My guy friend is getting a lot more touchy feely and flirty lately, this week he grabbed my thigh, and pokes my butt with his binder, and tickles me a lot, and today he kept trying to put his hands up my shirt, on my stomache to "warm his hands up" and did it more at our locker trying to tickle me. then when we hugged goodbye after school he put his hands up my shirt again. Why could this be?
thanks.
i'm 17 btw.
I would say that you be flat out from the beginning and tell him not to touch you like that because if you don't tell him now his going to assume your fine with him acting this way. Trust me if you don't say anything it ends awkwardly. i have been in the same situation and to me it seems like he is testing his limit of what he can do. be straight up with him. Hope I helped.
~Jani~
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I'm not good at dealing with this sort of things, so I need help.
I left my facebook account open and my mom went on and read all my messages and replied to all saying I was grounded and wasn't allowed friends till I am 18, which is two years from now. I think it's unfair that she went through ALL MY STUFF. Without my permission.
In a way your mom was wrong in looking on your Facebook and your messages. But you also shouldn't have left it open for anyone to go on it. I suggest that you talk to you mom and ask her why it was that she did that. Maybe she found something in your messages that upset her. There must have been a reason for her to react so strongly. Also try to remember to log out of your Facebook because someone else besides your mom could have gone on it. Hope I helped.
~Jani~
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So one of my best friends lives over an hour away from me. He used to go to the same school as me but moved. I wasn't friends with him then, but we're really close now. I've only gotten to spend time with him once over the course of the two years or so that we've been friends. We're both gay, and last year, I had strong feelings for him, but he told me I wasn't his type. Anyways, I don't think I have a crush on him anymore.
When we text, I feel fine;I feel like I'm talking to one of my close friends, not some guy I like... But for some reason, whenever I look at pictures of him, I get extremely depressed. Whenever he's flirting with someone, I get really upset. I don't why I feel like this, though. In September, he's moving to South Carolina, and he said we could hang out over the summer a little bit. It makes me feel bad that I'm only going to be able to see one of my best friends two or three times more at the MOST in my life (or at least for a few years.) I feel like he does more bad in my life than good, but I don't think it would be right to shut him out of my life. What do I do?
Thank you!
-Corey
If he is a really good friend then you guys can make it work. theres so many ways to communicate now a days. For example Facebook or Skype. But it also seems like you do still feel something for him. So I say keep the communication between you guys. I hope I helped.
~Jani~
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a few months ago, I became really close friends with a guy who I was in band with (he's a senior and i'm a freshman). we would text everyday and sit together on bus rides. it always seemed like he was flirting with me but nothing ever really happened until one bus ride where we held hands. i started to trust him more and i ended up telling him a big secret of mine a few weeks later. he helped me through a hard time and he asked me if i liked him...i wasn't sure but i told him yes. later he told me that i shouldn't like him. i kinda covered it up but after that, we started talking less and he started hanging out with my best friend instead of me. what hurt me the most was seeing them hold hands and talk and how he stopped talking to me. looking back on it all, i do miss him but i also realized that he is really full of himself and he's kind of a jerk. despite that, i think about him all the time and it makes me really sad. what are some ways that i can get over him and our used-to-be friendship.
I was in the same situation as you. I would say that you make some new friends. You never know you might meet some pretty intreasting people that well get you mind of him. You said it yourself his a jerk so there is no point in being sad over him. Try concentrating on other things like school. Hope I helped Hun, let me know if you need anything else.
~Jani~
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i am 14 and have a really big problem. everyone says im too young for love but truth is im not. and I love a girl but she lives too far away for me to see her often enough to date. i love her and she loves me but we cant be together. do i keep talking to her the way i do or just give up?
You should really talk to your parents and maybe you goes can come to an arrangment like weekend visits. But if it doesn't work out then just know that your still young, you will fall in and out love many times in your lifetime. Now i'm not saying that you are to young to know how love feels because you know what you feel but don't worry if it doesn't work out.
