When it comes to relationships I've been through a lot. I used to be so desperate to be in one I'd get myself in the worst situations, but no matter how bad things were I got through them and now I'm in a loving, caring relationship and have been for almost two years.
I like to give honest, blunt advice and I won't write a book for an answer that can be summed up in two lines! I don't care about my rating, so I'll tell you the truth rather than what you want to hear. So if you don't like the harsh reality of what I'm going to tell you don't ask me private questions.
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hey i was wondering how do you masturbate? i dont want any sites i just want to know from your point of view. should i lay down or what? also, when i do masturbate, do i get something called an orgasum? what is that? and does it mean i am sexually active and could get pregnant??
please answer thanks. (link)
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I think it's best to lie down. Often people just finger themselves when they're starting out and expect that to work, but usually it doesn't. When you start feel about, and try differnt things until you find what feels best. Your clitoris is at the very front of your vagina, put two fingers on it, or just above if it's too sensitive and move them in circular motions. You can't get pregnant from masturbating, it's the safest form of sex. An orgasm is like a release of tension that feels really good, you get when sexually aroused, and if you're doing it right you should get one.
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i wear my mother-inlaw & sister-inlaws clean & scented panties.ihave plenty of my own,& my wifes pairs just dont do it. i want to tell them before they find out that i been in their draws &hampers.i dont wnat them to get mad or upset so im trying to find a way to let them know what im doing before they find out,especially my mother-inlaw. (link)
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It's never a good idea to tell someone something like that, this is where the saying "what they don't know can't hurt them" applies. But you need to stop, because wearing, stealing and smelling someones panties without their permission is wrong. Just because you have a fetish for it doesn't mean you are allowed to do it. Leave it as a fantasy. Many people fantasize about things that they should never do like rape and incest but luckily those people have enough self control not to carry out their fantasies.
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There is a condom lodged in my vagina how do I get it out?????? (link)
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Just put your fingers up there and pll it out. If you still can't get it out go to your doctor to get it out, or ask your partner if you aren't going to do that. You should also take the morning after pill incase any sperm have managed to get out.
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My best friend just told a huge secret of mine. Do I have the right to be angry?
The secret wasn't that big of a deal but it kinda meant a lot to me.
Thanks in advanced! (link)
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Yes, I'd be angry too. I wouldn't tell her anything else in the future.
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Okay well a like a month ago, me and my bf had sex, and he didn't wear a condom. he lets call it "let go" no in me but a little lower than my lower stomache. Now see my period was supposed to start today, but it didn't, and i'm sure it'll come soon, but the thing is about 5-6 days after we had sex a month ago, i got my period.
Can i still be pregnant by any chance?
and i'm 14.
thank you. (link)
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It's very unlikely since you already had a period, you're probably just late. To be sure and to put your mind at rest take a home pregnancy test, you can get quite cheap ones which are still effective. In future make sure you use condoms and get yourself on some kind of hormonal birth control if possible.
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ok this is kinda gross but yesterday when i got home from school i had to go to the bathroom really bad and i was kinda constipated.. and then when i wiped there was really little blood..but then when i went to sleep, on my underwear was a lot of brown..so idk if it's my period or what ? it didnt really look like it, idk though
could it of been my period or no?
14/f (link)
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Yeah, it sounds like you've started your period. Get some pads because over the next couple of days it'll get heavier.
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hey. i'm from guam and like there's this guy who likes me and i like him back, so we went out for a few months and then we broke up. because he still had feelings for his old girlfriend who dumped him. is it ok if i can still like him and think about him and still wanna go out with him? (link)
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Yeah, it's only natural that you still have feelings for him.
