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Becoming very frustrated and furious
Hi so i work at a daycare/private pre school. I work in the Young Toddlers class and i absolutely love it., except for there is ne problem. The eps teachers (early pre school teachers) One of them is nice but the other three are extremely rude. They talk about me behind my back all the time. Well i use to stare at them all the time because we have windows in our class so you can see what's going on in the other class. So i think a lot of that was the reason, but I've started to stare at them less. I know it's rude to stare at someone, but it's just a really bad habit. Well anyways i am really skinny so that is another reason. And even yesterday at a meeting we had for the new school year i had to sit at their table. And during the meeting my boss was reading to us our school mission statement about how we need to respect everyone, and as soon as she read that i looked up at one of the teachers (julie) and the lead teacher Irene thought i was looking at her and she started telling Ashley the other EPS teacher oh she looked at me when our boss was talking about respect. and they kept staring at me and laughing at me whenever i asked questions.I would look over and they would be laugh at me and i got mad and kept giving them the death stare, and Irene was like oh she's looking at us, and she needs to stop. I am really sick of them. I can't stand them. I know they do it because it really bothers me, but i just can't ignore it. I've always had this problem. I am just not confident. It's so difficult for me to not care what other people think. Everyone keeps telling me to have confidence in myself but i can't. It's impossible because I've been bullied my whole life. I have zero self confidence or self esteem. SO what should i do? Please help
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Here's what u do kill them with kindness that always does the trick . I used to have the same problem years ago where I was parinoid about people talking about me and it woul eat at me to the point where I just wanted to stay to myself but every where I. Go it was always there especaly at work .what I had to do is try to ignore it and don't stare . They will eventualy get bored with talking about you and if you kill them with kindess they won't know what to do its a simmple way of stating that you are not what they think you are and it will turn a new leaf so to say .trust me it works what do you got to loose . Try it you will be suprised what the outcome will be
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It's really hard to work with people you don't get along with, but if you love your job, and love what you're doing, it gets easier. There are two ways you can go about trying to solve your problems without quitting your job. You could A) Confront them and ask them why they are acting like the kids that you care for, instead of acting their age, and tell them to knock it off and do their job. Or B) You can do your best to ignore them to the best of their abilities. honestly, it sounds like their jealous. Most girls are like that, when they're jealous, they try to make that person feel bad about themselves. The one girl has a kid you say? She's probably just jealous that you have the body of someone who hasn't had a kid, and you get to enjoy your job instead of doing it all day long. After all, she does have to continue child care when she gets home. You should write a list of all the good things about yourself, and the things that people like about you, and go through them everytime you start to feel self conscious. It will help you feel better, and help take your mind off of what is actually being said. If all else fails, even though no one likes a tattle tale, their ARE reasons to speaking with your boss. There's no need for you to feel left out or any different than a normal person. Bosses don't handle harrassment very well, and I believe you have a good case to go up to your boss and tell him/her that you feel like you're being the subject of cruel treatment by said co workers and it makes you uncomfortable with your job. She will speak with them and tell you to leave them alone, and if they dont they will suffer the consequences. Just make sure you tell your boss that youve said or done nothing to these girls and try to ignore them to the best of your abilities but they are relentless. Good luck
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