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I recently bought a large potted plant.
The problem is with my cat. He now feels
that this plant is a good place to go potty.
He is an indoor cat and he has a litter box he
has used for years. Since I got the plant though,
he would much rather use it!
He is slinging dirt all over the place and
I am sure his digging in there isn't helping
my new plant.
Any suggestions on how to get him back
into the litter box without having to
get rid of my plant?
you could say bad cat and squirt it with a water bottle when it goes to the bathroom in the plant and then throw it in the litter box.. lol that's what we did to our cat! because we all know its hard to punish a cat.
Okay. im going to a new school next year, so ive been asking alot of questions on how to be like outgoing and stuff. but i was just wondering, is there a line between trying to be outgoing and funny and stuff even if its already hard for you, and then being fake?
because i know that im not just like a quiet person, becuase when im with my friends.. i can be all crazy and stuff. but when im around other people who i dont no, im really shy. and i dont want to be something im not.. but still..
idk if this makes since.. but basicly is that being fake?
no thats deffinatly not fake.. but i don't think you should be scared going to a new school because they will be just as intimated by you and think you are even more cool if you don't act scared at all.. i say don't be afraid to have fun and be crazy.. everybody likes something new!
to start off
i'm 14/f
almost 180lbs =/
and about 5'5"
what should my weight goal be?
i would really like to be a size M in shirts.
i'm XL now.
advice on how to lose the weight would be helpful too.
thanks!
i don't know what a healty weight would be for you and i don't want to set that goal.. i think you should just go until you feel comfortable.. i wouldn't try to really think about the goal you want to get it down too but maybe how many pounds you want to a week.
your body is 80% what you eat and 20% how you work out..
so working out is important.. but the main thing is what you eat..
eat things with very low fat calories/ grams of fat.. like 2.5g or less.. and the lower the calories the better too.. becaue if you eat less calories than you burn you loose weight... by all means do not starve yourself or let yourself go hungry becasue you will just screw up your metabolism and make it a lot harder for you to loose weight
but some good foods are like
smart start cereal.. i think its really good
and i like the quaker assorted frute instant oatmeals.. both of these would be great for breakfast w/ skim milk.. yogurt would be good too
eat lots of fruite and vegetables and lean protiens.. but basically don't be afraid to snack becasue that will just make your metabolism go faster and you will be able to burn your food.. and do not eat big meals.. so snack and little meals basically... and drink plenty of water. i find that some of the time i think im hungry i am actually thirsty.. but never eat until you are stuffed.. just eat until you are not hungry.. also try to stay away from all junk food..
but with exercise.. i dont know what you are interested in.. but running is always good and crunches.. anything that would push you and give you a sweat will work.. just try to do it for atleast 30 min a day every day.. and as you get to like it more try to push it up to an hour or two... hope i can help, let me know how things are going :)
ahh so i want this guy to like me.. i want him to chase after me.. but i want to "play hard to get" like i dont wanna be the one always talking to him.. i want him to talk to me.. idk i mean im not just lookin' for attention.. but im soo sick of being the girl who falls head over heels n gets her heart broken.. i wanna be the girl HE falls for. n hopefully things will work out..
You seem a lot like me a couple months ago :). All you have to do is just really have an "i dont care" attitude. with yourself and with him if you just started talking to him. you have to have some control and think "I am not going to be the first one to talk to him today, if he wants to talk to me he will" and if he doesnt after a day don't worry, it will confuse him if he thinks you lost interest ;). that sounds terrible I'm sorry. But when you talk to him keep things short. Make sure you are the one ending the conversation, and if texting he is the last one to text. Don't be a bitch at all, just act sweet and innocent, and look really cute when you do hang out with him, and act friendly when you hang out with him, just be yourself but don't make it seem like you really really want him... and he will chase after you.
