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Well my name is Liza. I am 14 years old and I love to give people advice. I currently go to Oakivlle High School.I am a cheerleader there.I am new here at Advicenators. I am about 5'5. I'm athletic. I am very outgoing, I am very sociable and I am very lovable if you get to know me. I love to shop. I am a kind, gentle person. I love to play sports and everything that has something to do with somehting athletic. I guess you can say that I'm smart but like book smart not like common sense smart because I really lack common sense and any of my friends can tell you that. If ever you ask a question about me the first they would say is "she is such a blonde"(I've been told this). It is sad but its who I am and I like being me. The thing that I really don't like is the fact that other people try to be something that there not. Some want to be something that they want to be but the thing that they don't realize is that they are unique in there own way and thats what makes them special. They try there hardest to be something other than them but the only thing that they need to do is to be true to themselves and they would live there lives as wonderful because they will never have the feeling of trying to be something and fail. They are already champions in there heart but they just need to search deep inside. Thats what I did and here I am giving people advice and living my life in the fullest and being the best I can.


Well since this is an advice column ask me a question and I will try to answer it as best as I could possibly give you since I'm practically failing English.Ask and I will answer. Some people call me as there therapists. Its awkward when they me that it feels like I'm a freak or something but yeah. I am here to give advice and thats what I will do. Just ask and I will try and answer it the best as my brain can think of something brilliant to say!!

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Me and this boy have been really close friends for a year. Now he's started hanging around the other guys, who are all jerks. They were beating up on a kid one day and it made me mad. I stood up for the kid and the boys all ended up getting in trouble by a teacher. Now my friend is mad at me because I embarrassed him in front of his friends. I was just doing what I think is right! Well, now he says he hates me and is tired of the "bull shit". I love him and I don't want to lose him but I have no idea what to do now. None of his new friends like me (they think I'm a psycho) and I feel like he cares more about what they think than he cares about me. It's really really depressing. Write back soon, please & thank you.

From what you wrote this guy seems like a jerk. Sorry from saying that. If he does that then he really is not your "best friend". Best Friends stick up for you not trade you from somepeople that really don't care for him. I don't think he really cares about them more he just probably got caught up of being with a bunch of guys that he thinks that are cool. Pretty soon (hopefully) that he will realize that they are jerks and maybe find some other friends that like you. Try and keep talking to him. He doesn't hate you. Anyway tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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ok so around the beginning of october this guy told me he liked me.. i sorta liked him and we were good friends but i still didnt know him too well.. ok so he asked me out on the 6th.. but i said no.. we kept talking and we ended up going out 3 times between them and now. we talked all the time and it was like i knew him better than any1 else EVER i had fun with him and i liked how he treated me..he seriosuly treated me the best!!!!..ok so i broke up with him 3 times.. and during those times we still acted liek we were going out, we just sorta took space, and eventually went out.. its kinda like i want what i cant have!! && i hate that!..i dont know but on monday i found out from my friend that he smoked that saturday [we broke up thursday] i was so mad.. he didnt even tell me and he also told me he stopped.. i 4gave him b.c we werent going out then and it wasnt toooo big of a deal but still.. the next day i find out he likes another girl.. now when we were going out he would always say i love you soooooo much blah blah and he really did, but he said the same thing to that girl! he lied to me alot these last few days.. he even said he wanted me and didnt like the girl anymore, then that night he came out and said it was a lie.. so now he doesnt like me or the other girl BUT a new girl [he went out with a couple months ago] theyre prob going to go out and i just dont know what to do and feel..this last week i coudlnt concnetrate at all at school and ive been so sad. now i know this sounds really stupid but there is so much more to our situation and so many more lies.. but now that he lieks this other girl def. i just idk i like him so much! i dont know what to do.. i think i might have loved him..please just tell me what im going through and what i do and how i get over it


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Its sound like this guy is a player. He tells everyone that he loves them and stuff like that and when another comes along he goes after them. Sorry that I said that but its just what it sounded like. I kinda went through the same situation that you think that you loved someone but not really. It maybe that you did love him but from my situation I really didn't. I just really missed him because you know you were friends and stuff like that you talked alot and stuff. I would just try not to think about and it and stuff. I know that its hard to get over someone. But try it anyway. Just try and start thinking about other things. Maybe you can spend more time with your other friends and stuff to take your mind off of him for a while. I can't really tell what your going through because I really don't know how you feel when these situations come. Well tell me how it does ok.

