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Smelly Friend
I'm currently friends with a 24 year old (man)that smells very bad.I'm not sure how to tell him that he stinks. Him and his mother both smell actually but he is unbearable. He is kinda of an outcast in our town because everyone has smelt him at one time or another which he does not have many friends. He is a really good guy but he constantly smells of cigarette smoke, body Odor, he also is always covered in dog hair. They never open the windows or curtains in the house so it makes the stench just linger. Im also not sure if he washes his clothes or his body on a regular basis. He is very tempermental and i think he will get mad and take it the worng way when i let him know he smells. So my question is how do I tell him he smells without hurting him to bad.
fed up friend
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Tell him. In the end, it'll help him more than it helped you!!! Come'on give your nose a break! I had to sit next to a kid with BO and he constantly stretched his arms wide out and yawned with his MORNING BREATH....it was SO gross. I told him and now he doesn't reek...as much! good luck!!! ::gives get well card to your nose:: if you don't tell him soon, it may never end!
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Is he mental or something? You know retarded? People dont friend them either.
NE Ways. You cant tell someone they smell bad without hurting their feelings. By now, hes probably already heard that too, he just doesnt care.
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I know that you don't want to hurt his feelings, but he has to hear the truth. First, I'd try maybe making a little mini gift basket with all little treats [inexpensive] and maybe a bar of soap or give him a nice cologne as a little gift. Don't make a major deal about it. Wait a day, and say "Did you not like the cologne I gave you? I'm offended!" JOKINGLY. See what he says then. If he doesn't get the hint by that, sit with him and tell him the truth. He might get mad, but he will thank you one day, because it's better than him being embarrassed for more days/months/years to come. Hope I've Helped, and if you need anything else, just message me! ♥
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oh man, I really feel for you! When I worked in a Dr's office we had this whole family that was like that.You really couldn't stand to be in small exam rooms with them and the place would have to be sprayed down when they left....horrible!
I don't know if there is a way to tell him without hurting him.The thing is, even if you get him to clean up his act he will still smell just from being in that house.Is there anyone else who can help you out here? Maybe figure out a way to just clean the place up and air it out?
Maybe you could get him to help you... as a surprise for mom or something.You have to talk to him. I'd bet that he already know's why people don't like him because he's probably been teased about it his whole life.Maybe he just doesn't have a clue where to start. Be sure you tell him up front that hurting him is the last thing you are trying to do. I sure wish you good luck>:)
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i know you dont want to hurt this persons feelings but if you tell him he may have an easier life..like he may get more friends..but if thats too hard for you tell him you got this knew colon and all the girls love it..and then he may want to wear it.
whatever you do dont avoid him..if your his only friend.
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dear fed up
heres my advice get him some really good smelling cologne and douce him in it but not to the point to where he smells even more just say you can have it but you must wear it everyday cuz it smells so good on you and it'll help attract the ladies im sure that will help him this way you can be a freind without being mean to him i hope this helps you
sincerly,
drka452
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Well it's obvious that he didn't learn grooming skills from his mother. If you are a good friend, it is best to just be honest. Wouldn't you want to be clued in if you smelled? Think about how you would want someone to tell you, and take that route.
I'd say: "Because I am your friend I want to be honest with you. Do you realise that you kind of smell. I am not trying to be mean, I just thought you should be aware."
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