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The only thing is, is that if I ask my mom to move in with the family friend then she will flip. She wouldn't even let me go anywhere. The way I escape all this is by leaving on the weekends with friends because they know what I'm living in. They hate that I have to deal with this. I really don't know how to bring this up to my mom...or should I talk to the friend and have her bring it up first. I really don't know what to do... I just don't want to live like this anymore.
okay have your friend bring it up first, is the friend an adult? if they is then the friend should bring it up first. you shouldn't have to live like this so deffainatly move in with this friend wether your mom approves or not because she isn't being a good mother. let the adults handle this. let me know if you need anything else.
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I'm just turning 15 and have been living alone with my mother for 3 years now. We live only on my 600 dollars a month (which is mine because my dad died in 2008) but I never see/get any of the money. Also, she constantly leaves me home alone, all night, so I fend for myself. I have to ask repeatedly for personal necessities and rarely ever get them, my friends and their parents normally get them for me. She smokes A LOT so I am stuck in the smoke filled trailer all day, even with my constant case of bronchitis because of it. And she refuses to stop smoking to help my health. I'm always sick but never get to go to the doctor because she says "It costs too much. You're fine." The two months prior to this month (April and May of 2011) she gambled my 600 dollars away so every day I came home from school, I didn't know where "home" would be. And that's not the first time she has ever done it either. Actually, to be honest, I'm not comfortable around my mom or her boyfriend. I literally hate both of them. I know that's a lot to say, but I do. I would much rather live with a close family friend who has already said she would take me in. I just don't know how to approach this process. I want to be taken care of and feel like I'm loved, not just left home, I'm tired of it. So anyway, I would like some advice on: 1) If I'm right to not want to live with my mother and 2) how to begin the process of leaving her. I thank anyone who responds to this question.
--Sincerely, Me
okay first of yes you are right.your 15 you should be taken care of and not have to fend for yourself all the time. you should feel loved and your mom is not providing that. thats called neglect. second i think you should move in with the family friend and i think that that adult should talk to your mom about you moving in. this is not something you should be dealing with. i hope i helped, i would really like to know how this turns out.if you have anymore questions feel free to ask.
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Okay well he broke up with me and then later that night he said he acted stupid and asked if I would take him back. He also said he loves me and has loved me since two years years ago when we started talking. I'm so confused on what to do. So should we stay broken up or should I give him another chance?
i think that you should give him another chance because although he did break up with you he realized he made a mistake. you should ask him why it was that he broke up with you and go from there. hope i helped.
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why my boyfriend is to much possesive for me?
okay there are many reasons, one could be that he gets jelaous easyly so he gets possesive. another reason is that you get alot of attention from guys and he feels that he needs to show that your with him. i think you should talk to him and ask him yourself why his like that. hope i helped.
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I have this best friend, he's a boy, I'm a girl. I am 16 and he is 17. We are like brother and sister. I trust him with all of my secrets and he tells me a great majority of his problems because he knows I would never judge him or try to sway him to any way. We met in third grade and we have been so close since and we are now in eleventh. He is such a mama's boy, I don't mind that, I know that he will have great respect for girls because of that. Now, everyone thinks that him and I are going to date in the future because of how we are with each other. I make him do things most people can't. He is NOT a people person and I made him go to a dance where he doesn't like most people there and I got him to go to a party where all he knew was me and the host. His mom said I am breaking him out of his shell and she couldn't be happier. I feel like we are just amazingly close, everyone else thinks our actions are because we like each other. Like, he sings to me on his guitar, he holds doors open for me, when I text him upset he sometimes calls me so we can talk and he will stay up all night until he knows I am better. He always says that I can talk to him about anything, I remember one time I was upset but I thought he didn't really care because he was at a party so I told him to not worry about it and he said "don't tell me to not worry about you. Talk to me, what's wrong? I care!" He scares me sometimes with his depression and his need to always be perfect because of his brother and how good his brother is at everything. His exgirlfriend actually told me that I need to talk to him because she feels like he is hurting himself and I did because I knew he would tell me the truth. We talked and he apologized not for the situation but he said sorry numerous times for worrying me because I don't deserve all the problems he dumps on me. He came to my friend's party the other day after 3 days of asking and he was supposed to stay for an hour. Her and I were the only people he knew so we stayed together the whole time and he wound up staying for three hours. I don't think we like each other at all. Again, I feel like we are just so close because we knew each other for nine years.
