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Hello, I want flawless skin fast! I have red spots, mild acne, and mild black heads... It's probably not as bad as i think but i need something that works... Something that shrinks pores, clears up acne and blackheads, and makes my skin ONE color and look great. I know there has got to be SOMETHING out there (or a couple things) that can do this! I use Skin essentials 3step thing and it says it's better than pro-active and i use a mint julep mask and wash my skin regularly, but apparently that's not enough! Where can i find it and how much does it cost? Not toooooo expensive plz! And, do you know what kind of acne stuff celebrities use? They seem perfect, even without the makeup! Thank you, and any answer is appreciated! Any help! :)
If money isn't an issue and you have health insurance, visit a dermatologist. The skin doctor will be able to tell you exactly what you should be using and is the guru for all skin related questions. Seriously. I swear by mine.
Hey all, 22/f here. I posted this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=576604
I finally decided to stop trying to talk myself into it, and ended the relationship.
Now I hurt =(. When I broke up with him, my heart physically hurt...but anyway, I did it. Now I keep wondering if I made the right decision.
I'm scared to death of the withdrawal I'm going to feel when I start to miss him. I haven't yet, because I don't think it's sunk in that I ended it.
Has anyone else ended a really long relationship and dealt with it successfully? I know to keep myself busy (that won't be a problem, I'm taking 12 credits in psychology and working 37.5 hours a week at two jobs), but is there a certain way to think about the whole thing that might help me?
Thanks, everyone.
Hey... I've been there. I've done that. I own the t-shirt AND matching pants :)
I don't know how similiar our situations are... But my ex was: co-dependent, extremely jealous, possessive... Yeah. You get the picture. We were together for two years and lived together for eighteen months.
When I finally ended the relationship... That was, hands down, the most difficult thing I have ever done. I can't really describe how difficult it was... It's funny how you can love someone sooo much even though you know how bad they are for you; even when you don't want to be with them anymore. Breaking his heart broke my heart. I kid you not, I sobbed the entire time. I cried when he left, I cried myself to sleep, I cried the next morning when I woke up... I even missed work because I just could not stop crying. Everyday was a struggle to hold back the tears. The nights were hardest. For eighteen months I had slept next to this man every night, and then, all of the sudden, I was totally alone.
Even once the tears stopped, I struggled with my decision. I struggled with guilt... I wondered if I would ever meet another man that loved me as much as he did; that I loved as much as I loved him. I struggled with intense lonliness.
How did I get through it? I'm not really sure. I suppose, one day at a time. I leaned on the shoulders of my family, of my friends... I threw myself into work and hobbies. I dated around a little bit, and ran like the hell the first time I met a guy that reminded me of my ex. I kept telling myself, no matter how I missed him, no matter how miserable I felt... That I made the right decision. For once in my life, I put myself before anyone else and I did what was in my best interest. And I told myself, even when I didn't believe it, that I would find love again. That everything was going to be just fine.
Because... Everything is going to be just fine. It's been more than a year since the night my ex left, and I can honestly say, I am happier now than I have been in a very, very long time.
I don't know if anything I can say will really help you. But I do know that when you're hurting, you need someone to support you. I am an online stranger... But if you need support, I will be here for you.
Hi. I am the girl who had a question about dating an older guy online. I guess I never considered the possiblities of what could happen until now. Anyways, I want to end it because he keeps asking me to send him 'personal' pictures of myself. He seems normal, but I just don't know if I should trust him. The thing is, I don't know how to end it. I'm afraid he might get mad or something, or that I wont know what to do or say.
I keep getting the impression that this guy, no matter how normal he seems, is really making you uncomfortable. That's reason enough for you to stop talking.
And when I say 'stop talking' I mean just that. You don't need to send him an email explaining why you can't talk to him. If he emails you, you don't need to respond. You don't know him, you don't owe him anything. Sorry if I sound cruel... But if a guy EVER makes you uncomfortable, I suggest you try to put as much distance between the two of you as soon as possible.
If he continues to email you and the content of those emails become abusive in any way... Do not respond. Message me if you have any further questions :)
id like to go on a mission trip to haiti.
i researched a little online, but i couldnt find any that would pay for my fare out there.
all i found were websites that said i had to pay for my own fare, room and board, etc. which would end up costing me $1500-1600.
i dont have that kind of money, but i really would like to go and help out as much as i can.
does anyone know anywhere i could possibly look into that would be a little bit cheaper?
thanks.
