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do you wear a bra to bed or no? (for females)
personally, i would feel uncomfortable but i just saw another question about this and i would like to keep my bras in better condition because the straps always get twisted. (link)
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I used to wear a bra to bed, and then I realized how uncomfortable it is. It's nice to let the girls rest without a bra at night. It is uncomfortable the first couple nights, but after awhile you'll realize how comfortable it really is. Big tee shirts and night gowns are the way to go if you're worried about someone seeing you walking around the house without a bra on. Good Luck
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i caught my bf having intimate conversations with a web cam girl. He showed her pictures of himself and our pets. he made a note to remember her birthday and wrote love _____
apparently the web cam went two ways.
i find this really creepy and im having a hard time getting over it and trusting him. we have been together 6 yr and are getting married soon.
my question is is this cheating?
will they do it again?
is this a warning sign of things to come?
personaly i feel like this is more of an emotional cheat, but also its grose... and im no prude. I love him alot but i dont understand why he would do this to me. plus he has been turning me down for sex... so im lost (link)
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It sounds like his interests are becoming more adventerous toward other females than sticking with you. You should have a conversation with him and let him know that you don't want to be with someone who isn't completely interested in you, and who doesn't want the commitment you have planned. Just because you've been together 6 years and are about to be married is no excuse to overlook the arising problem. I'm sure they will do it again, and in my eyes and im sure lots of other women, it is a form of being cheated on because he is sharing intimate moments that are meant for you, and you only. It is a warning sign of things to come, because once it starts with internet, it will eventually escalate to the common excuses "working late", "hanging out with friends" "going out", stuff like that. If he's already turning you down for sex, it sounds like he found it somewhere else. After your talk if things don't turn out the way you like it, I suggest you find someone who is interested in only you. You don't want to get stuck in a marriage with a man who will be unfaithful. Best of luck to you
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19/f - I just got done working at a boy scout camp for 7 weeks. I went up and left behind a boyfriend who disrespects me, pressured me into everything I've done with him, talks down to me, and tries to keep me "barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen" for a lack of better terms. He doesn't encourage me to follow my dreams, and he had cheated on me with my best friend, months ago. While I was at camp, I met this amazing guy, Dennis, he's 10 years older than me, but he was the first person I've ever met that gave me the sort of attention, care, and respect that I've always wanted, but never knew existed. My female room mate talked me into believing that I deserve more. I made sure my boyfriend knew that I'm serious, and was ready to break up with him. but he promised me change (again). I told him that I'd give him until December to change. However; in a moment of rage, distress and depression, I fell to Dennis as a shoulder to cry on. One thing came to another, and I think I'm in love with him. But we're so different, I'm very religious, don't drink, smoke, etc. he's the polar opposite, he's been to prision, does weed, etc. He has MS, and I had to help him through some horrible symptoms of it, and it scared me to death. On the way home from camp, I got in a terrible accident. Dennis showed up at the hospital for me, while my boyfriend didn't. I just don't know what to do, Dennis is everything I had ever hoped for, and he said he'd give up anything for me, but I want children, and he knows he won't live past 50 with MS, and he'll be in a wheel chair, etc. I don't want to bring children into the world that are going to have to go through the same thing. Long term, it seems like nothing will be worth it. but I feel so bad, because so many women have left him and treated him badly because of his condition. I don't know what to do, on paper we shouldn't be compatable, but he's just everything I've ever wanted, I'm afraid of the future.
