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Approaching Girls
19/Male...There is one girl in my Accounting class that I am attracted to. We are in the same lunch line every day right after class, but it seems like every time I am about to talk to her, i freeze up. I still haven't said one word to her. What should I do to break the ice?
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Hi, I can relate. I remember my hischool days and it was just like that for me too.
I'm a girl so..... perhaps I an help a little.
First, since you're in the 'chow line' simply make some comments about the food....and then that could lead to you asking her what some of her fav foods are.
Or.... compliment her on something she's wearing, or perhaps the perfume she might have on or on her hair... pick something that in your mind stands out about her and simply say something gentle and kind about it, because it makes you feel good to look at it. That's pretty basic, safe and real!
Or some day, as class is getting out.... go up to her and ask if the two of you could walk to the food line together.... is she friendly and openminded and is she a friendly outgoing type?
If she's quiet too, and reserved and shy, then back to the comments on the food in the line... and don't go too far the first day....
Then a day or two later.... make another comment and see if she smiles or frowns. If she smiles or looks at your face, then it's time to go for the next step.
Perhaps, if you drive and can leave campus for lunch...ask her to have lunch w/you off campus... if not, then ask if you can sit with her for lunch and just chat... about school work, about sports at school, about your fav things about school and being a senior. I can attest to how quickly my senior year went. It flew by and so perhaps this new friendship will add a real nice end to your highschool career.
Let her know you just wish to be friends, to chat, to exchange homework questions, or to have someone to talk through personal issues with. Let her know, if it's true, that you're not like most guys and aren't after her female treasures!!!
Try to make it light, easy, free flowing, and easy...... and we're all nervous when meeting new people, and let her know that you're a little shy, if that's true, and that you hope she's OK with a guy that's feels awkward around girls sometimes. Be real, be honest, be upfront and be causual and relaxed.
Oh, before in begin you 'connection' attempts with this girl, take some time to get your body relaxed... some deep, slow, long breaths.... not fast or you'll hyperventilate.... deep, long, slow breaths. Expand your lungs up and out..... and make certain your posture is good and that you make eye contact if possible.... but trust that you are indeed a really good human being that just happens to be male and that just happens to want to be her friend if she'll let you be that.
If she has any foresight, any life experience and any desire for a good, caring, thoughtful, kind and gentle friend, then she can't say no, unless she's playing games, then why would you want a friend like that.
I wish you much luck. But do trust in yourself, know that you are a good person, and have pure intentions, if that is true, and then it's a natural flow of events between two human beings.
I hope this helps and doesn't sound too bossy or demanding or silly.... but I know what you're going through... and trust me life does get a whole lot better!!
happy heart day.... oh, give her a valentine's day card to a friend from another....even tho you're not yet real friends... it might just break the ice..... I think it's a great idea, with great timing and you can find a great card still..... or if not, make one just for her... she'll know it to be a 'one of a kind' and perhaps she'll see you as that also!!!
I'll be thinking about you......
SH
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Why don't you flash her a smile and say "hey there" pr something along the lines of that? Maybe she'll talk to YOU!
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Dont plan it out, its really easy to tell (or atleast for me it is.)
Just say something..like "Heyy arent you in (teachers name)" & she'll probably talk to you its really simple,You dont have to impress her with a good converstation starter.
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Talk to her about something you've actually been thinking about. Don't really plan it in advance. For instance, if you don't like what's on the menu (meatloaf AGAIN?!) say something about that (what's IN it anyway, does anyone know?). Or, like some have said before me, mention something from accounting. You don't have to be overly witty; just be yourself! She may secretly want to approach you, but females are often taught that it shows desperation to be the first to take an interest. Good luck!
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hey breaking the ice tends to be ver hard quite often. but what you could do is see if she has a aim or aol screen name and chat with her online first. it is sure to break the ice. cait ♥
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15/m i kinda struggle with that problem too sometimes. But i realize that this is such a stupid problem. Being attracted to someone doesn't mean you have to sweep her off her feet the first time you talk to her. What i do is i would just say something like "it's nice the way the weather hasn't been that bad lately" or "it's unbelievable how cold it is outside". You could also say this to her one day.."excuse me miss, but are you in (teacher's name) Accounting class at (time of class)?" Then when she says yes, say something like, "how did you find that test/quiz we just took?" (You'd probably wanna wait until after you take a test/quiz). After she responds, say something like "i'm sorry i forgot, my name is (your name) by the way". She'll tell you hers and then you'll start talking pretty naturally. I know it's a bit long but I did my best. Hope I helped and Good Luck! HM911
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I found a couple of web sites that look like they might help you out.
Hope you find something useful. :)
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