Every mission trip I've heard of to just about anywhere has been privately funded. Meaning, if you want to go, someone with the money has to sponsor you, or you have to raise the money yourself. Most churches try to schedule as many mission trips as possible, and raise the money for the missionaries that are planning to go.
Really... The best thing that you could do right now is donate whatever money you can afford to part with. My company chose to donate to the Red Cross... Just visit www.redcross.org. Also, if you visit the site, you'll see a link titled, 'Give & Get Involved.' While you may not be able to fly to Haiti, that doesn't mean that you can't help! Locally, volunteer organizations may need help packing medical supplies, food, and care packages for victims of the quake.
15/f sorry if this is in the wrong category..
Okay, so I met this guy on Deviantart (a site where you post artwork and such). We talk a lot, and I think he may be interested in me. I would be fine with this, but he is an adult. He knows I am only 15, but he keeps flirting with me and e-mailing and calls me by all of these cute nicknames. Is that bad? Should I stop talking to him? I dont know what to do. I feel guilty, like I'm doing something bad. But at the same time, I see all of these girls that date older guys. Someone please tell me what to do!
'I feel guilty, like I'm doing something bad.'
While you're not doing anything bad or wrong... This situation sounds, quite honestly, a bit suspicious. And I think you're just as suspicious as I am. If you weren't, you wouldn't ask.
My advice: learn to protect yourself while you're online. NEVER tell ANYONE where you live, where you go to school, or how to contact you via any other method except the internet. If you have a Myspace or Facebook, information regarding your location and how to contact you should be private, private, private, or deleted all together. Never let anyone, except your parents, have access to any of your online accounts or passwords. (Your account could be hacked and personal information disclosed.)
If this guy says anything, anything at all, to cause you the slightest discomfort... Don't talk to him anymore, and tell your parents. (And if you're afraid of talking to your parents or don't know what to say, write me and I'll talk you through it.) Last, but definitely NOT least, never arrange to meet him in person. Period.
I know I may sound super strict and possibly paranoid... But you and I have got to be. Most people are decent and would never hurt you intentionally. But there are other people out there, people that are mentally ill and can do you a lot of harm. Play it safe and smart... When you're online, you don't know who you're talking to.
He broke up with me 3 times, first he broke up with me because he HEARD a rumor that i wanted to break up with him but she couldnt so he broke up with her, so when he found out it wasnt true that i wanted to brake up with him so wegot back together and 2nd time was he broke up with me again because he doesnt have feelings for me because he liked someone else when we were going out but he didnt wanna tell me because he was scared that im gonna hate him, but after that we still talk to each other a lot and he asked me if i had feelings for him and i said yes and he did too and he asked me out after that but then he said he wants to keep the relationship a secret because he didnt want people to know and its annoying when people asks about it so we went out AGAIN for 4 DAYS and he broke up with me again because he was confused and didnt know what to do and i told him not to talk to me for a while but he still does and after that he asked me to move on and stuff he gave me advice about moving on but then he asked me to call me and i told him no because im gonna fall in love with him again and he says"who knows maybe we could start over again" and im confused because hes the one told me to move on but now hes saying this, this is his 4th chance and my friend told me not to because she doesnt want me to get hurt and stuff but i really dont know what to do what do you guys think?
My opinion... If he dumps you "he's just not that into you." When someone cares about you and wants to be with you... They do NOT break up with you and hurt you... Over, and over again. Do yourself a favor and tell this guy that it's over... for good.
I know it will be hard and you will hurt. But I promise that you will get over him and move on. You will love SOMEONE ELSE. You don't deserve this sort of treatment.
And please run to the nearest bookstore and buy the book, "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg and Liz. It is the dating bible.
ive been using bare minerals for about a year now, and im hooked on it. ive tried to use many other foundations and cant seem to find any that match to the amazingness of bare minerals. i would like to find a liquid foundation that i could use sometimes. i have dry skin, but i moisturize, which makes my t-zone oily throughout the day, so i guess you could say i have combination skin. i hate some foundations because they cake up where your skin is dry. so are there any liquid foundations that would look good on me?
please only tell me ones that you have tried and loved, not ones you just searched online and think will work for me.
also, price doesnt matter.
thanks =]
I also have combination skin... What works best for me is foundation from the new Nuetrogena line. It's non-comedogenic (won't clog pores) and also very affordable... You can usually find it at Target, Wal-Mart, and Rite Aid (Eckerd's).
