I love my girlfriend but she can be down right stubborn and strongly opinionated. There's nothing wrong with that, but sometimes we'll be talking about something and our viewpoints will be polar opposites and she's so strong in her opinions that it kind of gets me frustrated. I think it's probably because I try to be passionate myself with my reasons during these conversations, but sometimes I feel like she doesn't look from where I'm coming from or saying.I don't like, nor do I want to get bothered over such small things. I mean it's usually during convos about movies or music or something like that. It's lead to some minor tifts and I really want to prevent that.
I don't even have much of a temper, but sometimes the topic gets so heated where I don't want to "lose" per se. I know I have to let it go. How can I constructively handle these situations and control myself from being bothered and keep a cool head? Thanks.
Well, my boyfriend and i used to have the same problem. He would feel one way about something and I would feel another way. One thing we had to learn how to do is agree to disagree.
Sometimes i will not back down and sometimes he will not either. So the way to defuse the situation is to just agree that we are not going to see eye to eye on the subject and move on.
you can tell her it is obvious that our views are different about this subject so I am not going to keep going over this. Let's just leave it alone or we will be here all day.
I hope that this helps!!!!!!
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I dont believe in god but i am beginning to believe in angels sometimes i feel something around me and it feels like something good. Can anyone explain this to me. I feel completly alone and then all of the sudden I feel something good there with me. Please give me personal opinions about what i am feeling.
Well I am a firm believer in GOD. But I am not here to shove religion down your mouth. In my experience when people have such feelings, especially when they do not believe in GOD, it is a sign that GOD wants them to come to him.
If you believe in angels then you can certainly believe in GOD. You don't have to be a bible toting maniac to love GOD. You can love and believe in him however you want to. Despite many churches views on a vengeful and angry GOD, GOD is not like that all of the time (he is hardly ever like that). You can talk to GOD yourself with out any priests, pastors or anyone. The good thing about GOD is that his love is freely given.
I think that you should try to talk to GOD. You can say what ever you want, you can even ask him for some sort of a sign to know that he is listening. Like I said earlier, if you believe in angels, try believing in the one who created them.
I hope that this helps!!!!!!
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(this is kinda hard to explain. hope you understand if you dont ask me)
okay so theres this guy that i went out with and we broke up because we argued a lot. and were still friends. we hang out like a couple times a week. and everytime we do hang out, we make out, and other things like that. and he wants to go farther, but i told him im just not ready. the other day we were hangin out and we got pretty far with things. farther than i had wanted things to go. and he started to undo his pants and then undo mine. i got scared and kinda pushed him away. then he grabbed me and was holding me cuz he realised he had pushed it to far.
well for some reason i want to go out with him very badly but he told me that its better we stay friends cuz we dont fight as much. and the other night we were talking about how i wanted to be with him. and he was like you know it will make our relationship a lot stronger if we just had sex.
im not letting him push me over.
so i guess im asking....
what should i do??
any help is great
please and thank you
-cuttechick24
I was in a similar situation. This guy sounds like a jerk that is just trying to get into your pants. If you don't want to have sex with him then no means no and that is final.
You don't have to have sex with a guy to make your relationship stronger. A real relationship is more than just sex. In fact, there are many that don't involve sex until later. Don't let him push you over. I say find a guy who is o.k. with you wanting to take things slow.
Empower yourself honey, always know that you are beautiful, fabulous and amazing. And any guy who wants what you have has to wait till you decide it is o.k. for them to have it!! Don't ever settle for less than you deserve and it sounds to me like you deserve a lot more than that guy is willing to give. I hope that this helps and that you find an amazing guy!!!
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Besides getting lip injections (too expensive, and too painful) is there any thing else i could use to plump my lips (more fuller and not so skinny)
I don't care if its just a temp. plumping where it only works for a few hours and you have to reapply or if it takes a couples days application to show up I just want something good, good results, and worth the money
(must have some type of experience with it please)
Well, i made my friend a lip plumper using cinnamon, clove oil and cayenne pepper( you can use all or just one) mixed with vaseline or a regular lip balm. It worked quite well,her lips looked ridiculously large butt she liked it. Hope that this works!!!
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All my friends have a crush on my boyfriend.Basically my best friend! She already promise that when me and him broke up she would date him.I AM SO PISSED OFF AT HER!!!! She a freak (like a wierdo)like shes puts eyeshadow on her lips.She is trying to break us up by saying lies to us about the other.She even told him I was datin him for a joke!He didnt believe her (I think).she calls him every day!!!What should i do!!!
