Gender:
FemaleLocation:
OregonOccupation:
Semi-retired and a very 'freed and humbled spirit'Age:
60Member Since:
January 1, 2006Answers:
104Last Update:
February 16, 2006Visitors:
11770Main Categories:
Spirituality
Health
Plants and Gardens
View All
about
Greetings,I'm here and will attempt to answer questions that relate to either your SPIRITUALITY or your HEALTH. I consider myself to be a very spiritual human being, not religious as I don't follow an organized religion's dogma.
My heart is my good book and I attempt to live life from that point of view. I have lived long enough to have gained some wisdom and feel I could have something worthwhile to share.
I've used herbs and natural supplements and followed a healthy lifestyle since the early 90's, in fact it was herbs and herbal supplements and some lifestyle changes that saved my life.
As there have been some pretty wonderful people that have helped me along my life's journey, it's simply my turn to give back and if I can help someone here, I'm glad to do that. Hope to hear from you with your questions and if I help just one other person during my experience here, it will have been worth it. Have a very Happy&Health new year everyone, you all deserve it!
advice
I have always had girls come up to me and say they think i'm cute or ask me out, and all the girls have had crushes on me. What I want to know is how do I approach girls that i like that might be shy or scared to? I've never had to and i'm pretty clueless of what to talk about and how to tell if she's interested in me or not, unless she has come up to me. I'd appreciate your feedback.
Thanks
Well, you've gotten past the hard part, and that's asking for alittle help.
First, I guess you know which girl you most interested in and why, so use that as a place to start.... some day when school is out ask her if you can walk her to her car or the bus(like in my day) because you'd like to get to know her a little better. Let her know you're not currently dating anyone, because a shy girl won't want to get involved if there's another, stronger, more dominant girl involved, because they are shy and introverted.
Another thing.... talk gently, make eye contact and smile often. Keep it lighthearted and fun and let her know you just want to be friends and don't hurry anything. Shy people will run at the first hint of pressure.... keep it relaxed and easy and for her to unfold in the friendship. She's probably a very nice girl... perhaps in her family she's a passive member and to cause less grief or confrontation at home, she's retreated within herself...
And don't rush anything.... kind of let her choose the pace of your new friendship and I salute and celebrate you young man.... for being good hearted and looking beyond the clicks and the groupies that are more superficial than real. I use to be one of those girls that got looked over for the 'popular' ones and now those same people are begging me to attend our highschool reunions, and why they didn't like me then... and I'm the same person.... but I really am a good person, turned out pretty good, have three great kids and three even better grandkids...
I wish you well dear heart and perhaps giving this young lady a simple, inexpensive Valentine's Day card tomorrow would be a good ice breaker, one just a a special friend... tell her you'd really like to be her friend because she has some qualities you look for and appreciate in others, boys or girls.... good luck and I'll be thinking of you....
ok i was using this little electronic razor thingy to comb out my eyebrows so theyll look neat. The thing was off. I was doign it for a while and then i wasnt paying attention and accidently turned it on WHILE IT WAS ON MY EYEBROW now theres a lil blank spot it the middle of my eyebrow- is there any way i can cover it up? please help a.s.a.p ♥anonymous
Ask your Mom if she has a eyebrow pencil and use it until your own brow hairs grow back in and they will.... I know I shaved my eyebrows off when I was younger and they grew back, all is well, don't worry too much you'll upset your digestion.... good luck.
I always lie to my parents so I don't get in trouble. They're awfully hard on me sometimes, but after I tell the lie I realize it probably would've been easier to just tell them the truth, admit what I did in the first place was wrong, and then take my punishment. What can I do to stop lying, and is there anything that my parents can do on their part so that I don't feel the need to lie - or am I just a weak teenager because I used to be such a good kid and never get in trouble?
