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Help with cutting and a broken heart!
I been having a lot of problems latley!!!! well i've been cutting because well my best friend started going out with the guy i relle relle loved, even though she loves him to i didn't want her to go out with him but she did and i'm happy for her and all but i wish i was his girlfriend instead and this boy he is our relle good friend we can depend our lives on him! i luv him and he luvs me just he only wants me as a friond so i've been cutting but the thing is my best friend found out and she didn't tell any1 but i thought that the boy relle should know because he's a big partr of this and now they kno and i feel so ashamed that i cut i want to stop causei don't want them unhapy and i don't want any1 to find out but i rele do want to keep doing it cause it helps me!!!!!
Thanx,
~lost lover~
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hunny!! please dont do that get a person you can really talk 2 and talk things over with them..good luck sweetie!
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Believe me I know that it can be really hard. One thing that my friend, well I'll just call Keke because if she read this she'd try to kick my ass. But one thing that she's been doing lately is wearing a rubberband on her wrist and when she gets upset she pulls it and it still hurts but no chance of death and it's pretty subtle. It's helped her alot (she cut because she was in love with a guy too). Hope I help! Blessed be, Crimson Verdict
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Don't cut just don't do it why
because its addicitive, I learnt that the hard way; like smoking "ill only do it once" then you can't stop- for a weird fucked up reason its addictive
Its not healthy- smart comment there, but what you are doing is replacing emotional pain with physical pain- not good at all not to mention it does actually add to the pain rather then take it away
This surprised me but not only are you hurting yourself but those around you. There ARE people out there who care about you and you can make them cry by doing this. Think about others as well, think about who you REALLY are affecting
Those scars are very hard to go away...
The control it has over you is not good at all, something that hurts you is the control- sounds like an evil boss
Basically it hurts... I know I did it myself when a friend of mine died. Its not good and wasnt the answer at all. Find some other way to release your pain and sometimes you have to go through thta pain but any additional pain you are adding isn't going to help it at all. It doesn't help you... it really doesn't you might think it does but it trely doesn't. Your life will get better, if it has taught me anything it is that life goes on no matter what weird fucked up shit goes on in our lives but you can't let this cutting get a hold of you. Talk to someone about it- its a much better release less stress trauma and bad feeligns in the long run
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Hey sweetie. I'm sorry what's going on with your life right now. I know things can get really sucky. I definitely think your friend shouldn't have done that to you, ecspecially since she knew you liked him a lot. But I know, people do that sometimes it has happened to me before. But, about the cutting. I had to go to a psychiatrist for doing the same thing over basically the same things you did. People found out and told other people and then they made me go. I know cutting seems like the only thing to relieve your pain, I thought it was too. But seriously it isn't. Please don't do that to yourself there's other ways to relieve that pain. And I know some people will say your dumb and stuff for cutting, but they haven't been in our position so they don't know. Maybe when you get really upset you could like punch a pillow or something, that's what they told me to do. Or like scream into something and just scream. I used to just scream and punch things and I would be hysterically crying and then I would go to sleep. It actually helped. Or you could throw things, I wouldn't recommend it but it does help a whole lot. Babe I hope I helped and good luck. <3 Ryah
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NO NO NO. It doesn't really help you. Think about it. Your cutting your flesh, hurting yourself, how is that going to make anything better? I know it's hard, but you can't run away from your problems, you can't go the easy way out. You have to be strong, not only for your friends, but for you. You sound like your young too, and trust me, there are going to be many many guys in your life, one broken heart, is just the beginning. You have to learn how to deal with your problems. Always be around people that love you and care about you. Try to spend more time hanging out with friends, and just having fun! Please, you have to be strong!!! There are more fish in the sea. A good idea to do, is to stay away from this guy and have no contact with him, until your sure your over him, Because if you see him and talk to him all the time, it's going to be a lot worse on you. Give yourself time. Life is tough, everyone's been in your position at one point or the other. Guys are not worth hurting yourself over!!! Having a broken heart sucks, no one likes it. ~good luck~
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"but i thought that the boy relle should know because he's a big partr of this " Are you sure you aren't doing this for attention? It sounds like you want the boy to find out, feel guilty, and comfort you. There are other guys, and he just wants to be friends, cutting yourself won't make him notice you in the way you want him to.
-Farren
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First off cutting isn't going to solve anything. Its just stupid and you know that. Stop worrying about what makes other people happy. Do what makes you happy. Go out with friends and meet other guys and just have fun. I think you need to talk to your friend about it and tell her how you feel. I also think that maybe you should talk to some one else about how to deal with things in a none physical manner.
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Lost Lover.. I use to cut to and as much as you do not want anyone to know you need to tell someone and get help, if not one day you will end up doing something that will hurt everyone and i know that your friend and ex boyfriend do not want that. Please get help or tell your school consular or something, if you and this boy did not work out then it was not meant to be .. all good things happen to people who wait and someday you will find a wonderful boyfriend that will treat you like you deserve to be treated Let me know how everything goes.. good luck!
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