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My closet is not your effing local mall
I'm new to this site so bare with me.
I am a 14/f. My sister is 13. My sister always steals (excuse me.."borrows") my clothes to wear to school after I leave for school (I'm in High School &
she's in Middle, so I leave an hour and a half earlier).
This is SO annoying, for several reasons. One, she doesn't ask, she just picks them up and goes. I used to not mind if she asked, but it's gotten so
frequent now that I get agitated, anyway.
Second, when I ASK her if she has any of my clothes, more often than not, she'll lie to me and say no. A lot
of times, I've tested her by finding some of my clothes that she has taken. Then, I would ask her if she wore it, and she'll say, "no." Of course, I
know she's lying because I already found the clothes in her room. Also, whenever I ask, she's always like, "WHY WURR U DIGGIN 'ROUND IN MAH
LAUNDRY" and frankly, that is so hypocritical of her, since almost everyday she digs around in MY closet. And besides, I don't dig around in her laundry:
I find the clothes when emptying her stuff out of the washer/dryer.
The biggest reason of all why I HATE it when she takes my stuff, is she fucking stretches them. I first notied this a couple of months ago - one of my
shirts that she had borrowed was looser on me. I didn't say anything because I thought I was imagining it. But my fear was confirmed when she
borrowed a pair of my shorts, WHICH WAS CUSTOM MADE *FOR ME* (8th grade home ec class..good times :P) and *BY ME*, and after I found them, they no longer fit me as well as they used
to. They slide down when I jump now :( Also, a white shirt that I had went missing last year (I think she borrowed it and never returned it), and I only found it in the basement this past weekend. I've only worn it once, and it was a nice fit on me. Then my sister comes along, TAKES it, and of course, I noticed immediately it was gone because I now have to keep tabs on all my stuff so I know asap when something is missing. Anyway, I washed it and tried it on again, and now she stretched it SO much that the bottom lining of the shirt RIPPED so it's all loose and not that good of a fit anymore. (note: it was a size small, so it was kinda tight on me anyway)
She says she takes my stuff because she doesn't have enough clothes to wear. Bull fucking shit. If she only took the time to find all her clothes and pack them neatly every once in a while, she would see she has just as much stuff as I do, if not more. My closet only appears full because half the stuff in there are stuff I'd only wear to parties & stuff.
So my question is, how can I make her stop taking my stuff, and how can i tell her politely it's because she stretches them? (I NEED to tell her she stretches them, because no other reason, not even for the sake of my privacy, will stop her from raiding my closet, apparently.)
Please don't tell me to tell my parents, my mom neutral and all about "sharin' is carin'" and my dad is on my side but he doesn't enforce it. ty <3
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that must be really annoying. i think the best you can do is have a chat with her about it. tell her you bought your clothes for you not for her. then suggest to go shopping with her one day. obviously she likes what you shop for, so give her some shopping tips. she'll wear her own clothes and take more responsbility for them.
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well like everyone else said, a closet lock is a very good idea but she might be offended by that.. so i would definitly advise talking to her before you go locking anything up. you definitly dont want to hurt her feelings so i would sit her down and tell her sternly but not in a mean way that you would appreciate it if she didnt wear your clothes anymore..and if she argues, tell her maybe that she can wear certain clothes and only like once a week if she "runs out of clothes to wear". she should understand
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I am going through the same exact thing, except my sister is 11 and I'm 14.
But I would have to agree with the person below me. Maybe go out and buy a locker and know the combination to it and make sure you keep it away from her.
I would put the clothes I could care less if my sister wore to school in drawers. But sometimes if she just comes in and 'borrows' it CAN get annoying once in a while. Knowing the someone else has YOUR clothes on without asking permission.
I would deffinatly try to get a lock for the door and a spare key to go along with it. That way each time you leave to go to school. Lock it until you come back after school.
I'm hoping after doing that 'key to lock the door' works out that way she can learn a lesson that it would be A LOT better if she asks first.
And about the whole 'stretching your clothes out' part. You should tell her, although you are her older sister that you two have different body images and sizes of clothes and maybe if you two have such a good relationship to one another, take her out shopping (sister-to-sister) and buy some clothes that fit her.
Like you mentioned, she did say she needed more clothes because I'm guessing the reason why she 'borrows' your clothes was because she doesn't have as much as you do.
Hopefully everything works out the way it's suppose to.
Hope I helped. :)
-MADLYxINxLOVE
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I kinda agree with the first person about the lock. My older sister did that for a few months. I found out that Lowe's sells these nifty closet locks. I would consider you getting one, if you talking to her doesn't work.
Anyways, you need to sit her down one day in your room and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you don't like her wearing your clothes because you buy them for yourself to fir you perfectly, and since yall are not the same size they won't fit her the same. Say something like, "Hey [insert name here], I really don't like you wearing my clothes, its a pet peeve of mine. I buy them for myself to fit me, and sometimes you don't fit into them as well as me. Will you please not wear my clothes." I think the whole "pet peeve" concept should work.
Good Luck.
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Ask for a lock for your door. Or better yet, get a trunk that locks and keep all the clothes you don't want her to take and keep them in there. I know EXACTLY what you are going through. And unfortunately there is no other way except to hide them.
If you think your sister will understand, then tell her exactly what you told me. Tell her "We have different body types. You're not allowed to wear my clothes because after you do wear them, they don't fit me right. You have no right to go in my room. You'd be mad if I went in yours, so don't go in mine."
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