Well lying doesn't really advance one's position in life or add to it in a good way... I believe truth is always in all ways the best and highest path.... tell you parents how you're feeling about this and believe me it's good to have parents that care enough to be tough, one day you'll see it much differently...esp when you have your own children. Pick a quieter time when your parents are relaxed and quiet and ask them if you can have a few minutes of their time.... tell them first that you love them very much and care about them and the family and then tell them that there's been this issue on your mind, in your heart and you wish to clear it up so you can focus more on your school work and enjoying it and building their trust in you....
It will work out, but know that each fib you pass along is just another hurdle/obstacle/challenge you'll face down the road a bit...as you grow older. The more you can be honest with yourself now and with your loved ones too, the more life you will have to fully live later.... this is the voice of experience talking to you.
I had to almost die before I 'got it', you don't have to take your life to that dark corner of dysfunction to pull yourself out of your issue right now... it's truly simpler than you believe it is, even tho your parents are tough on you, it can be a good thing... ask them to forgive you and let them know you will be doing all you can to be a better person because you love yourself and them and life more than anything.
Good luck and Happy Heart Day....
so i had a bf and we were sposed to go out on vday to a really vancy place on vday. as you all know tomorrow is valentines day and he asked me when i could hanh out nd i said tomorrow i guess cause i havent seen him in a while. I didnt even notice it was valentines day tomorrow. I like him but i dont know if I want to go out with him cause Im keeping my options open wanting to meet new guys. But i cant help but like him.
What should I do tomorrow? should I show I like him or not?
Also he still wants to take me out for food this weekend but he says. "cause I wana get some grub."
What do you think i should do? and do you think he likes me or just wants to be friends?
You won't know if he likes you if you don't spend any time with him. And what's wrong with having another good friend....at least give him the opportunity to prove himself to be a good friend if nothing else.... while you leave your options open you may be closing the door on a good thing, that may not be real obvious.... since you kind of have some feelings for him, give it try and you can always let it all go later if it's not what you're looking for or think you're looking for.... opportunities are just that if we take advantage of them... good luck and happy heart day! Just don't use anyone for your own personal gain, that's not a good thing at all, it wants to be a win/win or it's not real and won't add to a good life.
How do I get over a guy that doesn't like me back. Everytime I see him in class; I just melt. I just begin to think about how perfect of a boyfriend he would be. I often find my mind just running off about him. My question is NOT how to get him to like me; Its how do I get over him?
give thanks for the time you had with him, for the lessons he helped you learn by being in your life and then let it all go and begin focusing more on yourself and your good points and what you want to do with your summer.
focus on the coming summer and all the fun you'll have and how you can help others this summer...perhaps there will be another male friend in your summer scene and by letting go of the old one, you've made plenty of room of the new one.... when old doors close a new and better one always opens, if you trust it will...
good luck.... .I wish you well!
19/Male...There is one girl in my Accounting class that I am attracted to. We are in the same lunch line every day right after class, but it seems like every time I am about to talk to her, i freeze up. I still haven't said one word to her. What should I do to break the ice?
Hi, I can relate. I remember my hischool days and it was just like that for me too.
I'm a girl so..... perhaps I an help a little.
First, since you're in the 'chow line' simply make some comments about the food....and then that could lead to you asking her what some of her fav foods are.
Or.... compliment her on something she's wearing, or perhaps the perfume she might have on or on her hair... pick something that in your mind stands out about her and simply say something gentle and kind about it, because it makes you feel good to look at it. That's pretty basic, safe and real!
Or some day, as class is getting out.... go up to her and ask if the two of you could walk to the food line together.... is she friendly and openminded and is she a friendly outgoing type?
If she's quiet too, and reserved and shy, then back to the comments on the food in the line... and don't go too far the first day....
Then a day or two later.... make another comment and see if she smiles or frowns. If she smiles or looks at your face, then it's time to go for the next step.
Perhaps, if you drive and can leave campus for lunch...ask her to have lunch w/you off campus... if not, then ask if you can sit with her for lunch and just chat... about school work, about sports at school, about your fav things about school and being a senior. I can attest to how quickly my senior year went. It flew by and so perhaps this new friendship will add a real nice end to your highschool career.