Please please help, Sincerely, Long Term Challenged (link)
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You should be with the person that cares about YOU and YOUR well being. Dennis seems like a nice guy, and just because he has MS shouldn't hold you back. It may work out, and it may not, but you never know. It is a very dibilitating disease and after awhile it may become very challenging, but people with MS need love too, it doesn't make them any less of a person because they're sick. In my experience, some of the nicest and most undeserving people are the ones that get stuck with these terrible illnesses. Just know that God has a plan for him no matter what it is, and maybe you're there to help him through it. There's no point in being with someone who doesn't make you feel special, and who doesn't support you, so dump the other guy. I say give Dennis a shot, if it doesnt work out then it doesn't work out, but at least you chose someone who would actually care. Good Luck
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Alright well this guy ask me to come over, and im 13, and then when i got there we went to his room , and layed down were not goin out , and were watching grudge. then he turned me over and we started to make out, he started to feel me up over clothes, then under my bra, he also fingerd me. Were still not dating, did he use me? he also wants to hang again should i ? HELP ME (link)
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13 is a confusing age, but I do agree with the last person that gave you advice, although its not what you want to hear..no matter how grown up you think you are (and we all did at that age),there are things that you will regret later on. If this boy has an actual interest in you, he won't mind hanging out with you without any sexual activity. He very well may be using you if he knows you aren't going to say anything along the No or im not ready sort. I lost my virginity at 14 and I've regretted it ever since. The boy I lost my virginity to used me, dumped me a week later, and started dating my best friend. At that age, you WANT to believe that this boy "loves" you, and "wants to be with you forever", and "yes i like you for more than sexual acts". Don't give yourself away to just anyone, and the best way to do that is to not be tempted by other sexual acts.
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so ive been talking with this one girl on here who was giving me advice and she thought it best that since i want my ex back that i try to get him back. we had a good relationship and dated for 8 months and he broke up with me 2 months ago and one of those months i gave him some space to thing about things. so i texted him once and he answered we had a long conversation and it was good. then i texted him again and he was out of town and said that he couldnt talk which i understand cause im always busy when im out of town. and then i texted him a few days after that which was probably fast? and he didnt answer.
i hate giving up and i know he is playing hard to get but idk how to get past that. like do i just leave him alone again or wait a few weeks and text him again. i dont wanna seem annoying to him. im not desperate at all cause i can be without a man i just want him back.
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To put it rather blunt, if he wants to talk to you, he'll get ahold of you. There's a reason why people are ex's and I think you should think about moving forward instead of trying to go back to the past. Let him get ahold of you, in the meanwhile, live your life. Don't sit around and wait for him otherwise you will be missing out on other things. Trust me, if he is interested, he will let you know, but if not, then its time to move on to a new chapter of your life.
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I used http.www.onlinedocumentconversion.com for Convert my PDF Document in Editable Format. I Convert my File Successfully but I see little much error in it there is also a option at the site to send the file for manual conversion.
Can anyone suggest me that may I send my file for manual? is this site is good? anyone try it before?
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you should just install adobe acrobat reader. its always there when you need to read PDF files and its malware/spyware free.
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I recently returned from a vacation in Mexico. I was on vacation with my family, not looking for anything, but I met a guy who changed everything. Thanks to his family we started talking, and we just instantly clicked. I normally do not look for anything on vacation, but I couldn't help myself. I have never felt this way about a guy, he is absolutely perfect. I live in Pennsylvania and he lives in Texas so we are about a 3 hour plane ride away. He said he'll visit me, and I know it's completely ridiculous, but he just seems like the one right now. Do you think it could work? Miracles happen, right? (link)
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It is REALLY hard to have a long distance relationship, but some do work. You both have to want to make it work for that to happen, and realize that there is always going to be times when you need that person and they cant be there to give you a hug or make you feel better in any other way than a phone call.It would just be a summer fling, or you guys could date for 5 years, you never know. Wait and see is your best option, if he comes to visit, enjoy the visit but remember that he has to go home. It's hard living in PA, isn't it? Thats where I live, and we're quite disconnected from the outside world in most locations! Take it for what it is now, and worry about the future when it gets here.
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Hey guys, I'm a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for four year in September.. Everyone around us is getting engaged and we have been together longer than anyone of them. I dont know if im jealous or worried. I have said to him I want to be engaged, he said no. It makes me feel like he doesnt love me that much to marry me. He says he wants to marry me but wants to wait. I want a big wedding, huge dress ect.. I understand to wait for the wedding, but why cant we be engaged? He says he wants to be able to buy me a huge ring and make sure its beautiful, but I dont want/need that right now, just a small right so show hes mine.. Because of this I have decided to go away to school in the fall. Maybe to test to see if he is my "one" or just to clear my head and enjoy being 19.. Im not sure. What are your intakes of this? Am i right to feel "not loved" or do you all agree with him? (link)
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Its hard to be a woman, isnt it? All women feel a certain amount of rejection when this subject pops up,but the important thing is, he wants to wait and make it special, and we tend to ruin it by bringing it up all the time and asking why cant it be NOW, not later. You may specify that you don't want an enormously large ring because its not your style, but anything other than that sadly to say IS his decision. If he doesn't want to ask you to marry him yet, he's not going to and there isnt a thing we can do about it but be patient and wait. Its much better when its a surprise. You're 19, I wouldnt take things to quickly with the marriage, after all..it IS irreversible for the most part. I don't agree with either sides because men see things differently than women. When he's ready he'll ask, even if its way past when you were ready. Take your time and enjoy your life together as it is for now.
