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My names Jenny and I'm a 16 year old girl, oviously. I'll help you with anything you ask, so ask away. But if your gonna ask a dumb question, you'll get a dumb answer. And try not to start shit. This site is for helping people, not a way to bitch at people beacause your board and have nothing better to do. I know most about sex ;), Buddy4u Profiles, Xanga's, Html, Mental help..Like cutting, depression, and suicide, and love life. I will try as hard as I can to help you, and give you my honest awnser, weather it may upset you or not.

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is it normal to have little alive white worms in your ass?? im not trying to be sick but i have worms like little tiny white worms, that live in my ass. they make it itch and feel irritable. not to gross anyone out
-silvia

Sounds yummy. ..You should really go see a docter or something. I wouldn't take a chance in trying to get rid of them by yourself. They could come back, or it might just not work. Since their alive they'll probably keep coming back. Even tho its emmbarssing many people probably have had this. gl. bye

Okay maybe i'm just over-reacting, but, me and my boyfriend have just recently become sexually active, and we had sex the first time without a condom, i know i know bad decisio, but it wasn't hardcore sex.. it was a put it in take it out kind of thing. Like an experiment. But non-the-less, it wasn't protected. But we've had sex about 3 or 4 times since then, in the last 3 months. I had my period after the first time we had sex, and I know for a fact none of the other condoms have broke. But, for some reason, I haven't had my period in over a month, going on two! I've taken two pregnancy tests and they both said i wasn't pregnant, but i just cant' shake this feeling that I am!! Why haven't I had my period!? I know this is long, but I really need advice. Please help!

I would take a test 1 week after the last time you last tried. If it still comes up negitive you should be safe, and just wait until the next time your period is supposed to start. If it still doesnt then I would probably ask an adult or somone about that. And if you just recently started getting your period sometimes it stops for a few months. Good luck, bye.

lol, ok this is really weird but i need a word that rhimes with wish, and i'm having a mental block, lol! i said that this was random! please help me!!!! lol! thanks bunches!

Fish whoa mental block here too..Um fish?

Okay I have a question about deleting cookies on your computer. I was wondering what exactly does it do when you delete cookies. I delete my history all the time, but what does it mean to delete your cookies? I saw a question where the answer was to delelte cookies, so it just made me curious. I know how to delete cookies, I never have because I never knew what it did. So what exactly is 'deleting cookies'?

Cookies are these things on your computer that track what you do on the internet and computer. The advertizments or pop ups are cookies. So by deleting cookies, you'll have less pop ups.

Hello. :)
14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :)

No, I dont think it's wrong at all. Kids at 12 do that..whitch is sick. But at 14 it's not wrong at all.

I have been having theese problems I mean every thing schoolparents boys and I have been cutting myself for about a year and it is really bothering me at school I will go to the bathroom and just carve a knife into my leg and I want to stop but I jsut cant I tried to but I couldnt plz help me

Hey, Ik how you feel. But the best thing you can do is talk to someone about it. There might be reason's why your cutting, maybye you could be depressed. Idk, but deffinataly talk to a theripist or a counlser at your school. And try to get your mind of cutting. Do other things that you like doing to take your mind off of it. I know it's hard but you'll get through it! Good luck. Jenna

Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help

Being popular isn't everything. This guy could be really cool even thought he might be shy. He must of had a lot of guts to write you that. And if the guys cute, I dont see why it matters that hes shy. Sorry..but your friends wrong for laughing..that's mean. But okay, if you really don't want to go out with him I would call him on the phone. If you write a note people could read it and if you do it in school people will see and even if you take him somwhere else they'll probably get the wrong idea about that. So call him on the phone. Try to be nice..lol and don't laugh. Say your really sorry but you have a bf. Simple as that. ..Bye

hi again, thank you all so much, your answers and advice all helps but im still hurt. I cant believe i made such a fool of myself in moving too fast. i guess there is still a feeling for him, but its more hurt now thats filling my mind up more.

update on the whole issue. well, i contacted him after i wrote this question

see we were to go to dinner tonight, being friday night, so i was going to call to cancel, cos i wasnt up to it

i called and he answered

arrr. i mean just to here his voice sent shivers down and up my spine. it made me so nervous. anyway, i called and asked him if he was ok to talk to right now. and he said not really he is going out with his room-mate because she is leaving earlier that monday, so i am off to say goodbye.