i know that seems like a lot. and im sorry if it is. thats what i did, and i got the guy of my dreams to be constantly telling me, "You're my girl"... but if you have been hurt a lot you just need to relax and be patient. you deserve a good guy, and everyone knows it :)
hi.. just checking back.. so did my plan work? :)
so yeah im i like this guy really bad and weve had flings in the past and all he heard i wanted to "hook up " with him which i do but i really like him and thats why i wanna hook up with him .. he would hook up with me too but i feel like all he wants is hooking up and isnt serious i dont really think it but its just the impression hes giving off i really know him and im sure he would settle down eventually .. but my main problem is he just hooekd up with this really really pretty girl who has an amazing body and i feel like thats the end of me because hwen he sees me now im not gonna meen as much as i did to him before.. which was a lot i think.. and now he like talks to this girl... i really dont know what my question is.. all i know if i need someone to talk to and help me somewhat .. thanks in advance
i know its hard. and you dont want to hear this and im sorry. but even if you like him a TON, never get with a guy that is only interested in the physical stuff. Guys like that are immature and have the potential to cheat, and treat a girl like shit. trust me it happened to me. the good news is that when he setteled down he wanted me sooo bad. but dont worry about the other girl. he seems kinda shallow so im sure he thought you were really hot too.. but never loose your confidence, and feel free to flaunt your stuff and play games with him. it will drive him crazy if he thinks you are not interested in him. and the truth is you wont be after a while. but i really think he's too risky to get involved with. so again im sorry becasue if you like him i know its not what you want to hear, but it's better than him hurting you trust me.
I’m 16 and I’m upset about (Girl), who is 15.
I understand I’ve already messed up any chance I had with her, and I don’t deserve her because of that. But she doesn’t even want to talk to me. She won’t even let me tell her how I feel about her, or explain why I never asked her out.
I’m really worried my friend (Guy), who is 15, likes her. The reason I never asked her out has to do with my previous girlfriend, (Slut). Long story short, I messed up with (Slut) and she ended up with my best friend. I was miserable for two months. It took me two years to be able to like another girl again, I then I met her, (Girl). I really liked (Girl). I wanted to ask (Girl) out, and I knew she would say yes. But every time I tried to ask her out, for four months, the feeling game back. I kept thinking, what if I mess up and she ends up with my best friend? It was a stupid thing to think, I know. Finally, she got tired of waiting for me and moved on. So, after all, I did mess up, and that’ll set me back another year. But if she ends up with (Guy), one of my best friends, I don’t think I’ll be able to ask a girl out until I’m out of college. She and (Guy) have been flirting like I used to flirt with her.
What should I do?
go get her tiger.. just talk to her, be sweet and explain the situation. that you really like her.. liked her a lot.. and you wern't sure if you were ready for her to be your girlfriend until you were afraid it was too late... well its not too late. i also think you should say something to your guy friend. Be like dude thats not very cool, it seems like you are trying to get with every girl i like; you are fifteen i think you should be able to find your own. Plus since you are 16 and he is 15 she will go for you becasue you are older and you can drive. at least in my state you have to be 16.
My hair is very curly, but my bangs are straight. Idiotic straight. Like, they curl once at the scalp and then fall exactly pin straight across my face. It probably happens because I used to iron my bangs staright. But I did the rest of my hair too! Why is it happening? Pretty much my only options are to straighten them again or gel like there's no tomorrow. It's ugly and it doesn't belong. How can I get my bangs to curl like the rest of my hair? (P.S., I don't want it to look too unnatural, and our curling iron has a bigger rod than my spirals. Help!)
i have had the same problem. The hairs around your face dont curl because they have undergone a lot more damage so the natural curls and waves are stripped out. What tends to help me is after you take a shower, or when your hair is soaking wet, do not touch the hairs around your face, or as little as possible. If you are constantly messing with them to make them curly they wont curl. So it helps me to basically be patient and not touch them at all. I know its hard, but try it one time and see if it works. I also use curle life moose and shampoo.
