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My mom tells me I'm fat. A lot. She's constantly telling me I need to lose weight, and though she tries to do it in a gentle way it still hurts. And it's not that she's telling me I'm fat and I'm not. I really am fat, but I have a tendency to be stubborn, so when she nags me to do things I never want to do them. And half of me wants to be skinny, and half of me doesn't, so I end up getting lost in the middle, getting stressed, eating more, and having my mom tell me I've gained weight. Thanks mom. But I don't know what to do. She thinks it's for my own good that she's telling me this, even though I've told her countless times that I KNOW it's not something I need to be reminded about. And she has her own weight issues that she should worry about. She's a lot heavier than I am and at more of a risk of health problems than I am. Not that I'm comparing myself to her, I just wish she'd focus on herself instead of me.
Is there any way you can think of that I can ignore her nagging or get her to focus on herself instead of me? (Or both????)
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When she tells you that you are fat tell her something negative about her that she could work on. She just cares about you, being overweight can be dangerous to your health. Make an effort to try to lose weight and she will stop nagging if she sees you making an effort. Good luck hunnie!
Hey, you should start talking to him casually about like the good times, you have. Bring the remember when's up. Ask him if you still want to be atleast friends since he has a girlfriend. You can tell him you like him if you want, I wouldn't the first time you are talking to him again though!
-Brianna
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Alright, well insulting her of course is not a answer to clear that, but not insulting you because a lot of people are, but you could try to run and make things fun for excersicing. In the long run it really helps, and you will not feel the pain in the long run, but you will be glad you did when you walk around knowing you are nice and lean. Sorry if i didnt help, but i hope i did
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I'm not sure what to say, since i'm too skinny, but I would suggest that you tell your mom how angry you get when she says that, and when she says this, just try to block it out and ignore it. But your mom is trying to help, so i would suggest just eating a little healthier. There are a lot of really yummy, healthy foods. Celery is great. Then your mom will see that you are putting in an effort to lose some weight, and hopefully lay off the insults.!
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Meh...she's just looking out for you, my mom does the SAME thing...she nags me to keep my GPA at a 4.0, and she nags me to lose weight as well. But she just wants me to be the best.
You're her son, she wants to be proud of you!! She is already proud of you, but mom's all like little two year olds, with a power ranger action figure! They just love showing them off, they'll take their action figure to the movie and just show random people on the street. But once an arm pops off, they feel they must perfect it *stepford wives moment* So, acknowledge her, or pretend to at least, and then pretend or maybe TRY to show an effort...and then she'll be happy, that she knows you're trying, and that's important to her!
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There is no way to ignore your mothers constant nagging. The only thing that you can do is sit down with her and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Let her know how her negative perception of you, and her deragotory words towards you hurts your feelings. Let her know that you don't have to be reminded constantly of your weright or hwo much you have gained.
It sounds as if your mother is concerned about your weight being a negative health issue for you in the future, and she doesn't know of any other way to express her concern for your health other then to nag. Since you said that your mother has her own weight issues, then maybe you and her can turn two negatives into a positive. Ask her how she feels about the two of you tackling ya'lls health issues together. Maybe you and her can join a gym together, and make it a mother-daughter night twice a week. You and her can also purchase healthy eating cookbooks, and start eating right also.
Your mother sounds like she means well, she just doesn't know how to express herself better. Communicate with her and try to understand where she is coming from.
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strave your self and when she asks why say u fuckin made me saying i was fat when your the one that needs to lose the damn weight
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My mum does exactly the same thing. I think you should talk to her about how what she says damages your self esteem. Tell her that you don't like it when she tells you that you're getting fat, because it makes the problem worse. Try not to get upset while you talk about it because that won't help.
I definitely agree with the other answer because if you both did something together about your weight you focus on yourselves.
Don't IGNORE her nagging - talking about it with her will hopefully make her stop.
Vic
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Do you by any chance have a Y near you? Maybe you two can get a membership. That way you're both worrying about each other and yourselves, and your getting the excercise and stuff that you need. That's what me and my mom do. It's kind of our mother/daughter thing. We go to the Y every morning, or every other morning. And if I want to go with my friends I'll go in the afternoon or at night. It gets you in shape, and it's fun.
Sorry if this isn't really answering your question, but I hope it helps.
<3, Kate
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