Let her know you just wish to be friends, to chat, to exchange homework questions, or to have someone to talk through personal issues with. Let her know, if it's true, that you're not like most guys and aren't after her female treasures!!!
Try to make it light, easy, free flowing, and easy...... and we're all nervous when meeting new people, and let her know that you're a little shy, if that's true, and that you hope she's OK with a guy that's feels awkward around girls sometimes. Be real, be honest, be upfront and be causual and relaxed.
Oh, before in begin you 'connection' attempts with this girl, take some time to get your body relaxed... some deep, slow, long breaths.... not fast or you'll hyperventilate.... deep, long, slow breaths. Expand your lungs up and out..... and make certain your posture is good and that you make eye contact if possible.... but trust that you are indeed a really good human being that just happens to be male and that just happens to want to be her friend if she'll let you be that.
If she has any foresight, any life experience and any desire for a good, caring, thoughtful, kind and gentle friend, then she can't say no, unless she's playing games, then why would you want a friend like that.
I wish you much luck. But do trust in yourself, know that you are a good person, and have pure intentions, if that is true, and then it's a natural flow of events between two human beings.
I hope this helps and doesn't sound too bossy or demanding or silly.... but I know what you're going through... and trust me life does get a whole lot better!!
happy heart day.... oh, give her a valentine's day card to a friend from another....even tho you're not yet real friends... it might just break the ice..... I think it's a great idea, with great timing and you can find a great card still..... or if not, make one just for her... she'll know it to be a 'one of a kind' and perhaps she'll see you as that also!!!
I'll be thinking about you......
SH
This guy that I really like in my senior class has been dating this girl who behind his back makes fun of him. He is so in love with her, he'll buy her a dozen roses for no occasion and bring them to school for her. I also heard he spent hundreds of dollars on a bracelet for her birthday. I know what she's been saying behind his back because she's in my french class. The other girls wanted to see her new bracelet and she just rolled her eyes and said "this is the THIRD one he's bought me"!. She is such a superficial bitch. She's also said she's only with him because his family has money. She's also a bigot, I've heard her making derogatory comments about homosexuals and african americans. I also heard she's cheating on him. I don't know what he sees in her. She is very popular and pretty, but has the personality and kindness of a dead squid. He would be heartbroken if he knew what she said about him and did behind his back. He is such a nice guy, I feel sorry for him. Should I tell him or just keep my mouth shut? Or, before I forget, HIS friends make fun of him behind his back for how hard he's fallen for her.
It sad when this happens. I'm much older and I see it even in my own generation.
I guess I'd have to say that $$$$ just doesn't ever buy happiness, it can't. I guess this young man is doing what he's seen as an example by the adults in his own life.
I would venture to say, that she will tire of this and will dump him when she realizes she isn't happy. I feel for the young man, but I guess it's his lesson. Sad to say but true.
Surely he can feel that it's a 'one way' exchange and that it's not a real thing. But I'd guess he's seen this before someplace in his family, perhaps not with his parents but perhaps with aunts and uncles?
Do you know any of his male friends personally or know someone who does? Perhaps approaching them or having a friend of yours who might known someone in his camp would work. Some of them must know what's going on.
He's trying to 'buy' a girlfriend and just like in the movies, it's going to backfire, and he'll indeed get hurt, but we all do from time to time. And that's what makes us better and stronger human beings.
Now here's another approach. You said you really like him. Slowly become a friend for friendship sake. Let him know you're there for him and that he can talk openly with you. You'll think of way to edge yourself into his circle. Since he's in your senior class, use that as a way into his reality. Perhaps you need help with some homework from a class he may also have but at a different time...?
Just become a friend who is trustworthy, someone he can confide in and someone who won't judge his choices....because I'd say he's going to need that soon. I always got along better with male friends and female ones.... that's true even now many years later...
