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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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Dear Mrs. Adventure,
You going into a realm that others don't dare to go to/ But if you are going to take that journey than if anything understand that this will have to be an experience that you ALL enjoy. Think of things that would get you and your husband in the mood and have that set up but also speak the woman that you are choosing and find out her likes and wants and utilize it in the picture. While others would never do that if you are going to them set things up that regularly get you two in the mood along with her wants and make it an adventure for all of you. How you do so will only determine the passion you bring to it.
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Hi so me and my ex bf were together for 2 months and a couple days the brakeup was bad he was the one who brakeup with me we haven't talked for a month and then he wrote on his Facebook page that he wants me back so I told him that if he really loved me he would've text me or call me so we kept on talking he flirt with me but I didn't he told me to text him I did and then I ask him if he love me he said "you already know... but if you want to hear that then yes I do he asked me if i love him i said "I think so cause I can't get over you" we kept on talking then he said hmu later I said that no that he needs to put some effort too he said okay I'll text you tomorrow and it's been 2 weeks since that I don't know if I should just move on please help! (link)
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Dear Waiting by the Phone,
It's apparent here that no communication means no relationship. If someone is not talking to you at all how would expect to grow in a relationships with no communication? Isn't better for you to be with someone who wants to talk or communicate with you. Why put yourself to the trouble of wanting someone who can't even take the time to communicate. A text or call or even a letter would show but it seems like he gave you his resignation of this relationship since its been two weeks anyway. There is no doubt that there is a better person out there who is willing give you their time and even respect you more by communicating what they feel and what they want. Instead of pining over nothing you should be focused finding a something! It's easier than feeling sorry for yourself or ever letting someone ever making you feel that way again.
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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Dear Soon to Be Teenage Mom,
Keeping this from them would only hurt your relationship more. It's better to be honest and open on how you feel on this matter so you can get a better understanding on how to handle the situation. You are too young to be a mother but also need support if you are going to move forward. Fear of the unknown is worse then the known because you have to be able to prepare for what's coming whether they support you or not. Hiding this only alienates you from people who can be there to love and support you. Don't be one of those people. Be strong and tell them so you know how much they will support you and will help yourself to get started on this long journey of motherhood.
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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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Dear Ms Invisible,
Apparently you are in a relationship that you are not even being seen in. The problem here is that your BF seems to be living in his past and can't move on because he never really dealt with the loss. Sometimes we are brought to people's lives to help them see that. If you want to stay in the relationship then help him move forward but if this continues then you need to move on because you cannot be constantly competing against a ghost. It's not fair to you and especially to the future you want to build. Honoring her is one thing but by living as if she were still there is disrespecting you and he cannot move forward with you and you cannot live your life like that. It is up to you about what you want to did here so figure out if he's worth it but also realize that you are as well.
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so i have been dating this guy for about a month. i just left back to san fransisco for the summer and he will be in chicago so we wont see eachother for 3 months. we spoke about what to do over the summer vaguely and i thought i was clear in saying we should end things but then i said we could still keep in touch which i think he took as that we are still dating. he calls and texts me and lot and acts very boyfriendy and i geniunly enjoy talking to him but do not want to be "together" all summer and dont really want to pick things back up next year. He likes me a lot though and thinks things are going very well so im not sure how to say i didnt meant that we should stay together without hurting his feelings. just need suggestions on explanations for the breakup, what should i say? do i say its about the distance? should i say im not into it and hurt his feelings? should i make up something about that we want different things or im not ready for a relationship? please help any advice on how to end things without hurting him but also an excuse that he cant argue with and convince me not to end things. (link)
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Dear Breakup,
It's easier to use excuses or come up with ways to make it about you on why a relationship might not work. In the end honesty is the only key. If you just want to be friends make it known, because losing yourself with a lie is just as bad as losing yourself as a person. Just be honest and tell him how you feel. If he's an understanding person than he will be okay with it. If not, then he would never be someone you would want to be with anyway because he's not understanding.
