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Impossible
Me and my boyfriend of two years just broke up. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel really depressed. And it feels impossible to get over him because we planned everything. Plus I have depression on top of that and he was truly the only best friend and soulmate I ever had. He was the one who broke it off because he's suddenly not ready for a relationship.
How do you get over someone for that long?
And I am homeschooled, so I can't keep very busy and I don't have too many friends to help me cope with this because I left my public school and won't be going back. I will rate, thanks.
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"it is better to have loved and lost..than to have never loved at all" <<so true! Lots of people would kill to have something so special like you did..endings are hard but its ok! eventually after you get through this you will be able to look back on it and remember and smile and be ok with it! for now you have to give it time..2 years is a longgg time..so of course you wont be over him in 2 days. give it time..and as you start to feel better..your interests will come back to you..you will want to meet new guys ..etc etc..you will be happy again..but for now you have to say to yourself you will pull through with time..and when its all said n done..you can look back n say "wow..i had something really special.." Memories are forever sweetheart..always remember that
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Breaking up with a boyfriend is always hard, believe me i know. There really isn't much you can do, but you don't have to sit there and dwell over him all day. Give him time, maybe he'll realize what he lost and he'll decide he wants to be with you again, if not just be his friend. In the meantime, try to go out and do something. It might not sound that simple, but if you do it you really will feel a lot better. good luck hun!
♥ Evy
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HI,
You've been going out with him for so long and he was alot to you, so you are not going to just get over him so easily. You need time.
And during that time you kinda need to do something else. You said also that you don't have much friends. Check if there is a Homeschooler's organization and join, you'll meet people like you.
And what about having a pen pal?
Usually those relationships last.
Bussy? There are online tutoring or job agencies. Virtual opportunities to volunteer. Millions of stufff to do online.
Check them out.
Good Luck
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It is always hard to get over a boyfriend. Just give it time and things will get better. And if he was your best friend then continue to talk to him, dont block him out (even tho that might be what you really want to do right now)
----caitlin----
hope i helped =)
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Dear Impossible,
Yep, "don't know what to do anymore" just about says it! Listen, what you are going through is a "grieving process;" you are dealing with the death of what was and that hurts. The pain you feel WILL eventually diminish, and what you will go through to get to that point is unavoidable.
That lost feeling is sometimes referred to as the "dark night of the soul," and philosophers, poets, & songwriters have lamented and bemoaned this condition for eons. There's no hard and fast rule as to how long this middle "lost in the wilderness" stage will last, but just know that it's after the "ending" and before the "new beginning." In other words, it's a process which takes time.
Lick your wounds, dear one, and make use of whatever support you've got in your life at this time. If such suport isn't available, seek it out. It's very important that you do this; being supported emotionally WILL help. What about your parents, can you talk with them?
You mentioned you have "depression," so are you seeing a therapist? If so, make an appointment! If you attend church, how about someone there? Try googling a 12-Step group for folks who struggle with depresson called "Emotions Anonymous." There is probably a website with locations for teen meetings, or try googling "teen hotlines" and speak to an anonymous hotline counselor.
Listen, breakups are difficult for everyone; there's no getting around it, they hurt! The best way to deal with it is to GO THROUGH IT WITH SUPPORT. In the meantime, don't run away (drugs, alcohol, self-mutilation, random sex etc.) from the pain, but DO SEEK SUPPORT!
You will survive your broken heart, so hang in there! I wish you well.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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