think about others as well, think about who you REALLY are affecting
Those scars are very hard to go away...
The control it has over you is not good at all, something that hurts you is the control- sounds like an evil boss
Basically it hurts... I know I did it myself when a friend of mine died. Its not good and wasnt the answer at all. Find some other way to release your pain and sometimes you have to go through thta pain but any additional pain you are adding isn't going to help it at all. It doesn't help you... it really doesn't you might think it does but it trely doesn't. Your life will get better, if it has taught me anything it is that life goes on no matter what weird fucked up shit goes on in our lives but you can't let this cutting get a hold of you. Talk to someone about it- its a much better release less stress trauma and bad feeligns in the long run
Ive been trying so hard to loose weight for so long now. I work out my stomoch and legs and arms. I diet..The only thing i drink is water. Im eating healthy. I just dont know what to do anymore! No matter how hard i try the pooch of fat on my stomoch and my love handles just wont slim down! I dont know what to do anymore!! Can someone help me?! Is there some kind of toomer in me or something?! I NEED HELP! Thanks!
I bet you have made a huge difference already but if you want some more... I'd have to have a look at your diet and what you are actually doing to see what was wrong or find something which you're not doing. I suggest you visit a dietician and they may be able to help you out there.
Also as a woman, our body likes to cling to certain areas of fat, that being around our reproductive organs, like that little pudgy bit on the bottom of the stomach- thats there to stay and those other areas of fat are much harder to lose then say boob fat but it still can be achieved.
But get this I think you might already have a six pack (doesn't that sound nice) it just doesn't show, which means you have some fat on top of it (whoops) Okay so what you might like to do is step up the cardio activities eg. running, swimming (fav), bike riding etc. Then do the muscle training afterwards. See the muscle training increases the amount of blood flowing through and builds the muscles but cardio is more focused on using up energy and fat- which we want. Don't focus on one or the other do a bit of both.
Don't ever give up you can lose the weight, with perserverance.
Alright well I'm rather skinny..I'm 5'1" and and I weigh about 90 lbs...I'm 14 years old. Well I have like really skinny thighs and I wish they were bigger. It's so hard finding pants that are tight around the leg and it makes me so mad. I always find pants that are tight on my butt because my butt is kinda big and it doesn't fit well with my skinny legs. Does anyone know what I should do to make my legs bigger or what pants I should buy. Most likely I'd like to know about making my thighs bigger. Thanks.
Okay well firstly count yourself lucky as most would say
Then there are two alternatives you can either a) put on weight or b) develop some muscle in that area. Go with the muscle its much better, I can't think of many off the top of my head but I know that walking up stairs is good for your but, bike riding is good for your legs- just remember to stretch out those muscles (quads, hamstrings, buttocks) after you have worked them hard. Good luck with finding your but.
Hey there. I started dating my best friend a while ago, you just moved here from Toronto, and he doesn't tell me a whole lot about his life back then. Anyways, we started having sex a couple of monthes ago. I'm on birth control so we don't use condoms, because we both hate them. Anyways, in october i got two infections, and was really sick for a week. I couldn't get out of bed, and i was in pain. I had an yeast infection and urinary tract infection. I went to my doctor, she gave me a lot of medicine. whatever, i got better, continued on with our way of things. Anyways, now in december, i seem to have another infection. I'm thinking it might be yeast infection but i don't know. It's different. He says he hasn't had sex before me, but with all these infection that i get, could he have, or could it be my birth control?
Before you jump to any conclusions you should see your doctor again and see if there might be some other reason for it.
Then maybe you should start having some protection as well, if you don't want to hurt his feelings then say your doctor say that you are allergic to something which he has. Make something up but lets face it, its always better to be safer then sorry, or even better you have an infection and you don't want to mix bacteria just in case. Medical mumble jumble most people won't question so give some terms and just make him wear one.
my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job?
