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Hi, I'm an 18/f, from Australia. Recently my boyfriend and I of a year have started to have sex. I'm not on any kind of birth control but we always use protection. How affective is the condom and what are the chances of me getting pregnant?
Also I am finding it hard to have an orgasm during sex. I can see that it upsets my boyfriend and it kind of upsets me too. We've been having sex for the last 3months so when will I have an orgasm?
Thanks for your help :)
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wel first off the condom is only 99.9 percent affected and alot of girls get pregnate if they don't use a condom and if i were you i would get birthcontrol just to look on the safe side =)
and about the orgasm you can't yourself orgasm it just happens
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I don't know where some of these columnists are getting their information on condoms, but sesh, damn near ridiculous.
The condom is 98% effective WHEN it is used correctly. So check out this site for the proper use of a condom: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Learn it. Memorize it. Live by it. Sex is always risky, but condoms are quite effective if you just use them the way they are meant to be used.
So you don't believe my numbers kiddos? Take a gander:
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All of these sites list the effectiveness of condoms as 97 รข?? 99% effective when used properly. That last two are from government sites, the Center for Disease Control and the FDA respectively. FDA has the lowest effectiveness rating of condoms at 97%.
The citation that the condom is only 90% or so effective is taken from a study done by the FDA in 1996 (it has since been updated and I don't know where the hell 80% came from) and that study didn't take into account people who didn't use them properly, used them past the expiry date, or didn't use them every single time they had sex.
I'm not disputing that birth control is a more effective choice in preventing pregnancy, it certainly is but condoms are proven to be at the very least 97% effective when used correctly. No lower.
(I'm sorry if it feels like I'm ranting at you babe. The misinformation that so many of the young people who have answered your question have has really upset me.)
As for the orgasms. Lots of women have difficulty reaching an orgasm during vaginal sex, so don't stress out or punish yourself for that. You aren't alone.
If you masturbate, or pleasure yourself in anyway, it would be a good idea to share your technique with your boyfriend. Doing something similar to what you already know you like will certainly help.
If you don't pleasure yourself, I honestly suggest you get on that. It is the best way by far to learn what it is that brings you to a climax.
Lastly, tell your boyfriend to stop being 'upset'ed by your lack of orgasm. The more pressure or guilt you feel over this, the more tense you will become and the more difficult it will be to orgasm.
So relax. Don't rush yourself. Play around and experiment in bed until you find out what it is you like. When you do like something, for goodness sake tell the boy! You are the only one who knows what it is that really turns you on and makes you feel great, so make sure you tell your boyfriend what those things are. If you need to grab him and put him where you want him in order to really enjoy yourself, do it. Don't be ashamed of what it is or how long it takes. Your pleasure is important to both of you, so focus on it for a while rather then rushing to the intercourse act.
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Condoms are only 90-99% affective. But most of them tear or break so make sure every time your bf an you have sex for him to go to the bathroom an check!
On the orgasm subject, your probably not having an orgasm maybe because of the position! Usually the best way to have one is with you on top in control an him sitting an you like grinding on him, OR having your legs over his shoulders!
Hope I helped ya out!
-StephAnie-
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You are playing with fire here. Condoms (depending on the brand and how you use them) are only 90-99% effective. If I were you, I would definitely go on birth control. Condoms break so easily sometimes without you even knowing, believe me.
About the orgasms - only one out of every four women have an orgasm from intercourse. If you haven't had an orgasm now, then you might never. Or, it could also be how you guys are doing it. For the most penetration, you should try putting your legs over his shoulders while you lay down. That's the position that hits your g-spot the most. He could stimulate your clitoris if you want while you guys are having sex. You should have an orgasm that way.
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Condoms are 90% effective. Because sometimes they tear and brake and what-not. So then you have a 10% chance at gettting pregnant. There's also probobly more info. on the box.
And with the orgasm thing...fake it?
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