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Question Posted Tuesday October 4 2011, 1:28 pm
i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?
i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me.i (link)
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It seems to me you need to be asking yourself some questions, not your co-worker. It is time to get really honest with yourself here about what YOUR motives really are. You are obviously sexually attracted to this woman and yet you say you are only looking for friendship. I am too old to beat around the bush so I will tell you straight up that I don't believe you! I think you are trying to set up a scenario where this woman admits that she is attracted to you as well. I think you want to find yourself in a situation with her that could turn sexual and then you can tell yourself that she made the advances, you were caught off guard and things just got out of hand...you are playing with fire and I think you very well know it...so unless your husband is okay with this then you need to stop worrying about what this woman does or doesn't think. If you do not want to find yourself in a position you deeply regret then you need back off and leave her alone.
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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You are only 17 it is perfectly acceptable to date more than one boy. You need to focus on yourself right now, make an appointment to see a therapist and address the issue of your depression. Once you are able to get the depression under control you need to decide what your goals for the future are(independent of any boyfriend)and start preparing for the transition into the world of adulthood. It is perfectly fine to be friends with both of these boys and even date them but you really shouldn't try to involve yourself in a serious relationship at this point. Take this time to work on you. Once you are able to be happy with yourself the right man will come along. Best of luck to you!
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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Both of you need to just get on with your life. I think perhaps his offer of friendship is not as pure as you might imagine. If he really cares for you then then he would either give the relationship another chance or want you to move on and be happy. I think he still holds some resentment and this is just his way of continuing to make you pay. I know this sounds harsh but let it go. He is not the one for you. That is why it didn't seem right to commit in the first place and you questioned it. Your gut instinct was telling you not to jump into anything with this guy and you can always trust your gut. It will hurt for a while but I assure you it is for the best. If you didn't cheat with this other guy then I don't see where there is anything to forgive yourself for. It is acceptable to have male friends and you weren't even in a committed relationship at that point. If your story is true then your bf sounds like a total control freak. Someone doesn't fall out of love because their gf talked to another male friend. My advice is to wish him well and go on with your life. I think you will save yourself a lot of future grief. Good luck!
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girl, grade 8
so...i have a classmate lets call her S. i have another closer friend lets call her T. and T always teases me about the crush i had in grade 7. well not really teasing but just when hes around (lets call her M), T will like point at him or something to make it obvious that i like him. so recently T told S that i like M and i was denying it of course. to be honest, i still kinda like M but im just afraid of admitting because im pretty sure he doesnt like me back and i dont want to have tht awkward feeling when hes around. but well thanks to T, S told M i like him and M told me he knows that i like him. at first i was like who?? because i really had no idea but then i guessed it was S, and S messaged me, telling me that she told him that i like him. to me, i kinda know its her and i dont want to be mad at S so i just shrugged it off.
now theres 2 problems:
1) should i still be friends with S? do you guys think its worth it? i mean she apologised but i think it will be awkward at school.
2) i sent M a message saying "is it S that told you i like you" and he just seen it but didnt reply. although i denied to S earlier that i used to like M, i still kinda do. i want M to chat with me because i think i still like him but i just dont want to confront it. should i start the conversation or wait for his answer that i already know?
3) since i still like him but i lied to S that i dont, do u think i should tell S the truth? all i want is M to chat with me again.
thank you for reading this long rant (link)
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Even though she shouldn't have broken your confidence, it sounds like S was just being a good friend and trying to help you get your guy! Give M a little time to see if he responds to you.I hate to put this out there so bluntly but if a guy likes you(even an 8th grade guy)he will usually try to make sure you know...I am guessing maybe M just likes you as a friend right now and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Move on to other guys. Maybe once M sees that you are attracted to other guys besides him he might start to look at things a little differently...yeah, it's a guy thing! They always want the girl that's a little hard to get...