Or, now this is the big one.... you could go to this girl and let her know you know what she's doing. That it isn't going unnoticed and that sooner or later he's going to 'wake up' and discover it for himself. She'll be out of the picture if she doesn't fess up now....does she want that?
But I'm an aquarian and I've always boldly marched to my own drummer.... and I have no regrets!
Good luck, sounds like this is worth pursuing if for no other reason than gaining another friend!?
13/f i feel soo bad my bf whos 13 is gettin me all this stuff i found out bi my friend and i dont have any money to realy get him anything he asked me to mesure mr rist size and i was okay w/e i thought it was goin to be 4 some tackey bracelett but no he took my bff sarah with him to a place like tiffanys to buy me a real dimond bracelett and he got me a wicked lott of there stuff but i dont have anything for him and i cant even goto the store bc i got like 4 feet of snow so im like screwed what can i give him would burnin a cd work helpppp and fast thatx illl rate the highest
You are pretty much at a loss alright.... burn a CD with music/songs from his fav bands/groups/singers, or write some heartfelt diddies(poems, letters, etc) and read them with alot of honest and real feelings....
Bake him some homemade goodies that perhaps his own Mom doesn't do.... make cookies into the shapes of his initials, make coupons for little things you could do for him(clean his room, help with his homework, a surprise shopping trip where you buy what he wants when he's with you). All of which can be used by him later so that buys you some time..... you create the handcrafted coupons and card they would go inside of.
Make him a 'dinner' just for the two of you.... use candles, soft music and just sit and talk about life and you two.
There is so much you can do that doesn't have to be done by going shopping... be creative. If you have a plain white tshirt and have some permanent markers....design a tshirt filled with your own artwork that he can wear in the summer.....it would be a 'one of a kind'.... you know him, you know what kind of images/symbols he'd enjoy wearing.
The coupon idea tho would buy you time.... make a coupon for 'a hug a day for a month', a coupon for a personal letter once a week for six months, a coupon for date to the movies(you pay), a coupon for a dinner for two to his fav place(you pay)...... you really do have some choices, but you'll have to get busy.
Hope this helps just a little.....
all of the sudden im getting b's&c's on like almost every time i used to get A's all the time. I dont know if it's band or my rock band or if it my sports? please help
It sounds like your focus is off and that you're time management is out of balance?!
OK, this is what you do.....
Take some time..... stop everything.... sit with yourself..... take some long, deep, slow breaths until you find your objectivity again. Or to put it another way.... try to see you and your life as others might see it.
What is it they would see about your life that might be interfering with scholastic endeavor? There has to be something that has taken you off course just a bit.
I'm not a young person anymore, but I too lived the years you're currently expriencing and I know how easy it is to get off just a little bit. So, it really is pretty simple.... just step back, take a real, close, discerning look at your current situation and all the choices that brought you and your grades to this moment.
It is up to you to do something about it, because I doubt that anyone else has had anything to do with it. Take charge! Make better choices, manage your time to your best/highest benefit and you will garner rewards to come.
Get enough sleep!!!!!
Eat anything but junk foods!!!!!
And get enough exercise!!!!!
Hope this helps, I know there are solutions that will bring you back on track!!! My years of life experience tell me so! Been there done that!
Take care and it may not get back on track as quickly as it slid off.... but don't give up, and do make better choices!
Ever since my parents have said no games and no music the internet is boring. Starting my own website is boring. The only thing I can do online that I know of is update my blog so what can people do online besides gaming, chatting, and listening to music?
Well..... go here:
jigzone.com
craigslist.org
fotolog.com
I find them rather interesting, esp the last one as there are people from all over the world there who put of photos of their own countries and cities. So you can see and learn a whole bunch. Mine from the Oregon coast are at fotolog.com/salanda. There were only 35,500 people when I started there and now there are 2 1/2 million people! You can start your own page for free and upload one photo a day for free.
Hope this helps a little, oh and you can play certain tv gameshows online... I play wheel of fortune each day to see if I can solve the final puzzle before the contestants do.... you earn point and can use them later....