Why is there so much controversy over black light ink for tattoos? I know it's different from regular ink, but what's the with all the fuss over it?
I'm not sure... But this is what I found in Wikipedia...
"UV tattoo ink is not commonly known or used, as very few varieties of UV inks are approved for use in the US. This is because some people have had reactions to the ink, ranging from minor itching to dermatitis. Several UV inks are suspected carcinogens and allergens and at this time, no research has been conducted into the possible side effects of long term exposure. Some UV inks are known to yellow or turn slightly brown with sun exposure.
Many tattoo artists simply refuse to work with UV ink, because of the potential medical complications and the difficulty involved in the application process. In the past, many experts have advised against UV tattoos."
You can read the complete article at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/UV_tattoo
I'm a 16 year old girl firstly. Well I am afraid of being in or falling in love. I'm also afraid of and hate relationships. Acctually commitment scares the crap out of me. Therefore the only pleasure I can get is through random hookups with my guy friends. They end up only being one night and we never hook up again. I keep all my escapades on the down low (swearing my partners to secrecy) and keep the facade of an innocent girl. So they all think that they're my first hook up, but still some how loose respect for me in the long run. It's never akward with my guy friends or anything I just want to know, am I screwed up? Does this game I play make me a mess of a person? And how will I act down the road, will I be a slut?
1. Contrary to popular belief... It's perfectly acceptable and appropriate to lack an interest in committed relationships at the age of sixteen. It's still acceptable and appropriate to lack an interest in committed relationship at the age of twenty-six... But if you're still not interested by the age of thirty-six then maybe the matter needs further investigation. I will remind you that this _only_ my opinion.
I also believe that at the age of sixteen your primary focus should be YOU. Who are you? What do you want? And so on... I believe that at this age you should be concerned with establishing your identity, a sense of independence, etc.
So... If you don't have a boyfriend; that's okay. If you don't WANT a boyfriend; that's okay too.
2. You said that you are "terrified" of relationships. While I'm not concerned about your relationship status... I am concerned when people are terrified of anything. Why are you terrified?
While now might not be an appropriate time to dive into a relationship... I DO think that now might be an appropriate time to ask yourself where this terror stems from. Common causes among my friends seem to stem from a childhood affected by parents with marital problems, absentee parents, domineering parents, insecurity... Are you insecure? What are you insecure about and why? Are your parents divorced, or do they fight often? If the answer to any of these questions is, "Yes," then talking to your school's guidance couselour is probably an good idea.
3. What do you mean by, "hook-up?" Do you mean, "hanging out?" Kissing? Being involved in some sort of sexual activity? Actual intercourse?
I don't know so all I can say is this... I don't believe there is anything wrong with dating multiple people. I don't believe that engaging in such activities as kissing is harmful either. But I am concerned if you have multiple sexual partners.
Why? Because sex can be dangerous. STD's... Pregnancy... I also believe that promiscuity is often caused by a deep sense of insecurity and results in only deeper insecurity. If this is the case... Seek counseling and also talk to your doctor about protection. I know that talking to an adult may seen embarrassing... Or that you may be afraid that your parents will find out. However... I would like to remind you that counselors and doctors are there to HELP you. You don't have to feel embarrassed, you probably won't be able to tell them anything that they haven't all ready heard before. And... The information that you disclose to both counselors and doctors is confidential unless it pertains to anything of an illegal nature.
4. I am not here to judge you. Even if I was, I couldn't, simply because I don't know you. I can't tell you if you're psychotic or overly promisicous.
And really... What I, or anyone else, thinks of you doesn't matter. What matters is what you think of yourself. If your behavior frightens you or causes you to feel guilty or ashamed... Then do something about it. First, acknowledge the behavior. Second, ask for help from someone who can help you. (A doctor, a counselor, a teacher, any adult that you trust.) One you do talk to someone you will find that the third step... Changing the behavior... Is a lot easier.