Well, theres this guy I met recently that I like, but I'm not sure what he thinks of me. We don't really talk in person but on IM he is always first to message me and he talks a lot. However, at school its like he doesn't even know me. We pass eachother in the halls many times but he just walks past me without even looking at me and the one time I did see him look at me he quickly turned away but I am friends with two of his friends...so what does this all mean?
maybe he likes you but doesnt want you to think that becasue he might think that you think hes weird if you just recently met... if he looks at you and turns away quickly he deffinatly has interest.. and if he goes out of his way to say hi and keep talking to you hes either really friendly or he likes you lol... i say maybe give little cutsie signs in person that you like him.. like smile/grin hello when you see him or look up at him with your head cocked and slightly down (i think you know what look im talking about) lol... but i think he likes you... just dont be to obvious.. becasue you dont want him to think your comming on to strong... trust me it is always best to let the guy come after you... :)
This may seem like the preppiest question you have ever heard but I gotta ask it-How do you straighten your hair right? I mean like every time I straighten my hair it doesn't seem to be "straight enough" to my friends. i really need advice on how to straighten your hair right
first... get a straightening shampoo/ sleek shampoo and conditioner
second blow dry it straight with some leave in conditioner.. or air dry if its not to curly or you have a good straightner
third straighten it in layers.. like do the hair just above your.. and then a little more.. then half way.. then a little more.. then all.. or w/e
fourth put hair spray (an aerosal spary) not spritz... all over your hair.. then brush the hair spray
fifth... run the straightener through your hair just a little to set the hair spray and to work out any kinks
sixth.. put in a little sirum that will help keep it moisturized and keep the friz down
and have a good repairing conditioner so you dont get split ends from heat damage :)
so me and my friend jamie have been friends since kindergarden(now were in 8th grade). but recently she has been ditching me for my friend shannon. i mean shannon isnt a bad person or w/e, but i just want my friend back. i didnt know why she WAS ditching me so i got all mad and just assumed she didnt want to be my friend anymore, bc she was like ALL OVER SHANNON! like her and shannon did EVERYTHING together. so one day in class i drew this really mean picture of her bc she was ditching me. then at that recess someone asked me what was wrong and i told her the story how jamie was ditching me and i called her a biotch. i mean i HAD to! jamie gets mad at me for the gayest things. like on valentines day i didnt get her a present, so she got all mad at me! and that made me cry in class! UGHH she gets on my nerves sometimes. oh and by the way she bacically STOLE everything from me. (for example:im always gosh your so retarted hahaha duh duh ..and now SHE does that) and it has been rumored(by me..duh..well i think this) that she only wants to be my friend bc i know 2 girls that are like popular and stuff and really fun to be around and were like bff and jamie wants to be really close to them too.
today(feb.28)i sent jamie a note saying how sorry i was and how i thought she was ditching me for shannon. idk whats going to happen next, but knowing jamie, she will not forgive until i give her a present or w/e. wow some friend!
i want to still be friends w/ her bc weve been friends for so long and i dont want to ruin that, but shes so rude(when its just me and her) and idk if i can be friends with someone that. if she doesnt forgive me, my life will be even more ruined than it already is. she takes OVER my life. i mean seriously. when its just me and shannon, were like bff and have so much fun, but when jamies around IM LEFT OUT.
and i cant find other friends bc then i would have to like start over with my friendship and stuff.
please help
hmm well i had a friend who did the same thing.. her names kaite... well katie and i are best friends now so its ok... but for a while around eighth grade she started actling like she was too good for me like i would say something that we had joked about the day before and she would infront of her new friends be like you are soo stupid... and it hurt my feelings.. but at the same time like you i was making other friends too.. and i think that maybe she just got a little jealous and wanted to make friends also (espically your friends) i know how it feels... but if you appologized and basically still be friends but just let her be... like let her be the one to call you to ask you to hang out... she will realize (it might take a while) that you are her real best friend and i think you to will be ok.. but basically dont do anything mean like draw pictures or call her names or anything.. just be nice and give her her space (she will come back).... :) trust me.. i dont want you to lose a good friend...
i've been trying to eat a healthy lunch to help lose some weight. This is what I ussauly bring.