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what are the adirondacks and poconos exactly? (link)
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the adirondacks are a mountain range particularly in north eastern new york, and the poconos are mountains that run through northern pennsylvania
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do people starch their clothes after ironing them? (link)
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No. Normally the starching process is done DURING the ironing. They have sprays now that you spray on your clothes, then iron, to help keep the wrinkle free effect.
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I just had a baby girl who is 6 weeks old and was never married to the father. I live in NY. I am breast feeding and will be off of work possibly until she is 4 months old. My question is what is a common visitation schedule when the father lives an hour away. Currently he comes about 2-3 days a week for about 3 hours. I would like to avoid overnight stays for as long as possible. Any advice? (link)
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I would tell him that weekends or every other weekends during the day is sufficient enough for now until you two can actually talk about what you feel is appropriate. Mainly, men only get weekends or every other weekends, and maybe you can develop into sending your baby with him, but for now, I would tell him day visits only, and only on weekends. Hope this helps, good luck
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Ok, so to start off with some background I am 18 F and I am dating a 22 M. When I was 13 I was in a relationship with someone my age and he was very pushy with sex, but we didn't have sex, close, but no sex. When I was 14 I met my 2nd BF online and I was very sexual with him, I was able to have 'phone sex' with him, aka, speaking dirty and stuff. When I was 15 I started dating my current bf now, let's call him Damon. When we started I was kinda ok with he idea of doing stuff, we waited 5 months and after that point he took my virginity, as the relationship grew stronger, I was growing more and more uncomfortable with being sexual with him. He never did anything to make me not want to, in fact that's why I am here. I would love to be able to let go and be 'freaky' but I don't know, i get stressed and embarrassed and I can't be freaky. I can barely initiate the sex or foreplay. I want to be able to be that 'porn-o dirty' for him because I am into that too, I just feel strange and stressed when it comes down to me actually doing it. There also is more to this sexual anxiety. I don't feel comfortable with him watching porn and jerking off to other girls, I feel that I am not enough for him and im not doing a good job. I understand that sometimes it's not even lust it's just an annoying feeling and you need to release, but he has no imagination so he need to watch porn. And there's more.. We just made some new friends who are really into BDSM shows, and so are we, but the almost live porn in front of us I know is going to be a problem, I'm going to go and watch him enjoy himself and get turned on my these other people all night and im not gonna enjoy myself. I just wanna be able to release my sexual tension and let loose and not be anxious about it. thank you all who may be able to help. feel free to ask any questions that might make it easier for you to help me. (link)
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Being comfortable sexually takes awhile. Sometimes its hard to come out of your shell, and other times you may think "why not, whats the worse that can happen". Maybe try starting out small and then move to more advanced thingS. As for him watching porn, thats all men. Even if they are completely satisfied with their sex life, men still like porn. And, it actually gives you good ideas on what to do with YOUR partner, so porn is not a bad thing. Don't think that you're not good enough, eventually you will be comfortable with doing somethings. As for the BDSM shows, I would wait until youre completely comfortable with HIM, before going off and doing it around OTHER people. Sometimes it takes a lot of time to feel comfortable with new techniques, because its just that, its new. Its unexplored territory that until you do it, will always make you feel a little self conscious. Just take your time and slowly try new things, then you can get up to the big things. Good Luck
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My fiance mention, for like the third time, that he would like to try new things in the bedroom. His main interest seems to be on a threesome, which is something that he knows I have done in the past. The thing is, I don't want to share him (that's why I commited to him, because before him I only had friends with benefits) and I've told him how I feel. Knowing that he wants a threesome makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him, and like he doesn't really want ME. Am I overracting? I do understand that he has only been with me, maybe he wants to experience someone else... or experience the things that I did before meeting him. I really would like a possible explanation on why he would ask for something that he knows bothers me to even think about. (link)
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If he wanted to experience something without you, he would end it with you. If you're not comfortable with a three some, then tell him absolutely not. I went through the same thing, and my fiance said that he wouldn't want to even if i agreed to it because he knew i wouldn't be enjoying it. He may want to try it, but he has to consider what he wants more, his life with you and only you, or a three some and a free life without you. Men don't understand the important of sex to women, they think its just an action and not something with actual feelings involved which is the way we think. He should try to understand things from your angle, and not get upset. Women feel differently about things than men. If he wants to try something new in the bedroom, try a new technique or a new position.
