what the heck, does PWNS mean? i may be stupid :?) for not knowing but everyone one seems to use it.
As in 'pwns?' As in "Man, Van Halen totally pwns Slash" or "that guy pwns you at football"?
If I've got the context right its internet slang for 'owns'- as in a form of domination. If something 'pwns' it is better that something else (like 'ownage' in the same context).
It's part of the whole 'l33t' thing that's sprung up in the internet, especially among gamers. Go figure.
Try www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pwns for more definitions.
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My sister has been trying so hard to impress everyone lately. She isn't even herself anymore, and she hasn't been for almost 2 years (she's 14). She spends days on myspace, facebook, and aim. She's become a typical fake teenaged girl who says "like" and "hilarious" every other word.
How do I deal with her?
Yeah I think a lot of the other people here are correct- there isn't much you can do. The only thing is is that she WILL grow out of it. This whole 'wannabee teenager' thing is just symptomatic of the age. Man, my little brother and sister are like that. I was probably like that when I was their age. You probably might just have to wait it out (sorry). The advice I'd give is- treat her like an adult. You won't ever be able to talk her out of it (and she'll probably resent it) but you could always try to take the high ground. Treat her like a mature, self-aware person, and maybe she'll respond.
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ok well im gonna be grounded probebly in a few days because i fail one of my finals (it really stinks) and what are some things i can do to entertain myself? i done think ill have phone, tv, computer and maybe music privlages. what can I do so that im not completely bored?? besides homework or cleaning. thanks
Books? You could ask to get driven to the library and get out a bunch. I think you'd probably get around the whole grounding thing with that I mean, surely they'd let you read? Or do they just want you to spend your confinement staring at the wall? If you don't like reading, do you have any other artistic interests? Painting, drawing and suchlike. You could stock up on supplies before and get some stuff done that way. You could always ask to be allowed out for a bit as well to exercise- even convicted felons get a run around the prison yard! Other than that, it's kind of up to you to make your own entertainment depending on what you get cut off from.
Last thing, something I used to do. Follow your parents around. Seriously, if you're banned from doing other stuff, stick to them like glue. Talk to them about the most boring things, don't let the conversation die. Eventually they'll get so annoyed with you hanging around they'll FIND something for you to do, or even relent a little bit.
Hope you survive it man!
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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
First of all, you make it sound like Advicenators deals only with questions relating to 'personal crisis.' This would validate your points if it were true- the vast majority of questions on this site instead seem to me to refer to slightly less massive problems. Yes, occasionally I see a question which details a serious situation and if I can offer my perspective I will do so, but most of the questions I answer are purely fact based. I think the best question I ever answered, where I really helped someone, was the one where I told somebody how best to get blu-tack off a wall without taking the paint off too.
Secondly, as has been mentioned by countless others, many of the people on the site LOOKING for advice ARE teenagers, so who better qualified to give it? On several occasions I have seen people several years my junior make salient and well thought out points that have really helped other people.
Finally, this site is free to use, and free to join. If you ask a question of the whole world, you can't expect a fantastic answer every time. In the same vein the site has no real 'qualifications' needed to join- if you want to help, you do. I wonder really why you're criticising the endeavour, I mean the idea of an online community devoted solely to helping each other out sounds worthy of praise and support, don't you think?
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Are guys willing to have sex with anyone thats a girl, or do they have to be attracted ?
Just wondering.
Ah, that quintessential question asked of all men at sometime in their life- would you shag that?
Assuming a guy is into the ladies, then their willingness to bump uglies depends on a huge amount of factors and circumstances, so there isn't really a sweeping answer to your question. However it must be said that a large proportion of men will, at some time in their lives, sleep with a woman to which they are less than strongly attracted. However the exact same can be said of many women.
