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my friends are being critical to me like, "thats so unhealthy your gonna be fatter" thats just an example. also, they only seem to care about their lives and problems. also today i found out that at least two of my friends that i tell everything to are keeping a secret from me, and it hurts. my friends also joke around and make fun of me, but its embarrassing me. on myspace bullitains one of my friends took a survey and the question was "what was the worst thing you ever smelled." she put " (my) farts". i was embarrassed. also my friends were making fun of me in front of this popular girl saying how i don't curse, and all together they were like "ill give you $15 if you say fuck." i didnt, but it was embarrassing . i seem ok on the outside, but im hurt on the inside. nobody seems to care about my feelings. i dont wanna confront my friends, or ditch them.....help (link)
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You don't have to ditch them, but i'm recommending you confront them. Communication is important when solving a problem. if you don't speak your mind, no one's going to realize how you feel, and they'll treat you even worse. If your friends are telling you how to eat, and how to talk, then they aren't accepting who you are. true friends accept you for who you are, and try to help out rather than rudely criticize. if they want to embarrass you in front of people they know will react, then that's just cruel. who cares if you don't curse, it's not like it's an accomplishment. good for you that you don't curse. i think you should confront them, because if your friends don't care about your feelings, then they aren't being such good friends.
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Hey im 13/f and i am having probs. with my boyfriend like im not mad at him and he's not mad at me but the thing is we keep on planning dates to go to the movies or go and get ice cream or somthing like that but then the day we are gunna do it he cancels and says he has to do somthing but then i find out that he is with a friend and he ditched me to hang with his friends and when i tried to comfront him about it he said i was tying him down so can you help me ????
LoVe,
Wants to cry (link)
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Your boyfriend is being rude and unfair. He obviously doesn't care how that must make you feel. His friends are important, but that doesn't give him a right to just blow you off like that. When he said you were tying him down, he probably never realized that you wouldn't do that if he paid more attention to you. confront him again, and tell him if he's going to continue to let you down like that, then you won't have any reason to be with him anymore. good luck
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I feel like I am loosing one of my best friends. We only see eachother in school... we are in two classes together and we hardly talk cause she is talking to her other friends. I feel like I don't know all of these things about her. Like i found out through a friend that she hooked up with someone last night for the first time. She didn't even tell me. I am really upset about this. What should I do? (link)
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one day, invite her over so you can talk things out. tell her how it makes you feel when she leaves you out of her conversations with her other friends, and how you feel when she doesn't bother telling you about things best friends tell each other about, like how she didn't tell you about her hook up. try to make plans with her more often. friendship is important, don't let a good one fade away. good luck!
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ok well me and this girl used to be really good friends!! the last year in 7th gr ( im in 8th now and 14) she spread a rumor about me and started stuff between me and alot of my friends! so i decided not to hang with her anymore!!! we've had a lot of fights after that too and we've been very close to fighting 4 real!!!! but now i kind of over it and at a party the other night she invited me to a barbque of hers next month! I donbt know if i should forgive her or what to do ??!?!?!?!!! please HELP!!!! (link)
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just try to talk things out with her. if you both get things out of your systems and explain why you both did what you did, you can both put it in the past and be friends again. good luck!
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these boys in my grade are really jerky and really hurt my feelings. It makes me very upset! I don't know what to do anytime they get the chance to insult me they DO. I ask them nicley to stop and theyu say no. I've told adult sand they talked to them but then it gets bad again. So NOTHING at this point is working. ANy advice? thanks=] (link)
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It's simple-boys can be incredibly stupid.
Don't waste your time letting these things get to you. Just ignore it. Some boys are to stupid to stop doing something when ask, it just gives them more of a reason to keep going. just ignore them, go on with your life, they aren't important enough and they're wasting your time.
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I'm the leader of a VERY important clique (its the best clique in the school) anyway one of the people in it walked away to join a dif. clique I dont want her back I need to find a new clique person to replace her how do I find a new person? (link)
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i know that this isn't the answer you're looking for, but i think you should take my advice. Don't take this the wrong way, but clique's aren't important. Family and friends are important, for example. Just be yourself, having a clique and owning up to people is pointless, just be friends with people. And i think "getting a new clique person" would be like using them, and just mean. Clique's cause a lot of problems, there's enough drama in school as it is. Be your own person, have friends, clique's aren't friendships. and a friendship is one of the greatest parts of life, and that's what's VERY important.
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okay i have an ipod nano, but i really want a pink 6g mini, but they don't make them anymore is there anyplace besides like ebay i can get one? (link)
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I doubt ou can buy an iPod mini anywhere else, but i reccommend you don't buy it. the screen is very dark, it's very annoying. The battery is very bad, at a certain point in time the battery will cause problems and a bnch of this and that. the ipod mini's are easily scratched and easily dented when dropped. the screen is relly small, and it caused me a lot of annoyance. your better off sticking with the nano or maybe saving up for a video. but if u do still want the mini, i hope you find it easily.