I'm sorry if I could not adequately answer your question. If you would like to discuss the matter further please do not hesitate to contact me.
Best wishes ;)
okay so i've been thinking about and researching what i might want to do after highschool. i want to do something in fashion and then i came across fashion merchandising. the way this website described it sounded great like exactly what i want to do but where would you get jobs with a major in fashion merchandising? and what are some otehr fashion majors? some good colleges? any experiences in fashion?
i really love fashion, but i don't know what majors there are for it and if it is good.
any help would be great! thanks so much =]
What I do know...
With a degree in fashion merchandising you would be qualified to work for any clothing store. You would probably work on a corporate level instead of a store level. Possible careers include: buyer (the person that buys the clothing for the store), merchandiser (the person that decides how the clothing with be organized [i.e. merchandized] and designs flowcharts for stores and 'hotspots')... There are also a lot of different positions within different companies that may utilize your ability to merchandize for different purposes. For example, I have a friend that is the Regional VP of Merchandizing... His job is basicly: to visit all the different stores in his region and assist them in reflowing departments, merchandizing various merchandise, and reporting how the store looks, etc.
Here's a suggestion... While you're in college get a job at a clothing store, entry-level is fine. Tell the manager that you are interested in working on the sales floor and that you are pursuing a degree in merchandising. Most likely your manager would be willing to show you the basics of merchandising on a store-level which is a start...
Unfortunately I can't answer the rest of your questions. I worked retail management (in a clothing store) for about six years... But if you have anymore questions that you think I might be able to answer let me know.
Best wishes ;)
This is going to be a little bit confusing to explain, but I will try.
I have been reading a book on drug addictions, and it got me to thinking about regular addictions, such as caffeine, cutting, or even dancing. It's possible to become addicted to anything right?
Well I lost my boyfriend about 8 months ago. He & I had been together for 2 years & we were happy, but he randomly broke up with me in the worse possible way. After the first month of our breakup, we ran into eachother & had sex. I've always wanted him back & I still want him back, so everytime he wants to have sex, I've allowed it. & Not just allowed, but I've wanted it too.
I've tried moving on from him, dating other guys, having sex with other guys, but I always seem to want him. No matter what. He's always in the back of my mind.
So is it possible, that I could be addicted to a person, or to their sex? And if it is possible, how do you break the addiction, even though I don't think I want to break the addiction, because I like having that closeness with him.
I guess I just need some feedback.
My opinion...
I think addiction is a strong word. A strong word that doesn't apply to you.
More likely... You still care for your ex and you're having a hard time getting over him and moving on with your life.
And as harsh as I know I sound... My advice... MOVE ON.
Why? Because... He's 'just not into you.' If he was... He wouldn't have dumped you. Just because he wants to have sex with you doesn't mean that you will, or that he even wants, to get back together. He's using you. If he wasn't... Wouldn't it be just as easy to tell you that he's sorry and that he wants you back?
I know that moving on is hard... But the both of you are making the whole process a lot more difficult than it has to be. When you break up with someone... Stop hanging out, stop talking, make a CLEAN BREAK! I understand that you will miss him... But is 'being close' really worth all the pain? You need to explain to him the next time he comes around that you BOTH need space and time away from each other. Agree to not call each other anymore. Just say, "No."
And I know it will hurt... But I promise that over time you'll feel better and you WILL LOVE AGAIN. Suggestion: instead of jumping back into the dating scene... How about taking a break? Allow yourself to greive and mourn your loss... Then pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Ask yourself... What do I want? Set standards... Not just for the type of person that you want to date... But for what you want your relationship to be like. Then date with those standards in mind. If someone doesn't meet those standards... Date someone else! Meet people, date around, explore your options... Don't settle until you've found the right person!
And trust me... He's not the right person. Really... I know that everything I've said is very hard to swallow. I tell you this because I do care, and I do understand... We have, all of us, been where you are right now. I feel your pain and I'm sorry...
I wish you all the happiness in the world.
P.S. Please go the nearest bookstore and buy a copy of, "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg and Liz. Please, please, please...
I was very sick yetsterday since i had a stomoch ache due to periods.I cudnt call my boyfriend the whole day yetserday even tho i was supposed to cos i could hardly talk (bcos i was having a severe pain).So instead i called him last night.He was really pissed with me.you see while browsng hi5 the day before yesterday i came across a celebrity's profile.My freind natasha is crazy on him.So I mailed that celebrity on behalf of natasha to ask him his handphone number cos natasha couldnt go online to do so since she has a computer breakdown.