Again there are many things to do online.... you just have to search a bit and explore!!!
Good luck and don't give up!
Whenever i go shopping with my mom we always stumble across these REALLY cute jeans that I want her to try on. When she eventually does, she automatically says NO because they are too "trendy". My mom usually wear straight leg jeans which if you didn't know have absolutely no flare. My mom has a really big butt, so she looks ridiculous!! I told her nicely that these kinds of pants don't compliment her, but she just got mad at me. She's 41 and she thinks shes too old to look good in jeans. Can you give me some tips to convince my mom that she doesn't have to be young to look great?! Shes SOOO stubborn and sensitivE!!!!!
Sounds like you love your Mom a whole bunch. That's a very good thing, and I hope this continues. You're Mom is NOT old, I'm 61 and I know how young she really is.
Does she ever take time for herself, like taking walks, taking a art class, or joining a work out group? If not, it would do wonders for her morale and would generate she would develop good feelings about herself.
Does she work all the time and is tired alot. Does she work because she has to? If so, then I'm sure her schedule is very tight. But a little exercise and eating the right foods is very important for her.
What does she eat in an average day? Good foods or quick/easy snack type things? If she's eating alot of starches or simple carbohydrates, she's gaining weight and it won't get better until she starts consuming fresh veggies and fruits and rice or a good protein/nutritional shake. You can buy those powders in healthfood stores of groceries with a nutrition center in them.
Go with her on these walks, they'd do you good too, and she'll get her blood moving.... also treat her with special things to enhance those long hot soaks in a tub. Essential oils, bath oils and powders add to the fun of relaxing. She should relax more if she's always working.
It sounds like she doesn't have much time for herself. Perhaps if you helped with the house chores she could go for these walks, take a workout class.... look at the lifestyle she currently is experiencing and see how you can help, what you can do to give her a little more time for herself.
Mothers that work(even if they don't) have a very heavy schedule and pretty soon they forget about their own needs, their own body's condition and how it got that way.
I wear jeans all the time, my friends my age do also. When it comes to age and denim there are NO limitations, only in one's mind that is bogged down.
Hope this helps.... I know there are answers to your Mom's situation, many of us have 'been there and done that' and understand. Working with a woman that's stubborn is not easy, so you may have to do it in small little increments..... perhaps some of your friends have mothers her age that wear denim and somehow you could get them together!
Don't give up though, your Mom is worth it!!!! And one day when you're a Mom, you'll know not to do it that way.... it's easy to put on the pounds than to remove them. It's easy to keep them off also, but it takes time to consider
So I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year...and i have no idea what to get him for Valentine's Day. I know its kinda late now.. but i can't find anything.
Any ideas?
I don't know your monetary/budget limititations, but .... a gift certificate is a quick easy last minute thing you know they'll get good use from, if you get it for a place you know your boyfriend frequents(book or music store perhaps)...or you could give him your own homemade little 'coupon book'... for instances: give him a coupon that says you'll do his chores for a whole week, or one that says you'll walk his dog or feed his cat for a whole week, or you'll clean up his bedroom for a whole month!
Or make him some cookies and decorate with hearts or write him a poem and draw or paint a picture.... or snap some shots of him and print them out and place inside a handcrafted V'day card.
Or clean and wash his bar, or bicycle or rollerblades or board.... whatever is his most common means of transporation.
Or fix him a nice picnic lunch and you join him in the park if the weather is good enough. Or take him to a quiet little place for lunch and then off to a great flick!
Hope this helps a little and have a really great, no awesome Valentine's Day!
hey there!
im a girl scout and im at the point where i have to start thinking of ideas for my gold award. for those of you who dont know what the gold award is .. its a project that takes 65 hrs to complete(including planing, and actually doing it). it needs to benefit the community in some way. does anyone have anyideas what i could do?
p.s. the people participating are going to need some kind of motivation to do this.