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1. what are some books you would reccomend for a 16 year old. I like teen books that consist of a person's perspective on high school, sex, life, etc. so far i have the earth my butt and other big round things
ps im not interested in the sisterhood of pants lol i forgot the name.
2. what are some books you reccomend to bring up self esteem and standing up for yourself bringing up your self confidence, etc. kind of like high school survival books (i hope this makes sense)
Thanks (link)
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The Gossip Girl series. definitely read those. Also...
The It Girl series
The A-List Series
ttyl, ttfn & l8r g8r
The Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants Series
you'll definitely find those. you can also go to a Border's or a Barnes & Noble and browse around the Teen Bok section, there's a lot to offer.
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how do u know if someone declinse your request on mysapce (link)
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there's no way to find out, unless you ask them yourself or something.
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Today i went into the cafeteris and this boy on campus that i have not had any classes with and never spoke to said he can't stand me and he meant it i heard it but he was talking to someone else. What should I do? (link)
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I wouldn't let it bother you much. You don't know him and if he's judging you like that then you have know reason to put up with that. Don't waste your time on people who have nothing better to do than to put down people they don't even know.
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I like this boy.. a lot. And last weekend he said to me "there's something there but im still not over my ex" meaning he feels a spark but is still stuck on his ex gf who by the way was a complete and total B**** about breaking up with him and already has a new boyfriend!! and I respected what he said, and now, he says hes gonna call me and never does and doesnt talk to me nemore what should I do?? should i let him go, play hard to get?? fight for him?? what?!
please and thanks (link)
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Maybe he just needs some time. They don't say breaking up is hard to do for nothing. Give him some time to relax and clear his thoughts, rushing him into a relationship won't make it any easier for him. Comfort him, let him get to know you more, eventually his interest will be focused more towards you than his ex. I'm sure things will work out as long as you give it some time.
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me and my best friend are really close, but im starting to doubt our friendship, i mean she can be pretty retarted at times and i wish she could be a little bit more serious when im in pain(emotional)or upset or really really excited!I mean I love her(bff love)but i dont know what to do!
should i dump her or ask her to be a bit more serious? (link)
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There's no reason why you should stop being her friend because of one flaw. Maybe she's not being serious when you're upset because she wants to make you feel better. Just tell her you want to be taken a little more seriously, that's all.
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Okay.
So.
Im on a lacrosse team, and we need a name.
It is supposed to be SYC ______.
(SYC stands for Springfield Youth Club).
Any ideas?
Like SYC Fury? or dolphins? or SOMETHING.
i need to know by tomorrowwww!
please and thank you (: (link)
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SYC Ravens
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what are the names of some really good dance sons? like anything rock and roll or hip-hop or anything wit a good dance beat?
every saturday night we have a dance party over at my house but i need music!!
thank you so so much!! (link)
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Break It Off-Rihanna & Sean Paul
Tell Me-Diddy & Christina Aguilera
We Fly High-Jim Jones
Smack That-Akon & Eminem
The Only Difference Between Martyrdom and Suicide is Press Coverage- Panic! At The Disco
Beep-Pussycat Dolls
Sweet Escape-Gwen Stefani
Maneater-Nelly Furtado
Irreplaceable-Beyonce
Fergalicious-Fergie
My Love-Justin Timberlake & T.I.
Wind It Up-Gwen Stefani
Money Maker-Ludacris & Pharrell
all i could think of for now =]
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My so called "best friend" started slapping me about a few weeks ago. It's over the stupidest things, too! Like, I have a favorite lip gloss that I put on all the time in school. She hates it, so she slaps me really hard across the face for that. Sometimes it doesn't hurt, but one time she left a red mark on my face. I've tried slapping her back a few times, but she always blocks her face, so I just kick her.
She's also been acting like a bitch lately, like she'll be nice to me and then tell me to go away 2 minutes later. Today, I didn't hang out with her at lunch, and she called me a slut because the kid she likes was NEAR me. I'm not even friends with him and we don't talk! I don't understand what her problem is. (link)
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The fact that your friend actually thinks it's okay to get violent over a choice of your's that's none of her business in the first place is COMPLETELY and utterly unacceptable. the more you keep hanging around her, the more you keep letting her make decisions for yourself, the more she'll think it's ok to keep slapping you. what can slapping turn into? pushing, shoving maybe. what can pushing and shoving lead to? punching. not saying that that's definitely what will happen, but the point is you cannot have any toleration for that. either stay away from her, or very very firmly tell her you're not going to tolerate what shes doing (and if she doesnt listen, then stay away from her). if anything gets worse, it's important for you to go tell your parents, and hers.
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I'm new to this site so bare with me.
I am a 14/f. My sister is 13. My sister always steals (excuse me.."borrows") my clothes to wear to school after I leave for school (I'm in High School &
she's in Middle, so I leave an hour and a half earlier).
This is SO annoying, for several reasons. One, she doesn't ask, she just picks them up and goes. I used to not mind if she asked, but it's gotten so
frequent now that I get agitated, anyway.