~Liza~

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Okay, i'm 13. I like my friends Josh and John.They are both 13 too. John has a girlfriend but Josh doesn't. Sometimes I think Josh likes me because one time when we were on the way home from playing a concert from school it was around 9p.m and I was tired. I sat with Josh and started falling asleep. Josh then started to hold my hand and tell me to lay my head on his shoulder. In school he would give me hugs and sit with me. The only problem is that I don't know if he likes me and I'm the kind of person who is shy to say that kind of stuff to guys. What should I do? Does he like me?

In this situation its a more likely yes. I'm not ruling out that he is also a really good friend and stuff like that, its just that most guys don't usually do that. You should tell one of your friends and see what they think about it. John is taken so go for Josh, plus Josh seems like a really sweet guy, not saying that John isn't its just that you tell us anything about John so yeah. Hope I helped.

~Liza~

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Well I have a best friend and we haven't spent time together totally for 3 to 4 weeks. She and I have been busy as heck. Twice she spent the night over this over girl's house. She calls her, her best friend too. But she's told me that I’m number one. Well now I’m starting to feel left out because I also know her other best friend and we get along well. I just can't stand them being together hanging out and I’m never invited like when the other girl invited my best friend, Kay, to sleep over. She doesn't even call me that much anymore. I remember like in the beginning of the year that the other girl, eliz, was not in the picture and now she's treating her as she's been there for her like I have and SHE HASN'T! She's now including her in everything of her thoughts. I feel like if she had to choose between me and eliz needed to be helped up off the edge of a cliff she would grab me, but after talk about eliz the whole time. We also go to different schools like I go to high school and they go to junior high. Kay even cried when eliz needed to talk to me and didn't want to talk to Kay secretly. I was pissed on how she cried over her and I thought would she do the same to me. When they recently had a sleepover last Friday and she was showing me pictures of the sleepover and she had a picture of them together with the word "best friends" at the top. I felt my heart break that moment. That sleepover was for a "project" which they just played around the whole time though. I barely see Kay anymore and we live so close like 5 seconds from each other's house that I can see in her windows. But she sees eliz 24/7 though. She's also about to go on a cruise for a week and I won't see her than. I wanted to spend this time with her. I'm wondering if she even cares about me anymore really. My friendship love for her is fading. She's even keeping secrets from me like letting that eliz girl know before me and she promised she wouldn't do that in the beginning. She's acting different too and I don't like it. She tells me I’m totally #1, but the way she's been equaling me to this eliz chick that thought sounds more and more false to me. I've known her for 3 years and she's known her for 1 and a half! She treats me like she would treat her. I'm not included on any that they do and I hate that. Also my other friends when we get together I try to get Kay to go quick. She didn’t even attempt to have me come along. I don’t know what to do about this. Am I being unreasonable or totally fair and have a right to be a little ticked? Please help!!

Actually I'm in the same situation right now. If she is treating you like that she really isn't your best friend. Best Friends stick with each other no matter what. So I do think that you have the right to be pissed. You have other friends that you can talk too and that care for you. I'm not saying that to totally give up on her its just that you have other friends that you can turn too. I'm turning to my decision so I think I'm going to stop there. Please think about this very carefully. Hope I helped.

~Liza~

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hey. Im thirteen and i have this friend who is a boy. Hes like my best friend and we have been best friends for about 2 years. the thing is that i think that i like him. I don't know what to do. If i tell him im afraid how he will react due to the fact that i have dropped no hints and he thinks we are only friends. Also im really afriad on how this will affect our friendship because i don't know what i would do without him. i know this is tough but i really need help on this one!

Well its common to have feelings with your best friend(boy) especially if you've known them for a really long time. I would just confront him that your having feelings towards him and maybe he likes you too. But if you keep it to yourself he will notice that there is something that is wrong so the best thing would be is to tell him. Hope I helped.

~Liza~

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I am 13 and in 8th grade and have never had a boyfriend. I think I'll be able to manage one better when I get to high school. Is it a turn-off to guys if you've never had a boyfriend before? I need to know, thanks.

I give fives.