i said, so where do i stand now, and he paused for so long, and i said what

he said nothing and then said, i dont know

so when can i see you, to talk. to try to clean slate my speediness in moving to fast with you,

and he said

well, hmmmm, well um, we can talk on monday. im off work.

so i was like, is this another one of his tricks, because when i go over there, again, i will have to try and contain my emotions, and feeling, and it may be hard. but im still confused on the whole issue. can i paste what he wrote to me yesterday night before i poored my heart out with hurt and sadness. i dont know why i did so, but unfortunatly i did, and i feel like a complete idiot. anyway, on monday night, this coming. i was invited to see TINA ARENA in concert. its 2nd row seats, and he will be there with his friend. well i went to visit his friend today, and i told him that i feel this way for him, and i feel like shit now and he wont return my calls.

well you have to give it time, he is just freaked by how fast you moved.

i was like, but he sent me those mixed messages

and his friend said, yes but you did move faster than normal people would do, i mean, if you want me to be honest, how do you know he is the guy for you, and i was like well, i dont, but i feel a feeling for him, and i just acted on it. may be the wrong way, but i cant change the way i do things or who i am.

his friend said to me 'do you want me to try and hint you toward him a little more, and see where it takes you, and i was speechless. i dont know i said. but he also said that i should take a few days off, dont call him. and just wait to hear from him.

i am seriously well, still have feelings for this guy, i dont know why, cos im hurt but i still cant help not knowing where i honestly stand with him.

by the way, my emotional outburst the night before was only caused by this comment

i messaged him on the dating website and said hi. this is what he wrote back.

Ummm yeah interesting profile....... I know that ive sent this profile a message before and never received anything back.
Anyway this isnt going to happen, friends is cool, but im 21 and still interested in enjoying myself, and no thats not saying i want to fuck around its saying that i am happy with how i am at the moment, and mabey you need someone who is also inexperienced, kinda hard to explain........

well can you understand why i poored my heart out so fast to him now, because i then retreat back and try to make sense of what happened when he put his head on my lap and stroked my legs.

i was so emotional i again scared him off.

so back to todays call, trying to cancel the dinner. i called him, he answers and said he was off to say goodbye to friends. i was like on, he said come over monday and we can chat, i was like on will you message me, and he was like silent.

i really dont know whats left to do. his friend contacted be just before i started writing this response. he said that its ok to come to tina arena. i asked him, and he said fine as long as i dont destroy the concert for him, he is fine....

i feel like i dont want to go now, based on that comment. i may have dissed his clothes and watch earlier, but he is far more hurtful that i was ever.

i guess i want to see the concert but i dont want to destroy it for myself becoming so silent because of him next to me, when all i want to do is hold his hand and say sorry for the past week.

i wanna tell him i love him, but i know that will destroy it, but im sure its love cos i cant stop thinking of him, i cant even keep my brain on work. its so hard. im so hurt.

what do i do....

should i go on monday morning, cos i want to, but im afraid to

he said that he is just after friends. thats it, but i still feel kind of violated, and hurt.

like my heart has been ripped out, and keeps being placed back in just to get re-torn out.

if i say goodbye, this town is only so small, and im sure ill run into him, and feel like a complete shit again.

so, i dont know

basically i feel like i should go, tell him one last time that he has hurt me, and if he says nothing or tells me it will never happen i will again feel like it was a waste of time.

i want to grab him and kiss him one last time, to see if there is anything still there, but again, like his friend has said, i would be moving too fast.

oh boy oh boy, im so bad at this whole thing.

i mean ive done the casual scene, but im now 25 and feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually ready for a relationship, it was the first time i have connected like that with a guy. it was so different to the others.

see this is what i want, i want to invite him over and cook for him, i want to light a candle, and sit and talk over wine, i want to kiss him and see if i can pass on this intensity that i have inside me. but i fear it will never happen,

yeah i know im moving too fast, but i cant help these feelings.

sometimes i wish i didnt meet him last weekend. cos i know i would have still a working heart, without hurt.

by the way, i am lonely, and i guess what i saw in him was trust and warmth, but it went cold for some reason.

i dont know anymore, i will give it one last try, and speak to him, and share my feelings, but should i speak love or chemistry.

i am deeply emotional, but i feel from my heart, not my body. if you all reading this i wish you could feel this feeling for one brief moment, the intensity, the completity, the heart exploding, um its a nightmare right?

thank you again. until the next update.

