Guaranteed...I'm probably younger than you think. I know there's a time and place for everything so at times I seem pretty mature and serious. But believe me when I'm with my friends I'm the biggest goofy goober around XD. Don't let my scary girl picture fool you. I'm just wise beyond my years.
Life is unpredictable. All the mysteries and surprises, you never know what may come your way BUT that's exactly what makes it worth while. So don't panic because you don't "have it all together" because in all honesty no one truly does. We all need advice sometimes and I love giving it out. Don't be afraid to inbox me because I'll be more than happy to try to help you with any problem. In closing: Peace, love and happiness.
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both 15.
i'm a girl
so i spent a lot of time this summer in a different city 4 hours away from where i live. with my other family and i met this wonderful boy and i liked him even though he liked my cousin (whos 13) and she kissed him twice and then a while passed and he REALLY liked her but he finally got over it and she told him how i liked him and then he asked me out but we both decided it wasnt a good idea cuz neither of us wanted a long distance relationship. so then we still talked on the phone everyday and hung out at the pool and park together with some other people. then theres this other girl thats 13 and she reallyyyy likes him. she denies it but everyone knows she does. and shes such a bitch we reallyyy dont like each other. and then the day before i left to go home me and him met up at a park and we sat on this bench and he kissed me(: three times (my first kiss and my first boyfriend). and then he asked me if i wanted to try a long distance relationship and i said i do if you want to and he said ya. so basically when i was up there for a month and a half we talked everyday and when i got home we talked like twice in two weeks and he never calls me anymore cuz he says his phone got turned off or hes grounded. like he called me back the next day and was like you called and i was like ya and he goes okay... what did you want and i was like uh to talk to you because i haven't talked to you and he said he was grounded for seven days well about the third day that 13 yr old bitch calls me out of know where to let me know that my boyfriend was coming over to her house. and oh man that tore me up because he was "grounded" so i called to tell him what i had heard and he said he went there to work on her big brothers motercycle and i was like ya okay and then i was like welli thought you were grounded and then he said he got ungrounded that day but he didnt call me and that messed up. so i really think i should break up with him and so do my friends because they think hes lying to me. but i never get to talk to him to be able to break up with him so i dont know what to do! i mean i have guys down here coming at me left and right and flirting with me and asking me if i have a bf and im like well ya kinda sorta its complicated.
SO UGH my bf is just holding me back
like i talked to him for two minutes last week and i was like call me tonight because i really need to talk to you and he didnt
so this is comeplete bullshit.
and i need to break up with him
but i need your help
what do you think about this?
advice?
opinions?
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I think he's full of shit. Plain and simple. None of that seems to add up but the real question is: Do you think he's lying to you? If so, then do the right thing. Kick his butt to the curb and get you a nice cute guy in your neighborhood. Why let him hold you back if he's doing what he wants where he's at? Move on, you can do better.
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do they sell that vaginal product REPHRESH..for ph balancing at rite aid and cvs? thanks! (link)
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To my knowledge they do. I do suggest calling in advance to make sure they have it in stock though. Just in case they don't, you'll be saving yourself a useless trip.
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Hey! 131/2 f (Long..i'm sorryy)
I met this awesome guy (Jimmy)last week at the public pool with my friend. We thought he was cute. ha ha :) He thought the same thing and we talked and everything we had fun together. After that day we started texting and talking on the phone and stuff like that. Well i found out that he liked me,and i was SOOO happy because i really like him to. Well we text each other and..he talks dirty. ha ha I also do.. but not LIKE he does, i just say makeout..and stuff like that but he wants to "Do" me. ha ha ;) Well i saw him again today at the pool..with his friend Erica (she's also my friend)i think he knew that i was going..because he didn't act like he was suprized that i was there. Well i went with my cousins and i had to watch them. I didn't talk to them until probably a half an hour than i started talking to them. We were having so much fun. We played a joke on him, and when we were walking away from him he followed because we were going to go swimming together. He started massaging my shoulders IT FELT SO GOOD !! Ha ha. I think he might of untied my bathing suit top a little bit?? I'm not sure though because i was giving my cousins piggy back rides. Well after we got in the pool Erica asked jimmy if i could lick him anywhere. I said i wanted to lick him to her..AS A JOKE, and he said " ;) anywhereee?? Suree". He said. well..i didn't. Well he put his arm my waist and picked me up and dunked me in the pool (safely ha ha) He did that twice. It was cute (link)
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Just because he slept with her doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Who knows how long ago they had sex. On a serious note believe me he does not love you, how could you possibly love someone you've only known for a week. This is not the movies, this isn't a fantasy. Its real life. He could be infatuated, if anything. I'm not trying to discouarge you I'm just trying to be honest with you.