My boyfriend has seen the mail yesterday and he thinks i mailed that celebrity becos i'm crazy on person or something.
so he was really pissed with he. he says "if u can mail that celebrity to ask his phone number why cant you call me?, havent you got time?"
I love my boyfriend aloooot and it hurts me the way he talks.I think the world of him and i think he's the most handsomest guy on earth.How do i explain this to him?
I know he loves me alot too.
He probably thinks i dont love him at all.
please, what do i so about this. please help me.
I'm really depressed.
I would sure appreciate it alot if i could get some help
I think your boyfriend is over-reacting. While I understand that he is asking for you to consider his feelings and needs... Doesn't he need to return the favor? Did he ever say, "I'm sorry you weren't feeling well?" Or even give you a chance to explain?
That wasn't considerate... Of YOUR feelings and YOUR needs.
The reason I'm pointing this out is because I've watched my girlfriends bend over backwards to make their boyfriends happy... Only to be treated badly in return. For years. What every man and woman needs to understand is that relationships are not one way. (Life is a two-way street. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you... The golden rule... Yadda, yadda, yadda...)
I'm not accusing your boyfriend of being a bad person or even treating you badly... What I AM saying is that you need to stand up for yourself and confront him. Let him know that while you're sorry that you upset him... You were in a lot of pain. He needs to try to understand. Also explain to him what happened and then tell him that you don't appreciate the accustations or not giving you the opportunity to explain yourself before. Tell him you're sorry... But also make sure to tell him that YOU DESERVE an apology.
If he continues to over-react... Maybe you need to re-assess your relationship and decide whether or not this is a person you want to pursue a relationship with at all.
I have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?
Please understand that, because of the nature of advice columns, I find giving advice difficult due to lack of information. I don't know much about you or your situation... Only what you have told me. I will try to address the situation as thoroughly as possible...
I assume that you are probably male and possibly attending highschool... You said that sometimes you and Caitlyn fight about trivial issues and that these issues tend to get blown out of proportion. I wonder... How healthy is your relationship? You said that you were drunk when you and Becca slept together... Is that the reason for your affair? Were you just drunk... Or were there other factors that contributed to your decision? Were you angry at Caitlyn as a result of the arguement you had had earlier? Or were you having serious doubts about your relationship?
I can not answer any of these questions... Only you can. Before you try to win Caitlyn back I suggest that you assess your relationship and ask yourself a simple question... Is this what you really want?
If you decide that it is... There are at least three essential qualities that a healthy relationship must possess: trust, honesty, and communication.
Trust
Okay... You made a mistake. That doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you human. However... You've betrayed Caitlyn's trust. Even if you and Caitlyn get back together, lack of trust will seriously endanger your relationship. You both will have to work very hard to overcome this obstacle and rebuild your trust in each other. It will not be easy and it will take a long time. You will have to go out of your way to prove that you love her and that you are trustworthy. You will have to be patient... Because she will be fighting her own demons. She's probably going to feel insecure and paranoid... And she'll probably act jealous and possessive at times. She's also going to have to learn that you aren't perfect (that's okay, no one is) and that people make mistakes. She will have to learn forgiveness.
Honesty
The fact that you didn't tell Caitlyn about Becca... That she had to hear it from another girl probably really hurt her feelings. In the future please remember that dishonesty isn't just lying... It's also omitting the truth.
If the two of you are experiencing other problems... Now would be a good time to be honest about that as well. You need to let her know if there are things that she says or does that make you feel negatively, and how her behavior makes you feel. I know that's really hard for anyone who's in a relationship... Often we fear talking about problems because we are afraid of hurting the other person's feelings or making the problem worse. But not talking about these things DOES make the problem worse.
Communication
It's not just important to communicate... It's important to know HOW to communicate. Be honest and direct... But try not to sound accusatory. Stay calm, don't yell. Don't say anything that you don't mean just to hurt the other person, you'll regret it later. For example, let's say the two of you start to argue about something trivial... Instead of letting it get blown out of proportion what would happen if you said, "We're both angry. Let's walk away and calm down first before we discuss this any further?"
