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Does he like me .. does he not?
Well, there is this guy that I work and go to school with. We'll name him Bob. Anyways, I've liked him for months .. really since I got to know him. &he is a MAJOR flirt .. most girls love him. But, every time I "talk/date" another guy, I always think of Bob and Bob will never talk to me when that guy comes to visit me &if he does talk to me .. it's very brief. Well, I'm not talking to anyone anymore and I told Bob that this guy named Joe said he liked me last Friday. Joe also works with us. So, Bob started giving me kisses on the cheek and stuff all Friday night at work even though Joe left at 9 and Bob and I left a little after 11:30. He stayed, even though he had somewhere to go, because I asked him to leave with me. &Saturday, he kept giving me kisses on the cheek and telling me I was pretty &stuff. Which, btw. I gave him my number the Monday before last and he called me everyday, but Monday. &today, my friend asked him on the phone if he liked me and he told her I was there next to her, but she said I wasn't and he said he didn't like me and proceeded to laugh a little. I don't understand him .. at all. Help!
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It sounds as though he does like you but, let's face it. If you were him, would you have admitted your feelings to his friend while he was sat next to him? He was probably REALLY intimidated. Not to mention he probably would like to tell YOU how he feels about you and not your friend.
Try talking to him about this. Apologise for getting your friend to call and tell him you were just scared to tell him you liked him because of how he might react. See what he says to this. I think you'll find his reaction favourable.
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Maybe he just said no to your friend on the phone because it's none of her business. He might like you, and that's why he started showing you more when he found out someone else likes you, because men like a challenge. When he found out Joe liked you he had to compete and up his game.
On the other hand he might have been telling the truth that he doesn't like you and only started being affectionate to you when he found out Joe liked you to make Joe jealous. Men do that sometimes, it makes them feel more man about themselves. It's probably the first oen though, you should ask him out to be sure.
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This might not be what you wanted to hear, but I am going to give you my most honest answer based on personal experience.
Do not date Bob! He is a major flirt now, and that will not change if/when you two are dating. For a while, if you take my advice and abandon your pursuit of Bob, he will constantly be on your mind. You will probably find yourself comparing other guys to him, and you will want to go back and flirt with him. Please, please, PLEASE don't! Not all guys are like this, but those guys that are, aren't worth your time - because once dating them, you will find that they don't think that you are worth their's either, unless you want to make out. Bob is a one night stand that lasts for a week, but will always disappear at the faintest hint of any committment of any kind. He does not like you for you. He likes you for what he thinks he will be able to get from you with a little manipulation. My advice in summary: Kick him in the shins and RUN!
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