Now that that's out of the way, I do think you should ask him out. Apparently you two like each other. You have fun together, so why not? Don't let what he's done in the past, mess up what future you two could have. Good luck!
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yeah.....
feel kinda wierd asking that. But do they? Cause im a bit self cousious about that cuz my boyfriend wants to finger me nd i agrred but thats the only thing that worries me.
Personal experiances? Boys POV (point of veiw)?
Plzz dont tell me im too young for this...
~Olie =/
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I was actually fourteen my first time being fingered so I'm not going to tell you you're to young. The truth is, there is no right age. My first time I didn't shave down there but guy the didn't mind, he actually preferred it. Then again different guys prefer different things. Some like it bald. You can't go wrong with trimming though. I suggest a very low trim.
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How long do you have to give one head for him to cum? I mean like, i've given my bf head, but only for like 5 minutes, I feel like he doesn't even feel good. I mean I know what i'm doing, and everything, but idk. & he always gets mad when I stop. So should this mean that he likes it ? Or..
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If he gets mad when you stops that means he wanted you to keep going because he was enjoying it. Maybe he isn't the type to really show it. Some people moan or scream, others breathe heavy, some are just quiet. Perhaps your boyfriend is just quiet. Or maybe your just looking for a big reaction out of him.
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Ok,
So I had sex with this guy about four days ago.
He didn't use a condom, but i'm on the pill. Now I'm starting to get paranoid and I think I have herpes or some other type of STD.
My vagina is burning a little.
And I can't tell if there are sores on my vagina or not.
Please give me some advice on what it might be, or what I should do about it.
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The first thing you do is schedule a visit with you gynecologist as soon as possible. If you do have anything its best to get tested and hopefully treated early. For future reference regardless if you are on the pill or not, use a condom.
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well this is going to be long haha. so my nd my ex josh met about 6 months ago. and we connected right away. i liked him he liked me. we were so into eachother. i heard he had a rep, a player. i brought it up, he explained himself, that girls take his nice guy aditude as a player. so i got over that and belived him, there was my first mistake. as weeks went by we had a lot of feelings. and then the sex came into the picture. i told him he is not mine so i dont want to. of course he said babe what do you think weve been doing for the last month other then being together. and i liked him so much iwas just like if were together why the hell not. so we did. then we talked a lot all the time 5 hour long phone conversations about just random stuff. then i noticed his whorish atidude and i didnt like it. i get jealous so easily. but i didnt say a word because i know he would just walk, and so then i kept all my feelings bottled up. and then wonderign if were even together. and then i just couldnt take him flirting with other girls so i told him goodbye to notcall me to block me on everything we have contact online and, the thing that broke my heart even more is, he actually for once listened.. and just let me go.. i think taht hurt me more then the goodbye. because after i didnt have him to talk to everyday, my world came to an end, crying non stop thinkin about him non stop. but then i got over it then i saw him with another girl, brought me back to our days, amde me sad, soon to find out he told his bestfriend (wich is my friend too) we were never together, and that hurt SO bad that he denies that we werent together, then he told my bestfriend taht i was crazy nd a fake cryer and hes only known me for a month. that broke my heart even more. so then my bestfriend messaged him and basicully he said hed never talk about me and blah and that it makes him sad we wont talk and blah and he said hed hit me up, that one sentence "ill deff hit her up i like seeing how shes doing" gave my heart so much hope, but then he never contacted me.. and hasnt unblocked me on msn..idn what to do i think i am in love with this guy im so crazy over it and CANNOT get over him. like idn wat to do, i dont want anyone else so dont say go look for someone else because i dont want anyone. i just honestly need some advice and a friend to talk to about this, to help me get through..please? (link)
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Falling for the player and getting your heart broken? I've been there and it sucks. He basically did the same things to as your guy did to you. He would tell me that he loved me and that he only wanted to be with me. While he was telling other people he didn't even have a girlfriend and that I was just another girl that had a crush on him. It hurts to see him and hear about him but believe me you're better off without him. He's just going to do the same thing again. You should move on. I'm not saying its going to be easy because its not. Its probably going to be hard. You deserve better than to have your feelings played with. Cut all contact with him, do not have conversations about him! Basically try your best to forget him. As of now he is nothing to you and is not worth your tears or your time. He actually never was. Please do yourself a favor and move on.