Second, when I ASK her if she has any of my clothes, more often than not, she'll lie to me and say no. A lot
of times, I've tested her by finding some of my clothes that she has taken. Then, I would ask her if she wore it, and she'll say, "no." Of course, I
know she's lying because I already found the clothes in her room. Also, whenever I ask, she's always like, "WHY WURR U DIGGIN 'ROUND IN MAH
LAUNDRY" and frankly, that is so hypocritical of her, since almost everyday she digs around in MY closet. And besides, I don't dig around in her laundry:
I find the clothes when emptying her stuff out of the washer/dryer.
The biggest reason of all why I HATE it when she takes my stuff, is she fucking stretches them. I first notied this a couple of months ago - one of my
shirts that she had borrowed was looser on me. I didn't say anything because I thought I was imagining it. But my fear was confirmed when she
borrowed a pair of my shorts, WHICH WAS CUSTOM MADE *FOR ME* (8th grade home ec class..good times :P) and *BY ME*, and after I found them, they no longer fit me as well as they used
to. They slide down when I jump now :( Also, a white shirt that I had went missing last year (I think she borrowed it and never returned it), and I only found it in the basement this past weekend. I've only worn it once, and it was a nice fit on me. Then my sister comes along, TAKES it, and of course, I noticed immediately it was gone because I now have to keep tabs on all my stuff so I know asap when something is missing. Anyway, I washed it and tried it on again, and now she stretched it SO much that the bottom lining of the shirt RIPPED so it's all loose and not that good of a fit anymore. (note: it was a size small, so it was kinda tight on me anyway)
She says she takes my stuff because she doesn't have enough clothes to wear. Bull fucking shit. If she only took the time to find all her clothes and pack them neatly every once in a while, she would see she has just as much stuff as I do, if not more. My closet only appears full because half the stuff in there are stuff I'd only wear to parties & stuff.
So my question is, how can I make her stop taking my stuff, and how can i tell her politely it's because she stretches them? (I NEED to tell her she stretches them, because no other reason, not even for the sake of my privacy, will stop her from raiding my closet, apparently.)
Please don't tell me to tell my parents, my mom neutral and all about "sharin' is carin'" and my dad is on my side but he doesn't enforce it. ty (link)
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that must be really annoying. i think the best you can do is have a chat with her about it. tell her you bought your clothes for you not for her. then suggest to go shopping with her one day. obviously she likes what you shop for, so give her some shopping tips. she'll wear her own clothes and take more responsbility for them.
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okay, so i really like this guy, and i am trying to give him clues that i like him like him. Today is VAlentines day, should i tell him that i love him? Also i pass him alot in the hallway, should i smile at him or would that freak him out? Also my last question, I see the guys name EVERYWHERE, in books, posters, people, magezines, movies is that like a weird sign or something?Please help me!!!! (link)
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I think it'd be great that you tell him! it's a perfect day to. just be honest if that's really what you want to do. and when you see his name everywhere, trust me, happens to me all the time with two people i/i've like/liked. i've seen their name everywhere, their name within things, songs that have to do with them and jokes we've had, i could go on and on. its normal, it's weird, but normal
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Hi,i was wondering,my g/f is having her period and i was wondering what i could say to her to make her feel better/more comfortable about it,and what i could just do to be nice about it..especially when the mood swings start =(
thanks =)
Age=14 (link)
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Well don't bring it up, if she brings it up then that's a different story. If she's getting mad at little things, just agree and try to laugh it off. try to avoid talking about issues and problems that might be bothering her so she can feel more relaxed. make her laugh, bring her chocolate, make her feel loved. good luck
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Okay so tonight i lost my grandpa. and feel so horrible because i wish i had been closer to him. i am really scared that i wont be able to deal at the services and stuff thats coming up later this week. do you guys have any seggestions for saying goodbye easier and not letting go or moving on but becoming at peace with whats happened and idk. im not really sure im still in shock, because this was all so sudden and i feel so bad because the last time i could have seen him, i took it for granted and didnt go, wow i feel so awful. my friend says i should speak at the service and that would be like a way of saying sorry, but idk if i can evn pull it together enough to get to them.
but any help would be great
sorry for my poor grammar and everthing. (link)
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I'm sorry for your loss. I know what you're going through, I lost three grandparents from cancer, but two of them were recent. it would be great for you to speak at the service, but not to say sorry, but to say "you'll always be in my heart". it's not easy to say goodbye, no matter what the case is. and however long you feel you need to grieve, is up to you. the best you could do, is not think of how he died, but all of the great things you used todo with him. it'll take time, but always remember that he is with you everyday. once again i'm sorry to you and your family for your loss.
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I have this BFF who's soo funny and cool, but she hates my other BFF who is also funny and cool!! Whenever i talk to her my other BFF gets mad and won't speak to me for the rest of the day!! She also makes fun of the other BFF in front of me and it irritates me!! I still want to be friends with both of them but how do I please them both at the same time!!??!! (link)
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you should talk to your other BFF one day, and tell her it's not fair that's shes causing you stress just because of who you're friends with. she's lucky to have a friend like you, and she should be respectful of your feelings. if you want to be friends with that girl, that's your choice. hope it helps
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