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Help please I dont know what to do. I'm being blackmailed. I am a 19yr old male and she said she was 20yrs. I sent a nude picture of myself with my face in it to a girl on Kik and she said if I don't pay her money she would post it on Ellen show website and try to have her show it on CNN or something like. And ruin my life. She wants me to pay her $100 and if I do she said she would delete the picture. Im scared that she will post it and ruin my life. I can't tell my family because they would be upset at me and cause more issues. Please someone help me I don't know what to do. (link)
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If you are 19 years old and she is 20 you have committed no crime that you could be arrested for(that I am aware of anyway). You say this could ruin your life but I am not sure in what way....So you're 19 and you engaged in some sexting...I can't imagine this would come as a great shock to anyone including your parents. If you call her bluff and she does post it oh well, just laugh it off with "hey, you gotta admit I looked hot!" and this too shall pass... If you pay this girl are you really naïve enough to believe she will delete it? Ain't gonna happen buddy, she just found a source of income! First of all she is playing on your fear. Tell her to do what she has to do, you welcome the free publicity! Chances are she won't even pursue it past that point. If she does then admit to being human and apologize to anyone in your life who was hurt or offended by it. Brush it off as a stupid mistake(yes, we all make them)and learn from the experience. This is NOT as shocking or devastating as you seem to think. You are only 19, I assure you that you will make mistakes far worse than this one before your life is over! Laugh it off son!
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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You do not mention whether you have discussed this with your husband or not...sooo I have to assume that you have discussed this scenario with him and he is agreeable to it. I really don't suggest surprising him with this unless you know for a fact that he is open to it. If you bring it up after your friend arrives and he gets upset(with my knowledge of men I don't EVER see this happening) but...in the unlikely event that he does it would be very awkward! If he is aware then I would invite your friend for dinner and drinks(perhaps a bondage movie afterwards)which would set the mood and allow them to warm up to each other. It is important that your husband is happy with your choice as well. Again you do not mention that he was involved in the process of choosing someone...It almost sounds like you are planning a surprise party here and I really don't think I would recommend that unless he requested it. I think both parties need to be involved from start to finish. If bondage is not already part of your sexual repertoire with your husband I think you need to discuss that as well. Without more info this the best advice I can offer: Just make sure everyone is on the same page!
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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
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So the point you are so obviously trying to make here is that the world isn't fair...No, it certainly isn't. While I don't necessarily agree with every point you made here, in most of the examples you have a valid argument. The question here is not why do cisgender heterosexual males feel oppressed, the more important question is how do we stop promoting hatred? I must be honest, just the tone of your letter suggests to me that you dislike white cisgender heterosexual males because they are not oppressed. In affect aren't you labeling an entire group of people and disliking them because other people have it worse than they do? As long as we choose to label people this hatred will continue. If we were to be attacked by aliens from outer space tomorrow we would all come together as earthlings to fight this threat would we not? Why wait. That is how we should be viewing each other now. It has to start somewhere so I think today I will just love everybody whether life has treated them fairly or not. I think everyone would find a little more happiness if they would try to do the same.
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Tell him the truth, that you have experimented some but technically you are still a virgin. You should always use protection(condoms)because it is possible to contract STD's through oral and anal sex. If you are planning on having sexual intercourse with your boyfriend you should first get on a reliable form of birth control in addition to using condoms.
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23/F
So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me. (link)
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I have to assume when you say "found out" that you were diagnosed by a doctor. The doctor should have explained the condition to you and prescribed medication. As unfortunate as it is that you have contracted an STD you are far from alone. There are support groups online where you can connect with others who are suffering from genital herpes.You need to continue to see your therapist and come to understand that your happiness and self worth does not depend upon whether you have a boyfriend or not. You need to take this time to work on yourself and your issues. When you have learned to be happy with yourself then the right partner will come along and love you for who you are. Many people with genital herpes have found partners and lead very happy lives. Look up celebrities who have STD's and you will be shocked at some of the names you see there. It isn't the end of the world. It is manageable with proper care and medication. Your depression and acts of self harm are far more serious than the STD. Please seek therapy if you have not already done so. Take care.