Hi, I guess I'm a senior citizen now, though I don't see myself as such yet. But I am 61 and luckily I am healthy, happy and very active.
You didn't mention whether you live in the city or out aways.... I was a farmer's kid so digging in the dirt was and still is a great love of mine.
As a senior citizen, I can now better relate with those around me that are older than me and recognize how many of them go unnoticed and unappreciated. I would suggest you choose something that will benefit them.
Some suggestions I've come up with are:
1) Perhaps there's a senior citizen center in your area and they could use some landscaping... especially with spring coming, perhaps some new, bright and fresh perennial flowers/shrubs that could be planted and arranged around their center.
2) Perhaps there's a nursing home close to your home... perhaps you could set up a visitation schedule with some of the residents and take small, very inexpensive handmade gifts to them on a regular basis.
3) Perhaps you could 'adopt' a senior couple or individual and do erands for them, some yard work or even jobs around within the home they no longer are able to do.
4)Perhaps you could set up a pen pal club with seniors in your state, or a birthday card program that wouldn't let a single senior's birthday pass w/o recognition... in your city or county or stat?
These are just some ideas, but I can imagine these endeavors would be very rewarding and beneficial for all involved. I hope this helps in some little way.... good luck with your gold award, I'm certain you'll earn yours without any problem.
hi,
I am 26 year old female from Texas, USA, My current weight is 145 pounds,I want to loose 15 pounds by march end for my brothers marriage?
I am vegetarian and stopped eating fatty and junk food since 2 months. Still I am not able to loose weight inspite of doing 2 times hworkout in a week.
please advice me how should i achive my target weight which is 135 by march end?
thanks
Hema
Well, it sure sounds like your trying hard to realize your goal, good for you.
Can I ask.....about your workouts.... do you get your heartrate up.... and do you keep it up for say 15-20minutes? I find doing this really burns the calories and my waistline returns.
Right now I have 'that holiday bulge' around the middle again and I'll melt it away from walking my 55 minute walking loop that has 9 big uphills and 7 downhills for balance! Doing that 4-5 times a weeks will do it for me....
So, look at how you can get that heart rate up and maintain it for at least 15 or 20 minutes, if you're not already do that. Perhaps a treadmill that you can lift the front end on so you're walking uphill!!!!!
Good luck and hope this helps alittle. Oh, while eliminating all flour products, add lots of veggies and some rice!!!!
I weigh 146 lbs. and would like to get down to 110 lbs. in about 3 months time. I am interested in trying the South Beach Diet and would like to know if anyone has any information regarding if it really works or not. Has anyone actually tried it before?? I was thinking about joining online at www.southbeachdiet.com but I do not want to waste my time and money if it does not truly work. Thank you very much.
Hi, I don't know a thing abot the SB diet... but I don't believe diets are a good thing. People seem to 'lose' and regain! A vicious cycle that takes your time energy and focus away from the real issue.
I strongly suggest looking at you and your lifestyle. Do you get enough exercise???? This is one key to enjoying good health and balance.
Get your heart rate up...... walking fast, especially uphill is really good.... this is what I do. Swimming would be good because it doesn't sprane tendons or muscles but I can't do the chlorine. Speed walking or light jogging(only with the right/good shoes and stretching prior to doing it)
Also, the second and very important key is nutritional intake. We are definitely what we eat and don't eliminate.
Look at what you consume in an average day! Any white flour(most wheat flour is mostly white and is 'wallpaper past')? Breads, muffins, cookies, sphagetti, pasta, pastries, cakes, pancakes, waffles, cereals. These put weight on a person faster than anything unless you have the thyroid to die for like my brother does.
Also dairy products clog the liver and don't make the kidneys very happy either. And it build mucuous in your mucous membranes.
And soda pop....hmmmm..not good either, especially the diet ones! Drinking the diet ones kills brain cells our body NEVER repairs! But that doesn't directly help with weight balance, but is vital to know about.
