Gender: Female
Location: UK
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Age: 27
AIM: vampyreholic
Yahoo: divinevampyress
MSN: soulofthenight@hotmail.com
Member Since: April 30, 2006
Answers: 61
Last Update: December 6, 2007
Visitors: 3486
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is it wrong to refer to an animal as "it" when you dont know its gender? (link)
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Is it wrong to call an unborn baby 'it' before you know the sex? What else do you call these things?
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Mmm well I had this friend. (not my girlfriend, never intended her to be) She sits next to me in 1st period, and we're both on cross country together. and we used to run together and talk about things.
At first I thought she was really cool, we could connect very well, and talk about personal stuff. She invited me to go with her somewhere, and i thought it would be fun.
Well, a week before we were supposed to go out she told me she planned to go somewhere else with her newer friend (she liked him a bit). and it wasnt the fact that she wanted to go somewhere else instead of hanging out with me, but it was because she like completely forgot about me. i felt like one of those toys you really like, until you get the next coolest then and move on.
she started acting really irritated around me, and completely stopped talking to me 2 weeks. I still put an effort to be nice, I said hi, bye, asked how her day was, and tried to start conversations. but she was really short with me, and would often just walk off instead of saying bye.
one of her friends who is also my friend said she was annoyed because of my "in and out zones". the friend said it meant my happy and sad moments. but i have problems with that because my dad was clinically depressed, and my mom was on drugs when she was pregnant so it fucked with my head. and im also going through many, many, family and friend problems.
so it kinda felt like she was saying: fuck you, i dont care about your problems. i know i feel down a lot and sometimes i dont look very happy, but i try not to be rude, and i still remember my manners. and i was always willing to listen to her and talk. the only time im rude is when im just flirting/playing around with friends. i feel like my problems annoy her, and to be her friend i have to be happy all the time?
so we started off good friends, she was kind of rude when she blew me off, but i was still willing to be her friend, then she stopped talking. she started talking to me again. she thinks im an asshole apparently.
do i have the right to be angry at her? i say a few rude things, but i never intentionally mean to hurt anyone, i just fuck around a lot. i think a lot of guys do. and i always let my friends know im just messing around. its annoying, she was a good friend, we werent friends at all, now she wants to pick me up again like im a fucking book she got tired of reading and regained interest.
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Sounds like a great friend. Ok that was sarcasm. How can your problems be a burden on her if all you have ever done is listen to her go on about her problems?
If that is the way she wants to be, then she's not even worth the effort in the first place. As the saying goes, with friends like that, who needs enemies?
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i met this AMAZING guy on myspace a month ago, from just randomly searching. yeah, i know it's not safe but he gave me his cell number after i messaged him. the next day we talked for like 4 hours on the phone! then we text on and on. every night he would call me. one night he told me he was starting to really like me, so i told him the same back. i felt confused because i didnt want to say i liked him because im scared of getting hurt again due to my last relationship a year ago. the next day, he told me he didnt like me more than a friend. i was upset, but i got over it. anyways, me and him met in person a week or two later and i knew right then and there he was so different :). we continued to talk and everything was great. i began to really like him but NOT in love with him lol. i went to his house one day, and we kissed. it was so different because it was a very different like they were alot of feelings between us. anyways, there has been alot of times when we would talk about sex and everything. hes not a virgin and i am. but he told me he would never force me or make me do anything i didn't want to do. it was hard for me to believe that because my ex boyfriend had forced me to have sex and broke up with me because he didnt get "any". the new guy though always say the most perfect things to me, he told me that my ex was jerk and its his loss. anyways, he CALLS ME ALOT, texts, and he always surprises me. anyways, he told me again he liked me alittle more than a friend a few days later. it made me really happy, and so then the next day he told me he didn't anymore. i really don't know why. i mean i DO NOT want a relationship just yet and he doesn't either. i mean i have never had a guy treat me so good like he does. were so much alike, and we've deff seen our differences. but i want to be more then friends in the future. my question is does it seem like he likes me? ive asked friends and family and they all believe he does but hes confused and maybe he just doesnt want to have a relationship so early. ive asked him why he keeps saying he likes me and doesnt and he just says "idk". (link)
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Sounds to me like he's just after what he can get from you. He gains your confidence and trust by telling you he likes you and treating you so well, then he breaks it by telling you the opposite.
This is the problem with any type of relationship that starts on the internet. He can tell you anything he wants and you have no way of knowing otherwise. For all you know, he could be telling someone else the exact same thing.
But a guy like that? Well, I'd ask him to be honest about how he feels. If you have only met this guy the once then you're not really losing anything. It's just the same as meeting a guy in a bar, having a really good night with him, and never seeing him again.
I would definately say this guy is messing with your head and it certainly is working.
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There was a guy that went to my school that was my age and seemed to have a good, normal life... I mean, he had friends, girlfriends, good grades, played sports... and I just found out like twenty minutes ago that tonight he killed himself. I had only talked to him once ever. I just don't know how to feel right now. I don't know how to help my friends deal with this... I don't know much because there hasn't been anything on the news yet because it happened just a few hours ago. I guess I am just looking for words of advice, or experience... thank you, everybody. (link)
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When someone you know commits suicide it is hard. But it is harder on his family. He may have seemed a 'normal' guy, as you put it, but looks can be decieving and you never really know what is going on inside someone's head.