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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You are going to have to tell your parents as soon as possible because if you are indeed pregnant at 13 you need to begin prenatal care right away.There could be serious health concerns for you and your baby. There is plenty of time for you and your parents to discuss the future and what your options are. The main thing you need to focus on right now is getting to a doctor and making sure you and your baby are both healthy. Good luck with everything!
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Hello!
As the headline says, im trying to be a better man, and being able to do some self defense is never bad idea. I heared that some martial arts are tied with some sort of philosophy and through it teaching other things for life then just "beating people" (because beating people is NOT my desire in the first place). I will be most grateful if you give me any suggestions i could follow.
Thank you! (link)
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When striving for self improvement martial arts is always an excellent choice. I am not familiar with all the different art forms but I do believe karate classes are widely available in most areas. Karate teaches self control and awareness as well as the importance of respect for yourself and others. I don't believe most martial arts that originated in the Eastern cultures would adhere to the philosophy of "beating people". I believe they teach you to inflict no more bodily harm than what is necessary to stop your attacker. You could look up Martial arts classes in your area and I am sure they would be willing to answer any questions you may have concerning which area of the martial arts would be most appropriate for you.
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My friends did the challenge but we didn't know we had to say charlie charlie can we stop? before we could stop playing! Are we all going to be haunted until we die or just the person who first asked to summon the demon?
SCARED PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Just stop playing.Fear is the only thing haunting you. Look around you, nothing has happened to anybody has it? Everything is the just the same as it was before, only now you are scared.If you take away the fear everything is the same as it always was, right? That is the whole purpose of games like this, fear is why they "work". Fear causes people to imagine all kinds of bad things. Bad things happen sometimes, that is part of life, not because you played some scary game. I am sure some bad things happened before you ever played this game, right? There is no Charlie(except in your minds)The harmful part of a game like this is people get scared so bad they become sick or do stupid things because they are too scared to think clearly. Just tell yourself it is a stupid game and you are not going to play it anymore and there is nothing to be afraid of, ok? If your friends want to keep playing just tell them you think the game is silly and immature and you not a little kid anymore and they will have to play by themselves! If you can be the brave one and stop playing your friends will soon follow your lead. Forget all this nonsense and have a wonderful summer vacation!
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
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Moving to a new place is always tough at first, even for adults. Look for people who like the same things you do. Since your biggest concern seems to be that that the kids are trying to act too grown up there is certainly nothing wrong with looking for a friend in a younger age group or perhaps even boys would make a better choice since they tend to mature at a slower rate than girls. Look around and see if there are others who don't seem to be hanging with any certain group, maybe you will find someone in need of a friend as much as you are. Do not be afraid to make friends with kids who are not popular, the "outcasts" so to speak. It takes a great deal of confidence not to worry about what others think or say about you but the rewards are great. This just means you are a leader, not a follower and trust me if you can adopt this attitude now it will serve you well for the rest of your life. Whatever you do don't try to change yourself or behave in a way that you are not comfortable with just to fit in. It is better to be a loner with self respect than to lower your standards to please others. I am sure there is at least one other person who feels the same way you do about this crowd and one good friend is all you need. Talk to the guidance counselor, he or she may know someone else in need of a friend and maybe even introduce you to help break the ice. Don't give up, there is someone out there needing a friend as much as you do! Good luck!
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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As long as nothing of an illegal sexual nature is taking place then they are with their rights to show affection for each other in public. Everyone has their own ideas about what is "too far" so that is why we have laws to dictate the limits. If a couple showing PDA surpasses your comfort level then the best advice I can give is turn to the side and look in another direction. If indeed the couple is trying to incite anger(which I seriously doubt)losing their audience is the best way to encourage them to stop. I am a firm believer in not trying to shield children from the ways of the world they are going to have to live in, so if I were in that position, once again as long as they do not surpass legal boundaries, I would allow my children to watch and answer any questions they might have. I do have to question your statement that you have no problem with the age, race or gender make up of the couple, otherwise you would just addressed your discomfort with couples showing PDA...period.