Do you think we like eachother?
Thanks!
if you don't feel anything for him then you don't like him, im close to my best friend (guy) and we don't like each other it could just be that you guys are just very comfortable with each other and trust eachother. but if you do like him then thats ok to. if you not sure tthen go through what you feel for him and you will figure out if you do or don't. hope i helped!
p.s- to me it seems like you do like each other but like i said it could be that you guys have known each other for so long.
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I want to talk to him but I'm scared. What should I do ?
you have to talk to him. comunication is the key thing in a relationship so if your boyfriend made you cry you have to let him know tell him what it was that he did that made you cry. you shouldn't be scared iof your boyfriend unless he gave you a reason to be and if he did then you shouldn't be in that relationship. hope i helped, let me know if you need any more help.
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Well im ready and he tells me that hes ready but he wants to wait until he gets up on his feet, and gets his own place... Ive told him that i dont care if its a ring out of the 50 cent thing but he tells me that " no i want you to have the best you can get" or something along thos lines... Is he just trying to avode it or do you think that he really wants to wait...? All i want is to be able to let other people know that im his and you cant have it... And no this is not the reason that i want him to ask... I truly love him with all my heart and soul... I want to be with him forever and i want to start my forever with him... Sorry it was so long.
USA/F/18
i think that its just that he wants to get you what you deserve. guys are loike that so just let him get on his feet and see what happens but if your really doubting that his ready talk to him, ask him if he is ready for this comunacation is the key thing. good luck.
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When i was dating my girlfriend Taylor i didnt feel weird or nervous at all. But whenever i date one of my friends i feel weird, nervous, and i feel like i should break up with them. is it because they were my friends before? i only knew Taylor a week and a half before i started dating her. could it be because i am dating someone who i have known for a while? im so confused. or is it because i still really like Taylor?
i think because you really like taylor because usually if you date a friend and like them its sopposed to be less akward because you know them already but if its akward for you then its probably because you don't like them and you like taylor. so think do you still like taylor because if you do you shouldn't be dating someone you don't like. hope i helped.
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17/f 21/m
I dated this guy when I was 15 and got pregnant. I broke up with him when I was 4 months pregnant because he was very controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive, intimidating...etc. He never hit me but he has left bruises on me because he grabbed my arms too hard. He got married, and I knew his wife before they started dating. He came to see the baby for 3 months, dipped for 8 months, came back, and now he hasnt seen her in a month or 2 'because of work'. He doesnt pay child support but I dont want to pursue it because I dont want him to get any kjnd of custody.
This week, he was arrested and I found out that he has been physically violent towards his wife the whole time. She sent me a picture of her black eye. She got a restraining order on him and she suggested I do the same. Now im terrified of him because he has anger towards me and I now know what hes capable of. I have a few questions:
-i really dont want him apart of my or my childs life because hes unstable and dangerous. Hes not on the birth certificate either. Is it wrong for me to cut off all contact from him and not let him see the baby?
-hes from peru and was not a citizen, but his wife is. Did that automatically make him a citizen? Or did he still have to apply? Because she wants to try to get him deported. (he already has a pretty large record)
Any other advice is welcome, thank you !
okay the answer below pretty much covered everything except that since his wife was a citizen and they got married it makes him a resident so he would still have to apply to become a citizen. good luck.
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me and my bestfriend are planning on hanging out on monday, and we have no idea what to do! we're limited on money, and he wants to do something different besides chill at his house cause thats what we normally do every other time. any suggestions? x
There is lots you can do! You can go to the park, or rent a movie and watch it together, you could have a picnicn you could play a sport you both like (soccer,football,etc), you could go bike riding, you could go for a walk also you could play games there are so many things you guys can do. Hope I gave you some ideas :)
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i'm a teen girl and my ex boyfriend wants to take our son for a week. he barley ever sees our son the last time was a few months ago. he is very unpredictable and when we were together he would get high around our son. i don't want that happening anymore so i said no. he is very pissed off at me and said i was being completely unfair. i don't want him to be sad and i want my son to know him but i don't trust him. what should i do?