Well sorry to be so blunt but, Why is that girl your friend? That is NOT your friend because no friend would say something like that!
Anyone who would try to break her friend and her boyfriend up is not a good friend. I say that you should talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel about her calling him to tell him lies.
If you want you can even talk to her, and let her know that you do not appreciate what she is trying to do to you and your boyfriends relationship. If she does not understand then you might have to cut her off, because heaven forbid you and your man have problems she would try to do the same thing to you again with someone different.
It sounds to me that she is jealous of you. Bottom line, keep your distance!!!! Stay pretty, stay smart and most of all stay away from that girl!!!! Hope this help!!!!
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Hi, im 17 years old going on 18 this summer and i am trying to loose weight aka get abs before this summer and i try doing sit ups i have an ab coster and an ab lounge but yet i still cant loose this baby weight i had a baby in march 2008 and ever sense then ive been trying to loose weight ive tried a weight loss patch called the pink patch, a weight loss loly pop and weight loss tea but nothing is working i have some stretch marks on my stomic also that are almost gone but yet there still visible i need help and fast i dont know what to do i feel awful about my stomic i hate how it is everytime i look in the mirror i cant even look at myself naked in the mirror and its really sucks i used to weigh 116 pounds before i had my baby and now i weigh 120 pounds thats bad somebody please help i need it badly. thanks for reading this.
Sweet heart you need to do cardio if you want to loose fat, bottom line. All the sit ups in the world would not matter if you did not do cardio. try doing some cardio and then sit ups. Hope tht this helps!!!
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I just ended a 6 and a half month relationship with my girlfriend. I am 18 years old and a freshman is college, she is 21 years old who is not currently in school and has faternal twins the age of two. Obviously there is a good reason why i broke up with her. It has only been a week since we broke up and it is so hard. I love her and she loves me. What do i do? do i listen to society, my family and friends, the brothers of my fraternity? or my heart. do i look at my future or what. My heart is torn between choosing to date a girl i really love or what society tells me to do. She is a package deal which im not too excited for because no 18 year old freshman in college wants 2 kids. Also, she is still married to the other man but very close to getting a divorce. I really need some advice. Do i listen to my heart or society?
Well, I think that you should listen to your heart, but also take into consideration what your family is telling you. It is not the girl that they may not like, it is you that they love. They want the best for you.
I understand that you do love this girl and I have no doubt that she loves you back. I think that she has to get her divorce finalized before she can commit to the relationship that the two of you have. The divorce is not yet settled and things can get very tricky in these situations. Some times the couple may want to reconcile and your heart can get broken.
I think that you guys should spend time apart (keep in mind that age is not the factor). Live separate lives for the time being. I say this because being apart from someone you love is one of the best ways to see if your love stands a chance.
I know that your family and friends want to help you, but sometimes you have to make decisions based on your happiness. If in fact you guys do want get back together then it is your decision and yours only. You gave to think what is more important, a life without her with but you are unhappy or a life with her and you are happy.
The ultimate way to really stick it to your family and friends is to stay in school and finish. I think that that is their main concern, that she might lead you astray from your school work and social life. You have to also be careful that she does not turn you into her husband. I am not saying that you can't love her kids, but you are a young man who needs his own life even if you guys get back together and you have to make that clear.
Talk to your family or a trusted family member (like your mom)and express your feelings. Try to at least let that family member understand your point of view, let that person know how this girl makes you feel. In the mean time, let your family know that you will try it their way for a certain amount of time(you choose the amount of time) and if that does not work, try it your way.
Good Luck and GOD Bless!!!!!! I am sure you will be fine!!!!!
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i sweat entierly 2 much and its always my underarms or my palms! need help anything that will work. also what can u do about yellow underarm stains. and i switch my deotarent brand about every 3weeks. (15/f) if it helps
Well, I had a perspiration problem too!!! I used one of the clinical strength deodorants such as Certain Dry or Degree, they worked pretty well for me. I am no sure what do about the palm sweat, but for the under arms that is what I use. I hope that this helps you out. If you feel really bad about it then you should see a doctor.
