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Hi, I'm Caitlin! I have brown hair, hazle eyes, I'm 5'6" and I LOVE my friends!!♥♥
I'm into football, soccer, dance, and volleyball. I heard about advicenators from my friend Sheridan Kayne Vaccaro (and i love her sooooo much)
I love to help people out. And I'm told i give good advice. So......

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Me and my boyfriend of two years just broke up. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel really depressed. And it feels impossible to get over him because we planned everything. Plus I have depression on top of that and he was truly the only best friend and soulmate I ever had. He was the one who broke it off because he's suddenly not ready for a relationship.

How do you get over someone for that long?
And I am homeschooled, so I can't keep very busy and I don't have too many friends to help me cope with this because I left my public school and won't be going back. I will rate, thanks.

It is always hard to get over a boyfriend. Just give it time and things will get better. And if he was your best friend then continue to talk to him, dont block him out (even tho that might be what you really want to do right now)

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I like a person named Travis now and he is younger than me....we get along fair...but not as well as i want you know i mean not to fast but i don't want to be friends all my life either. Anyway the other day trav was over at my house and we were jumping on the trampoline and he gets a rope and whips me on the legs with it...could he be flirting with me? anyway so were talking and i kick him and he jumps on top of me and starts like squising my face cheeks and stuff like he's hurting and tonight...he said you really hurt me and so i kissed my hand and put on his cheek and he just looked at me and smiled....then i took his hand put it on his mouth and put it on my cheek and he just smiled and looked at me for like 2 minutes and i said what are you looking at.....and he took a minute and said the window.."from what i told you do you think he likes me?" "do you think he's gonna be a wife beater." please tell me your advice.

you should just tell him how you feel.
(ex- how he hurts you)
glad i can help

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My boyfriend and I had a really big fight because I'm in band & he doesn't support me singing. He sayz I don't spend enough time with him when I'm always with the band and we only meet on weekendz anywayz. I broke up with him because he was being an ass about my dream & wouldn't understand how much I loved singing. So now I'm feeling really stupid cuz he loved me and I miss him. I'm starting to think he's more important than the band, but the band has alwayz been my dream for life! What should I do?
xoxo ~Sabrina~ xoxo

You shouldn't of broken up with him (even if he was being a jerk). You should of sat down talked with him and find a compromise. (like you go w/ your band during the day and him at night/or he could go to the band practises w/ you) But now if you really like and miss him you should sit down w/ hi and talk about your differences and feelings and if that works out you should see if he wants to go bck out w/ you. But if he doesnt dont feel bad, just focus on your dream.

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None of my friends are very...um... supportive of me. I came out to them about being bisexual and now they're freaked. My own brother even treats me different. I used to be against gay relationships to...until I couldn't get girlfriends. I experimented with some guy friends of mine (not sex, just kissing) and it got me aroused. I've dated some guys and those relationships have been just as good as (or better) than the relationships I've had with girls. Since all of my friends are straight, I feel like I should be too. I want to marry a girl, not a guy, but why do I want to date guys and kiss guys? I've even though about sex with another guy. What should I do? How can I sort out my feelings?

This must be really hard....
But you should just continue dating guys(or girls) and being youself. People will get used to the idea it just may take them awhile cause it's a change.
Just give it time and be pasient.

-----caitlin-----
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I used to like this guy J well he always is flirting with me and talking with me, but we're just friends but I like him! I won't tell him because he's too wrapped up into telling me all about himself and not asking how the hell i'm doing and not noticing how I feel. Then theres C he's funny and nice and stuff but he goes to a differnt school and is harder to see. It just hurts not being wanted and the only time yur wanted is when he wants to complain. I just don't think I should tell J it'll make it worse, but I just don't know what to do.

you should talk to J about how you feel about how he treats you. you should tell him that you feel that he only uses you as a person to complain to. he probally doesnt even notice that he's doing it. and you should still stay close to C but as freinds.

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I'm a bit of a slob, and while re-organizing my closet (aka picking my clothes up off the floor), I found a whole lot of mouse poop. I don't really keep food in my room, and when I do eat in my room, it's not in the closet.

So how do I get rid of the mice? I keep my clothes in this area, so I'd rather not use strong chemicals. I also don't want to be picking up dead mice. So what's the most humane, safest way to get rid of them?

you could try to find how the mice are getting into your room (which is most likely a hole in the wall) and you could cover it up.

----caitlin----
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Well you see, I have (naturally) VERY curly hair. It is wild.. and not in a good way. It is very hard to handle. I do own a very good flat iron, and I do straighten my hair at least 3 times a week. But now that the weather is getting warmer, and more HUMID, my straight hair goes frizzy and starts to curl. Do you know of any good products or ways to keep my hair PIN straight, even when the humidity is 100%? Thank you very much!

hi!
you should try using gel or something of that sort. But i'm not sure of the brand you should use.
Sorry..
hope i helped.

----caitlin----

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so theres this guy @ skool and i REALLY lik him wed be perfect together but he doesnt no i exist and im really shy && im 2 scard 2 talk 2 him im desperately in luv w/ him we have completely difrent groops of frienz & hiz friendz dont lik me & i dont lik them && i duno what 2 do nemore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! pleeeze help!!!!!!! if it helps im in grad 8

well sometimes if i'm too scared to tallk to a guy I give them a note saying what i wish i could tell them. you should try that and if he writes back then he is probally interested and now he knos that you exist.
But if that doesnt work then make a list of all the pros and cons about him. And if there are more cons then pros then he isnt worth your love, so try not to like him.

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Is there any online instructions for how to serve a volleyball? and like some NEED TO KNOW rules for if you want to join a volleyball team?

go into school and ask your coach.

