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I'm friends with benefits with this guy. I used to have a crush on him.
We agreed to just be friends with benefits.
We don't hang out alot and fullfill the friends with benefits but lately he's been calling alot just to talk and stuff. He comes over every now and again and we just talk. He tells me that he doesn't want a relationship with a girl because they all are sweet in the beginning then they turn out to be crazy.
He has never called me for a booty call. But lately there has been alot of chemistry going on between us, alot of flirting and such.
We aren't really friends (as in normal friends you know) so it confuses me as to why he calls so much to just talk. I know what friends with benefits is, and that's not what we are. I'm not sure what to do? He sends mixed signles. What is going on with us? If we are just friends with benefits why does he call so much, I thought you just called for a booty call when you are fwb?
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Ey.. i think he likes u but iz jus afraid to admit it. Tell him wha u told me n thats da only way you'll find out how he feels.
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We'll it's a fairly complicated situation to find yourself in. There are several reasons for his actions (and bear in mind that none of my suggestions could be right).
Firstly, do you mind? I mean he calls all the time but do you mind that? I understand the whole 'friends with benifits' gig but if your relationship was only a series of booty calls wouldn't you get a little irritated? At least it seems he values your time and opinions beyond sex.
Second, he may have a different handle on the fwb concept to you. He may feel that he needs to call and talk to you in order to make it work (or he may be scared that if he doesn't show an interest you might not want to make out with him any more, ore however far you take 'benefits').
Lastly, maybe he wants to become 'real' friends. I mean, just because you are fwb doesn't mean you can't be good friends too. He says he doesn't want a relationship but from the way it sounds I think he's on to a pretty good thing as it it.
So my advice would be, just relax and see how it goes. Try not to think about the whys and wherefores, just see how much chemistry there really is between you, and if you want him as a friend. If you do turn out to be good friends you'll probably enjoy the other stuff more.
One more thing, don't let the fact you have a physical relationship already cloud your judgement. If you decide you don't really want/need him as a friend, don't lead him on or let yourself get led.
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