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Well basically my junior prom is on March 28, and out of the blue one of my good friends (who I happen to have a huge crush on!) asked me to prom. I was SOOOOOOOOOO Excited but then his friend named Sarah got really jealous of me because he asked me and he did not tell her that he would, so she was crying and shiznits... Sarah was my friend as well but now she is acting really fake and Mike (the guy who asked me) is fed up with her because she is trying to own him and she tells everyone about the conflict she made and tries to make me look bad. She still has a crush on him even though they had been friends for since 6th grade. Now she is spreading rumors that I'm a whore and Mike just wants to use me and stuff. First of all, I haven't even kissed a guy before (I know its sad...) and Mike is the sweetest guy in the WORLD!!! She is the one who tries to control him. I do not know what to do. He tries to assure me that he will handle it but I'm right about to curse a B out if she does not stop. Should I let him handle it or should I "handle it" by the way-- she doesn't know that he asked me to his girlfriend today so what should I do???
Well, That sounds so childish on her part. Really he should be the one to take care of the whole thing. You shouldn't worry your pretty little head about someone who has no life.
Honestly the people who know you best know what kind of person you are. And the ones who don't know you probably don't take her seriously anyway. She is clearly jealous of you. If she does not know that he ask you to be his girlfriend she does not have to know, you owe her no explanation.
If she says anything rude directly to you then make sure that you have a few friends around and ask her what the heck is her problem? Let her know how irrelevant she is to you and how much you don't think about her. Tell her the worst thing she could do to you is get over you!!(that is only if she tries to say anything mean directly to your face)
I think that you have nothing to worry about. Your guy should be the one to take care of the situation.If she keeps bothering you then try to ignore her, (sounds easier than it really is)people are gonna start to see that she is just hating on you. All you have to do is stay in school, get good grades and be pretty. There will always be haters!!!! Good Luck
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Hi this guy from uni was looking at me alot especially after we were introduced. At first it was creepy but then i just happened to catch the bus with him he joined me in the line he was standing towards the front and he saw me coming, stared, waved and gestured for me to come forward but i didnt and just said i dont like to push in but he came to bak and we talked. He's a nice guy but the weird thing was tht he mentioned a friend of his and said he's the same religion as u (which to me was weird) and then when i said oh ok he just suddenly goes but he doesnt go for indians he goes for asians and im like oh ok well maybe i wont go for him i dont go for conventional guys.
Also after we first got introduced he sat next to me in lectures twice with none of his friends around.
he flirted with me on msn a bit just like "if you wear this to uni then ill wear my embarrassingly big sunnies" and we even argued a bit i know ths flirting but now well its been months since we've talked and i dont think he's interested he hasnt asked for my number or anything. I like this guy but i dont know wht to do i mean i just want him to be honest if tht makes any sense?
anyway i thought he liked me now with this dry spell i dont realy know how to react. i hope you can help me.
i'm 19 and a girl
i'm from australia
Sorry for taking so long!!!!!
Honestly, it sounds like he might like you too. He might be shy. The most outgoing guys can turn into shy puppies when they are around someone they are interested in.
The thing is, maybe he thinks that YOU are not interested in him anymore. Or maybe he had a personal situation that forced him to neglect the chemistry you guys had. Don't jump to conclusions and think that he is just not interested.
If you really want to know whats going on maybe you can catch him on msn and say something like "Hey stranger, I haven't heard from you in a while. I hope that you are o.k!" Show some concern (not too much), give him that feeling that you are generally a caring person.
If he does not return the feelings then you might just have to move on. Take it one step at a time and try not to rush anything ( DO NOT bombard him with messages). I believe that you will be o.k. If he does not realize that a great girl like you has a crush on him then it is his loss. I hope that his helps!!! GOOD LUCK, GOD Bless!!!
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okay, so i've been the best of friends with this guy name Caleb for about three years now.
i've always had feelings for him, but that's besides the point. He's a virgin, never done anything and well, his girlfriend on the otherhand, is a differnt story.
She's done it all, with several guys and he doesn't seem to care. at first he was just like whatever about her; and now he's telling me he's inlove with her. He's adorable and i'm happy for him, but he could do a lot better. she's a major whore, and he just can't get that through his head. she's just going to hurt him and he won't undertstaand that. any suggestions of me trying to talk him into breaking up with her before she hurts him?
Well, I am sorry to tell you that a good friend will not break them up. Especially if he has that much feelings for her. She might be a little to free with her love for your liking, but your friend seems to like her and he also don't seem to mind.
I know that it is a hard thing to watch, especially when you see that someone that you care about might end up getting hurt. If you start calling her names and showing your disgust for her in front of him it may come across as jealousy. And it may also force him to have to choose, which might potentially make you loose your friend.
The best thing to do is to be there for him if she hurts him. Sorry to say, sometimes you have to let people make their own mistakes. Certain things are just out of your control.
