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It's love or obsession???
i been with my gf for about 3 months, we talked for about 4 months befor getting together. we only have communication by phone every day since we don't see each other, we only see each other on week-ends. in the 2nd month of our relationship we had sex (she was a virgin). since than we mostly spend our week-ends having sex but week days talking serious of our daily lifes. she says she loves me but i think i been come an obsession for her. what can it be obsession or love?
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You can try spending the weekend NOT having sex. If she asks for it, try declining. If she persists, you'll know the answer.
Or
During the weekend when you see her, suggest to do something else, like go for a road trip or something. If she still persists, i suggest you guys talk it out.
Relationship is about communication... talk it out....
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I think 2 months in to any relationship is too early to be having sex, especially if it's someones first time. Take time out from the sexual side of your relationship (and if it's love, you'll be able to do that.) to work out your real feelings towards her, and give her time to realise if this is really what she wants. Then take things slow. If you're really in love, you have all the time in the world to be thinking about sex later on. Enjoy the new excitement of the early stages in you're relationship, you'll miss it later.
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When someone has sex for the first time, they get emotionally attached. Period.
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Its love hun.When you have sex with a girl who was a virgin before she lost it to you she becomes attached to you and she thinks something is there between you too since youve done something thats supposed to be really special between two people.It may seem like an obsession but its really not,she just cares deeply about you.If you feel the same way about her you should tell her,if you dont then i wouldnt keep having sex with her and lead her on like that because she'll end up getting hurt in the end.
♥ danielle
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i truely think that the noly way you can tell for sure if its love or obsession is to ask her.
Another way to answer your question is to go to the movies or just walk around instead of having sex and if she still says i love you then its love but if she doesnt, it obsession.
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Hi. ...Well does she call you all the time and leave you hundred of messages and gets angry when she doesn't reach you? Does she say she would die or kill herself if you ever leave her? Or kill the girl you would leave her for? Is she too jealous or controlling or posessive? If so, then maybe it is obsession. Another question that may be helpful is: was it her idea to have sex or yours? If it was hers and she was very insistant and she is very jeaous or controlling or calls you 20 times a day then it is obsession. Otherwise she loves you or really cares about you and likes youb a lot and thinks she loves you or loves you in someways but isn't in love with you. If you were her first then she will want to be close to you and talk to you and spend as much reasonable time with you as she can because she really cares about you, and that doesn't mean she is obsessed with you rather than she has become obsessed with you and doesn't love you.
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isn't love an obsession?
well if you want to truly distinguish it, then think about it this way.
If she's simply obsessed with you, then she'll most likely become very jealous. some people may say when people are jealous that means they truly love you. but if you really love someone wouldn't they trust you and let you go if you really aren't happy with them?
of course that's only the theoretical definition of love. But so far she hasn't really shown any signs of only being obsessed. Also if she was really obsessed she probably couldn't bear to be away from you so long. But then again if she really loved you, she would have difficulty being apart from you too.
hmm.. this is hard. to distinguish love and obsession. well i'll try to sort out my thoughts and give you advice i trust myself.
When you love someone, all you want is their happiness, they mean the world to you.
when you're obsessed with someone all you can think about it them. their every aspect. and keeping them to yourself. you think of them more like something to own rather than a person.
also, different people act differently when in love. So she might be different. but these are the theoretical ideas.
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well i think it's love she was a virgin since you took it she feels a lot more attached to you. sex can cause that.
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What makes you think its an obsession? Because she was a virgin, she probably just feels more emotionally attached to you because thats what happens with girls. My guy friend still talks to several girls he slept with (even though their relationship was over years ago) just because these girls first time was with him. I really believe that it's love. But of course, I can't choose what she feels. You can ask her if she loves you, maybe? Obsession is calling you every 2 minutes to find out where you are, what your doing, who your with, being mad at you for stupid reasons. I think you guys have an important relationship. Hopefully I helped.
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