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My friends did the challenge but we didn't know we had to say charlie charlie can we stop? before we could stop playing! Are we all going to be haunted until we die or just the person who first asked to summon the demon?
SCARED PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Dear Scared,
Apparently it was just a hoax to get you to watch a preview for a movie. If you don't believe me here is the link you can checkout. Hope this helps.
http://jezebel.com/that-charlie-charlie-demon-challenge-was-a-viral-market-1708196890
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Should I stay with my boyfriend? I'm 13 and he's 16 but he lives all the way in London. I know some of his friends and that's how I met him. We started back talking a few days ago. I found out that he signed up for the army and he has three years of training. He did it so he wouldn't have to be with me anymore but he wont break up with me and he says that he wants to be with me.
I'm so confused and I need to know if I should break up with him. (link)
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Dear Teenage Love Story,
You have yet begun to scratch the surface of your life. If a guy is joining the army to get away from you and doesn't have the decency to just break up with you then why would you want to be with him? The key to a strong relationship is communication and if one of you doesn't do that than it's not worth it. You are too young to focus your energy on someone that doesn't even communicate with you. You have your whole life ahead of you and will later on meet the right person. Don't focus on the what's not happening now but stay strong and look forward to what will be so you don't miss out on the future.
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Dear Jumping the Gun,
Knowing that you are ready to have sex is even more scary than not being ready. First you should not feel obligated and that any guy who dumps you because of it was never a guy that you should be with at all. These will be special and intimate moments but not something you should be thinking about now because you have your whole life ahead of you and when down the road the right person does come along you will be ready and that a guy should treat you right. Don't let people tell you that you have to do these things to be happy or even be cool. Don't worry about getting serious at this early age because it's important that you grow up to see what type of guys they are going to be and if they would ever be worth being with you. These are important times in your life to look to the future but anyone that tells you have to be intimate to be with them is not anyone you should ever be with. Don't let them or anyone else pressure you because it's too early for you to bring that into your life. Work on you being happy first with you because if you can't, you will never be happy with anyone and keep making the wrong mistakes. Make the right choice and choose you before you lose yourself in anyone else.
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I met a guy online. We have been messaging each other for about 4 months. He wants to meet but I'm a little hesitant about it. Mostly due to safety reasons and his behavior. He always wants to rush things. On the dating site we met on, he gave me his number right away and guilt me into calling him by threatening not to speak with me again. I didn't call him until I felt ready, which was two weeks ago. Yesterday, I caught a bug was sleeping in bed for a day and a half. I checked my phone after I woke up and saw that he left me a bunch of text messages. I even missed his call. He really wants to met by next month. (link)
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Dear Online Dating,
First of all if any person tries to guilt you to do anything then that's a red flag. Second dating should not be hard but if it is especially with someone pressuring you then that's a clue that you don't need to talk to someone who is making it hard. Understanding people will never make you feel less of a person. if you do not feel comfortable in meeting then make it known. If they get upset and threaten to not communicate the it's a blessing in disguise because you don't need a person who is not understanding. Be true to yourself and know who you are and what you want because the right person you meet whether it's online or in person will be understanding!
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I'm in a close group of friends, and we've all known each other about 18 months, all roughly 20 years old. I've started to really really like one of my closest friends (lets refer to him as the guy- I'm a girl)- building up for the last 6 months or so, during which time we've definitely got closer. He's religious, so I don't know how he'd feel about a relationship, but oh well.
Problem is, one of my close friends (friend A) started to like him around the same time and was very vocal about it. All of our other friends know, she talks about it a lot (except in front of him) and has even kissed him briefly the other night (while drunk). He'd have to be blind not to know she likes him, but he could be trying not to lead her on, since she's most enthusiastic while drunk and has been known to sleep with strangers in that state. Another friend guessed I liked him almost before I knew but I laughed her guess away because I was surprised and kind of embarrassed at the time. I didn't realise how strongly I felt. Now everyone's encouraging friend A and it feels like its too late to talk to anyone.