My advice: Since she won't talk to you... How about writing a letter? What do you say? How about telling her the truth? That you made a mistake and you're sorry. That you want her back abd that you'll work hard to make it work. You know it will be difficult but you believe the two of you can work it out. Whatever you say, make sure that is the _complete_ truth and that you mean it. Writing a letter will give you the opportunity to really think about what you want to say and you'll be able to say it without interruptions. You're also giving her the option of reading it or not.
Good luck to you. If you have anymore questions you know where to find me. ;)
This is long but please bear with me, this is not about a boy or about my period this is about my health. 14/f
Last friday I was having a panic attack, it caused a terrible headache very suddenly. I got very little sleep. On saturday I was still very stressed out, and my headache wouldn't go away, and I was screaming so my Mom took me to the ER, they said I was dehydrated, they put an IV in me, gave something to make the pain in my head go away, and something that made me get knocked out fairly quickly. I came home only about six hours later, and slept through the night.
On sunday I tried to ignore the weird feeling in my head and just go outside, figuring it was just the medication i'd had at the hospital, but it became increasingly hard to ignore the feeling. I continued to have panic attacks throughout the day. I barely ate anything that day, looking at food made me absolutely sick, and i'm not usually like that. I had a horrible nights sleep again, I had to lay with my Mom the whole time, and even then I only got a few hours.
On Monday I just had panic attacks continually, when one would go away within ten minutes i'd have another. I still was in no mood for food, but I felt hungry and mal nourished. All I hate that day was peaches. I started feeling dizzy and light headed, and started feeling this odd feeling of nausea not in my throat, but in my head.
Yesterday my mom took me to the chiropractor, she adjusted me and said my neck, back, head and whole body was out of whack and that was what was probably causing my headache. I got a massage later that day, too, which made me sleepy. All I ate yesterday was peaches as well. I had a very small amount of soup, some oatmeal, and drank some water. I felt like I could collapse.
Last night's sleep was terrible, and horrifying. I couldn't breathe, I was so hungry yet anything I put in my mouth I wanted to toss out, and my heart started going very fast. When I was lying about to go to sleep, I very suddenly jerked up and grabbed my heart. I thought I was having a heart attack, I was scared and I thought I was going to die; I was scared to fall asleep because I thought I might not wake up.
This morning I woke up and felt miserable, I couldn't go back to sleep when I wanted to, and my mom took me to work ith her. I took some corn bread, and a peach and I ate most of what I took, but I still felt very removed and light headed.
My Mom took me out for pizza a little later and I ate three small pieces, and I felt relieved because I thought I was finally going to feel better. But I came home and I started feeling dizzy again, and very hungry, and i could feel the post nasal drip in my throat and my eyes started to water; but what scared me was that it was not from my tear ducts, but from the top of my eyes, almost. I have never had allergies before but I think that's what it feels like, i'm not so sure. I didn't have a panic attack, but I felt numb. My head feels like it isn't a part of my body, and I'm scared that i'm going to die.
I feel terrible, I really do. I know that anxiety can come out in physical symptoms, but I don't think this is healthy. My face is drawn, I haven't had a good night's sleep since I was drugged up, and I have terrible tension in my shoulders and my neck.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore. My mom refuses to take me to the doctor insisting that this is all anxiety based, but it's not healthy to feel light headed for this many days in a row.
Please, please tell me what to do. I don't know how I can feel normal and I don't know what's wrong with me. Could this be from lack of food and sleep? Or should I get it checked out? Please help me as soon as you can because I'm so scared
Whoa. Okay... Your mother may be correct in assuming that the symptoms you're experiencing are anxiety related.... But you still NEED to visit a doctor. You're not eating, you're not sleeping... How long till you have to be hospitalized from dehydration and/or exhaustion? When you went to the ER the doctors treated your symptoms NOT the illness. Please, please, please visit your family physician as soon as possible.
How do I get rid of it? I have a lot by my cheeks. I've been putting medication on it that contains Benzoyl Peroxide 5%. It's just like a random outburst. It doesn't bother me that much, but it does hurt. It's somewhat itchy in that area and ow?
How long will it take to go away? Any secrets to make it bring to a white head?
salicylic acid vs. benzoyl peroxide ?
