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I need advice about living with a close family friend instead of my mom.
I'm just turning 15 and have been living alone with my mother for 3 years now. We live only on my 600 dollars a month (which is mine because my dad died in 2008) but I never see/get any of the money. Also, she constantly leaves me home alone, all night, so I fend for myself. I have to ask repeatedly for personal necessities and rarely ever get them, my friends and their parents normally get them for me. She smokes A LOT so I am stuck in the smoke filled trailer all day, even with my constant case of bronchitis because of it. And she refuses to stop smoking to help my health. I'm always sick but never get to go to the doctor because she says "It costs too much. You're fine." The two months prior to this month (April and May of 2011) she gambled my 600 dollars away so every day I came home from school, I didn't know where "home" would be. And that's not the first time she has ever done it either. Actually, to be honest, I'm not comfortable around my mom or her boyfriend. I literally hate both of them. I know that's a lot to say, but I do. I would much rather live with a close family friend who has already said she would take me in. I just don't know how to approach this process. I want to be taken care of and feel like I'm loved, not just left home, I'm tired of it. So anyway, I would like some advice on: 1) If I'm right to not want to live with my mother and 2) how to begin the process of leaving her. I thank anyone who responds to this question.
--Sincerely, Me
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First let me tell you that you are clearly a very intelligent girl. You do not deserve what your mother is putting you through. She obviously doesn't care much for herself or she wouldn't be putting her habbits and boyfriend ahead of her own daughter. One great thing I see here is that her lack of love has not affected the love I feel through your letter. You are a wonderful person and I know you are going to do great and acheive all your dreams and goals. You just have to push through this hurdle.
Ok, my question for you is, if you were to ask your mom if you can move in with the close family friend would she be ok with that? If not perhaps you could ask in a round about way. Maybe first you ask to spend the night and let one turn into two and then a week and so forth. From what I read she's probably not going to let go of the money you recieve from your death benifits so if you bring up money you might have another issue on your hands that will only make things worse for you. If at all possible I would just stay away from that subject and see if the family friend would be willing to cover your expenses until to get a part time job to help out. But I would ask if you could stay free of charge because it's hard to juggle school and work but it can be done.
I wish you all the happiness you deserve. Hang in there and things will get better. Please let me know how you are doing.
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okay first of yes you are right.your 15 you should be taken care of and not have to fend for yourself all the time. you should feel loved and your mom is not providing that. thats called neglect. second i think you should move in with the family friend and i think that that adult should talk to your mom about you moving in. this is not something you should be dealing with. i hope i helped, i would really like to know how this turns out.if you have anymore questions feel free to ask.
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