This is my own opinion but I really think that its not. If a guy likes you he should like by who you are and not by your history in dating.Having no history and history in dating doesn't change anything to how you feel about that person. And you will manage bf in high school or even now. Just don't ever think of something like that. Tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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I was recently dumped by my boyfriend on my birthday. it was so painful but i dont know how to get over him its been about 2 or 3 weeks now since we broke up but i cant stop thinking about him. I always catch myself listening to songs that are similiar to are break up. People are always telling me to get over him but its hard when you loved some one. You cant just forget what happened. I always look back on are first kiss at my party. Somtimes i even cry my self to sleep. Well the worst part was we were the best of friends before we went out and now that we broke up were always arguing and im always getting jeoulose becuase he already likes other girls and he is always talking about them on the phone. But i mean cant give away are friendship its been to long of being friends to just throw it away. well what should i do to get over this its so painfull! (i am 13 and a girl)

The thing is that you can't really get over anyone that you've loved. I know how you feel because I've been through almost the same situation except we never talk that much anymore.I know it sad but don't let that happen to you. Be friends with him and just be happy that you actually have him in your life. Hope I helped.

~Liza~

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okay i know this might sound like a stupid question, but im not quite sure what it means what does it mean when a guy says he wants to fuck you really badly? is it fingering you or to have sex?

thank you!

It usually means he really wants to have sex with you.

~Liza~

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a boy liked me. i'm scared of relationship. he loses feelings for me. not his fault. i run away from every guy. i start to like him. he doesnt know. i dont even really know what my question is......IM THAT CONFUSED!!!

Okay first of all calm down. Take a deep breathe. Okay well you said that your afraid of relationships right. Its not that bad. If you like this guy well I would go out with him. Try it out only then you can face your fears. Don't be afraid.And maybe he will start liking you again. Tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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hey .. kinda havin guy problems.. i like a guy from mah skool (kyle) and he acts like he likes me but says he doesnt wana gf.. and then mah Ex bf tony came bak into mah life today. i just saw him for the first time since he broke up with me. And he was really sweet and was kinda flirting with me i think. and he made a point to tell me he broke up with the girl who he broke up with me for.. and idk it kinda brought bak feelings i have for him. dunno if i should go out with him if he does ask me bak out or jsut wait around 4 kyle.. can u help PLEASE thanks sorry 2 bother u

Sometimes waiting around for a guy is not always the best. If there is something better that comes well take it. In this situation I would think about which one you feel better around with. Since your ex came back to you ummm I would consider it, but I'm not you. I would go for the one that you know more about and is more comfortable around with. Tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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Ok well i like this kid a year older than me A LOT the problem is he has a gf well one weekend he begged me to come over but i couldnt now he wants me over this weekend well I know his gf and im not a slut so the best choice is to stay home right ?

Not exactly. Just because you go to a guys house and he has a gf and everything doesn't mean that your a slut. It just means that your really good friends. Plus if you do like this guy a lot well umm its your decision and if you feel like a slut going to his house well then don't go. Just tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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*14//female if it helps* ohkk .. so um theres this kid who i like and im pretty sure he like me too (we'll call him bob) and he just broke up with his girlfriend cuz she was cheating on him =o .. but one of his friends likes me too - and i sorta like him whos been single for a while -sometimes it seems that they're fighting over me - ahhh i dont know what 2 do

Well if you like "Bob" you know that you like him, and you SORTA likes his friend. Which one have you known better? Go for one that your sure that you want to go with and go from that.

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my ex and i are best friends,he has girlfriend and me her dont like each other, but its like now im realizing i still love him but i couldn't ever imagine being more than just his friend, even though we you used to go out,my friends say i should tell him how i feel but i just dont kno has a girl that he loves dearly but i get this vibe that maybe its something he not telling me,so im trying to figure out if its love or friendship. so what should i do should i tell him how i feelor should i just let this friendship "be real"?i also want to have sex with him and i think he knows that but he doesnt want to hurt his girl and i told him what she dont know won't hurt her so what should i do?

I really think you that you shouldn't do anything just be his friends he needs a friend. Plus if it is love he will break up with his gf and go with you. And don't have sex with your best friend and especially if he has a gf.Tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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Okay, i like this guy and ive liked him ever since i met him. well, i liked him last year and he found out. He was all like i like you as a friend. Okay, well i like him still and hes in the grade above me and like were friends and stuff. I kind of have a deadline before the school play ends (jan. 22) to get him to like me, how do i make him like me more than "just a friend"?