I am sure that with you as a friend you guy pal will be fine!!! Good Luck!!!!!!
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I had sex a little over a month ago now, with the guy I am seeing and I got my period but it was lighter then usual normal flow but it only lasted almost 3 days rather then my normal 5days. Ever since I've been scared that I could be pregnant just because it was short and we've had sex again since and now I started to get a funny feeling in my lower abdomen/stomach the last couple days. But it's been on my mind the whole time every day, I'm not sure if I'm pysching myself out or could I be pregnant? Any advice on what to do please! and Thank you!
19/f
Well, that is a good question. Just because you got your period less days than normal does not mean that you are pregnant. It could mean that your cycle might be changing. However, there is always a possibility that you could be. So your best bet would be to take a pregnancy test.
There are a number of things that can make it so that your period comes lighter than normal!! Stress, and being athletic among other things. Really I know that you might be scared of taking the pregnancy test an that is o.k. You are entitled to be scared. But you owe it to yourself to know if you are or not.
You can be psyching yourself out like you said. Sometimes we psyche ourselves out so much that we make our own symptoms. Take a deep breath, think as rational as you possibly can and gather up your strength and courage to take the test. I am sure that you will be o.k.!!! GOD is with you!!!!
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well there is this guy who is a year younger than me who is friends with my friends brother and i met him at her house back in december. weve been talking here and there on facebook and i saw him again at their house in january. after i saw him there we would talk and he told me how he really wants me badly and how he wanted to do all of these sexual things with me [i think he was just going to use me] also something else that is weird is that he likes this girl who lives an hour away who he only sees once a year and im pretty sure they are going out. but anyways i didnt think he cared if he had a gf so far away and talked to me like that too. one night we were talking and he pressured me into sending a picture, he said hed be mad if i didnt.. but it wasnt a bad one i had clothes on..but after i sent them i looked at his fb wall and that girl had wrote, I LOVE YOU TOO!!!! so i think they are going out. and it bugged me because he was talking to me like that WHILE he was saying "i love you" to that other girl? i dont understand. but anyways, about two weeks ago I IMed him because he hadnt IMed me since i sent those pics and i was confused. and basically our whole conversation was him begging me to give him a bj. i kept on saying no i dont think so sorry but he kept asking and making me feel bad..at the end of the conversation he just said i want a deep throat from u sexy ;] and then he said for me to text him. so i did. but his phone was off and he didnt get it until two days later but then never responded..
so JUST NOW i decided to IM him..only because we havent talked in two weeks and i dont understand why..i thought maybe its because he hadnt seen i was online at the same time or something. so i IM him and all i get from him is, hi
then i go, whatsup
and he never answered. what the hell did i do. i mean i know that he has friends that go to my school and i feel like MAYBE his friends said something about me to him or something? i dont think so..i think im just paranoid. but i mean he didnt treat me nice at all or anything but i just dont see why he doesnt want me anymore, why so sudden. what did i do to make him not wanna talk to me anymore, i mean, two weeks ago he was like drooling over me and now its like he wants nothing to do with me. im so confused and i feel so bad about myself and ugly. please tell me what it was that i did.
well, the last time we actually talked was
Well honestly, I think that he is not talking to you because you did not give in to his pressure. I think that he is a jerk and sometimes jerky people tend to want to take advantage of nice people.
I think the fact that you were smart enough to not want to do everything he says must have got him upset. Maybe he found some one who was not as smart as you to do whatever he wanted.
Don't let anyone, especially some jerk make you feel like you are less than what you are!! I am sure that you are beautiful and sweet, that is why he came on to you. But unfortunately for him you are NOT dumb and saw right through him. Always believe that you are GOD's perfect package and that you don't need him to feel beautiful.
Now, be the star that you are and shed your light on someone worth it. Leave that clown in the dark!!!! Hope that this helps, GOD Bless!!!!
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Let's just say "Sally" and "Bob"..
Well Sally has a boyfriend and her boyfriend don't like me.. Well over the days.. he told Sally that i texted him saying "im bored" and "Your hot"!
and Sally just texted me out of no where "I FREAKING HATE YOU!!!!" and that i need to leave her and her boyfriend alone! and i dont even know what i did untell a little birdy told me today that he told her that i texted him that stuff! so now she is mad at me and the little birdy asked her if she was mad at me because i didnt do it and she said "yeah because Bob would never lie to me and make me sad" and blah blah blah! so i dont know anymore!
It's like...
