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Boyfriend vs. Band
My boyfriend and I had a really big fight because I'm in band & he doesn't support me singing. He sayz I don't spend enough time with him when I'm always with the band and we only meet on weekendz anywayz. I broke up with him because he was being an ass about my dream & wouldn't understand how much I loved singing. So now I'm feeling really stupid cuz he loved me and I miss him. I'm starting to think he's more important than the band, but the band has alwayz been my dream for life! What should I do?
xoxo ~Sabrina~ xoxo
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well if i was you i would call him and just explain that yea u wanna be with you you make me happy but you have to understand that singing makes me happy too and if he cant understand that then he dont care very much if your happy or not..and just leave him! there is plenty of fish in the sea
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You stay broken up with him. He tried to control your life. That's what we call a BAD GUY.
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You should invite your boyfriend over and have a talk with him. You two should find a comprimise between your band and him.
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You shouldn't of broken up with him (even if he was being a jerk). You should of sat down talked with him and find a compromise. (like you go w/ your band during the day and him at night/or he could go to the band practises w/ you) But now if you really like and miss him you should sit down w/ hi and talk about your differences and feelings and if that works out you should see if he wants to go bck out w/ you. But if he doesnt dont feel bad, just focus on your dream.
-----caitlin-----
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I guess the real question is, "Does he really not support your singing or does he just resent the fact that you seem to be putting the band before him and not have any time for him?" If it's the first- then you were right to dump him as he needs to respect your wishes and dreams and if he really loved you he would find a way to support him. If it was the second though, you might have been too harsh. If you really cared about him you would find time throughout the week for both him and the band. Wake up earlier, do homework in study halls... there will be times when you're touring and separation will be unavoidable, but it doesn't have to be right now. However, the fact that you didn't try that hard to make time for him might lead me to believe that you don't think he's the one for you. Just because he loved you and you miss him doesn't mean he was your match. If this was the case have enough respect for him to let him go and wish him luck.
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Hey Hun
well boyfriends come and go dont give up what you want to do for a boy who wont support you he basically dosnt care bout you he only cares bout his self but if you really want to throw away somthing you have aklways wanted to do for a boy then go ahead buy its a waste of time cause like i said boyfriends come and go and missing him is normal you get opver him just concertrate on your band some is there out for you trust me take care mwaz
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Band.
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You and him probably really did have a connection, but he really should have accepted that you are living one of your life's passions.
That is why a lot of people who are so into their career or hobbies don't have a ton of luck with dating. Their schedules are so busy that theres just no room for a relationship. But you say that your band only meets on weekends which isn't so bad, but when you are having a serious relationship, it's a lot of time to take away. Maybe he wants to go out late with you on a weekend.
I wouldn't suggest giving up your singing for a guy because that would probably give him the idea that he can tell you what you can and can't do. Plus, this is something you really want so I wouldn't let it go.
Since you are the one who broke it off, I think you should let him know that you do still have some strong feelings for him, but you can't deal with the critisism about your band. Let him know that you are going to continue through your singing and if he can't deal with it, then that's his decision whether you both work this out or not.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think you were right because he should've supported you with your dream. Since he didn't then you had to move on.
Break ups are always hard but with time it will get better.
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