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I weigh 130 and I have soo many stretch marks. And I've had these huge huge huge patches on my legs since 7th grade but I gained 2 pounds since last year and got 18 more stretch marks on my sides. And its really hard because I'm trying to eat better and exercise and every time I see the stretch marks it makes me unhappy and it makes me want to give up and stop caring and I sit there and cry and cry because its so ugly and it makes me ugly. And its swimsuit season and I cant do this I cant live like this anymore but I have no options and it is really hard I feel so terrible about myself but nobody understands because nobody else I know has my problem and has stretch marks like me. When I look at them I just want to take a knife and cut the stretch marks out of my body. I know this is bad and that something is wrong and I'm not sure what to do about it because I'm too embaressed to tell my mom about my new stretch marks that are really depressing me because it means I failed.
I feel miserable, please help. I'm desperate. (link)
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Your stretch marks are more likely to be because you're growing not because you gained 2lb. you get stretch marks from large amounts of weight gain not a couple of pounds. Most women do get them, but they're more noticable t the person they're on than other people.
In time they'll fade and be hardly noticable. Try using cocoa butter on them for now. It's like a moisturiser than helps get rid of scars and stretch marks. Most people say it doesn't work but a friend of mine had burn scars and it cleared them up completly, those people probably don't commit to using it constantly. Put it on your stretch marks 3 times a day for as long as it takes and don't give up if you don't notice a difference straight away it could take a while.
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Well, there is this guy that I work and go to school with. We'll name him Bob. Anyways, I've liked him for months .. really since I got to know him. &he is a MAJOR flirt .. most girls love him. But, every time I "talk/date" another guy, I always think of Bob and Bob will never talk to me when that guy comes to visit me &if he does talk to me .. it's very brief. Well, I'm not talking to anyone anymore and I told Bob that this guy named Joe said he liked me last Friday. Joe also works with us. So, Bob started giving me kisses on the cheek and stuff all Friday night at work even though Joe left at 9 and Bob and I left a little after 11:30. He stayed, even though he had somewhere to go, because I asked him to leave with me. &Saturday, he kept giving me kisses on the cheek and telling me I was pretty &stuff. Which, btw. I gave him my number the Monday before last and he called me everyday, but Monday. &today, my friend asked him on the phone if he liked me and he told her I was there next to her, but she said I wasn't and he said he didn't like me and proceeded to laugh a little. I don't understand him .. at all. Help! (link)
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Maybe he just said no to your friend on the phone because it's none of her business. He might like you, and that's why he started showing you more when he found out someone else likes you, because men like a challenge. When he found out Joe liked you he had to compete and up his game.
On the other hand he might have been telling the truth that he doesn't like you and only started being affectionate to you when he found out Joe liked you to make Joe jealous. Men do that sometimes, it makes them feel more man about themselves. It's probably the first oen though, you should ask him out to be sure.
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does anybody know a bank available for 14 year olds?
i dont really care about interests, just somewhere to keep my money safe.
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All banks will let you open an account, but you'll have to get your mom 's permission.
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so i've had my boyfriend for about 3 weeks.. and this friday I wanna make-out with him at the movies..But I don't want him to know it's my first time.. I REPEAT, I do NOT want him to know it's my first time.. Can somebody give me a step-by-step on how to make-out? I need every little detail, everything that's most likely going to happen.. don't suggest some french kissing website because i've already been there to them all. (link)
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Kissing isn't really something you can teach someone, it has to come naturally, basically you just move your lips and tongue, go with the flow, follow his lead. It's not as hard as it seems.
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i was just wondering if anyone knew any good websites that sells used razr phones , that are kinda cheep and that wont rip me off?!?! my service provider is dobson cellular and i am not on a contract, i have a prepayed account with the little sim card thing! please anyone?! (link)
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Ebay.com Though if I was you I'd get something better, I have a razr and everyone I know says they're faulty.
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Is there anyway to go in the pool or ocean with out your mascara running? I heard if you put like clear mascara over your normal stuff it would work. I use Big Lash.. i think it's from Maybalene? (link)
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Why don't you get your eyelashes tinted? Basically they dye them black, or whatever colour you want them. It looks really nice and stays like that for up to 6 weeks. It'd dead cheap and they do it at all beauty salons. I get mine done all the time, and it really makes your eyes stand out. Waterproof mascaras never work as good as they should.