Just because you (Bob) don't like me,, that doesnt mean that me and Sally can not be friends.. so he just wants us to fight and not to be friends i guess.. because Supposebly i like him! HAHAHA NOOOTTTT!!! and i tried to tell her that i never texted him and that i don't like him but she believes her boyfriend! so whatever.. she thought that he wouldn't lie to her.. well he just did! and if i did text him then he would know my number (BUT HE DON'T) haha!
And i would NEVER hurt her because she "was" my friend and i don't even like her boyfriend and i never will.. but i guess she don't believe me..
so now she is saying that i'm not a true friend and that she should of known before that i was not a true friend and blah blah blah!
And Sally was one of my best friends but i dont know what to do because i've tried to tell her that i didnt do it!
what do i do??
Well sweet heart, you have a right to be upset, someone lied on you and turned your friend against you. But this might be more serious that "Bob" just lying on you. When a guy tries to isolate a female from her friends and family that is the first sign of him controlling her.
Normally, the female will put her mans word over those of her closest friends and make up excuses for his poor behavior. This might be more serious than you think. Don't take him not liking you personal and don't take her actions personal. If someone else were her best friend he would treat them the same way. It is just a matter of making her trust him and only him.
If she starts to have low self esteem and starts to seem a bit withdrawn then that is definitely a matter of concern. If you get too worried or suspect that he is ill treating her, then you should ask a mutual friend that you trust to keep an eye on her. If things get out of hand and he is actually abusing her (abuse can be verbal, as well as physical) then notify her parents.
I know that this is a lot but this sounds like the early signs of a abusive relationship. Good luck sweetheart, I hope that your friend come to her senses before it is to late!!! GOD Bless!!!
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i can sense when someone is about to die, or 3 times a yr a would get dreams of a person's death a day or night before it happens. i am very afraid. and right now i am having a strong sense that somebody is about to die, i don't know what to do, what is this, that i am going through?
Well, that is a profound power!!! I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. GOD gives people only what he knows that they can handle, this means that you can handle it. My mom also sees things happen before they even occur, my sister can sense when someone is sick or has a weak aura and I have visions when I am not even sleeping (believe it or not!!!).
I never thought I was weird because of the family that I have, but I can understand why you might feel this way. When i see something that i am scared of, I pray about it. If I do not understand it, I ask GOD for the understanding. When i have a vision that upsets me I pray and ask GOD to lay his hands on that person. If you believe that all things are possible with GOD then you can help someone by praying for them. If things bother you in your sleep pray and have faith in GOD, have faith that he has taken care of you, your family and your loved ones. I believe that it might be a sign that GOD wants you to trust in him more.
I definitely understand how you feel, but at the end of the day i always know that GOD himself is more powerful than any visions we get. GOD sometimes gives us warnings so that we can change or pray. Certain things are not always a definite.
Don't be scared and if you ever want to talk more about it or want more information, I am here. I can even ask my mom about it, if you have any questions for her.
I suggest that you pray before you go to bed. GOD Bless and good luck!!!!!!
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What am I going to do when my mom finds out that I had been calling a place that she doesn't want me calling. She will probably find out cause that cell phone bill is getting close to coming and she will check on it. But maybe she already know. What am I supposed to tell her and I don't even want her to know.
Well this is a tough one!! The best thing to do in a situation like this is to tell your mother the truth before the bill comes. You are going to have to sit her down and talk to her. Tell her what you did and tell her your reason for doing it. Be sincere and let her know that you are sorry.
If it is a place that she really opposes, expect her to be mad or upset. But also know that she is your mother and she loves you, despite what you think. Also you have to make sure that she knows that you were not trying to hurt her or upset her. Try to find some sort of common ground with her on the situation. When she talks try to listen give her your full attention, and be mature about the situation so that she can show you the same respect.
Last but not least, let her know that you Love her. Hug her, and say sorry (only if you mean it)
I hope that this helps!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!
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My parents and I are constantly fighting. There saying now they are going to kick me out (I am 18 so they can). Right now there saying I'm just going to go stay a couple of days with my sister until things calm down. The issue is, I'm worried about my school work. My parents are telling me that they don't care. What do I tell the teachers if they ask why I was gone? Plus I have this huge project due and the teacher has already extended the deadline for me because I was out sick last week. I really don't know what to do... Please help?
Hi, I am sorry to hear that!!! Maybe you can kindly express to your parents that even though you and they are not agreeing at this moment, you take your school work seriously and you would like to get it done!!! Maybe you can also express the same thing to your sister!!!