Probably the biggest influencing factor is good ol' alcomahol. in England we have the 'pint' system ie. how many pints of beer it would take before you were sufficiently inebriated to find a particular person incrediably attractive. The effect is known world wide as 'beer googles.' Another factor is the girls willingness to have relations. If a lady to which a man has little physical attraction keeps proposing sex, a guy might relent and then consent on the simple basis that dudes love the sex.
So basically both men and women will have sex with people they aren't attracted to, for a variety of reasons. But they'll most probably regret it afterwards.
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ok im 13/f and I like this guy. Now usually my dreams with him are of him being a giant or something and saying to me that he hates me or he'll say it on msn. But this time I had 3 dreams in a row and they were the opposite. The first one was I was walking in the halls at school and he comes up and we ttalk for like hours and flirt a ton and hes complimenting me and everything. The second dream was I was at the christmas dance and while we are dancing he asks me out. I accept. The third dream we are at a resturant and we are having a great time and we talk about life and I dont know it was just great.
But see, the next day at school in the morning I talked to him soo much just like in the first dream but at lunch when he asked to borrow a chip he said he hated me. It kinda seemed joking like but in a way real. Are my dreams trying to tell me something? Im confused?
I'd honestly try not to take your dreams too seriously. If you concentrate on what you think is MEANT to happen instead of what is actually happening, you could miss out on something good! Just enjoy the good dreams as they come, and try to treat this boy the same as you would normally. You might mess things up if you try to MAKE them like your dream.
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The 2 troubles I'm having with in volleyball are Diving and Blocking... so I need advice on that
Diving- is there any way to prevent floor burns and make it easier for my arm to slide on the floor? How do you rollover on your shoulder blade when you've made the pass?
Blocking- I am scared of getting hit in the face, any advice on how to solve this? I also close my eyes when I jump, how do I keep my eyes open?
Thanks, you're all amazing
Would you be allowed to wear elbow pads? I play volleyball and Ultimate Frisbee and have similar issues- you might only need to wear one pad as I find I tend to normally put my strongest arm down first, and thats where I tend to get burns and bruises.
As for shoulder rolling I'd suggest practice on a mat or on grass so you can get the technique down. Remember to put your shoulder down strongly and tuck in your head. One thing you ought to remember is that you might not always be able to roll after making the pass- sometimes you just don't have enough time. That's where pads can really help!
As for fear of getting hit in the face- everyone gets that. It can be difficult to get around 'cause it's a knee-jerk reaction but keep playing and the more confident you get the less it will bother you. Try to put it to the back of your mind- concentrate as hard as you can on the ball. I know that might sound like slightly obvious advice but its one of those things you just have to get over.
Hope this all helps, its the first question I've answered in a while.
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Okay, so, they guy i like, has a girlfriend, but he told me that he liked me and to wait for him. Should i continue to wait for him?
No, because he's a jerk. "Wait for me?" Wait for him to do what, get bored of his current girlfriend? What happens when he gets bored of you? He's being unfair to her and to you. Ditch him.
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Does anyone else feel that they'd rather get like 4th place in something rather than 2nd place? It angers me so much when I'm second best in something because it's like if I could have put a bit more effort into it, I could have gotten first. So I'd rather be like 5th, 4th, or 3rd rather than 2nd. My coaches and parents tell me that I need to stop thinking this way and that I should be proud of getting 2nd place in something and I know that but I can't help it. Does anyone else feel this way, ever?
Yup, I know exactly what you mean. I think its a fairly common lament and not just in terms of competition. Have ou ever deliberately not studied for and exam, so that when you did badly, you wouldn't have to care? I used to do that al the time, and when I was still in school, even if I HAD revised for the exam I'd sometimes act like I hadn't. That way if I messed it up, I could act like I expected it and not worry. I know plenty of people who used to do the exact same thing, so I really don't think your alone in this.You just got to work around it.
I mentioned your problem to my brother who's a real tennis freak. He said he gets the same thing all the time, but instead of being proud of coming 2nd, he just gets pissed he wasn't first. He says it helps him try harder next time, but just don't get too competitive! Nobody likes a bad loser. Peace out, man.
