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i've been talking to this guy on myspace. he goes to my school,, but we don't talk and i don't mind. so we've been talking for about a month. and i currently like him. since the first day we talked i liked him. so about 2 weeks ago i told him that i liked him. he just brushed it off like i never said anything. then he kept on shoving it in my face that i liked him. so last week he told me i didn't matter anymore and he's taken by a girl who doesn't play games. so on friday, i went to a skating rink and i saw him there, unexpectedly. he kept on staring @ me. at one point he even blew a kiss at me. and around sometime in the evening there was this contest thingy, so i just stood there an watched with my friends, all of sudden he just stood there, he was literally on me and he kept on flirting with me. if he's taken, why is he doing this? and he's always talking dirty to me,[i don't mind] then again, if he's taken why is he talking dirty to me ?
1) why is he doing this if he's taken?[my friends think he likes me, but he's fooled me way 2 many times to think that.
2} i was thinking of not talking to him, b/c i don't want things to get messy w/ his supposedly g.f. i don't really think he has a g.f. do you?
3}what is your opinion on all of this? what would you do?
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it sounds like hes the one playing games... but i think you should just look cute, be nice.. make him drule over you basically... but dont be the one chasing after him... you could casually comment/tease "why are you saying this to me ("talking dirty") if you have a girlfriend?.. oh geez i hope you dont think im your girlfriend" basically i say like him but dont let him know you do... just act like hes friend and dont treat him any differently.. but when your around him look really hot and be sure your talking to other guys so it doesnt look like you are only interested in him.... he will deffinatly be thinking about you...... but if you talk dirty back or anything im worried he might just think of you as back up or im sorry but "a booty call" and if you want him as more than a hookup dont let him do that...
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haha complicated!!! this is what I'd do:
It's pretty clear that he likes you. or at least, he wants you to think so. in other words, he wants you to like him. the weird thing with guys is that often times they do like girls and not even realize it, funny huh? since he stares at you, and umm...stands on you??? and blows kisses to you, he obviously feels some connection to him. do you still like him? if you do, make him jealous, girl! i know he said he's with some other girl that doesn't play games, but who says flirting with other guys is playing a game!! just talk and laugh really loudly with guys when he's around, and that way even if he DOESN'T like you, maybe you'll find a new guy to like! and if he does like you, he'll go nuts and definitely ask you if you still like him, and he'll probably tell you he likes you too!! and to answer your questions;
1) he might be playing a game with YOU. telling you he's taken means either a) he is taken, b)he wants you to think he's taken to make you jealous, or c) is insecure about being single and wants to seem popular or something. my guess is that he's trying to make you want him even more, and trying to make you jealous. fight fire with fire! make him jealous right back!!
2) well, if he's talking dirty to you, and you're doing it back, morally it's probably not the best thing to do IF he has a girlfriend. i think you should keep talking to him, but if you're talking online, wait a while to respond. or be kind of cold and act like you're talking to a ton of other people, make him think he doesn't control your life. just don't innitiate conversation, unless you reallllllly want to, then just start by asking a question about some guy in your grade (again with the jealousy), or about homework or something. then when he answers just say "ok" or "cool". make HIM take it further.
3) basically everything i said earlier. good luck, hunn!!
hope i helped,
Jen
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Hey, I`m answering your Question from the comment:
It depends...do you LIKELIKE him still? Because if you do...don`t you think it would be a litle awkward? But, yeah go for it! Just as long as ytou don`t fall for his tricks he may try and play on you ;)
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