I also really don't want to make friend A miserable, because she'd been in some bad relationships before. The guy is just hard to read, and I desperately want to keep the same friendship with them both, I just don't know if I'd manage it if they were together.
I don't know what to do. Should I talk to someone, or just hope/ assume I'll get over him? I should add that I'm living with them both, and will be probably for another year or two. (link)
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Dear Third Party,
The truth is unless this person is actually showing any interest in wanting to take the next step with you it shouldn't deter you from looking for something great in your life. If he is the "one" then you should let him know how you feel. If "A' is a real friend then she will accept it and so will your other friends. True friends will never let anyone come between them but also be happy for that person if they find a connection with someone. Make sure this person is right for you other wise it will blind you to not see if there is something bigger and better out there for you. If he chooses "A' then be happy for her and know that someone better is out there. Nether of you should be #2 to anyone when there are people out there ready to make you #1! So be sure and be happy and if it's right the great, but if it's not that's great too because then you will know and will eventually find the right one!
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I went on a coffee date with a guy yesterday, and it went really well...we talked the whole time and he seemed really interested. At the end of the date, I said I'm glad we met up and we should do it again. He said absolutely and asked why my schedule is like. I said that I'm in a certain city (where he works) during the week, and around during the weekends. I said "I'm pretty open for now"...and after that there was no word or confirmation. Just a bye and that was it. So I'm wondering if i sounded too available or over eager and turned him off? I mean, I thought I was being honest... But now I'm thinking he might not reach out for a second date bc of that. Any thoughts? Especially by men... (link)
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Dear Coffee Girl,
Sometimes people question themselves when it comes to dating. But if you know what you want in your life then don't be afraid of that. Too many people get scared and they settle. If this person doesn't reach out and give you a 2nd date then they were never meant to be the one. Appreciate yourself and know that someone out there will eventually turn one of these coffee dates into a night out and a relationship where you get coffee together as a real couple. The future is so bright no matter who you end up with but only you will know who that will be.
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21/f, 28/m
I've been dating this guy for the past 8-9 months. He has lied to me three times and each time he has broken my trust. Each time, we were trying to rebuild trust and trying to make things work. He has convinced me to stay because he called them "bad choices" or "bad mistakes." Those lies and mistakes that he has made, has done damage that also made me question his loyalty. But he did not completely go off and cheat on me. The worst thing he did was tell his ex-girlfriend that he missed her.
Since then, he's been telling me that he has moved on and he no longer thinks about her. He's been reassuring me, telling me that he likes me, he sends me kissy faces, he told me that he's been trying to become more available for me, that he desperately wanted to rebuild trust with me, and to become closer to me. He told me yesterday that he wanted to be my "home," because I told him that I no longer have that someone that was like my "home." He even looked up an article that would somewhat help to open us both up and become vulnerable. He thought it would be worth a try.
I'm not sure if it's because he broke my trust so many times in such a short time, I can't see what he's doing. But my sister told me that she could tell that he was trying. Even though he tries to be there for me and tells me everything, I still feel insecure and think that he's constantly cheating when he's not next to me. I don't want to feel this way and I don't want to think that he's cheating. He tells me what he does that day (because we've always done that), but for some reason, I think he's lying.
Is this going to take time for me to acknowledge/believe that he's not lying? Is it going to take time for me to regain trust for him? Do you have any advice on what I should do or any suggestions that would help? Thanks. (link)
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Dear Trust Factor,
Yes mistakes can be made and things can be said that can be forgiven. But when those things start making you feel insecure about yourself then you have to start looking at your life and seeing what you want but also making sure no one ever makes you feel that way again. And staying with someone who tells their ex that they miss them is beyond me because you are not even in the equation. Never settle for second best with someone when there is a person out there who's #1 you will be. If someone starts lying about little things then what makes you think they won't get any bigger and why would you ever be with someone who has to justify things by lying? And if you have to question whether or not they are then you are either not secure with yourself or secure with that person so then you have to step back and look at that and ask yourself... IS THIS WHAT I WANT FOR MY LIFE?
