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My best friend just told a huge secret of mine. Do I have the right to be angry?
The secret wasn't that big of a deal but it kinda meant a lot to me.
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well i dissagree with what everyone elce says. although you trusted them with a secret, it was you who really told them not the other way around. you really wanted someone to confind in but you didnt know who to go to so going to your best friend is a good person. but we are still all humans, we are flawed and cant be perfect. we wish we could but sometimes things slip out. try going in his/her shoes. if that was the other way around would you want your best friend mad forever at you if you accadently sliped a secret that didnt seem like a BIG deal at the time/to you?
my overall answer is you should tell the person how you feel about them spilling your secrets. dont hurt a friendship over a silly secret.
hope this helps,
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Of course you have the right to be mad at her.
You trusted her with your secret and she went ahead and told someone. That's basically losing the person's trust and being betrayed.
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Yes you do have a right to be mad b/c you did tell him/her to not tell right??.......
even though friends are there to tell stuff to but they should keep it and not tell any 1 even if its lil or not!
soooo my answer is YES!
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Yes, I'd be angry too. I wouldn't tell her anything else in the future.
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yah you do have the right to be mad especially if you said dont tell anyone.. even if it wasnt that big of a deal, it meant alot to you and she shouldnt have told anyone..
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Yes, you have every right to be angry. She broke her promise & lied to you. That's rude, dis respectful, and downright wrong. But don't lose a friendship because of it. Just sit her down & tell her how you feel. If you don't feel uncomfortable telling her secrets anymore, then keep your secrets to yourself or tell them to someone else. I'm sure she didn't mean to tell the secret, because I'm sure we can ALL admit that once in our lifes, we've told a secret that we swore we wouldn't tell. Some people have a harder time keeping things a secret than others, so my best advice is to not tell her things anymore. Did she tell the secret to hurt you? Because if she did, than I would say she's a really bad friend & you might not wanna hang around with her as much. But if she just kinda "slipped out" the secret, then let her know you are angry with her bad judgement. Good luck.
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You do have every right to be angry but try to keep it proportional to the secret that was told.
I understand what you are saying. It's not so much the secret but the principal of what happened. The fact is that she betrayed your trust and if she was prepared to do it over something to small, would she do it with something big?
You need to talk to her about this. No shouting or screaming but just a discussion. Tell her that she betrayed your trust and that you no longer feel you can trust her to keep any secrets because you just don't know who she will tell. She will probably apologise and promise never to do it again. Whether or not you decide to trust her with secrets in the future is entirely down to you but I will say this. In my experience, people who tell secrets once will do it again and the bigger the secret, the more they are likely to tell because they cannot resist the delicious urge to gossip. You can test this simply by making up a secret which will not reflect badly on you in any way and tell it to her. Then find out if she tells someone else. After this, you will know whether you really can trust her in the future.
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yes, you absolutley do have a right to be angry. if you tell someone something and say that its a secret and not to be told to anyone, then they shouldnt tell anyone no matter what the secret is!!! tell her that that you trusted her and now your trust is lost and she will have to gain it back, if thats how you feel. hope i helped good luck
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1.It doesn't matter what the reason for someone to tell another. The fact of it is, it was between the two of you. Confidentiality is a trust that shouldn't be broken. It’s hard to get the trust back once its gone. 2. On the other hand, remember if you don't want others to know then keep it to yourself.
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yes i would be to
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Of course you have the right to be angry!
It doesn't matter how big the secret was, the fact that your friend betrayed your trust is enough.
Let her know that you are angry with her and that you thought you could trust her. Hopefully she will apologise and won't do it again, but if she fails to see the problem then I'd be a lot more careful about what you tell her in future.
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