I have both medication tubes. What works better? My skin is sensitive but I haven't used any medication or face washes in about a year, so my skin doesn't get irritated as badly as before. like angry red skin, you know?
any tips, please!
I don't have a lot of money. So something cheap or any home remedy. No toothpaste cuz that's gross & it dries my skin out. seriously doesnt do anything. don't suggest proactive either, i know how good it works. i'm not rich..
Does your family have health insurance? If so... It would be best to visit a dermatologist. If he/she prescribes medication ask for a generic brand. Generic brands are just as effective as name brands and they are a lot cheaper. For example, I used to spend a total of $10 for sixty days worth of medication.
If you have sensitive skin I would avoid using most over-the-counter products. My experience was that OTC products were usually too harsh and caused my acne to become worse. When I asked my dermatologist about OTC products he recommended Aveeno, Cetaphil, and Dove. Gentle cleansers work best... If you use any type of OTC cream or gel please use sparingly. Also, you might want to try putting it on at night and then not re-applying for a couple days. As your skin builds a tolerance to the cream/gel you can apply more often but increase gradually.
I think I have found mr. Right, but he just broke it off with me because he needs to search himself. The other day I let him know that I was going on a date and he told me later that it hurt him. He alluded to us getting back together after he figures this out and asked if I would move with him if he left after graduation. I said yes. I left the conversation feeling optimistic about us getting back together. The problem is I don't want to wait for him becuase he may never come around. I am dating this other guy, but I know it hurts him and I don't want to be with anybody, but him. He still comes over and it feels like he does this to keep me from spending time with other guys. should I be a bitch and demand that he stop coming over or basque in his presence when he comes over? I miss him.
Long story short... Once upon a time, I met a boy. (We'll call him P.) P and I started dating and I thought that he was Mr. Right and that I was "in love." A month later he broke up with me saying that he, "was confused and needed to find himself." (Sound familiar?) I waited, we got back together and... In the course of 2-3 years we broke up a total of 6 times, usually because he was confused about something. Except for the last time...
The last time... I broke up with him. I realized that "I'm confused" is just an excuse. Or... A ploy. When our relationship got a little serious he would hand me this excuse; avoiding committment but still keeping me to himself. My delusions of love and destiny were gone... I was tired of wriding an emotional rollercoaster. Dumping him hurt both of us... But guess what? I got over him, and he got over me.
When someone cares about you and wants to be with you they do not break up with you. There is no reason that he couldn't "find himself" while dating you. You should not feel guilty for dating other people, or worry about his feelings. You are not his girlfriend. (And that is HIS fault.) He has no right to ask you to wait for him or to put your life on hold. Doing so is the opposite of love and extremely unfair.
My advice: Don't wait for him. Date other guys. If he keeps coming around and acting jealous, explain to him that because of HIS decision the two of you are no longer in a relationship. You can be friends, but friendships need to have boundaries. For example, he needs to behave like a friend and not like your boyfriend.
PS. Run to the nearest bookstore and buy a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg and Liz.
Okay so my state (TN) has decided to mandate that every student K-12 get 90 minutes of excersize a week. Well they are using our homeroom time at my school to do just that. I think it is incredibly stupid because its not the school's responsibility to tell us what to do as far as excersizing goes. It is so damn retarded I can hardly stand it. I HATE coming to school now. OMG as if it wasnt bad enough LETS THROW IN SOME EXCERSIZE!!! Plus my homeroom teacher is strict with the rules, so if we dont do these excersizes every morning, she will write us up. I dont feel like I can talk to her because she wont understand. And I cant sit there and object while everyone else is doing it because that will draw negative attention to me. I get enough attention as it is for being fat. And thats not the reason I dont want to do the excersizes. It's just that 15 minutes is a long time for someone who is as heavy as I am and its embarassing to have my fat jiggle around for the whole freaking class to watch and laugh at. I would much prefer to excersize in PRIVACY where I dont have to worry about what I look like. High school is bad enough as it is. I think this is pure torture and I really want to refuse to do it. But I dont want to bring negative attention to myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? and what is your opinion on our new state law??