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My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for around 4 months. Since last 20 days or so he was distant and replied to my messages really late.. Usually after 2-3 days.
So I asked him what was happening... And he said, university was hectic and he said things are getting worse. I even asked him if it's this relationship or something else that was causing the problem. He said it's neither of it. But I realised hes doing this to get out of the relationship
I for some reason did not pursue him. I think my ego came in between and I didn't bother texting him again. He hasn't texted me in over 5 days now. I am moving on and don't feel like texting him. I don't think he even deserves to know that m moving on.I cannot text him first.
And he friends with my best friend and I see him online ( he said he's busy with university). So that's just proof enough that he doesn't want to face the music and tell me that he doesn't want to do this. So my question is Im just wondering why am I so indifferent to this? I mean the urge to text and call him just died so soon.
Is this a bad thing?? (link)
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Dear Confusion and Uncertainty,
Sometimes insecurities have a way of bringing things to our minds that make us think of things in the wrong way. But if you are worried so much on the relationship then just being honest and letting him know how you feel about it will help relieve that. If you feel that it's not working then move on but at least let him know that's what you want. Doing so without his knowledge only diminishes your character. but also in the meantime figure out what major insecurity whether from your present or past is causing you to feel this way and work on it because only then will you ever be able to have a stable relationship with anyone.
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Is it bad to put too much pressure on yourself? That's a question that I am currently asking myself. I've been like this since after I graduated highschool, and started learning the lesson of adult life - failure.
Before my dad lost his job when I was 17, I had a privileged life growing up in my grandmother's household. One that involved basically getting everything that I wanted.
Granted, I never got designer clothing, like the other girls in my private school had - my mom always said that it was too expensive. Nor did the boys that I liked ever ask me out. I still got to go on yearly vacations, which averaged at three a year for a little while. Yet when I cried because I really wanted something, my parents or my grandmother always gave into me. When I wanted another dog after my father's dog died and I cried, my grandmother had my mom buy my sister and I another dog.
*I traveled from Hawaii to New York, and was going to do it again, but my mom convinced us to go to Puerto Rico instead. Most people around here have never been, because they claim that it's too expensive.
*I went to Disney World for three summers in a row, and five times in my life. My sister has been there more.
At the moment I have just entered my senior year of college. I still have two semesters left after this one, because I have chosen to engage in a double concentration of finance and MIS.
I became very depressed last summer. Mainly because I feel like I am above most people during my college successes. I have volunteered, I was a peer mentor (a role in which I was considered a student leader), the president of my history club, and now I am on the honors advisory board.
Up until last semester, when I got two A-s for the first time ever in my college career I had a 4.0 GPA, now I have a 3.93. The reason why that happened was because I was freaked out that I might have been pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. My body was acting really weird which turned into a yeast infection.
I didn't do that to brag. Primarily I am like that, because I push myself so hard. I study so much to the point where I do not have a life, out of fear that I will finally reach the point a failure. I will take 18+ credits and be sure to stay up all night just to get assignments done. Everyone in my family has voiced their concerns.
I will forget to turn in an important assignment, I will flunk a test, the chain of events will get too intense and I will lose my scholarship causing me to not graduate college.
Two professors who really liked me pointed this out. My history professor during my sophomore year of college, when I was getting ready to graduate with my Associates' Degree, a 4.0 GPA, and a member of Phi Theta Kappa.
I am just so driven to get things done and become successful. That's what I want a life, a future with my long-term boyfriend and success.
Is this bad? I just told my best friend that it will probably lead to me developing cancer, diabetes, and heart problems later on in life. (link)
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Dear Pressure Cooker,
Sometimes you have to just step back, push the dial back and really take a look at things in your own perspective. Wanting or having great things should never define the type of person you want to be. Putting pressure on yourself only distracts you from the bigger and better things in store for you life. First you have to appreciate the type of person you are and not think you have to be someone you're not. Next surround yourself around people that will add and multiply to your life. Negative people will bring you down because they visualize things in a materialistic way and feel they have to have them to justify who they are. When you see yourself beyond those things you are less selfish and more motivated to move forward in all aspects of your life in a positive way.
