Heyy!!! Dr. Rachel in the house ;) well i'm notta Dr. yet!! I'm good helping with life issues. When I'm older I'm going to become a psycologist, and might as well get started. I love helping people out, and I know it's easier to tell someone something, than to actually do it themselves. So I try to say what I would do in a situation. Sometimes there are problems that no one knows how to solve, hopefully, I'll be able to help you!
Wondering about my username? PSYCOlogy, get it? and SKITZ stands to SKITtles, I just added a Z, they call me skittles, cuz i'm irresistibly sweet!!! :)
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okay, i screwed up my last question because english is my second language, so here we go again. i'm a skinny person and i don't really like food in general, but i really like veggies, fruits and all sorts of other healthy food. since i've been fasting for the last few weeks (i'm russian orthodox, that's what we do before easter), i thought about it, and realized that since i don't really suffer without meat, maybe i should become a vegetarian because i don't want to kill animals. maybe it won't really make that big of a difference and only clear my conscience, but then, as we say in russian, raindrops sharpen rocks (as in little things can make a difference). so, here's my question: how do i stay healthy and get all my vitamins? where can i get that information? and most of all, is it hard for a vegetarian to gain weight? because i was really hoping to gain my freshman 15 next year, i seriously need it. please don't answer unless you know what you're saying. (link)
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you can get protein powder, and mix it into a blender with fruits etc. and so you can get protein that beef and eggs usually give you. You can basically take health pills and vitamins. I hate killing animals, it's SO sad, I wish we wouldn't kill them. It's so sad, I saw a behind-the-scenes thing of slaughter houses, and IT WAS HORRIBLE. it looked like the chainsaw massacre *cry* I couldn't watch a minute of it, looking into those poor chickens and cows eyes...that was just a terrible sight, like they knew what was going to happen. Watching their family and friends die first...i'm a vegan. good luck hun, good decision :)
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Does suicide send you to hell? someone told me it did but i'm not sure. (link)
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no it doesn't. hell does not exist. But suicide, is kinda selfish, no matter how bad you feel about things...i talk out of experience...
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Hey im getting into alot of fights with my really good friend on the internet and 1 day my mom read our confersation and now she never aloud over at my house again and at school we hang out alot and we havent got in a fight yet and i realyy want to ask my mom if she could come over but im to scared shell yell at me!! what should i do?? (link)
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That is tough. Give your mom some space for a bit. She probably doesn't want her "poor baby" hurt. And she didn't like what she heard on the IM, and doesn't want you hearing that yet :) that's kinda how mom's are. One day, make sure she's in a good mood, if she isn't, she will probably yell at you. Tell her if you can have a friend over, when she asks who, tell her. And then say, That was her on the conversation, that was a girl at our school pretending to be her. Or make up somethign along the lines of that :) It's a white lie, but you can't be sentenced to not having your friend over!!!
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My friend is hanging out with the wrong people. and hes trying to get me to go out with him and do it too. hes been sneaking out late at night, hes gonna ditch school too hes been asking me to do all this stuff and well im sick of telling him NO!. he is a REALLY!!!!!!!!!! good friend but he wont listen to me im also worred that he might start doing drungs since thats the people he hangs out with (link)
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That's a huge problem right there. I ditched a week of school with a friend once, and that got ME NOWHERE but trouble..let your friend know you don't like what he's doing...next time he asks you to do something, say NO, and say, "why do you want to drag me down with you? I thought we were friends" that will make him concerned that he's losing his friend, hope that helps shannon...let steven know how you feel :)
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Hey! I got my teacher this awesome gift for the end of the year, and I want to make it from the whole class. I spent $25 on it, and I want everyone in te class to pay $1 to 'chip in'. Our teacher is rarely absent, and she never leaves the room. how can I distract her in order to get the $$$? (link)
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Get another teacher, to call her into her room. Teacher's love seeing students do good for their teachers. But in the gift, include the teacher you got to help you get her outta the room!!! It's niced to feel acknowledged. Once that teacher gets your teacher out of the room, you discuss really fast, then you can work it out from there :) hope that helps!