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Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills). (link)
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A lot of people suffer from OCD, myself included. I believe there is probably a lot more going on with you than just the OCD. Am I right? You are obviously NOT on the right meds. It could even be that the meds are playing a part in these suicidal thoughts. It is certainly understandable that you don't want to be institutionalized again! You need to switch doctors ASAP and explain that you may be having a bad reaction to your meds. Please follow up on this before you do anything rash. Call a hotline, go to the ER or whatever it takes but suicide only passes the pain on to your family. I can relate far more than you might believe to your situation. Who knows maybe that is why fate put this in my mailbox! If you want to talk to me some more feel free to message again. I don't really believe you want to die or I wouldn't be reading this. Be kind to yourself and give yourself the benefit of the doubt. It ISN"T your fault!
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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
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I believe you should tell him. If he loves you he deserves your honesty. You have to realize this is going to break his heart and break his trust in you. He might possibly break up with you, but you are becoming an adult now and this is the mature thing to do.You can't go on living a lie. The fact is you knowingly cheated on him and when you make bad choices there are consequences. You need to come clean ASAP. If you truly love this guy then you know he deserves better than this from you! Hopefully his feelings for you are strong enough to get past it. If not this is a lesson well learned. Personally I am having a lot of trouble with your explanation of how you planned this and in your own words "were completely aware of what you were doing" and yet never stopped to think of your boyfriend's feelings or reactions at any point before you followed through with it! You give no reason why you you chose not to wait and have this special experience with your boyfriend, other than wanting to "get it over with"! I'm sorry but this whole story just doesn't add up for me! Cold hard truth is you used one guy for sex and then tried to make a fool of another one by cheating behind his back and continuing to let him believe his virgin girlfriend is waiting for him! You seem to know his heart well enough to know he will be shattered. Why didn't you think of that BEFORE you willingly lost your virginity?!!I realize you are only 17 but you need to stand back and take a good look at this behavior!I really don't think you are ready for a committed relationship yet. You should come clean, let this guy go and just be a teenager for a while and enjoy your life!I hope this all works out with as little pain as possible to all parties involved! Good luck!
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My wife and I have been married for 47 years. Admittedly shew has made some good financial decisions over the years but now I am concerned about something very serious. We have approximately 95,000.00 in nth stock amrket. ait goes up and down, most.y down lately. I want it all sold and the money put into the bank where it never goes down. She refuses and I hate confrontation. She will simply not talk about it. I asked her one question that I thought would seal the sell it all deal. "Is there more of a chance of it getting to 100,000 or going to 80,000.00"? we've all seen the crashes and we're to old to go through another one. What do you suggest? (link)
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Do you have a financial adviser? If not I would suggest finding a firm with a good reputation and make an appointment.They can go over your portfolio with and help you and your wife make the best decision for your investments.Good luck to you both and congratulations on a 47 year marriage! Sounds to me like you both have quite a bit going for you in the common sense department! I am sure you will work this out!
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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You need to contact an attorney immediately. Your attorney will advise you in this matter. That is the best advise I can give you under the circumstances.
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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If you believe he is talking to you because he is interested in you romantically then I have to assume from the nature of your question that you are NOT interested in him that way.I hate to make assumptions but I don't have a lot to work with here! First of all,flirting is not accidental! I am a female and I have never"accidentally"flirted with anyone in my life! Flirting is like teasing and innuendo, body language and subtle touching. Being friendly is polite responses and no signals or body language that would indicate otherwise. If you are doing nothing to encourage him and he still asks you out then just politely decline. Good Luck!
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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You shouldn't have lied but this does not seem to be an unforgivable offense. I think perhaps he wanted to end the relationship anyway and he is using this as an excuse. No one breaks up with a person they care about over something this petty. If he can't understand this and forgive you soon then he is not the one.In the future do not lie to someone you love and care about for any reason!It isn't worth it!Good luck!
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