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I'm tired of being mean to the person I like. It's always me calling them names and calling them ugly when I. don't. mean. it. It makes me mad because impulse control disorder makes me blurt out some mean things some times without even thinking. I want to be nice, I really do. But I just don't know how...
any suggestions as how to improve myself in being nice? Because I want to better myself, for the sake of the person I like, for our friendship in general, and for my sake. (link)
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Dear Impulse control,
The next time you feel the urge to say something mean to someone who doesn't deserve it, think about if you would say those things to yourself. Treat them like you would treat you. You have to better yourself though before you can show that to people. Figure out what makes you say those things and work on improving yourself. Save it and use it on people who do deserve it like the liars and cheaters of the world. Be a better listener then a talker and maybe it helps so you can say better things instead of blurting out things that will end the friendship.
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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If this is true, then you need to turn yourself in and face the consequences. Do not run and do not hide because this will be with you forever. The person you hurt has to forgive you because they will not forget as you won't forget either. The punishment will depend on not only the extent but if that person you hurt is willing to forgive you. You deciding to do nothing will be worse on you and will eat you up inside. The other question is not what you should do because you already know the right thing to do but why you did this and how you can get that help to never be this person again!
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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Sometimes we get scared to tell someone something so small because the outcome becomes so big. But if they are not able to forgive you for something so small then they are either hiding something or have their own insecurities. What you have to decide is that if this person is not a forgiving person are they someone ever worth forgiving when they do things wrong. We all make a mistake but this is not one that should determine the outcome of a relationship. Was he dating you or dating his car? Never be a second option especially to an automobile. Appreciate yourself better than that!
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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First of all if you have no interest in him just be upfront and honest. Sometimes people misinterpret the situation and think that person is reciprocating feelings back. Being upfront and honest will let you know what type of person you are dealing with. Don't ever put yourself in a situation that will ever make you uncomfortable.
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I am posting this for a friend. She started dating this guy around November of last year they had their ups and downs. Disagreements. He's not the most attractive person in the world but he really cared about her. They split up in July because he'd come home from work and play video games all night get up and play video games. Never go to the store with her. She has two kids he never went to the park with her or anything he just stayed home or worked so then she stopped going to his families house because he wouldn't do things with her. It's like they were just annoyed with each other (link)
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When communication doesn't happen between two people there is no room for a relationship. They need to speak to each other and say what they feel and what is annoying about one another that has led them to this scenario. Obviously if they do really care about one another they will be able to do so, otherwise tell her to end it before she ends up taking care of a 3rd child who plays video games and he ends up ignoring her like kids do when all they do is play video games. Talk, listen and then decide!
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I live in an apartment complex, and the apartment above mine decided to overload their washer, causing massive leaking from my ceiling. I have come to notice than when my one year old son and I are home, we are very congested, but when we leave, within minutes, our noses are clear and we can breath just fine again. I have spoken to the maintenance man about the possibility of their being mold, but EVERY time I bring this up "Oh you don't know what mold looks like. It ain't mold" I had lived in an apartment before this one, where there was NO ventilation system installed in the restroom, and yes, I dealt with black mold before. I know what it looks like, and what effects it has on me. I was mostly wondering, what organization would I get a hold of to hopefully get this situation properly taken care of? I am worried about my sons health, and speaking with the buildings management seems to do me no good. I can't move out because I can't afford to break the lease and to find a new place to live on my salary. Any and all help is greatly appreciated. For easier references, I live in the state of Indiana, and my apartment is supposedly owned by the IRS, so they say. Thank you for your time. (link)
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Find out if there is really a management company that runs the complex and contact them. You don't want to take a risk on your child. Even make a call to the Health Dept and see if what that complex is doing is sanitary. The health of your child is most important here. Don't ever forget that
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