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Alright , soooo ... This question could be in two categories (relationships -> friendship and -> love life) but I put it in this one . ALSO -- this WILL be long . I'm sorry , but I'm afraid I won't really get my point across without some of these details . Please read it all :)
First , something to add to my situation is my brief description of the perfect guy is :
FUNNY , SMART , NICE , LOYAL , and all those other things that every other girl wants in a guy .
OHH , and to add to that , I'd LOVE if he had an Australian accent (I'm kind of obbsessed with the country :P)
So , here we goo :)
My best friend Sarah and I have had a HUGE crush on a guy named Bryan for quite a few months . We knew that each other liked him and we often made deals such as : if either of us went out with him , the other one couldn't act jealous (etc.) Sarah is a guy megnet (and she is VERY pretty) , according to the number of guys she's gotten over mine and this worried me , but I figured that Bryan could oversee that . Bryan is also , according to my list of prefect traits in a guy , a perfect guy .
Sarah would brag that he liked her more , but that's Sarah . And don't say that that's a jerky thing to do , because that's how Sarah is and I love her . Maybe not for that reason , but for others :)
Anyways , EVERYONE except Bryan knows that we both like him . Bryan's friends knew also and came up to Sarah at her locker (which is right next to mine) and asked her if she wanted them to ask Bryan out for her . She fought with them about something for awhile , then , I'm assuming she agreed .
Later that night we were at a party when he said yes to her . There's plenty more details about this , but they probably won't add anything to this other than space .
Soo , she is now going out with him .
THE PROBLEM HERE IS : that Bryan is moving . Would you like to guess where he's moving to ? Australia , my dream country . And hopefully he'll obtain that dreamy accent ...
ANYWAYS -- do you think I should tell him how I feel before he leaves , which is june 16th . I'll still be talking to him on MSN and things like that so I don't want it to be awkward .
Sarah also kind of brags about this and I don't hate her for it or anything , I just don't understand why she does it . My mom (YES , I've talked to my mom) doesn't understand why Sarah didn't let me have this ONE guy , for the short time he's here . I kind of agree , but I look in Sarah's perspective and I think 'THIS GUY IS PERFECT . IF HE LIKES ME , WHY WOULD I LET HIM GET AWAY ?' That's what I think I would do . But I do agree with my moms advice and my own .
SOOOOOO . I'm not really sure what to do , or what my problem even sounds like to you guys . I'm kinda bad at explaining thinggs ...
SO PLEASE .
help me out , aiiight ?
thank you for hearing me ! (link)
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You only live once, tell him. Besides he probably already knows. I doubt that all his friends know and none of them told him. Guys are just as big of gossipers as females
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can people tell we your not a vigin..?how?
how can you have sex .but without popping your cherry..?
can you loose your virginity if your getting fingered? (link)
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Well the answer to your question depends on the person you ask. To me the definition of losing your virginity is having sexual intercourse vaginally or anally. To me, unless a penis has entered your vagina or anus, your still a virgin. In my opinion, if you've only been fingered or had oral sex or whatever else form of foreplay you're still a virgin, even if your "cherry pops".
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the grad is comeing up and we have to ask some body i was going to ask my crush but then my friend asked him and he said yes but he likes me not her he just said yes to not be mean and 3 of my other friends like him what do i do ?
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What do you do? You invite another boy to the dance or go with a group of friends and have fun. Your friend already invited him to the dance so let it go.
How old are you anyways? Do you think if you and this guy were to go together would this affect your friendship with any of these girls? If so, is it worth it? These are the questions you need to take into consideration. If you do decide to go with him first ask your friends if they mind.
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i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.
17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.
oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.
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Its a good sign that he still wants you in his life. Regardless of what happen he still doesn't want to lose you or your friendship. This trip could definitely lead to him realizing what he's missing out on, you. The one thing I would suggest you tell do is tell him that you still love him, and that you don't want to be with him. I say you do this in a romantic setting. Somewhere on the beach under the stars while you guys are all by yourselves. Don't get your hopes up things could go either way but just let him know regardless of what happens you'll always be there. I suggest you wear really cute, sexy but not slutty outfits to get his attention. Be flirty definitely do "the stare". The stare, the seductive look you give a guy to know you are intreseted. Most be yourself. Besides that's the same reason he fell in love with you the first time. If you need anything else, feel free to message me personally anytime.