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I don't mind that he calls, however he beats around the bush alot. I have had a crush on him but I don't want to get hurt by him, he has a reptuation as a player, so I'm going with the 'can't play the playa' mind frame.
When you said "He says he doesn't want a relationship but from the way it sounds I think he's on to a pretty good thing as it it" what did you mean?
We don't just makeout, it's the sex too. It's enjoyable for both of us.
I just wonder why he calls so much - when alot of times he seems not even interested in getting laid or anything even when I am.
When I said he seemed like he was on to a pretty good thing I meant exactly that- many guys dream of a fwb relationship that doesn't look like it would turn around and bite them.
Basically if I had to be definate I'd say he's starting to like you more- hence the calls. If you enjoy the fwb relationship then I wouldnt do anything about it too soon, just keep the relationship as it is, but bear in mind what I said. Watch what he says and ask yourself whether he seems interested in making your relationship exclusive, because I reckon thats what he's hoping. If I'm wrong, then nothing lost, and if I'm right, then you can decide yourself whether you want to take the relationship to the next level.
You seem like you have a pretty good handle on this already. Just take it slow and don't lose patience and I think it'll all be cool.
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I'm friends with benefits with this guy. I used to have a crush on him.
We agreed to just be friends with benefits.
We don't hang out alot and fullfill the friends with benefits but lately he's been calling alot just to talk and stuff. He comes over every now and again and we just talk. He tells me that he doesn't want a relationship with a girl because they all are sweet in the beginning then they turn out to be crazy.
He has never called me for a booty call. But lately there has been alot of chemistry going on between us, alot of flirting and such.
We aren't really friends (as in normal friends you know) so it confuses me as to why he calls so much to just talk. I know what friends with benefits is, and that's not what we are. I'm not sure what to do? He sends mixed signles. What is going on with us? If we are just friends with benefits why does he call so much, I thought you just called for a booty call when you are fwb?
We'll it's a fairly complicated situation to find yourself in. There are several reasons for his actions (and bear in mind that none of my suggestions could be right).
Firstly, do you mind? I mean he calls all the time but do you mind that? I understand the whole 'friends with benifits' gig but if your relationship was only a series of booty calls wouldn't you get a little irritated? At least it seems he values your time and opinions beyond sex.
Second, he may have a different handle on the fwb concept to you. He may feel that he needs to call and talk to you in order to make it work (or he may be scared that if he doesn't show an interest you might not want to make out with him any more, ore however far you take 'benefits').
Lastly, maybe he wants to become 'real' friends. I mean, just because you are fwb doesn't mean you can't be good friends too. He says he doesn't want a relationship but from the way it sounds I think he's on to a pretty good thing as it it.
So my advice would be, just relax and see how it goes. Try not to think about the whys and wherefores, just see how much chemistry there really is between you, and if you want him as a friend. If you do turn out to be good friends you'll probably enjoy the other stuff more.
One more thing, don't let the fact you have a physical relationship already cloud your judgement. If you decide you don't really want/need him as a friend, don't lead him on or let yourself get led.
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(This category seemed like the closest fit.)
Is it hypocrisy to oppose capital punishment on moral grounds yet condone war as sometimes being necessary? ... Perhaps _nobody_ has the right to decree death as punishment for a person, but then, doesn't that mean justifying war _by any means_ is a morally indefensible stance?
I'm not sure that it is hypocrisy, only because the two terms- 'war' and 'capital punishment' seem incompatible. I mean, capital punishment is the decision to execute after judgmental process- first the defendant must be found guilty of a crime and then executed, essentially in cold blood, in front of witnesses. War seems like a different kettle of fish entirely. Although I DO see what you mean in comparing the two in that death is essentialy proscribed in both cases, the deaths that occur in in war are not really a form of punishment, are they? Also the decree of death could never be said to be 'for the greater good' in my opinion, whereas it is possible the reasonin for war could be to prevent further loss of life in future.