So..... it's ALL about getting the right amount of exercise and eating right. You CANNOT gain weight on steamed veggies and rice!!! For one example!l
Wisely look at your lifestyle and what you eat in a day's time. I believe you'll see better that you could make changes/adjustments and will in a short time, greatly benefit from your 'higher and better choices!
Hope this helps you, it was my intention to inform and support not make you feel bad or less of yourself. It's just that I've been where you are and I have found my way out of that dysfunctional way of being... and so can YOU!
I wish you well!
[True Question.] 15/f
I`m scared of dying or anyone dying close to me. I asked this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=412887
And I`m doing really good about that situation. I can finally look at his picture without wanting to cry. But lately everytime my mind goes blank, death of my parents or sister or brother come into my mind. The thing that even freaks me out the most is that I know that they are doing to die sooner or later, & I can`t even try to stop it. I know i`d be miserable without them. I couldn`t even cope with the lost of my cousin, imagine trying to cope with my parents or sister/brother dying. No body knows I feel this way, and it`s eating me inside. What I`m trying to ask is how can I possibily get over this right now & worry about it later? I don`t want my fear of death running my life. Ughhh. I`m just so scared of this. Help. PLEASE.
First, calm down, take some long slow deep breaths... and I mean often! Gather yourself each day, relax and know that you are not alone since ALL of us have to face 'death'.
Perhaps I might suggest that while your Mom was carrying you in her womb, she experienced a death in the family and those emotions became part of your reality. A good book on the subject is Voices from the Womb.
Also, if you believe at all that we all live many lives, it could be a 'carryover' from a pastlife.
Also, you may have experience an emotional trauma as a very young child too young to remember that leaves scars in your emotional makeup.
Also, when one can open up their belief system to allow for the understanding that 'death' isn't really an end to anything(except the human body), then it is sometimes easy to think about death. It is not the end and in fact there are some really good books on life after death, near death experiences(which I have experienced), all of which I believe would be good reading for you. There is a doctor out of Seattle WA that wrote a book call, Closer to the Light, I believe and he tells you stories(true) of children and young people having near death experiences and their candid comments and report of their experiences around 'dying'.
I hope all this helps.... it was my intention to assist you not scar you or tell you weird stuff. But a famous person once said, "The only fear is fear it is".
I wish you well and hope you find some peace. And just know that when a loved one or friend leaves this human experience for that of the eternal one, on their transitional trip there, they are always met by loved ones or people that had cared about them. May the Angels of Divine Light guide you into a better place of understanding death. I feel soon you will find peace!
hey i'm a guy and have a girlfriend, i love her and everything. i was wondering...i havn't asked her yet, but would it be a bad thing if i sent valentines day cards to my friends that are girls? some of them i'm really good friends with and i wouldn't want to do it if it offended my girlfriend or let her think the wrong idea. should i just ask her about it, or am i over-analyzing things? i am getting my girlfriend a gift, but would it be wrong to send a few cards to my friends as well? what do you think, thanks in advance.
My first thought on this issue would be.... if she really is your girlfriend, and you have done your part to let her know you are a good and loyal guy.... then she shouldn't be 'bothered' by you sharing valentines card with your female friends. If you can't have both male and female friends, there is something not quite right about your relationship with your girlfriend. Why would she deny you having both m & f friends, the rest or most of us do!
If this issue causes problems with your girlfriend, I'd have to say, you already had problems. I wouldn't give it a second thought, I would give valentines to all my friends, I use to, but at this age(61) well, I've slowed down a bit, ha!
Don't worry about it. If your relationship with her is soooo fragile, you'd best look at it closer and either speak up about it and work it out between you, or find another girlfriend!
Hope this helps! Have a great heart day, my fav holiday!
What can I use to prevent kidney stones! I get them regularly ! I have minimal daily pain to my left kidney and less to my right kidney and urinate at least 1 stone per 2 months out of my system with great pain when it struggles to get thru my penis !
First I'd strongly suggest you visit your local library and search for books about natural cures or perhaps there is a working herb store in your area like there is here for me.