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I like this guy but i don't know if he like's me. Everyone thinks it's wrong for me to think this way. He stares at me and i laugh i stare at him he laughs. I tried calling but he won't pick up. What do i do. I'm afraid he'll make fun of me or think it's weird. (link)
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Wait for him to approach you. Guys don't like girls that call and bug them a lot or are always the one to initiate a conversation. He will eventually let you know how he feels if he likes you. I know its a killer playing the waiting game, but you don't want to seem clingy. Just be cool and things will be fine. Good Luck
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Hi so i work at a daycare/private pre school. I work in the Young Toddlers class and i absolutely love it., except for there is ne problem. The eps teachers (early pre school teachers) One of them is nice but the other three are extremely rude. They talk about me behind my back all the time. Well i use to stare at them all the time because we have windows in our class so you can see what's going on in the other class. So i think a lot of that was the reason, but I've started to stare at them less. I know it's rude to stare at someone, but it's just a really bad habit. Well anyways i am really skinny so that is another reason. And even yesterday at a meeting we had for the new school year i had to sit at their table. And during the meeting my boss was reading to us our school mission statement about how we need to respect everyone, and as soon as she read that i looked up at one of the teachers (julie) and the lead teacher Irene thought i was looking at her and she started telling Ashley the other EPS teacher oh she looked at me when our boss was talking about respect. and they kept staring at me and laughing at me whenever i asked questions.I would look over and they would be laugh at me and i got mad and kept giving them the death stare, and Irene was like oh she's looking at us, and she needs to stop. I am really sick of them. I can't stand them. I know they do it because it really bothers me, but i just can't ignore it. I've always had this problem. I am just not confident. It's so difficult for me to not care what other people think. Everyone keeps telling me to have confidence in myself but i can't. It's impossible because I've been bullied my whole life. I have zero self confidence or self esteem. SO what should i do? Please help (link)
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It's really hard to work with people you don't get along with, but if you love your job, and love what you're doing, it gets easier. There are two ways you can go about trying to solve your problems without quitting your job. You could A) Confront them and ask them why they are acting like the kids that you care for, instead of acting their age, and tell them to knock it off and do their job. Or B) You can do your best to ignore them to the best of their abilities. honestly, it sounds like their jealous. Most girls are like that, when they're jealous, they try to make that person feel bad about themselves. The one girl has a kid you say? She's probably just jealous that you have the body of someone who hasn't had a kid, and you get to enjoy your job instead of doing it all day long. After all, she does have to continue child care when she gets home. You should write a list of all the good things about yourself, and the things that people like about you, and go through them everytime you start to feel self conscious. It will help you feel better, and help take your mind off of what is actually being said. If all else fails, even though no one likes a tattle tale, their ARE reasons to speaking with your boss. There's no need for you to feel left out or any different than a normal person. Bosses don't handle harrassment very well, and I believe you have a good case to go up to your boss and tell him/her that you feel like you're being the subject of cruel treatment by said co workers and it makes you uncomfortable with your job. She will speak with them and tell you to leave them alone, and if they dont they will suffer the consequences. Just make sure you tell your boss that youve said or done nothing to these girls and try to ignore them to the best of your abilities but they are relentless. Good luck
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ok so, i met these guys at the local pool with my friends. some of my friends go there all the time so they knew each other, there are 3 guys and one came up to me and said "you're too quiet" but im usually really fun to be around, i just ran out of things to talk about even though i dont know how thats possible lol. we talked about really random weird funny stuff like tan lines and strippers, teenage stuff haha but i don't know what to talk to him about? (link)
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You guys will always think of new things to talk about, with different experiences. Try hanging out somewhere else, it will give you new ideas. There's lots of things to talk about whether it being deep like the kind of person you are, to small topics such as the weather, If you enjoy talking to this person you will always think of things to talk about. You dont want to sound like you rehearsed a conversation for the next time you see him. Ask about his family, his friends, his hobbies, stuff like that and I'm sure that will hit off a great conversation. Good Luck
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Okay, yes this is weird. But I want to see what people have to say about this. I do not claim to be psychic or have clairvoyance, but I have had a one too many ironic things happen to me. Of all those things, I have twice thought that a tree would fall and it did! Of course, this assumption was based on my observation but how in the world could my thoughts be so accurate?
