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how to keep from getting frustrated
I love my girlfriend but she can be down right stubborn and strongly opinionated. There's nothing wrong with that, but sometimes we'll be talking about something and our viewpoints will be polar opposites and she's so strong in her opinions that it kind of gets me frustrated. I think it's probably because I try to be passionate myself with my reasons during these conversations, but sometimes I feel like she doesn't look from where I'm coming from or saying.I don't like, nor do I want to get bothered over such small things. I mean it's usually during convos about movies or music or something like that. It's lead to some minor tifts and I really want to prevent that.
I don't even have much of a temper, but sometimes the topic gets so heated where I don't want to "lose" per se. I know I have to let it go. How can I constructively handle these situations and control myself from being bothered and keep a cool head? Thanks.
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I tend to have the same problem in relationships. I'm so headstrong that it's just hard to accept when someone is trying to tell me something different than what I believe. Usually it would be about things more serious than movies or music though. I only tend to be very stubborn when it comes to my philosophy and things of that sort.
The next time you get into an argument with your girlfriend about a movie or music, tell her, "This is really silly. We just both have different view points and there's no reason for us to try to change each other's opinions about it."
In order to keep a cool head during these times, take a deep breath first. You sound like you already understand that it's unacceptable for either of you to get so worked up over each other's opinions. You both need to learn to respect your different tastes in music and movies. It would be very irritating if you both liked the exact same music, movies, books, and whatever else.
You should embrace the differences. If you don't like the same genre of music or movies, that's just the way it is. It's nothing to fight about. It's nothing to get worked up over. It's just a different taste. You shouldn't be expected to change your taste in art, and neither should she. I would tell her these things when you guys AREN'T fighting about it already.
When you're already arguing about it, saying these things will be pointless because you'll both be speaking out of anger. You won't listen to each other's points and you won't answer with what you truly feel.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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Well, my boyfriend and i used to have the same problem. He would feel one way about something and I would feel another way. One thing we had to learn how to do is agree to disagree.
Sometimes i will not back down and sometimes he will not either. So the way to defuse the situation is to just agree that we are not going to see eye to eye on the subject and move on.
you can tell her it is obvious that our views are different about this subject so I am not going to keep going over this. Let's just leave it alone or we will be here all day.
I hope that this helps!!!!!!
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