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I just found out, that my BESTFRIEND is bi.
I mean, i thought she was for the longest time, and i did ask her, but she got super mad at me and said no. But, she told this girl she was hot/cute and she was embarrassed because she told her. And then she asked her if she would kiss her. But i dont know. I mean, i kinda want to forget about it. But when i see her, it reminds me again. I dont want to ask her, again though. But then i do. I mean, what should i say to her? (link)
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Maybe she isn't comfotable with her sexuality just yet. Do not ask her if she is bi. Just let her know regardless of what her sexuality is you love and support her 100%. When she is ready and if she wants you to know she'll tell you.
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Okay, this will be long sorry =,( Please read though.. )13 1/2
Well, I really like this guy, well at first my friends asked him out..for me...than he said no..but before he said yes. So, I asked him wats going on than he asked me out...we went out for a day than he told me he doesn't want to date me yet..he doesn't think he's ready..so I gave him time..than he asked ME if I could ask my friend out for him, I said no..and I thought you liked me...he said no I do!! Well, than we worked things out..for that night and we stayed up texting until 12am. He and I..get a long great.he told me he saw all my pics on My space..aww right? ha.,but the next day( Yesterday) I was real worried if he liked us both ,or just her...so I asked him and he said he liked my friend. That really hurt me so I told him thanks for ruing my night. Well, than he said Comon , your making me feel bad, Im not playing games here, I need to tell you something. So I told him what and he asked me if I really liked him. So I told him yes I do. He said he would go out with me but I told him I can't go out with him if he likes my friend also. He told me if my friend doesn't go out with him he'll go out with me. Well, that makes me feel awful, and I feel like Im second best. Plus my friend isn't the right girl for him!! He's a strong christian, and my friend had sex( sorta she had her panties on but .. she attempted it) with a highschooler and she's 12!! She also french kissed a highschooler 3 times on the bus and she had a a boy friend when than happend. (She has one again..now)and she likes to other guys also. Well I didn't tell all this to him , I just said what she said to me about him...she said she doesn't like him, he's a geek, dork..and stuff. Plus she told me since I like him she would never date him because she loves me. (as a friend ..lol) Well, Im a christian like him and he still wants to date her I think..and I don't now what to do.. I feel awful and I have been hurt before by this other guy...and im getting hurt all over again!! Its making me SICK!! Like my friend always gets the boy..and she dates him for a week than breaks it off or cheats on him. Her last boy friend was great for her..but she french kissed that guy..and she didn't even break up with him she made her other friend do it..and he over heard what happend and he was so ticked and he told the whole school that she and I!! Were LEZBIANS!! Just to get back at her and he brought me into it also!! I don't want him the guy I like to get hurt...even though he hurt me some already for liking my friend..but I like him and ...if she goes out with him...he'll be heart broken..and I don't think I'll go out with him after that happens because I warned him. So...what do you people think I should do?? I need help!! Thanks for who ever helps!!
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Wow that one heck of a story. It seems to me he is a good guy but he just so happens to likes two girls at the same time. And they just so happens to be good friends. I'm sad to say he apparently likes your friend more than you. That's why he wants to go out with her before you. Eventually he'll come to his senses if your friend doesn't like him. BUT now its comes down to you. Do you want to wait around for him? If you like him why not? If you don't want to be second best, forget about him.
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i have been going out with my bf.for a while and hes been active before me many times. any way my question is when i want to give him a hand job he wont let me touch his penis like i rub it outside of his boxers ive tried going in and he like pulls my hand away it pisses me off he doesnt know that thou. like i tried asking and hes like i dont like the mes? and when im going to give him head he has to put a condom on i havnt done it in a while b.c he promiced id get to try witout it on so we havnt done it i asked if i could like taste his cum and hes like no its gross im like bitch fingering me is gross. ive never tasted it and i want to im sick of condoms man and his underwear makes things less exciting like and when we were going to have sex where he didnt have a condom hes like no im not going to cum in you dude way to make me horny and stop. and we tried two seconds wit out one (GREAT) and he wont do it again P.S. im on birth control... weve talked about it and shit and he still puts one on wat do i do to make him change his ways pleaseee. (link)
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Let's not think the worst. Personally I think he is being extremely responsible with the whole condom thing. I know you may not want to hear this but STD's are real. You should wear a condom 100% of the time, even with your boyfriend/girlfriend. I think you should definitely respect that. Maybe you guys could go get tested together and see if you both are cootie-free. If everything comes back negative I think you should bring up the idea of unprotected sex then. *Always use protection unless you are absolutely sure (&nd with proof such as medical papers) that your partner has no STD's or STI's. &nd even then you guys still should get checked out reguraly*
As for the mess thing...maybe its a huge turn off for him. But relationships are a give and take situation. Talk to him about how you feel, how much you want to do these things, and that it bothers you that he doesn't. I'm sure he will take what you are saying into consideration. Who knows, he may just decide to give it a try.
