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I feel Forgotten!!!
Well I have a best friend and we haven't spent time together totally for 3 to 4 weeks. She and I have been busy as heck. Twice she spent the night over this over girl's house. She calls her, her best friend too. But she's told me that I’m number one. Well now I’m starting to feel left out because I also know her other best friend and we get along well. I just can't stand them being together hanging out and I’m never invited like when the other girl invited my best friend, Kay, to sleep over. She doesn't even call me that much anymore. I remember like in the beginning of the year that the other girl, eliz, was not in the picture and now she's treating her as she's been there for her like I have and SHE HASN'T! She's now including her in everything of her thoughts. I feel like if she had to choose between me and eliz needed to be helped up off the edge of a cliff she would grab me, but after talk about eliz the whole time. We also go to different schools like I go to high school and they go to junior high. Kay even cried when eliz needed to talk to me and didn't want to talk to Kay secretly. I was pissed on how she cried over her and I thought would she do the same to me. When they recently had a sleepover last Friday and she was showing me pictures of the sleepover and she had a picture of them together with the word "best friends" at the top. I felt my heart break that moment. That sleepover was for a "project" which they just played around the whole time though. I barely see Kay anymore and we live so close like 5 seconds from each other's house that I can see in her windows. But she sees eliz 24/7 though. She's also about to go on a cruise for a week and I won't see her than. I wanted to spend this time with her. I'm wondering if she even cares about me anymore really. My friendship love for her is fading. She's even keeping secrets from me like letting that eliz girl know before me and she promised she wouldn't do that in the beginning. She's acting different too and I don't like it. She tells me I’m totally #1, but the way she's been equaling me to this eliz chick that thought sounds more and more false to me. I've known her for 3 years and she's known her for 1 and a half! She treats me like she would treat her. I'm not included on any that they do and I hate that. Also my other friends when we get together I try to get Kay to go quick. She didn’t even attempt to have me come along. I don’t know what to do about this. Am I being unreasonable or totally fair and have a right to be a little ticked? Please help!!
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oh emm gee that soundsz just like meh and mii " best friend " .. letsz call her 1 and the other girl 2 .. well meh and 1 were really close and everythinq then during x-mas time 1 and 2 started havinq partiesz and sleepovers .. im in high school and there only in 8th gr. what i did was give them there space let them have fun or w.e because at the end i was still number one .. it took time but all you have to do is qive it the time that it needs. if you want you can even tell her how you feel like i did .. she`ll listen .. friends are supposed to tell everything to each other even if its not what the other person wants to here .. if i didn't help you then IM me [ soy x3 rebeLde ] or w/b .. good luck !
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Ohh my gosh that sounds like exactly what I am going through right now with one of my best friends!What I have been trying to do is just when I see her go up to her and just start talking about stuff. Just what ever comes into your mind. Like when i'm walkin down the hall and I see her, I run into her and say "Ohh my gosh I'm so sorry couldn't see you there" And also make and effort to invite her over to your house so you and her can jsut talk and hang out like you used to. and yes you totally have the right to think that the other girl is taking your place.I know that sometimes i kinda just want to smack the other girl who is steeling my best friend! But that wouldn't be a wise choice if you ask me! Hope this helps JL
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Actually I'm in the same situation right now. If she is treating you like that she really isn't your best friend. Best Friends stick with each other no matter what. So I do think that you have the right to be pissed. You have other friends that you can talk too and that care for you. I'm not saying that to totally give up on her its just that you have other friends that you can turn too. I'm turning to my decision so I think I'm going to stop there. Please think about this very carefully. Hope I helped.
~Liza~
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ok that was really long but to sum this up is maybe you sghould talk to her and let her know how you feel andmaybe she will talk to this other girl and they can come up with something where you are invited. She should not push you off for someone else but when something is new people tend to forget about the other things that mean the most to them. Tell her how you feel and if she is a true friend she will listen to you and hopefully realize what is going on. good luck
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