~1 banana
~light yogurt
~ 1-2 pb&j sandwiches OR a small sub with
cheese, no fat mayo, and green olives
~fruit juice of some sort
~ and sometimes I'll buy a lil bag a pretzels
Am I right the right track to being healthier and skinnier? If not what should I fix.
i think id lay off the pb&j's... id probably do a healthy turky with no fat kraft american singlets.. and mayo if its a must.. on the fruit juice make sure its natural... if its like 10% juice its just loaded w/ sugar (meaning tons of calories).. bananas are always good and so is yogurt i like oatmeal too (the ones with fruit)... basically the main thing is to eat things with little fat in them 3g or less and to lay off the things with alot of sugar or calories... i think milk helps too... but basially the main thing is to eat a lot of little meals.. or just eat little things throughout the day and not a couple big meals.. eating smaller portions more often will keep your metabolism up... but really the most important thing you can do to lose weight is to excercise... :)
Okay well i'm 15 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little over 4 months now, and i love him with all my heart.. i really do. he's like an amazing boyfriend. he's so good to me. it's just like.. well he's like other guys and i don't understand. he tells me how much he cares about me & stuff but he doesnt show it all the time. we always fight about this & he says i only care about myself.. but i think that like if he cares, why can't he show it?! i mean he does show it.. but not as much as i want. i mean this is my first realllll boyfriend and i know i have very high expectations but idk what to do.. basically i've fallen too too hard for him. every day i cry on the phone with him over stupid things like if he ignores me a few times, or i think he's mad at me but is saying he isn't i'll think he's lying.. or if he forgets to call me especially. i'm so sick of getting hurt. i want to still be in love with him, but i need to stop caring so freaking much.. does anyone know how this is possible? like i tried giving us space & stuff but nothing works my weakness is i care too much... someone help me.
well..i think we have something in common..i feel the same way most of the time about my guy... i know it sucks, and it hurts... but what helps me and gets him to give me more attention is to first never forget that hes lucky to be with you, more so than you are w/ him... and look really really hot to school like where a miniskirt or something and do your hear really cute but look natural.. not so it looks like you tried really hard... and kinda ignoor him like be happy and laugh and smile but dont focus all of your attention on him... like if your at school and he comes up to talk to you say hi and be nice but be more interested in your friends conversations or something (maybe fill them in on it so they know how to act
i've been talking to this guy on myspace. he goes to my school,, but we don't talk and i don't mind. so we've been talking for about a month. and i currently like him. since the first day we talked i liked him. so about 2 weeks ago i told him that i liked him. he just brushed it off like i never said anything. then he kept on shoving it in my face that i liked him. so last week he told me i didn't matter anymore and he's taken by a girl who doesn't play games. so on friday, i went to a skating rink and i saw him there, unexpectedly. he kept on staring @ me. at one point he even blew a kiss at me. and around sometime in the evening there was this contest thingy, so i just stood there an watched with my friends, all of sudden he just stood there, he was literally on me and he kept on flirting with me. if he's taken, why is he doing this? and he's always talking dirty to me,[i don't mind] then again, if he's taken why is he talking dirty to me ?
1) why is he doing this if he's taken?[my friends think he likes me, but he's fooled me way 2 many times to think that.
2} i was thinking of not talking to him, b/c i don't want things to get messy w/ his supposedly g.f. i don't really think he has a g.f. do you?