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my twin sister has a boyfriend and they've been going out for like 4 or 5 months now and i cant stand it! i havent had a boyfriend and its already my third year in middle school and all the boys i like dont really like me like that! i always end up getttin hurt! im not ugly or anything but im kinda of jelious that my best friend (my twin) doesnt have time for me anymore! all i do is yell at her for any little reason, like kissing her fucking boyfriend in front of me or something!!! (link)
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Umm...you are really young. Guys will come to you eventually. But you should also go for them too. You want a boyfriend so put yourself out there, flirt. Like I said your young. Things will happen soon.
You shouldn't get mad at your sister and yell at her for kissing her boyfriend. If it does bother you just pull her to the say you would rather her not kiss him in front of you.
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my name is allyson. im not sure if you still go on your website or anything, because it might be old. but i really need advice. i have a boyfriend, we've only been going out for about a month. he wants to "make out" and thats okay with me. ive kissed guys before, but not ever "madeout" and i want to, im just really nervous. hes never made out either, im just worried i will be bad-- or mess up. im not sure of what to do.
"just follow with your partner" or whatever everyone else says wont help. i feel prude... but i really need some advice! (link)
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Let's relax. There is nothing wrong with feeling worried. Everyone has to go through their first time doing anything, and no one is a pro there first time. Practice makes perfect. The fact that your boyfriend has never made out with anyone either should bring you some comfort. Why? Because maybe he can relate to how you are feeling. Talk to him.
I do have some tips for your first makeout session.
First...make sure your breathe is fresh. Bad breathe is a definite turn off.
((Go slow))
Start off with a regular kiss but open your mouth slowly and take his top lip in mouth slightly and kiss it. Now do the same with his bottom lip. Keep this rotation up.
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i need a boyfriend really badly
but all the guys at my school are supper immature
and no i'm not one of those REALLY ugly people.
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I'm not exactly sure what you're question is but...
There are guys practically everywhere. Try the mall and the movies: especially if you're a teen. If you are a bit older try the clubs.
Why do you "need" a boyfriend anyways. I'm pretty sure not every guy at your school is immature. You should take a day to evaluate all the guys thoroughly and see which one is boyfriend material. Try to get to know some of them you may start to like one of them.
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I know what it is, I just want to hear some of your stories about being fingered.
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S0Exciited's First Time being "fingered":
Well my boyfriend (at the time) and myself were at my house alone for the first time. Naturally we took full advantage of of our privacy. Hands were roaming, kissing was pretty intense, and I was kind of nervous. His hands were all over me and they started to venture futher and futher south of the border. He started to undo my jeans and well "it" happened. The experience was amazing. It's nothing like your first time kissing, touching, or having sex.
:)
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The subject line says it all, however here's a little more detail. I've been dating the same guy for seven months and ever since five months hit, I've been feeling myself fight back the urge to tell him that I love him. He always puts me in a good mood, and he's a really laid back guy. I just wish he would say it on his own, but is it okay for the girl to say it first? (link)
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Of course it is, why wouldn't it be? If he makes you happy and you truly do believe you love him tell him. There is no guarantee on what his reaction will be. Who knows, he may just feel the same way.
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20/f. Basically, I have a smelly vagina. And I don't know how to get rid of it. I always wash down there but even when I get out of the shower, if I spread my legs just a little bit, you can smell it. And even when I'm at work if I've been sitting for long periods of time my crotch and the chair will smell bad and its embarrassing. If I sit down too fast the odor will arise and then people can smell it.
When I go to the bathroom, my underwear is ALWAYS damp/moist and there will be a small trace of white. Not like, a lot of discharge, but always a little trail of white.
What is my problem? How can I have a "semi-normal" vagina. One that doesn't smell and one that doesn't get moist (thats probably where the odor rises from).
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You should go to a gyno. I'm not a doctor so I couldn't really tell you but they can prescribe you something...until then I suggest using baby wipes throughout the day. They leave you with a fresh and clean feeling down below. And they have a pleasant smell.
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