First time was a year or so ago. I was walking around my property near a wooded area. I noticed a dead tree that looked rough and thought to myself "I better get away from that tree, there's no telling it could fall over any minute." It was a very large tree. Well, the very next day I was outside (not near the tree)...but that very tree fell over right before my eyes and it scaled a nearby powerline! I could not believe that had happened and I was just thinking about it the day before!
Well, that incident always seemed too ironic for me and I tried to shrug it off as just a coincidence. Until YESTERDAY. I was outside with my son in my neighbor's yard. They have a lot of trees in their front yard. I saw my son walking around the trees and he stopped and called to me "Mom! Look at this big tree! It's dead!" I told him he better come back away from that tree because it could fall over on him. That very evening, about 6 hours later, we drove by the house and the very same tree had fallen over! Roots and all! It was a big tree! And it fell in the same direction my son had been standing when he called to me to look at the tree. Now is that weird or what?
I have had other odd "clairvoyant" moments like that and I also have a really good sense at feeling how other people feel even if they don't say a word. Are some people just in tune with their surroundings like that or would you just say things like this are mere coincidence?? (link)
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I'm not sure if I believe in psychic ability or whatever else, but I do believe in the power of deja vu. We've all had dreams where we have a conversation, and the next few days, it happens! It could also just be a strong sense of intuition you carry with you, either way its not a bad thing! enjoy it!
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how do you know you're only in love with the idea of being in love?
lately, ive been thinking about me and my boyfriend's relationship. it's great, i've never felt this way. i was in a serious relationship for a year before him so i'm familiar with some old feelings. but it's very different, and much deeper. i feel as if maybe i am in love, but then, what if it's just the idea? i don't think i was in love with my last boyfriend of a year, so this is very new to me.
since i've been thinking about it lately, hoping it's not just a honeymoon phase, i caught myself -- it might just be the idea. me and my boyfriend have been literally together for ten months, but involved in each other romantically for about three.
it might be that i am in love, or just the idea.
so how do you know the difference? (link)
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Everyone is in love with idea of being in love. Every relationship has different elements of feelings, deeper or more shallow. Nobody can really explain what love is, just how they know. And if you were in love, you wouldn't have to question whether or not its love. 10 months is a long time, but in actuality, its short compared to the lifetime. Relationships take years to develop and grow to the point where you REALLY know that person, and it's just not how someone acts when they get with someone new. Love doesn't fade after the "honeymoon phase", it just becomes different. You don't always giggle and make out with each other all day long. But, it doesn't mean that you aren't in love anymore. Just take your time and enjoy things for now, I wouldn't worry to much about it. The moment you realize that you are in love, you'll know for sure, and only you can tell.
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I dont know if any of you know about "The Secret", a film about happiness, but I was a strong advocator and supported of the belief that we all need to be happy. Ever since 10th grade I have been a happy, upbeat, smiling person. Nothing phased me, I gave lots of advice here to others about happiness.
That was then. Now, I am about to start college at a great university, Ive already met so many people its all exciting. Yet I am so utterly stressed and miserable. I don't understand why! Actually, I do... but I dont know what to do about it.