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p.s. i'm into volleyball too! but i think the rules are different in diferent schools/towns

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How come whenever I run, I get a cramp like on my side.. usually on my right side.. I know they're not menstrual cramps, because they feel way different.. but idk, I've had them for a while, and I think it's a common problem among people.. but does ANYBODY know what they're caused by? And how to prevent them? I also get them when I walk alot sometimes.. but especially when I run on bumpy ground, at softball for example. Any input would be greatly appreciated, thanks! Oh websites are great too =] Thanks again! ♥

that happens to me too!!!

ok well i think its caused by taking in lots of air at once but i'm not really sure.

but i am sure on how to prevent it---
before you go and run, spread your legs into a comfy position and then bed over toward your left to streach the mussle and then you should be better.

----caitlin----
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i been with my gf for about 3 months, we talked for about 4 months befor getting together. we only have communication by phone every day since we don't see each other, we only see each other on week-ends. in the 2nd month of our relationship we had sex (she was a virgin). since than we mostly spend our week-ends having sex but week days talking serious of our daily lifes. she says she loves me but i think i been come an obsession for her. what can it be obsession or love?

i truely think that the noly way you can tell for sure if its love or obsession is to ask her.
Another way to answer your question is to go to the movies or just walk around instead of having sex and if she still says i love you then its love but if she doesnt, it obsession.

----caitlin----

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hello... i really like this foreign student in my history class..he's a korean.. my teacher let him sit in the middle of me and my classmate so that we can help him once in a while.. the problem is... the more we see each other the more i develop my feelings for him.. i'm really trying not to like him because first, he already has a korean gf and secondly, all of the korean students in my school only have korean gfs because it's difficult for them to communicate if they will have a filipina gf. but i really really really like him.. and one more thing, i'm really flattered because i'm the only one he talks to in our room besides his korean friends. i can say that my classmates are jealous of me because most of them likes him a lot and he only talks to me and whenever i enter the class, i see him talking with his friends and when he sees me already, he'll sit beside me but only because he would borrow my notes or to ask something about our lesson..i really like this guy, my other friends told me that maybe he likes me too because we seem close with each other and because they also notice that he doesn't ask to anyone about our lesson but only to me.(i'm not the best in the class) i really hope that it's true but i don't think so. and i'm afraid that i would fall with him because 1 month to go and we'll not see each other anymore because he has different course than i have. ow please help... i don't want to be hurt...thanks...

ok

since he has a gf you need to just lay low but if the time ever comes that he is single then you can ask him out.also by that time, you and him will probally be REALLY good frineds.

----caitlin----

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Okay well I'm 13 and I'm in the 7th grade and I'm worried about my friend. Okay shes pretty much drop-dead gorgeous and could get any guy she wants. Well I mean she's not like a slut or anything (Okay she kissed her ex boyfriend(corey) 4 times he was her first kiss ... and then shes made out with her current boyfriend once. ).

Anyways she has had family problems. She has two little sisters and they get favored and her mom pretty much yells at her 24/7 and ignores her all the time.

Then recently, about 2 weeks ago, she went to her neighbors house(AJ) and Corey was there. Well Corey grabbed her and she was sitting on him ..., hes like really muscular so she couldn't get away, anyways Corey started rubbing her body and then AJ's like on top of her and hes unhooking her bra. She finally got away and ran into the bathroom and Corey comes in and he was all like awwl hilary i'm sorry for being a jerk i'll help you. So Hilary believed him and he ended up unhooking it again. This kept on happening she was there for about 2 hours.

So shes pretty tramatized from that and her mom. Well to make things worse her mom was yelling at her Tuesday night and she wasn't really paying attention because she hates being yelled at. Her dad then asked her if she was paying attention and she was like it's kinda hard not to dad when shes screaming at me. Then her dad comes over and punches her jaw(and her neck cracked).

Now Hilary is one of my bffae and I don't know what to say to her to help her or anything. Please help me on what I can do for this situation to help her out.

Ohh and we were going to call child abuse people if her dad hit her again.

wow
ok she REALLY needs to get help.
she needs to talk to your student counseler about the boys and she needs to talk to her mom and tell her that she feels ignored and yelled at to much. and if her dad hits her or hurts her again then yes contact child abuse.

you just need to be there for her and love her like a bffe would.

----caitlin----

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Since my sister and I were about 11, she has become (over the last 10 years) more and more irrational, irresponsible and impossible to talk to.

You can't say anything to her because it always turns out in an argument. She gets almost EVERYTHING she wants and never lifts a finger to do anything. She doesn't realise how good she has it but she treats everyone like dirt, then insists that whatever latest argument they have had is all their fault.

She goes out of the house at any time she wants without telling anyone where she is going, who with or when she will be back and then just saunters back and shuts herself in her room, which she barely ever leaves.

I've tried reasoning with her and being nice, but she STILL ends up shouting at me. Mum and Dad try punishing her and she thinks they hate her. Truth is we're all so scared about the state she's in (she doesn't talk to any of us about anything)that we just don't know what to do and she won't go to counselling.

Please, if you can help at all, say something because I just don't know what to do any more.

hummmmmmmmmmmmmm

well have your parents start to monetor when she goes out and where she goes and who she's with.
keep on punishing her by taking things away and grounding herbut dont send her to her room cause that seems to be her fav. place right now.

you could try to get closer to her by playing games or watching movies. once you are closer to each other she might talk to you about these type of things.

but please dont give up on her or ignore the problem. she needs you, even if it seems she couldnt care less about you.

----caitlin----

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p.s. i have an 11 year old sister too
they can be tough =)

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