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My mom tells me I'm fat. A lot. She's constantly telling me I need to lose weight, and though she tries to do it in a gentle way it still hurts. And it's not that she's telling me I'm fat and I'm not. I really am fat, but I have a tendency to be stubborn, so when she nags me to do things I never want to do them. And half of me wants to be skinny, and half of me doesn't, so I end up getting lost in the middle, getting stressed, eating more, and having my mom tell me I've gained weight. Thanks mom. But I don't know what to do. She thinks it's for my own good that she's telling me this, even though I've told her countless times that I KNOW it's not something I need to be reminded about. And she has her own weight issues that she should worry about. She's a lot heavier than I am and at more of a risk of health problems than I am. Not that I'm comparing myself to her, I just wish she'd focus on herself instead of me.
Is there any way you can think of that I can ignore her nagging or get her to focus on herself instead of me? (Or both????) (link)
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Meh...she's just looking out for you, my mom does the SAME thing...she nags me to keep my GPA at a 4.0, and she nags me to lose weight as well. But she just wants me to be the best.
You're her son, she wants to be proud of you!! She is already proud of you, but mom's all like little two year olds, with a power ranger action figure! They just love showing them off, they'll take their action figure to the movie and just show random people on the street. But once an arm pops off, they feel they must perfect it *stepford wives moment* So, acknowledge her, or pretend to at least, and then pretend or maybe TRY to show an effort...and then she'll be happy, that she knows you're trying, and that's important to her!
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I'm currently friends with a 24 year old (man)that smells very bad.I'm not sure how to tell him that he stinks. Him and his mother both smell actually but he is unbearable. He is kinda of an outcast in our town because everyone has smelt him at one time or another which he does not have many friends. He is a really good guy but he constantly smells of cigarette smoke, body Odor, he also is always covered in dog hair. They never open the windows or curtains in the house so it makes the stench just linger. Im also not sure if he washes his clothes or his body on a regular basis. He is very tempermental and i think he will get mad and take it the worng way when i let him know he smells. So my question is how do I tell him he smells without hurting him to bad.
fed up friend (link)
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Tell him. In the end, it'll help him more than it helped you!!! Come'on give your nose a break! I had to sit next to a kid with BO and he constantly stretched his arms wide out and yawned with his MORNING BREATH....it was SO gross. I told him and now he doesn't reek...as much! good luck!!! ::gives get well card to your nose:: if you don't tell him soon, it may never end!
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my best friend is really depressed. she just seems.....lifeless. she is the skinniest person i ever met and i think shes anorexic. i dont know why shes so sad, shes got every thing i want EVERYTHING!!!!! she has a boyfriend who loves her, a dad who is always nice to her, the best body ever, she can run fast. im really worried about her she has an icon of a gothic person an her xanga says dont judge me get to know me first on her banner. she used to cut herself, like 20 times a day. she my best friend in the world and she didnt tell me about that, i had to ask my other friend who she doesnt even like very much.i tell her everything! she told her and not me! i dont know what to do, its causing me to want to die, i cant tell an adult cuz shed hate me. please please please please help. id die without her and if i didnt die from sadness id kill myself. HELP!!! (link)
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Telling an adult is A VERY hard thing to do, especially when you're dealing with best friends. It's always good to tell an adult though. Before you do anything, contact your friend and go to her IN PERSON. So you can get up in her face ;) make sure her family isn't around so you can talk in private. Ask her about it, but don't just say "WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS!!!" start out regularly, then bring up something where you got sad that day, and maybe she'll open up...if not, just say..."you look sad lately, what's the matter?" I did that with a friend of mine, and she told me, because in a way, she knew I already found out...good luck hun...now go on, and save your friend ;)