3}what is your opinion on all of this? what would you do?
it sounds like hes the one playing games... but i think you should just look cute, be nice.. make him drule over you basically... but dont be the one chasing after him... you could casually comment/tease "why are you saying this to me ("talking dirty") if you have a girlfriend?.. oh geez i hope you dont think im your girlfriend" basically i say like him but dont let him know you do... just act like hes friend and dont treat him any differently.. but when your around him look really hot and be sure your talking to other guys so it doesnt look like you are only interested in him.... he will deffinatly be thinking about you...... but if you talk dirty back or anything im worried he might just think of you as back up or im sorry but "a booty call" and if you want him as more than a hookup dont let him do that...
okay.. so im 15/f and my boyfriend 17/m got into a fight last night. see we have been together for a little over 5 months. we have only got into 3 big fights, counting this one.
last night we went to the movies, and then we hung out at his place. i was in a sad/bad mood so i didnt really talk to him all that much, but i got over it and we started talking, then had sex. Well, he has this game on his phone that i like to play.
&& his birthday is next month, and i was going to have a surprise party for him, i told his best friend, so i looked at his texting to see if his friend told him anything about it. and i saw that his friend asked if he was with me and my bf said yea, shes being the usal bitch. i mean, i didnt do anything to called a "bitch". i told him i wanted to go home and on the way home i was crying and stuff. then i got home and we got into a texting fight, and i told him i would never call him any names like that, and then today he was saying how i dont appreciate the things he does for me. and i said im sorry that you called me a bitch and i had sex with you. and he said that he told his friend that before we did anything.
well really theres more to it then that, but i cried all night and today.. am i over reacting?.. i mean i never had a boyfriend that does the things my boyfriend does for me. hes so sweet, and i do notice the things he does for me. i might not show how i love him, but i do, im just really scared of getting hurt like i did in the past... what should i do to show him that im sorry?... or should i even be sorry?
he should appologize... he has no right to call you a bitch behind ur back espically if he said "usual" because that means that hes been thinking that for a while... he needs to have told you how you were acting and confronted you about you "acting like a bitch" and not his friend so he needs to appologize and talk to you aobut it... then you can appologize and say hey im sorry for acting that way if you thought i was ill try to not do that again.. but it really hurt when you said that about me because i think the exact opposite of you..... so maybe just talk to him about that... but he should appologize first/ be chasing after you...
when you srcunch your hair.. after you towel dry it (damp) do you brush it and THEN put the gell in?
deffinatly not..... you brush it when its soaking wet only then scrunch w/ the towel dry then put gel in then scrunch w/ ur hands more as it drys... if you brush it after its drying and have scrunched it/ put gel in it will get really frizzy/poofy and lose all of its curl
I am a 15 year old girl. My boyfriend and i broke up after a long time a few weeks ago. I really do love him and he told me "i used to love you." I messed up because i really hurt him and now I dont know it he is just saying he doesn't love me or if he really doesn't. There is this other boy who is really cute and he likes me. All of my friends are telling me it will help if I go out with him but I still love my ex. what do i do? should i keep waiting for my ex.. he calls me everynight and he always wants to talk... or should i forget about him and go for the new boy?
i say go w/ ur heart... i know its hard to forget an x... but who cares what other people think, if you like him stay with him... try to win him back.. it will just hurt him more if you go out w/ the new guy... basically i say if you still "love" ur x then go back to him... its too hard on urself to go against love... trust me
After my best friend's death her troubled teen daughter came to stay with my family. Of course there were conditions. Job, school (g.e.d.), no drugs, booze. After just 5 weeks she broke all the rules. Got fired from a job that I helped her get etc....THEN she started an affair with my teen age son. Claiming she's "in love", he works and goes to school. He was being rail roaded. She just dug her claws in deeper. It was getting crazy. I had her leave yesterday. She went to a shelter, I feel grief and relief at the same time. Maybe she should have never came. Maybe (somehow) I should've dealt with it. For at least a week I didn't sleep and eat (lost 6 lbs.). My husband is supportive of my decision but my )OLDER son (29), says I was unfair to her. What do you think, please I need advice !!!