I'm going to be honest with you. It does seem like you move pretty fast. But its true, he did send you mixed signals. Unless he was drunk when he yelled that stuff out before. And I dont think when he put his hand on your lap and you told him all that stuff you scared him out. I think he really cared then, even thought it probably suprized him a bit. But he seems to be on more of a friend level with you, and your talking about loving him. I suggjest for now just be friends with him if you can! And yes, if you tell him you love him that will proably scare him off more.

Maybe your so attached to him and have these feelings because he showed you that he cared. But many people could do that too. He seems young, probably immature and want's to 'party it up' before he gets into a serious relationship.

This kind of thing has happened to me and i know exaclty how you feel. It really hurts. I hide my feelings until the guy I liked, liked me back. It was extreamly hard, evertime I saw him I wanted to tell him that I loved him. But in the end by not saying anything things worked out and we got together.

Good luck with this!! I hope I helped somewhat!!

xoxo Love - Jenna

My boyfriend and I had sex about 2 weeks ago almost and on Monday (This passed monday) He didn't have a condom on the first like 10 seconds we did it but then after that he had one on and we didn't finish because I was scared we just stopped. It was a total of about 5 minutes at the most. I woke up on Monday and I went to go to the bathroom and it would burn when I'd pee. So I went to the doctor and she took a urine sample and I just got the test results back today and she said that it was positive for a bacteria. I'm a little scared because I don't know if there is a chance I could be pregnant at all. I was at my least fertile the day we did it but I'm just scared. I've been trying so hard to get information on it and I'm fed up searching countless sites for the answer. Can ANYONE, for the love of GOD PLEASE tell me if coming up positive for a bacteria could be that I am pregnant? I've talked to my boyfriend about and he said that the chances were very low and this was before I got my results back. Can you Please please please tell me if getting your urine sample back as POSITIVE for a BACTERIA could I be pregnant? Thank you SO much if you can help me!!

Okay you don't have to worry at all. The same thing happened to me but it went away in about 4 days. Just take a bath. Lol clean it out with water. (Sick as it is) If it still hurts to pee after four days then go see a docter. Or you could see one now if you really want to. And about being pregnet, you dont even need to worry about that. You coudlnt be.

alrighty..well i have a big group of friends over alot...but its starting to get boring because we just do the same thing over and over and over again...we either come to one of our houses and watch movies, or go to the movies...i want to do something new! and fun! what should we do?...btw..something guys and girls would have fun doing...but we are all just friends, so nothing gross..if ya know what i mean lol

Smoke some weed. Then you'll have the greatest time of your life.

probably more than a month ago, my mom found out shes anemic(sp?) in other words, shes low in iron...then today my oldest sister found out she is somewhat canceris..(she may have a tumour down there, and is scheduled to have surgery next week, then be on Keimotherapy(sp?) nd if those dont work she will only have 1 year to live!)...then there is more drama in my family between my crack head sister. then of course i have my own problems going on @ skool, with my work and all...and most of all my boyfriend is giving me trouble!...i juss need sum advice please!

For now just be there for your sister while she's going throught kemo and hope for the best. Kemo usualy does work. And your sister should get some help and mabye go to rehab. Talk to a theripist about this if you have one. They could probably help her and you. And if you don't have one, as gay as you may think it is..It helps. You can sort out your problems a lot easier by having one and get things off of your mind. For your mom, she should be fine as long as she has iron in her. She just needs to take vitimns. Since I don't know that much about your bf or grades I really don't know what to tell you. But good luck with everything. ~Jenna

my friend and i both like the asme guy (my ex bf) and i know i could get him but she'd be devastated.. but i really miss him and i want to be with him but i dont want her to be hurt.. :-/ advice would be nice

Well first off, if he is your x she shouldn't even be thinking about going out with him! If I had an x and my friend wanted to go out with him I would be really sad and angry. But if her liking him is okay with you then I guess it's fine. If you REALLY want him back I would sugjest talking to your friend. You could tell her that he is your x and you havent gotten over him. And ask he how she would feel if you put her in this posission and wanted to go out with her x even though she still liked him. She should understand if shes really a friend. Hope everything goes well! xO~Jenna

okay so my mom smokes and i hate it.. like all my clothes smell like smoke b/c our house always smells like it and my teachers look at me evilly b/c i smell like smoke but i cant do anything about it do you know any way to either get my mom to stop smoking or to like at least have my house not smell like it all the time?!