Okay first things first you were right to say no. You have to think about your son when making this decision. So if you don't trust the father don't let him be alone with your son. What I suggest is supervised visits. Let him go and see you son but be there in the room just in cvase. That way he'll get to know his father and his father won't be mad. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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so im in high school. i am a junior. now the thing is girls always talk to me i'm not a "playa". but it seems every time i get close to a girl i end up fucking up every time so i'm just wondering what other guys do and don't do.
Okay so what you need to do is think about what it was you did that missed it up. Whem you figure out what it is try to change it or not do it again. Some timea guys don't even realize what they do wrong. Trust me you'll figure it out. Hope this helps!
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Okay, so i've liked this guy for like legit 3 years. I'm a freshman in high school and he's a sophomore. He's mad popular and really good at sports. He's known that i've liked him ever since he's been in 8th grade and i've been in 7th grade. I like him a lot, and i want him more than anything. And i really wanna get to know this kid, but i'm afraid to say hey to him, or even smile at him. He looks at me constantly, and so do his friends. Sometimes he can't even look away from me, and he gives me mixed signals and looks. What do i do, do i say hi? or no? I'm friends with him on Facebook and whenever he's online i always stare at the screen waiting for him to chat or message me, but he never does. I don't wanna waste my time on him for the rest of my life, i think i may be falling in love with this kid, and i don't even know him. And i see him everywhere. I'm like obsessed, and i don't know why. God gives me tons of signals everyday, but i just am too scared. Is he waiting for me to say hey, or talk to him first? Why would he be waiting for me? he seems like the kind of guy that would never like me, but everyone knows that i like him, even his brother gives me looks. All the girls think he's like mad cute and hot, and he is, but then again other people say he's a tool and such. I just don't wanna believe them. Please help.
sincerely,
a girl who needs answers.
Okay I say just say hey to him or smile at him when he looks at you. And if your to scared to do that then you be the one to messege or chat him on fb. I,ve done it before with I guy I didn't really talk to in school and one day I chated with him and we got to know each other. So do either, just talk to him get to know him. Hope this helps! :)
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ok, so i wanna know if this guy likes me (i like him too) here is how we "flirt"
~we put our hands on each others thighs and we dont mind
~we always hug like were going out (he comes up from behind me and hugs my waist)
~i told my friends (he was also there) that if you make a little heart with another person (with your fingers) and it comes out cute, then your meant to be! then, he did it with me and everyone said it was cute!
~Tons of people asked us if we were dating.
~he ALWAYS insists on sitting next to me
~ i had to go somewhere and he was leaving so i grabbed his arm so he could stay with me and he laced our fingers together and we held hands for like 2 min and it wasnt ackward or anything!
So yea, hope you guys can answer this ASAP! lol thnx(:
I got to say it seems like he likes you. That's is flirting so he does like you because I'm not even like that with my closet guy friend. Good. Luck :)
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So ive had a lot of the signs of pregnancy(headaches, nausea, fatigue, bloating, constipation, light headed/dizzy, cravings,slight cramps,gas etc) and my last 3 periods have been just heavy spotting for 3days and either early or late. I didnt really notice i could be pregnant until last week and since ive taken 3tests, all negative. Id be about 16weeks if i am. I was suppose to get my period friday and got a single light spot of dark almost brown blood(sorry if tmi) thursday and today but thats it. i dont have any cramps like i usually would. What should i do? btw, im 17 and has had my period since i was 10 so its pretty regular. i had sex jan 19th. and my last regular period was jan 5th.
Okay so I'm not a docter but I do know that it is possible for a pregnance test to come out negative if you take it to early in the pregnance. So there is a chance that you are pregnant but like I said I'm not a docter but I recommend you go to one to know for sure if your pregnant or not.
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