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What is cheating? and how can i fix it
i caught my bf having intimate conversations with a web cam girl. He showed her pictures of himself and our pets. he made a note to remember her birthday and wrote love _____
apparently the web cam went two ways.
i find this really creepy and im having a hard time getting over it and trusting him. we have been together 6 yr and are getting married soon.
my question is is this cheating?
will they do it again?
is this a warning sign of things to come?
personaly i feel like this is more of an emotional cheat, but also its grose... and im no prude. I love him alot but i dont understand why he would do this to me. plus he has been turning me down for sex... so im lost
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It sounds like his interests are becoming more adventerous toward other females than sticking with you. You should have a conversation with him and let him know that you don't want to be with someone who isn't completely interested in you, and who doesn't want the commitment you have planned. Just because you've been together 6 years and are about to be married is no excuse to overlook the arising problem. I'm sure they will do it again, and in my eyes and im sure lots of other women, it is a form of being cheated on because he is sharing intimate moments that are meant for you, and you only. It is a warning sign of things to come, because once it starts with internet, it will eventually escalate to the common excuses "working late", "hanging out with friends" "going out", stuff like that. If he's already turning you down for sex, it sounds like he found it somewhere else. After your talk if things don't turn out the way you like it, I suggest you find someone who is interested in only you. You don't want to get stuck in a marriage with a man who will be unfaithful. Best of luck to you
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You really need to reconsider marrying this guy...You cannot trust him... And yes an emotinal affair is the same if not wrost than a physical affair...
You can't not trust him and eventually your marriage will go down hill.. I think you owe your self the chance to really think about this guy...
Marriage doesn't change anything... And if he's doing those things what makes you think marriage will change anything at all.. Yes it is gross that he will engage in such deciteful behavior...
I'm sure you are a beautiful person and you deserve much better than the treatment you're recieving...
````` The best of love to you and always`````````
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If there's any kind of emotional investment or flirting or even chatting extremely often, then I'd consider it cheating. He can't share his heart. If you're getting married, his heart needs to belong to you, not to be shared with another girl, even if its "just chatting and webcam". Talk to him! That can't go on, and you need to have a trusting relationship. Are you having premarital counceling? I bet it could help if you do and bring that sort of thing up.
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You need to talk to him.
It was a betrayal, no matter what else it was.
The only one who can answer your questions about them doing it again, or a warning sign, in your boyfriend and your own gut.
You'll need to sit down and really talk it out with your boyfriend. Ask him the tough questions about his motivations and feelings. Talk about the problems between you and the sex. Nothing else is going to get you any closer to understanding what happened.
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