It was difficult to word my opinions on that one, so I hope I got my meaning across.
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I am a female from Canada.
I am in a serious committed relationship with my bf and he does not know that I am bi-sexual. I have been considering telling him because of my re-occuring problems about fantasizing being in a relationship with a female.
I love my bf as well and we have a healthy relationship. I want to tell him because I don't feel right keeping secrets from him. We are very open to each other. Should I tell him? How should I put it so he won't feel threatened?
Advice please?
I think it unlikely that your boyfriend will have a serious problem with the fact you fatasize about other females- this is probably THE number one fantasy in a guys head. I obviously can't speak for him but I'd assume that he'd fairly turned on by your desire for the fairer sex. I don't think you should worry too much about his being threatened- why should you being bi have an extra influence? If you were going to leave him it'd be for an individual, not a whole gender, right?
The only thing I'd worry about is whether you decide to actively indulge this fantasy- threesomes etc. In that sort of situation it's always hard to keep individuals from feeling threatened, so you'd need to be extremely reassuring- explaining to you partner that you love him and care for him and feel nothing beyond sexual desire towards whoever else you decide to involve.
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22/F
I'm an extremely creative and unique individual and I need some career ideas. I've tried so many different things on I'm getting really discouraged. Nothing seems to "fit". I'm very artistic and thoughtful, I don't want just any old job. I'm not very intersted in going to a 4 year college. I would be interested in going for a 2 year degree. or any type of course work, trade school. But I could change my mind if the right thing came along. I know I don't want to do anything medical or anything related to mathematics, i've ruled that out for sure. This probably sounds ridiculous, but I have no direction and I'm out of ideas. I know I can't live off artwork.
You could always stall. No one says you have to pick a career right away. Why don't you travel for a bit first- you could see the world while you have the chance, plus you might be inspired while you're doing it. You'll be exposed to a large segment of life and culture you wouldn't previously have experienced.
Hell, s'what I did.
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Do u think its to soon to give my number? I had met this guy at a party and I was attracted to him, I talked to him on myspace for the first time and I invited him to a party and gave him directions.......I also gave him my number incase he needs directions.
I know a lot of people who give others their number without even introducing themselves. It's a fairly common ice-breaker. So no, I don't think so.
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my boyfriend just confessed to me another girl kissed him and he didn't stop her. I was really mad at first, but then I realized i have no right to be. You see, we're in a internet relationship and not meeting till late this year. I guess it's understandable that if someone in the flesh comes along and kisses you, you're not going to stop them. I think I would do the same too, admittedly. Everyone I've spoken to though thinks I should be madder than I am, because he cheated on me. I guess i'm a pretty laid-back person. We care about each other a lot, but I understand why he did it. I feel I should be mad at him for cheating though. I still want to go out with him, but everyone is telling me to break up with him. What should I do? And am I being too nice on him?
Thanks.
I don't know a lot about internet relationships but I do know that it IS hard to keep ignore whats there right now over what only might be in the future. I reckon you should give him another shot for two reasons:
1. At least he was honest. You haven't even met in the flesh so he could have TOTALLY got away with it.
2. You said you'd probably do the same. That's the big one.
Peace out.
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A few weeks ago I had a sore neck. It started under the right side of my jaw and moved across to the middle of my neck right up to my chin. It's only sore muscles and it goes after a few days, but it also gets very stiff and extremely sore, so i can't yawn or turn my head upwards, and chewing can hurt a bit too. Last time, I had a sore throat that started AFTER the muscle pain went away.
Now I'm experiencing those muscle pains again, the same way, it was underneath the right side of my jaw yesterday and has now moved into the middle and extending downward. I don't have a sore throat.
I'm nearly 18/f, and seeing a doctor presents a problem for me as I suffer uncontrollable panic attacks in those situations.