I think you should encourage him to go back to his life but make sure he understands what happened. It wasn't his fault the person died. That person might have been beyond saving and what about the people he did end up saving? Give up all the hard work he had already done- he saves lives. Sometimes you can't but those lives he does save aren't just people- they are fathers, brothers, sisters, mothers, friends, relatives, daghters, married with many many connections. He might have lost one but in the great scheme of things he is saving loved ones. He delivers life everyday- just don't let him forget the people he saved.
my bf is hidding behind being shy!
we have a son that was just born on halloween and he still hasnt got a job! i need help and he agreed to help, right now my parents are paying for everything and i dont know how to make him get a job, hes 18 years old...the only job hes ever has i got for him he didnt have to work for it so he doesnt know how to get one and ive tried to teach him but still doesnt go and get a job...i dont know what to do...how can i make him get a job but still be nice about it.
Give him some incentive about it like said below, them him that its his child as well and if he's not going to help support it then he won't reap any of the benefits either. You can't be nice about it, he has to work seriouly even if he is that young. Its his child. That should be incentive enough and he should feel guilty letting your parents pay for it all line up some job interviews and make up some consequences if he doesn't go to them.
I can put a tampon in just fine, it just hurts *really* bad whenever I pull it out, is it maybe because I let it get too full before I changed it? Please help!
Nope the absolute opposite, it wasn't full enough so when you went to pull it out it didn't want to come out so it hurt. Trust me when it is full it practically slips out with the slightest tug, what you need to do is switch to a lower absorbancy or leave it in for longer
My friends is 13 and she is like suicidal.. she used to be so quiet in school and get straight A's, but now she's failing. Her grades dropped, and she started to cut herself. Her info on AOL is like "I Just Wanna Die", Her icon Is a Picture of a bloody knife.. It's really starting to scare me.. But everytime i ask her about it she says "No, why does everyone keep asking me that!"
When we all know that it's true.. what can i do to help her.. it's not like she'd want to talk to anybody about it :/
She sounds like she has depression, take her to the school consellor. That's what they are for after all. IF she won't go to the consellor yourself. She will be able to deal with this kind of problem. It is bad and your friend must be going through a lot of stuff and feeling like shit all of the time. She needs some help and something to make her feel better and want to live life and stuff like that. The consellor will be able to help her with that and its all confidential.
Don't not go because she tells you not to, it will make her feel better and she will thank you in the long run.
i've been kinda cutting myself...it was kinda stupid at first but now it's serious. my life is kinda like crap rite now. grades, family, friends, and love...all that jazz. sometimes i feel like i just randomly wann cutt myself. i hate it. i know there is other ways to work it put but i don't wanna talk to my family and i've already talked to my friends. please help me and don't just pick on or make fun of me...really answer this question.
signed,
confused and lost
You really need to talk to someone, you really do- they can help you a lot. You don't even have to talk to people you know. But cutting is very serious and it is very scary how addictive it is. Talk to your school consellor about it or just some adult and instead of hurting yourself go out and do something about. I know how much of a comfit it is and the fact that it helps you escape from the present but its really really bad shit and you need to get out of it while you can.
Life is crap I know but thats no reason to hurt yourself, i know it hurts inside and you feel like it won't go away but IT WILL Talk to someone you trust about what you are going through, just a long talk. You don't even have to tell them about the cutting but you need to tell someone about your problems jsut a long talk to your friends or somehting. Something to release that overwhelming sadness- talk to me any time
I hate stress! I have stress but thats not all! I'm a sophomore and 15. I hate my job but my parents wont let me quit. I hate school like every other person because its hard even though I try so hard. I dont have much of a best friend because shes to busy bragging about her life like if some like likes her or not, guy she wants, etc. Then she also acts like shes better then me and she makes every thing a compettion. Other thing I dont like or have stress about is guys my x-bf, I dont know how I feel about him if I like him or not. Last is not having a bf when I go somewhere I see COUPLEs everywhere. What makes me upset is guys say Im pretty and all then how come I dont have a bf?
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i need help by seeing what i can do to get a bf or at least get all this stress out of me and if I got someone like a guy to go out w me thats one less thing to worry about! well please Id really liek your help!