I was married to a working herbalist for almost ten years. I was very ill and almost died, but with dietary changes and lots of natural supplments and herbal blends I regained my health and well-being.
Doing dairy is bad, it can be hard on the kidneys as can be soda pops and coffee and the like. So look at what your consume.
I know there are herbal teas, special blends found in any legitimate working herb store that will eliminate kidney stones all together. But one must know and understand why and how kidney stones are produced by the body, then begin eliminating the causes.
There is lots of hope for you.... the body is really good at reparing itself, but you must give it the opportunity to do so.
Drink lots of water.... do a parasite cleanse, as internal parasites can cause blockages... and if you wish further info.... contact me and I'll share more.... good luck!
I know this seems like a classic, but I'm in love with my best guy friend. We're both 16 and I don't mean puppy love. We tell each other that we love one another, but he is the kind of guy who wants to date you, but is afraid to. He flirts with me all the time. (e.g. holding hands, telling me that he loves me, hugging) I know he's a guy and all, but he is constantly starring at my breast. One time when he was giving me a hug, he "accidently" grabbed my butt. I know you're thinking that is is just a "accident," however; I though most people can tell the difference between your butt and your back. Anyways, I really love him and he knows that, but what can I do to get him?
~!Thanks!~
I remember my younger years and look back at them now with a smile in my heart. They were so 'charged' and alive and vibrant. I honor that a guy can be in control of some of his physical needs, perhaps dating you would bring out that 'man' in him and he'd pursue you more as that 'female quest'. And in my humble opinion you're a bet young for that. I think back and I could have gotten pregnant when I was 15, yukkkk, and I did when I was 18 and had my first child at 19.
He is inquisitive, he simply wants to know what a female body is like, what it feels like, the contours, and he probably also knows the 'dangers' of going too far with you. You have to honor that.... and at your ages, I feel it would be extremely wise and well thought out to just be really really really good friends, hang out and do fun things and neck and kiss and hug... but respect the fact that the direction both lives take are dependent upon the wisedom of your very choices.
I at this age am only now spreading my wings.... which the wiser ones do right after highschool, before or during college.... but I raised my three kids and get to do that search for myself now and I can tell you it's not as much fun. But it is what I chose and I am perfectly OK with it.
It sounds like you two are a great combination, good friends and that you enjoy exploring life together. Enjoy this time for in a few years, the world will consider you those adult people who have responsibilities and should 'add' something positive to the human experience. Now you can simply enjoy adding something to each other's lives... and keep your grades up and your choices good for both of you and both your futures, humanity needs good people like you forthcoming!
Good luck and take it slow, easy and create as much fun as your imaginations can bring you.... and if it comes to choosing to move away from the experience or complicating your future.... you can always find a new friend to experience the fun with... but remain in control of your own destiny and I know that's alot for a young mind to think about.
Well, I like this guy and one of my "friends" told him, but she said she didnt. I heard from about 6 people that she did but she keeps lying to my face about it. I'm not even mad that she told him just that she lyed to me. I even told her that I thought someone said they heard her telling him and she said "Well obviously this person doesnt want us to be friends if they're telling you this." What should I do?
Well, if this is the first time you've had such an experience with this 'questionable' friend, I might choose to let it go and give her another chance, if I really like her friendship. If this isn't the first time she's betrayed my trust in her as a friend, I'd probably have to let her go and move on and find a better friend with more integrity.
In life, many choices are available to us each and every day. That's why earth is seen as the kingdom of free will and choice. But look around you and you see how many of us humans misuse that power, the power of choice. Sooooo, think it through and if while you're considering all your options with this friend, it doesn't bring you alot of joy thinking about her and how she chooses to use her choice, then I'd back off and out of the experience.
Anymore, and at the age of 61, if it doesn't bring me joy, I ain't gonna do it.... I wish to fully 'in'joy each and every day and that is about making the 'higher' choices!!!!!
Choose joy, I don't believe you'll be sorry!
: )