Any thoughts on what it could be?
This might be a silly question but are you stressed? More than normal? I had similar symptoms twice during the last of my 12th Year exams. When I (finally) went to the dentist about it he explained that I was most likely grinding my teeth in my sleep, and that's what was causing the muscle pain. I had stressed teeth. Go figure.
Anyway I appreciate that you might not like to go to the dentist and he told me that dealing with the stressful situation would probably make it go away and in time it did. There are however other reasons that you could be doing it but fear not. My dentist said that they make mouth guards that would stop you doing it at any chemist or pharmacy. Try one and see if it helps. If not, I was obviously full of crap, sorry.
Hope you figure it out.
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My boyfriend and me are on sports.. He’s on baseball and I'm on softball and on Friday after my game we are going to take a shower together in the girls locker room not having sex just taking a shower together… and I was wondering what I should do because I’m scared he’ll be the first boy who ever saw my body… EVER!!
my questions are..
-what if his mom is looking for him(his mom works in the school)
-what should i do with him in there
-what if my coach comes in
I’m 15 and we’ve been going out for a while now.. About 6 months and I just need to know what to do.. Thank!!
Well to answer your specific questions in order:
-How likely is it that his Mum is going to come looking for him. Firstly, he's 15. It's unlikely she'd just decide to walk in on him in the shower. Secondly, even if she did start looking for him while he was potentially nude, whouldn't she start in the guys locker room?
-What should you do with him in there? Do you not have a pretty good idea all ready? I mean, you'll both be naked and possibly soapy and you'll probably both be turned on like hell (if not there's something a-wrong with the pair of you). Therefore I think you need to ponder exactly what you are hoping is going to happen. You said you weren't going to have sex which is cool and all but pretty hard to stick to when you're caressing someones wet body. Seriously, are you sure you want to go through with this? (I'm not saying you shouldn't if you really think you ARE ready, but only that you may end up doing something you don't want to do yet in the heat of the moment). And one more thing- it's up to you to dictate how far it goes. Get naked in front of yout boyfriend and watch his good intentions fly out the window (although I'm sure he's a nice guy).
-If your coach comes in, you're screwed. I mean, your underage and NO-ONE will belived you weren't planning on having sex. You'll both be in deep doo-doo, seriously.
So basically, just think carefully about it. It can be a seriously sexy thing to do and the thrill will probably add to that, but just make sure you're ready for everything that might happen. How far would you go with him if you WEREN'T showering together? Don't go further than that. No matter how soapy he is.
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Hey I was wondering another way to put this quote to make it easier to understand,
"Secession belongs to a different class of remedies.”
um...
"Withdrawing is a whole new way to deal with problems."
"The best way to cope, is to leave."
Or possibly:
"Ignorance is bliss."
Good question, but a real toughie. I'll be interested to see what other people suggest.
Peace out.
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hello advice givers. does anybody have the motorolla razor phone? because i kinda want it but i heard it gets bad within like 3 months, is this true? if any one that has experienced with this phone, let me know if its worth buying
We have a running joke among my friends. Motorolas have a seriously bad reputation for crashing and all sorts- everytime one messes up and someone bitches, everyone else just looks superior and bellows "Motorooooooolllaaaa!"
That said, both I and my best mate have the Razr. (My friend has had his since they came out in the UK which must be a year or so. Mine's about three/four months old). It works fine as a phone as long as you remember one simple fact- do not overload it!!
If you are doing something taxing (like sending a message to everyone in your phonebook) don't start fiddling and playing golf on it or whatever, cos you'll only frazzle it and lose a bunch of information on freeze it up. Provided you treat it with care however, its a pretty cool phone, looks good and has decent features. Also other people have said it gets dirty. I don't know if they are having a problem I'm not. The outer screen on mine is covered in crud and fingerprints, but it lights up when in use so I don't really care.
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