I used to have this problem and I sitll do all the time they say stress less but its soo annoying but heres my all time big fat list of what to do to avoid stress or what to do when you have it
Stay Active: get at least 30 minutes of it a day, it gets rid of the bad crappy chemicals in our bodya and builds up the all time favourite drug of all- the feel happy drug endorphins
Stick to a healthy diet:That means lots of fruit, vegetables, and whole grains, and less sugar, red meat, refined and processed foods, and saturated fats. If you drink alcohol, limit yourself to a drink a day
Balance your life out: don't over commit yourself keep your social and acamdemic life even
Attitute: look on the bright side of things don't be negative
Laugh it up: laughing is scienticially proven to be good for you and with good reason, it relaxes us
Sharing your feelings: tell people how you feel, bottlething thins up is the worst thing you can do. If you don't want to tell the people involved dont' write it down in a diary or tell someoen completly removed from the situation
and get enough sleep: at least 8 hours of sleep a night
Basically screw everyone else in your life. They don't seem to care at the moment or you cna't see why they dont' care. MOst people wouldn't be upset at you not haveing a boyfriend, jeez my parents would be happy about it. I think that is just your mind making up shit, you don't need it. Forget it I don't think less of anyone who doesn't have one and anyone that does isn't worth being friends with honestly.
Seems bascially like everything is just crashing down on you, take some time to get away from it all. NO distractions just you by yourself and some thinking time. Take some time to forget all the bad shit in your life. If someone is annoying you then write their name on a piece of paper and burn it- it helps soo much. It sounds like its going to last forever but it won't it will pass and in time you'll wonder why you were so worried about. So sit back and hire some disney movies a much simpler world no unhappy endings either- good luck
ok well there is this guy and his name is Josh..we have liked each other a lot for a while..and he asked me out and of course i said yes..well we went out for a day then he broke up with me and claimed that he didnt want a girlfriend right now. Well after that he stopped talking to me. And i do not know why he did this because we only went out for a day and it shouldn't be awkward at all really!! and i want to know..how do i get him to talk to me? because im not the type to go up and talk to him if he doesnt want to talk to me! people say he still likes me and he didnt break up with me cuz he didnt like me or ne thing..he just didnt want his relationship with me to end like his other g/f's did (they went out for 9 months and then never talked after) so how do i get him to talk to me?
It seems that he's not going to make much of an effort so you will have to. Just keep on inviting him out and keep on going up to talk to him. He will eventually respond... but I don't htink his answer was any good personally. He says he doesn't want it to end badly... so he ends it now and almost makes it end badly... sounds sus to me
Okay well just make an effort towards him and if he wants to he will help it along. Good luck
Me and my best friend liked the same guy, so I decided to back off of him so she could have him. He started liking her, then she told him she didn't want a boyfriend. Tonight at a b-ball game I hung out with him alot and he started liking me and then at halftime my friend came up to me and said "Damn, Andy looks hott tonight" and so I was like..crap. I don't want her to be mad at my, but I like this guy and he likes me, but I don't want it to like mess with our friendship. Its not like I'm going to go out with him right away, I want to get to know him and all....but what should I do?
Just because she said he looked hot that doesn't mean she wants him as a boyfriend. I mean my friends say my boyfriend's hot... should I be worried? Just calm down a bit I'm sure she won't hate you if she finds out that you like him. Just go ahead with what your doing she clearly said she didn't want him pretty straight forward. If you are worried then ask her say you like him and you want him and see what she says. If she finds that out then she should be the one backing off. Don't worry about stepping on people's toes just go ahead and tell her what you feel and I'm sure she'll be cool with it
Does anyone have any sad songs... because I am in an extremely down state right now... and that would probably help me cry out my problem...
Sad songs are the worst, are you sure you want it?? because it might make things worse. What I think you should do is take a close friend and have a long talk with her. Trust me it will be a whole lot better if you are crying against someone's shoulder then to the lyrics of a song.
I find that the radio is really bad everything will feel bad; mainly if you are in the mood then you will find a whole lot of songs sad
My Immortal by Evanescense
Beyond Beautiful by Aero Smith (this just might be me but it made me cry)
These Kids by Joel Turner
Predictable by Good Charlotte
Someday by Nickleback
My Boo- Alicia Keys and Usher
OMG i can't remember any of them... *sigh anyway- you probabley don't regconise any of them anyway but seriously just turn on the radio like a count down and you will bawl your eyes out. The number of times I think that the radio is against me and purposely targetting me is crazy. But I guess it really depends on why you are sad. Then there are just some songs that have bad memories associated with them- I have a Jessica Simpson song which I never want to hear again- everyone's different. But be warned songs have this weird affect on us you should find a friend to talk to