Well umm...I wouldn't do anything really. If he says that he only likes you as a friend and maybe you can just be happy that you guys are friends and that he still talks to you. Some guys freak out about some that they don't like liking then because there like avoiding you and stuff. But this guy seems different so I think you can just be friends. And this is not my decision so yeah. Well tell me what happens.

~Liza~

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oh man my best freind is dating the girl i like the most. I like him a lot but i like her too.
WHAT DO I DO?

Ok I really do think that you shouldn't do anything. Having a friendship break up because of a girl, I mean I was in the same position except it was a guy that I liked and I lost my best friend because of him. Please don't make the mistake that I had gone through. I really regret doing that. And like the other people that have answered Friends to last longer than relationships......sometimes. Tell me how it goes.

~Liza~

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First of all, that's my dog. It's a red dacshund and I need some good names for HIM

I would call him hendrix. Don't ask me y? I just thought of that name. Hope I helped.

~Liza~

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I really like this guy and I guess you can say we ar5e "seeing" eachother because we both like eachother and all that jaz. The thing is sence he lives about a half hour away I dont get to see him often.. the next time I see him id like to do something special for him. Something maybe sexii and sweet or just maybe something simple and cute. But Im not sure what to do? I want to show to him I like him and im serious about this..
Any ideas?
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My choice would be just to do something simple and cute because if he already likes you, you wouldn't really need to be all sexi and sweet in front of him because to him you already are. And I can tell that your serious about this. Thats what I would do. Well you could go to a park wait no its winter. You could invite him to go to the movies or maybe to your house. Then where you guys can be alone together and have a great time talking and stuff like that. Keep me posted on this.

~Liza~

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For the past few weeks my best friend has been acting a lot different towards me. It seems like she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. We used to hang out all the time, now when I ask her to come over she ignores me or tells me her mom doesn't feel good. She once told me her mom was putting up Christmas decorations. I went there two days later since we were going to church and her mom was putting up decorations then & didn't seem to care I was there. At school if I'm talking to her and our friend Dan (changed the name) says something, she tunes me out and starts listening to him. Last night we went to the beauty pagent thing our school was doing, and she told me "you know, maybe we shouldn't go places together anymore." That gave me the notion that apparently she doesn't want to hang out with me anymore. One other thing is the other day she told me I couldn't come over because her mom was mad at her for something. I have a friend who's friends with her brother and he told me that her little brother had a friend spending the night. So what do you guys think is going on? Oh, and I've talked to her about her ignoring me when she talks to Dan but she just continues to do it. Any ideas or suggestions on what else I should say to her? Thanks.

If she is your friend she wouldn't do that. If this continues my best choice would just to talk to her without your friend (Dan). If she listens to you then, then its just probably that she likes this guy. You know something else people change when there growing up. Not every person that you were really close to you doesn't mean that there gonna be there 4ever. I'm not trying to put you down with this but its true. I've been in this expierence before and my friend and I still talk but not as much as we used to.
And if I'm wrong about this situation please 4give me.

~Liza~

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hey im anonymous!my dad is died and my mom is rasing me and my 2 sisters.my mom ahd several problems with my uncles anout my dad's inheritance but my mom put it threw.that's not the problem now my mom is always screaming.i once thought about commiting suicide.i had several other problems.I aslo was about to start depression.im confused.im just annoyed.about wat? i dunno.plz i need help.

Well I'm not trying to sound like a priest or anything but the best to do right now is to pray and tell an adult that you trust, about this. Ummm...i really don't know alot about this subject but I would really like to help you. Tell an adult and maybe they can help and pray to God to help you. =)


You don't have to rate. Tell me how it does.

~Liza~

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ok, i moved schools this year and my friend from my old school moved ther too but i never knew and at my old school wwe always used to hang out and now she just ignores me and shes being meen to me and she gives me an attitude.

someone plz tell me what to do i'm sooo confused!

Well if she does that to you then she really isn't your friend. But maybe you not knowing that she moved to the same school as you, well she might have thought that you were ignoring her. You know what I mean. Well the best thing you can do right now is probably to talk to her and tell her what you feel. Ask her why she's been doing that. If she doesn't want to talk well just let her be. Maybe she will come around.

Hope that helped.
~Liza~

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