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i have this friend and she's like my best friend here at this school i just moved to, and like she knows everything about me and what not. but like recently i've noticed that she's been copying me, like everything and it's really annoying. i mean she's super nice but also shy so i don't know how to tell her this. like my handwriting is my handwriting like it's your thing and i like my handwriting it's actually nice but i've noticed that she started copying the way i write like my n's and h's and t's! like it really bugs me! she also copies the way i hold my hands while walking and she's starting to say things like i do!i always say holy crap like as an expression and she says it too! Like before i came here she seemed to have friends but like when i became friends with her she seemed to be attached to me and i'm like the "leader" of the two of us! isn't she the one who's supposed to show me around and tell me stuff...not me? i made new friends and like i have a lot more in common with them then the ones before that i ate lunch with, with my bff, but when i went to eat lunch with my new friends she wanted to follow, like i didn't want to say no but i didn't want her to come, i know that may seem mean but like the two groups don't mix, but she came and she started comming everday so then everyday up to this day we eat lunch with my new friends but everyday she seems depressed when we eat lunch with them. she's very insecure it seems and it seems like no one really treated her as a real like member of her group before i came, like she even told me that i was the one she was the closest to in all of that table, but i'm like didn't she hang out with them for like five years...shouldn't she be good friends with at least one of them? in the beginning of the year i remember someone mentioning that she was copying them before i came. so how do i tell her that i need some space. or do i even tell her? i mentioned to my new friends that i wanted to hang out with them but being with my bff hasn't let me...sorry this was extremely long. (i have never been the "leader" of a group, we were always all equal and just had fun, and we mostly weren't shy between ourselves! AND i've noticed that i've started to become like her more and it's not the good things, the way i walk like she walks really fast because she's insecure/shy and seems like shes in a hurry all the time and i've started to do that too!) how would i deal with this situation? (link)
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Tell her how you feel, and if you see her sadden, continue with what you were going to say. Because if you stop, it'll never end! YESH, it is SUPER cool to have a minion, but if it bugs you, I know how you feel. I had a friend for 2 years, and I had to deal with 2 years of her copying my handwriting (coincedence, your friend is just like mine was), and like, she copied my work, she tried to act random like i do...and it bugged me SO much!!! Are you gonna wait until 2 years pass? End it now. If she truly bugs you, don't hesitate, or you'll regret it later...Good luck hun, hope everything works out!!!
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Hey, it's Leyna again. Ok, here's my question. I have a crush on this one guy at school, and I found his AIM sn on his MySpace. I'm too afraid to talk to him though. What should I do? (link)
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That's difficult. You shouldn't do something you're not comfortable with. If it's meant to be, and if you truly like him, it'll all work out.
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We recentley got rid of my beloved pet, Mac. He was a yellow lab, 6months old and like 154 pounds. i loved hime so much and whenever i think about him or ee pics of him i start to cry. How can i get over this? (link)
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Losing a pet is sad, but realize that there will be more opportunities for pets. My 3 adult cats (two had kittens to take care of) got a hold of a dead bat...with rabies...and then they gave it to the kittens, so we had to put all 3 and 15 kittens (there were two litters, one each for two cats) to sleep. I cried for days and days. So getting rid of him, you'll know, that somebody will be taking care of him. Whereas, God is taking care of my cats now. So I'm not so sad anymore...
Remembering the good times, can make you cry, maybe one day later on, you'll get another dog just like him!!! and yes, you may even named him "Mac Jr." ;) that name sounds pretty suave =D haha, good luck with that hun
xoxo
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okay i have a friend in argentina and her mom and dad got devorsed the other day and her and her mom and to move in to someone else's house becuase the dad is like going to jail becuase he is a really really really bad person!!! My friend is always sending me e-mail and seems really sad!!! How can i mak eher feel better i fell bad for her!!!!! I mean she does not have very many friends either and a lot of peole make fun of her!!!! How can i help her feel better at least a little better? THank you in advance!!! I rate high!!!!! :) (link)
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The best thing to do is, don't get involved!!! Leave it be, and never talk about the subject, and don't let her talk about it either. There's not much you can do from your computer screen, and on emails, you can't really see how someone is feeling! so send her smiley faces :) and always talking about happy things. Don't pity her, there are probably some good things going for her!
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Why is it that the self-proclaimed "popular" people think that they are better than everyone else? What makes THEM so special? (link)
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Hey leyna (she's in 8th grade).
Yea, it's just one of those things you have to live through. They aren't really POPULAR, they just make themselves known by meeting the right people. Just do your best in school, because in highschool, there are no popular groups. Highschool is so big, there's somebody for everybody :)
They think they're special because everyone knows them, although, to some people, popular kids are annoying. Some girls try to be popular, because they feel left out. Leyna, like Amanda, how she keeps trying to get popular, and they only use her for money!