When you are telling each person the way you feel, be direct but also be sincere. Don't act like you are entitled, and don't be rude. Just tell them how you feel about your work
If you need the help that much then you can always ask me. I am willing to help you tackle any topic, if you let me know what your homework is about. We can work on it together if you don't have anyone to help you!!!
Good luck!!! And I hope that you and your parents find some common ground.
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Hello. My name is Bobby, I`m 32 and from London. I no longer want to live. I am not in an irrational state of mind and niether do I suffer from a debilitating mental illness. I obviously have issues but I have a fire in my heart and I strongly believe death is the only solution for me in order to exorcise this pain. Yes I am sad and lonely and have no friends and have debts and have little money and no prospects but I do not want anything anymore. Death has become a beautiful dream for me and all I want from the almighty is death. If people in physical pain are sometimes allowed to die (euthanasia) then why can someone in extreme emotional pain not be allowed to do the same. My pain is too great and too deep to be simply diagnosed and treated via therapy or drugs or a combination of the 2. My pain has paralysed me emotionally and has left me a pathetic and useless wreck. I must have the same rights to die as someone in physical pain. I don`t want attention and niether do I want to be celebrated (I`m a nobody after all) so this is not a plea for help or some pathetic attention seeking rant. I genuinely want to die. If society can accept the self-death of someone in physical pain then why can it not accept the death of someone in emotional pain. Who`s to say my pain is not equal or greater than that someone?
Sweety, if you have no one who makes you feel special or happy then I will do that for you. I don't know you, but you have to know that you have someone who cares and that is me. Don't give up on life, you are to precious and amazing to want to end it. You are still alive and as long as you are breathing you have a purpose.
There is nothing wrong with feeling sad, but from what you are saying you sound like you are missing the affections of another human being! Killing yourself is not the answer because you would never have a chance to know what it feels like to be truly happy. Give yourself the chance to know what it feels like to know that someone cares about you starting with ME!! You can contact me anytime, I will do my best to respond as soon as possible!!!! I hope that you decide to change your mind and contact me. I look forward to hearing from you very soon!!!
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i'm 16 years old & i have had acne since i was about 11. it has gotten better throughout the years but i still have bad outbreaks, especially around my period. my face is naturally oily, and even if i wash it so much that it's stiff, dry, & peeling, the oil still seeps through and my face looks as if i havent washed it at all all day. i was my face every night and every morning with usually clean & clear products and they are okay, but do not fully help. i have tried proactive, st. ives, & differin, and all did not work. does anyone know of any solutions to eliminate the pimples and my extremely oily skin?
I had bad acne and I tried all the over the counter remedies and proactive, they all did little or nothing. What I did use was Murad acne complex and it worked for me. I got mine at Sephora. I hope that it works for you. I recommend it to a lot of people. Once again the name is MURAD and you can get it at Sephora. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
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18/f. so long story short the job i am working at now is planning to fire me i guess after the holidays (they dont know i know) but i am one of the best employees, its just because the manager is a complete d*bag haha and favors people, and only sees what he wants to see. Anyways, i started looking for a new job and my brother has connections to to a bank because he works there and he is pretty high up. I applied there for a teller position (there is only one position open :|) and a lady from Human Resources called me for a phone interview today. It went well, i think but now i have to go to a group interview in a week and a half with like three managers and there will be other candidates there too and i am just so nervous. It's three hours long!! I always get nervous going to an interview, who doesnt? but it's like if i dont get this job, i will have no job. I also want to work at a bank because im going to college for business management so it would be a good opportunity for me to work there and good money. I dont want to mess it up, i will admit i let my nerves get to me during interviews and sometimes i freeze up and dont know what to say or i stutter, or repeat myself which i know isnt good. I know i have to dress nicely, and be there early but anything else i can do to help me become not so nervous and more comfortable. I just dont want to mess it up, i just dont know what to do!!
Well, what you can do is try to get some sleep the night before. When meeting your potential employer always have good eye contact, also have a good firm hand shake ( not a death grip). Make sure you dress appropriately and also make sure that your breath is fresh.
Answer each questions as thoroughly as you can, it's o.k. to be nervous but try to let the confidence shine through. Even if you have never done the job before, let the employer know that you take directions well and that you are an articulate worker. It is also o.k. to let a bit of personality and charm shine. Always sit up straight and use intellectual words (they don't have to be big, they just have to make sense. Example: conversate, is not a word)
Last but not least be positive, smile and at the end of the interview say something along the lines of " Thank you for your time" or " Thank you for having me." I hope that this helps, GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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