Tell your mom that you don't like her smoking in the house and that It makes you smell like smoke. If she keeps doing that, not to worry you, but you have a better chance than getting cancer than she does. Ask her if she could just simply go out side if she wants to smoke. She should be able to do that. Good luck. Byez

im 14/f...and the hair that i have above my upper lip has gotten really dark and noticeable...its embarassing...my mom says not to shave it, im scared to get it waxed, it hurts when you pluck it, and well is there anything else?!

It shoudlnt hurt that bad. It will for only about 3 seconds. But thats it so its really worth it. Plucking it hurts so much because you dont get it all done at once. You doing one at a time. So it hurts more than waxing. Pluss..theres other places waxing would hurt muuchhh more lol. And you shouldn't shave it because it will just come back stubbely, like a guys and it gets thicker. xO ~ Jenna

For Christmas I may get my belly button peirced, I need to know a few things. Does it hurt? How long until you can change the belly ring. How much do belly button rings cost? Thats it... thanks in advance.

Hey lol I just got my belly peirced about a week ago. And it does hurt bad, but it's only for about 6 seconds. Then after, for about an hour it didnt hurt. It was sore then for about a week. You can change it 4 months after you get it. They say 6 ususaly, but they told me 4. And it cost me 60 dollars. Good luck.

For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me.

The same thing happened to me. It sounded gay at first, but i found talking to adults about it really helped me out. I could sort out my problems, and figure out why I was cutting, and then deal with them using other ways. Try hanging out with friends, talking to people or doing something you like to take your mind off things that may be causing you to cut. Write about how you feel in a joural or something. In time the habbit will probably go away. Your in a hard point in your life, but as you grow up you'll grow out of it. GOOD LUCK!

okay, I didn't really think I'd get any more answers to my previous question, so I'm going to put my addition to my additional answer here.
Here is my question. When you cut yourself, which by the way I'm trying to stop, so I don't really need help there, I was wondering, will the scars ever go away? Because I cut first letter of my first name in my arm, and now I regret it, and it's not that deep. None of the cuts I made had actually bled, they jstu got scabs over them. So will the scars be there forever?

It depends how deep you did them. Some will stay for years. Some for life if they are very deep, and some will go away in months. Your scars should go away pretty fast if they are only scabs.

i always rip off my nails and now they look really bad! they hurt too aftrwords but i dont know how to stop, can someone help me stop? ill rate! thanx

I do the same thing too. It's hard to stop. But an eassier way is to get fake nails on. The ones that last for 4 months or something like that. That way they'll grow out longer, and you might get out of the habbit of ripping them. If you rip the cuticles, I sometimes would put clear nail polish over them, as stupid as that sounds, and it would stop me from picking at them for a while.

does anyone know any ways to cover up cuts?

You cant really cover them up. If there still fresh then you should put antibiotic on them to make them go away faster and not scar as much. If their kind of old they have things at drug stores that reduce the scars and make them less vissible. Otherwise you can use cover up, whitch i've done. But if their fresh it makes it a lot more noticable and looks bad. Or you could try tanning. Good luck..!

How often should you put on lotion on your face once you have put it on? Like every hour or something? I use it to keep it moist and for it not to peel or get rid of pimples! Thanks!!!

Well if this lotion is just regular lotion, then its not going to help pimples at all. It just makes your face greasy and clogs pores so It will give you more. If you have a regular lotion then you should get one for pimple use. They have them all over. And you could use it, i'd say, 2 or 3 times a day. You dont want to over do it. If you use it everday two times a day then your face wont be dry anymore. Hope I helped.

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