I don't think that 15 minutes of mandatory exercise is a bad idea. However... I'm curious about how well this plan was thought-out and implemented by the schools. Because from what you've said... It doesn't sound like anyone took into account that 15 minutes of exercise can be strenuous and even hurt some students (not just obese, but asthmatic, cancer patients in remission, etc.) or that some students may be severly uncomfortable exercising in the classroom. (And I wonder really, how safe that is?)
If you feel uncomfortable you have every right to say so. And if you don't feel that your teacher will hear you out, try visiting your guidance counselor. Write down in advance why you feel uncomfortable and try to come up with possible solutions to the problem. When you present your situation to the guidance counselor do so in a courteous manner. (As much as you dislike the new law, it's not fair to take it out on an employee of the school. They probably didn't have much of a say in the matter either.)
If you feel that the guidance counselor doesn't adequately address your issues, it might be time to schedule an appointment with the principal. Don't be afraid to talk to your parents' about the issue and ask for their support.
well .. i really like this boy but the problem is he has a girlfriend. i know i shouldnt interfere but i just cant help it i really like him. and recently ive started seeing a lot of him and its just making me like him even more. but this weekend i was out with him, and we ended up kissing, and he told me stuff like he fancies me.. and keeps talkin about when hes single whats going to happen with us and stuff.. but its doing my head in because how long does that mean, i am prepared to wait for him.. but i dont wanna if hes going to stay with her.
when i was with him.. his girlfriend was also ringing.. and he was ignoring her calls answould say things like.. ahh i hope shes trying to finish me.
before i hooked up with him that night.. i hooked up with another lad.. and he was realy mad with me about it.. bt weve talked about it now and were ok!
please help me its doing my head in.. does he actually mean it .. or is he just playing with my head?
He says he "fancies" you but is dating another girl... And he kissed you but hasn't dumped his current girlfriend yet, has he?
As hard as it is for me to say... Chances are that "he's just not into you." Because... If he was he would be dating YOU instead of that other girl! I'd forget this boy and look elsewhere for a potential boyfriend. You might consider allowing him to take you out on a date if he dumps her soon. But don't wait; you could be waiting for someone that doesn't realize how fabulous you really are and therefore... does not deserve you. ;)
P.S. Please RUN to your nearest bookstore and buy a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg and Liz. A must have for every dating female.
ok, I'm 13 and I babysit for this lady who has three kids. One is autistic. She pays me $10. Not an hour. The whole 4-6 hours I babysit. It doesn't seem fair to me but I hate to say something because she is a close friend of my mom and has done many things for our family. Her family doesn't have a whole lot of money either. what should i do?
Since she is your mother's close friend... Why not ask your mom? How about, when the two of you are alone, sitting down and telling her that while you understand that her friend doesn't have a lot of money... You think it's unfair to only receive $10 for babysitting three children-including one that has special needs. Ask her what she thinks a reasonable price would be and how to approach her friend about it... Maybe even ask her to come along with you when you DO make your request.
15/f
So today my mom threw out all of my makeup and brushes (even the expensive stuff and the brand new stuff) because she says it could have mono germs on it from when I had mono last month (i know.. wtf?!).
It was about $90 worth of makeup that was mostly given to me as gifts. So now that I need a whole new makeup supply, I kind of need suggestions because I have never really gone shopping for makeup before. I would like a mid-range product, not quite MAC, but not the $4 foundations either...
I am fair, with dark brown almond shaped eyes and medium-a little dark brown hair.
I would like to get--
-Mascara (just to lengthen and curl)
-Eyeliner pencil
-Loose powder, or liquid foundation
-Eyeshadow
-Blush (powder)
-Concealer
and any other products you swear by.
If you have any suggestions of your favorite products, I would love you forever!
Thanks!
You know... I've tried the expensive make-up and the cheap stuff. What I've learned is that they all pretty much work the same. (At least for me.) I highly recommend the new line of make-up by Neutrogena. Not only is it affordable but it's also non-comedogenic (meaning that it doesn't clog pores). Another bonus is that I'm very fair-skinned and have a difficult time finding make-up that matches my skin tone... This is by far the best that I've found. You can find it at Wal-Mart, Target, and Eckerd's I know for sure.
The line includes liquid foundation, pressed and loose powder, concealer, lipstick, lipgloss, eyeshadow, blush, tints for the lips, cheek, and eyes (love it), mascara and eyelash tints... I'm not sure about pencils... Probably?