well i think u were unfair and need to be a lot more supporitive becasue a teenage daughter just lost her mom.. and the teenage years are extreemly hard on a girl anyway and then she has no mom to talk to her about it with... so i think it would take her a long time to open up but she just lost her mom and you need to be there for her... i know its frusturating that she is with your son.. but maybe u could have talked to them about it.. saying that they can be good friends but since they live in the same house they cant have a relationship... have you ever seen the movie raising helen..... i think you need to watch it.. it might help you understand the girl... maybe get her a psychiatrist... but dont give up
Ok so as you all know summer is coming up =) and i found a super cute bikini that im gonna try to look good in. You know them people at the beach who wear them little bikinis and just look awful well i dont wanna be one of them. I'm 5'3 a little less than 110 im thinking. So im not saying im over weight its just my stomach is not toned. Its kind of gross...if i stand up its mostly flat its just kind of is flat | like that then go in / like that you know what i mean well not that drastic but just basically i could be alot skinner and toned. I wanna get like this because i have a hot new boyfriend and i wanna look good when i go to the beach with him. How do i get my stomach looking real good??
PLEASE HELP!!!!
If i have to ill stop drinking pop :) thats the extent ill go to :)
PLEASEEEE HELP
basically cut back on junk food (go for a banana) and two... do tons of ab work.... suitcase crunches, crossovers, sissors, leg raises, toe touches, side crunches, figure 8's, two count situps, chinies..... basically buy a med ball maybe a small one and a big one the rubber ones not like a huge thing... and when you do them set a goal ok im going to do 30 (more than you think you want to) or go until you feel a burn and then ten more... i can help you alot (i have a 6 pack and i used to have ur problem) so basically if you dont know how to do any of those examples of sittups i named message me and ill explain... :)
Ok this girl I know I've started to talk to her a lot, and i can tell she likes me and i like her too, even my friends think she likes me. But like I asked her to a dance like 3 months ago and she said no, but it was totally random kind of because I hadn't even talked to her in like a year or two. But now i talked to her for like 2 hours a day on aim/phone, i would at scool, but she doesnt go to my scool nemore. So like i donno wat i should do, like ask her out again, or i was thinking to jus go 2 a movie and do stuff wit her and hang then ask... if u hav ne ideas tell me, or jus othr advice on how to help me ask her out and get her to like me more.
umm.. well if you go to different schools you could convincer her close to the dance that going to ur dance would be fun because it would be an extra one she could get to go to (if it were me i would go)... but i dotn really know enough to tell you exactly what to do... when you talk do you just talk about stuff or do you occasionaly flirt?... but then again random stuff can be cute... i say talk to her and plan something really fun to do out one friday or saturday night.. and then when it feels right ask her again.. but if your really nice, occasionaly jokingly tease, flirt, and are just yourself you should be in good shape...
This is basically a disaster waiting to happen...but it could be fun. I'm going on a snowboarding trip in a few days, and theres about 4 guys going and i'm the only girl besides the girl leader. and well, one of the guys likes me. soooo awkward. i definitely don't like him, but i've started liking his best friend, who is also going. i haven't told anyone about it b/c i want to avoid drama. but everyone says the second guy likes me too, so my question is: if he does like me and tries to make a move, what should i do? or should i maybe act on it? i'm definitely not going to tell him i like him, but should i flirt more? he and i already flirt like mad crazy...
well does the 1st guy know that you know that he likes you lol... becasue if he doesnt and you havent ever discussed that with him you could just pull the im sorry i didnt know you felt that way if he ever says anything... and i would say go for the second guy, definatly flirt more, do w/e... but be nice to both of them... dont ignoor the first one, just ignoor the flirting, act like you didnt hear him.... it will be ok but have fun... and if they both like you that would be more challanging for them so they will try harder for you ='s more fun... win win situation