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Parents: Mom got on my facebook and messaged everyone!
I'm not good at dealing with this sort of things, so I need help.
I left my facebook account open and my mom went on and read all my messages and replied to all saying I was grounded and wasn't allowed friends till I am 18, which is two years from now. I think it's unfair that she went through ALL MY STUFF. Without my permission.
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Do you feel you have the kind of relationship with her to be able to air your feelings of being invaded your privacy by her? Tell her if you can.If not Did you think she might habe a good point.Were you maybe discussing things too old for you? Mom is always looking out for your best interest BUT the invasion of privacy WAS wrong.Try to work a compromise out with her to start.Good Luck,Cheriscope
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While it wasn't right of your mom to go on your facebook page and post anything, you should always follow the simple rule of don't post anything you don't want your parents/friends/employer know.
Your mom is just trying to see what's going on in your life. Just try and talk to her, but also listen to what she is saying. Its hard to be a teenager and its hard to be a mom.
While this might not be what you want to hear...she loves enough to take the time to look at your page and to be upset over something. You don't see this now as a good thing but it really is.
Talk to her and remember if its posted on Facebook it out there for the world to see well at least your world
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In a way your mom was wrong in looking on your Facebook and your messages. But you also shouldn't have left it open for anyone to go on it. I suggest that you talk to you mom and ask her why it was that she did that. Maybe she found something in your messages that upset her. There must have been a reason for her to react so strongly. Also try to remember to log out of your Facebook because someone else besides your mom could have gone on it. Hope I helped.
~Jani~
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That's what happens when you leave your facebook open for others to see and post on. Was mom right to look? Was mom right to post on your account?
These are tricky questions. As someone of your grandparents age I am troubled by your question. I do believe you have certain rights to privacy. Communicating with your friends would be one of those rights. What did mom see when she read your messages to cause her to say you are grounded? For instance did she find out you are sexually active? Was this something she was looking for and took the opportunity to answer her question by invading your privacy?
If she indeed found out you are sexually active, which is the only reason I can think of to ground you until your 18. Then the issue becomes one of parental concern over privacy. It is also a legal issue.
The legal issue has to do with the age of consent in your state. In some states the age of consent is as young as 16 which means you can consent to having sex though you are still a minor. What this does is eliminate the statutory rape concerns.
Does the age of consent mean your parents have no right to forbid you to have a sex life or that you have a right to a sex life? This is a whole other issue that if it was to be decided in a court of law? I think would come down on the side of the parents. For you are still a minor and they by law are responsible for your health, safety and welfare.
This leaves the invasion of your privacy. Does moms have the right to read your diary or look at your private communications. The age of cyber communication does muddy the issue somewhat as once you put something into cyberspace it is there for anyone to view. Moms taking advantage of a situation where she could view a controlled site or controlled communications may have put her on the other side of the line. I say may because somewhere in her rights as a parent if you have given her reasonable cause for concern? Then she has the right to do what she has to do to protect you from yourself.
I know, not what you want to hear. Lacking knowledge of what mom may have seen and why she did what she did. I have to draw my own conclusion from her actions. Yes it would have been better if she had asked permission. The question then becomes; would you have let her?
You have every right to be upset that mom posted on your account. This was wrong of her and she should apologize for doing so and remove her posting, if you have not already done so. Her posting was a form of punishment. Punishment should always be private and not public. This was embarrassing to you. I don't believe in embarrassing ones child in front of there peers, then again I'm not your parent.
You need to speak with your mother about this. I'm not sure how to make this right, if it can be made right. The age of cyberspace is relatively new. How can a posting really be seen as coming from her or you. That is the real question here?
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