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what Are some good songs. I like mostly R&B rap and pop. the reason im asking is mostly because I like to listen to music but also because I am an aspiring artist and it helps to have music to practice dancing or singing to.
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One R&B song I adore is Caught Up by Ja Rule. It's an old one, but it's a good song. Shakira's Don't Bother is really good and dancy too, and anything from Kelly Clarkson is fun to sing along to.
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One night last week I was talking to a friend (that is a guy) and I had liked him for some time. We were talking and I told him I had a boyfriend. He got really angry and was like "I cant talk to you if you have a boyfriend" He told me that he liked me and I told him that I had liked him for a long time. He said that if he had known he would have asked me out along time ago.
I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend 1) because he cheated on me and 2) because I liked the kid i talked about above^^
Now my guy friend never really talks to me. I feel like he probly doesnt like me anymore and im really pissed off because I could see myself being with him for a long time. last night when I was talking to him he said "why would you wana talk to me anyways you have a boyfriend" and I told him that I broke up with him. and he goes "ouh well im out bye"
What should I do? I really like him. Maybe Im not ready for another relationship but I like him alot and I have for a while. Do you think he doesnt like me anymore? HELP!
15/f by the way
sorry it was so long (link)
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I think it's more out of anger that he hardly talks to you, he probably feels hurt and rejected. Tell him how you feel, that you've always liked him and want a relationship with him and see what happens.
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Lately, I cant get my husband in the mood… and I was wondering if there is anyway I can get my husband to get in the mood. What can I do?? What can I say where can I touch.. Its really bothering me.. I'm good-looking but lately he’s just tired and I don’t know how to get him “in the mood” (link)
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Most men do go through phases of not wanting sex, just like women. Try spicing things up, do something that you wouldn't normally do to surprise him, give him a blowjob, I don't know any man that that wouldn't put in the mood!
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hi i am rohit. i have been doing masturbation since 4 years. tell me what are the ill effects of doing this? should i stop doing this? what are the advantages of this too? (link)
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There aren't really any bad effects of masturbation. It's totally normal and most people do it so don't feel like you're doing anything wrong and need to stop. Masturbation is good for relieving stress.
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I have a really long story and I need to tell someone. Basically it's what guy I should pick. I'm not going to bother everyone on here so if you just want to give me your AIM screenname that would be nice and I'll IM you (link)
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I don't give my IM details out on here but if you really need help feel free to send me your problem to this inbox... http://www.advicenators.com/question.php?u=136
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I said I would buy it, take care of it, and defend it from our cat! What else do I say (link)
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Instead of talking about doing it, because no matter when you say it doesn't mean you'll actually do it, try to show them that you'll do it. If your friend has a pet like that maybe you could borrow it to take care of for a week, or save up your money so they see how much you really want one.
Though honestly I think it would be better if you didn't get one, no matter how hard you try to protect it from your cat your cat'll do anything it can to get to it and you can't be there 24/7. So it's pretty irrisponsible to get a pet like that when you have a cat.
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I have been with my boyfriend for bout 9 days and he already seems serious. not in a sex way like he is already talking about the future (like kids, marriage, and life altogether) thats not bad I guess if I was older but the truth is I'm only a 15 yr old freshman and he's a 17 yr old junior. so should I be glad he's planning ahead and wants to be with me or should I worry.
please help
wanna love (link)
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Neither. I suppose it's good because it shows that he really likes you and he's not just using you for sex. But he's moving too fast and obviously you're not comfortable. Tell him that you feel this way, you need communication in a relationship for it to work. It's nothing to worry about though, it's not like he's actually applying for houses and things, as long as it's just talk I wouldn't worry too much.
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