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Am i a slut?
Alright well this guy ask me to come over, and im 13, and then when i got there we went to his room , and layed down were not goin out , and were watching grudge. then he turned me over and we started to make out, he started to feel me up over clothes, then under my bra, he also fingerd me. Were still not dating, did he use me? he also wants to hang again should i ? HELP ME
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13 is a confusing age, but I do agree with the last person that gave you advice, although its not what you want to hear..no matter how grown up you think you are (and we all did at that age),there are things that you will regret later on. If this boy has an actual interest in you, he won't mind hanging out with you without any sexual activity. He very well may be using you if he knows you aren't going to say anything along the No or im not ready sort. I lost my virginity at 14 and I've regretted it ever since. The boy I lost my virginity to used me, dumped me a week later, and started dating my best friend. At that age, you WANT to believe that this boy "loves" you, and "wants to be with you forever", and "yes i like you for more than sexual acts". Don't give yourself away to just anyone, and the best way to do that is to not be tempted by other sexual acts.
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Yes, you were used.
No, you are not a slut.
You were taken advantage of by someone who does not have your best interests at heart.
At age 13 you should not be laying down with any boys and you should not be making out with anyone. Do not hang out with this guy again, or any of his friends.
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How old is this guy? The age matters in this kinda situation. If he's around your age he is most likely not using you, but if he is older ... then in most cases YEAH, he is using you. You're not a slut for doing this with a guy and not dating him. I know how it feels. I used to be in a "relationship" like this. I felt regret after we had done everything and never went out. So if that's how you feel END IT! Tell him that you have class and don't do this with guys that that you aren't involved with. If he tries to make things work then he really is in it for you, if not then you know what he really wanted. Good luck, Wish you the best & Hope you make the right decision.
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You aren't a slut. Sluts have to have some conception of what's really going on to willingly take part.
To answer your direct question, yes, you were used a little bit.
You're too young. If a guy starts making out with you and feeling you up, stop him. Tell him that you're not cool with that and do not let him continue.
We try as a society to shield kids your age from sexuality, but the stark truth is 13 year olds have to deal with adult sexual situations on a regular basis.
Neither you, nor the guys your age (and older) are prepared for this. Teenaged guys just want to get laid. They don't care how, it's just an elemental drive for sex caused by hormones. They don't get that girls needs and wants are often different, and so when you go ahead and don't stop them they assume you want the same things they do, hence what happened.
You know you're not ready for this kind of thing. Speak up from now on, and don't make out or anything else with guys you're just hanging out with. I realize you're a little young for dating and thus can't really do much of anything, but that is kinda the point here.
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no you are not a slut. although i don't think you should "hang" with him again until he ask you out on a date. then you can get to know him a little better and decide if you want to have this relationship. "grudge" is not exactly a romance flick, so he probably planned to sleep with you. so until you know you can trust him, don't hang with him again.
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I think you are too young to be engaging in these activites. I think you should focus on other things then guys right now, you will regret your actions in the future. I don't know how parenting works in your family but for your own good please wait till you are older. What is the rush? I don't want to sound mean so don't take it the wrong way, I'm just trying to look out for you. Do not go see him, at 13 I highly doubt that it will be something serious. Value yourself and your body, don't let people take advantage of you. Taake care sweety.
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you're only 13, so you might wanna slow it down a little. do you like this guy? do you even want to do these things with him? because if both answers are no, then you probably shouldn't hang out with him again.
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You can do whatever you want, no one can judge you. You can do it again and might feel bad about yourself and ashamed, or you can let go and have fun. It's your choice.
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i dont think your a slut but maybe you should take it slow if you dont really like this guy. maybe try going out and if you then decide your ready to have sex with him you should but make absolutly sure first
hope this helps
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