Stay with your friends, they won't ever leave you...plus, I don't think you could get away from one of Kayla's bear hugs ;) haha
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ok i know im really skinny, but i cant help it! i eat like a fucking dinosour and i still weigh only 70 pounds at 13! i was wasndering if there is ANYTHING for me to get guys to like me. i think that im to skinny and thats why guys dont like me, but i do like guys and not a single one is interested in me! i think im pretty all but my weight, i have white strieght teeth, blonde hair, no pimples and i have big green eyes, but what the hell is with my weight? i mean is that why guys show no interest?!?! please help me. people who give me nice answers i rate 5s! (link)
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haha, I have friends like that. You're skinny, so take that to your advantage!! To get a guys attention, wear cute clothes, that show your legs off!!! And cute lil shirts ;) That will help!!! Don't forget though, this leads off to somewhere else, but, if you eat to much, when you get older, you metabolism won't be so fast, and you'll gain all that weight, so be careful ;) AND GOOD LUCK HON!!!
xoxo
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Ok...ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks and i love him with all my heart. Im only 14 but i know what love is. My mom said i cant see him that much. He lives about 30 min. away from me so i want to see him as much as possible. I walked out on her a few minutes ago and i dont intend to go home tonight. I dont really know what to do because she thinks im to young to be in love and i cant get her to understand that i really do love him. What should i do?? (link)
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Your mom is just looking out for you. Right now, you see yourself with him, can you see yourself with him forever? Most of the time...parents know what's best...especially mom's, because they too, were in love! She just doesn't want her little girl growing up so fast!
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how old do you need to be to be a babysitter?
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it's different for everybody. Whenever you feel you're mature enough to handle another life ;)
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I have very curly hair. Not like super tight curls but its verry curly, puffy, and frizzy. What can I do to help keep the frizz down? (link)
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I have curly hair as well, yea, my curls are really wavy, like yours, they aren't tight. Straighten your hair, works for me!!!
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I'm 15. I met my boyfriend (alias Jake) through a really close guyfriend of mine that is also good friends with him. They live 2 hrs. away; he can drive, I can't, I see him twice a month on average. I love Jake dearly, I have for the past 5 (give or take) months, but sometimes I feel as if he doesn't think I love him as much as he does me. It's like he really and truly thinks I'm too good for him, which is totally untrue (I'm not-I actually cheated on him a couple of months ago;I didn't mean anything by it, but I was really bad for doing it). Jake's the kind of kid that will let me win all little arguments before they turn into fights because he loves me too much to make me unhappy. I am crazy about Jake, and I need advice on how to let him know and believe it! He's probably tired of all the lyrics I send him, his are much better. I'm going to see him this weekend in a play. PLEASE give me some ideas! (link)
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Showing up to the play will mean a lot to him. There's no certain advice to say. Cheating on your boyfriend, while they really love you, isn't a good thing to do. Just think of all the times he's come down to visit you!!! Jake sounds genuine. Just treat him with respect, and hopefully things will work out!!! have fun at the playyy!!!
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ok, so i imed this guy i liked 2 days ago, and he was talking a lot and asking me stuff..and he usually never does this so i was excited. And i wanted to ask him to this dance for friday..my friend talked to him at lunch and asked him if he wud say yes if i aksed him and she sed that he sed "prolly yes", and that he seemed enthusiastic about it. So then today, i imed him and he didnt say word...and then put an away up.. Should i not ask him, and do you think that he doesnt like me? Thanks. (link)
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Why he didn't answer, could be a result of many things. But don't let your mind drift to far!
Have you ever gotten IMed while you left for a second, and when you get back to your computer, you see all these IMs on your computer screen? That could be one explanation...
The sad but true, maybe he didn't answer because he didn't want to give you the wrong ideas, which is why he said "probably yes"
OR he's nervous you won't like him.
I'd go ahead and ask him!!!
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ok so i have this friend and she's mexican and obviously she's not white. i'm persian but i dont look persian at all...i look white b/c i basically am. she's acting all getto all the time and its hard to deal with sometimes like she is acting all like that and i'm stuck being white. how do i deal with this? (link)
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you aren't stuck being "white." You can act however you choose, whatever suits your personality. If you'd like to act like her, but feel awkward when you do, then maybe mentally you're "stuck being white." I come from a middle eastern side as well, my dad is from Jordan, my mom is American, so I too, look white as well. My advice, don't worry about it, if she's your friend, she won't mind you acting "white" ;)
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