See the thing is, I used to date this guy last year, we were together for 6 months, I loved him but wasnt head over heels or anything. We broke up june last year. I was OK. Really.
January of this year he came back to me with a million promises and I'm sorry's and i love yous. Stuff like i still love you, i cant be without you my life isn't complete etc etc. He made 1000 promises that hed changed and hed never take me for granted... i took him back.
Needless to say after enough time, he broke his many promises. He doesnt mean to but he is lazy, he is inconsiderate towards me, he does take me for granted, and weve been through SO SO much together its a little ridiculous. We were in a terrible car accident on the highway he ended up having to get surgery, and even though I was also hurt in it, I helped him heal, stayed with him through his rages of being in pain, gave him support, loved him. Now that hes getting better hes putting me in the shadows. When he was sick I understood, he was in pain, but he says the pain is making him not be the best boyfriend. Well he can do things and go out and be a certain way with other people, but not with me??? Hes so selfish and I'm constantly trying so hard to make him better because he is still healing yet I find I am so miserable in my day to day life. I'm making preparations to go to college, and have fun and I cant enjoy it to the fullest because somewhere along the lines of this relationship I lost myself. I lost my ability to be happy because I fell in love with a man that doesn't consider my feelings. He just sees his... I tell him and he reverts to the fact that hes the one in pain and hes suffering, etc. But when it comes to other things hes ok... I just dont know anymore, I had a fight with him the other day, and told him hes never going to change, and he just goes "what are you saying? you want to end it???" And i cant. I want to but I dont want to. i love him, but it hurts me to be with him... and to make it worse the other day we were at a friends birthday party and he was in pain again and because of that got drunk and i was driving him home when he started telling me how I was right, and he didnt deserve me, and i shouldn't be treated the way he treats me and all these things about how much he loved me and im an angel and hes going to change. But today, him sober, i asked if he remembered and told him what happened and hes back to his old self where only his feelings matter. My friends and family are all telling me its time to end it, and I know it, but we still both love each other SO much.... i just dont know what to do anymore... please any advice???? (link)
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If you can't trust this guy but decide to be with him anyway, it will bite you in the behind later. When you don't fully forgive someone for all they've put you through, it ends up in your every thought and you're always wondering what he's doing, where he's going, and who he's with. Men usually deflect blame so that you feel like its all your fault. Men like that are not worth it. If your friends and family are telling you its time to end it, they're most likely right. Its hard to let go of something from the past and look to your future, but its for the best. You have a lot of good times ahead of you, you're just starting college! There are plenty of good looking, NICE guys in college and all around, you just have to be patient and not pick the first one that shows the slightest bit of interest! Play the field, you're too young to settle down already and be with someone you can't trust. There's going to be plenty of guys in and out of your life, and although change is scary, you learn from each and every one of your experiences, to carry them with you and not make the same mistakes again. But, don't trouble your future boyfriends with problems from the past. Don't make all your boyfriends suffer from what this one did to you. It IS time to let him go, and it's sad, and it hurts..but eventually you will be okay, and happy. And then, out of nowhere, you will find a good one. All it takes is a little patience
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My Boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months but we're talking for about 4 or 5 months.. Before turned 18 (just recently) we disscussed moving out together and getting our own place. I turned 18 a month after him and thats when i started really looking around for things we could afford, and now it seems like everytime i bring it up he always says i dont know or maybe.. Does he just not want to move out? I dont know what to do anymore.. (link)
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You might want to give him some time. When you rush to move in together, most times it turns out to be a nightmare, BELIEVE ME. Take your time and do things the right way, you will be grateful later. I would ask him if he's ready, or what he's thinking about the subject, but I wouldn't push it. Men are crazy about those things, and they don't like to be pushed too hard. You don't want to feel like a married couple already. I know that the idea is some what fairy talish but it really is hard work, and takes a LOT of compromise and sacrafice. When you get to living with someone, you're in eachother's faces a lot and depending on work/school schedules, you may end up getting annoyed with eachother by spending way too much time together. Your boyfriend is probably just thinking about smarter options for the best of your relationship. Good Luck
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