The only thing you can do right now is be there for your friends. You can't help them deal with it, so to speak as every deals with tragedy differently. But everyon in your school is in the same position as you are. Every single pupil at your school needs to lean on each other now for support.
It is hard, but you will get passed it. Remember him in life, not in death. In other words, remember him as you knew him, not how he is now going to be portrayed.
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Well my boy friend of 2 months is moving back to chicago in 4 months. we had broken up for a couple of weeks but i really love him & were back togeather now. but i dont know if i should stay with him because i noe hes leaving & il probably never see him again. pls help me :( we r just soo in love with eachother & it happend soo fast. should i stay with him or leave em soo its not that hard on me wen he leaves?? (link)
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No matter whether you end things with him now or in 4 months time, it's going to be very tough on you. There is always the option of a long distance relationship but before you enter such a thing, you have to ask yourself if your relationship is strong enough for that? Have you known him long enough to enter it? Have you even been together long enough to contemplate it?
Fact of the matter is, if he's meant to be with you and you're meant to be with him, then it will be. If you're not meant to be together, then it won't last anyway.
But no one can answer any of this for you. It is a decision that must come from your heart. It is something you must talk about with your boyfriend to find out how he feels.
But look at it this way. If you break up with him now, you spend 4 months knowing he's in your town and you can't be with him. If you continued to be with him until he leaves, you get 4 months of what may turn out to be the best 4 months of your life. You don't know what you may miss out on if you end it now.
But ultimately, talk to him. Tell him how you feel, ask him how he feels and come to a decision together.
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im turning 14 im a girl is it bad to get involved with a 17 old boy (link)
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At 14, there is only a 3 year age difference which doesnt seem a lot. However, there will be people who find your age difference somewhat worrying. I don't know where you live, but where I live, it would be highly frowned upon especially if he relationship got sexual (which would also be illegal and the 17 year old boy could actually be imprisoned for statutary rape.
At the end of the day, if you like this boy and he likes you nothing anyone here or in your life could say would make a difference. You can't change how you feel for a person. But take things slowly. Don't rush into anything you feel you may regret later.
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okay well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 71/2 months. overall, hes a great guy, but hes so contolive. he gets mad when i hangout with my friends because he says theyre bad, when theyre really not, also, even if i have an average talk with another guy, you know just a heyy whats up type of conversation. after every studyhall he always asks me who i sit with and what we talk about, and when im online he im's me and asks who im talking to, what im talking about, and asks me to send him the conversations. its sooooo annoying. yes, i love the kid, but sometimes he drives me crazy. what should i do? (link)
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If my boyfriend treated me like that, he'd be out on his ear. Tell him you don't like him trying to control who you talk to or hang out with and that you have the right to speak to anyone you wish.
Let him know that just because you talk to another guy doesn't mean you're going to jump into bed with him.
He sounds like a very insecure guy and maybe just needs some reassuring that you're not going to cheat on him.
Alternatively, he's just a control freak and should be booted to the curb as quickly as possible, leaving you to find a guy who will actually treat you the way you deserve.
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i thnk i walked around school all day with a blood stain on the back of my shorts. that is just so embarasing and then my friend just came to see me and i walked away and he was in the car, i know he deff saw that tho. like its overwhelming,what do i do to get over the embarasmenttt? (link)
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This has happened to me once. You can keep track of your dates and still start your period at the most inconvenient time. For me, I was wearing white jeans when it happened. I was also on my holidays and was walking round all day in white jeans with big red marks on them. Very embarrassing. But you get over it. You learn that there are more important things in life to worry about that a stain.
Just make sure you ALWAYS have extra, what I call personal first aid kit in your bag and always do something about it at the first sign of bleeding. Don't do what some people do, and just leave it until it's heavy because then you're just asking for trouble.
Also, don't ignore the warning signs that your body gives you that your period is about to start. Things such as cramps and your body temperature rising.
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so i hav this guy friend and ive been really good friends with him for like a year mayby and i jus recently realized that im falling for him!i sit next to him in german and were always hitting each other and tickling each other and hes really funny and hes smart too! the problem is if i do go out wit him im afraid it might b akward.then if we brake up im afriad things might change!he a really sweet,funny,and good friend of mine and i really dont want that frinedship to end!hes one of my few guy friends and i really dont wanna loose his friendship! its jus that id rather be his friend then his gf for a while then never talk to him again!im jus kinda afraid to take a chance! (link)
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If everyone thought like this throughout their entire lives, no one would ever set foot outside their houses.
Life is about risks. You say if you broke up you might lose a great friend... what if you don't break up? You not only keep your great friend, but you gain a great partner in life. It is possible for relationships to break down and the people involved still be friends. I am still very good friends with a guy I split up with 12 years ago.
Stop thinking negatively about this and start thinking positively.
Try and find out how he feels about you. Drop little hints into conversations, things that would force him to tell you his feelings. Like for example, when you do something silly, say to him something like 'but you love me anyway'. Things like that.
Or you could come right out and tell him you're falling for him and wait for his response.
Either way, you can't spend your life knowing how you feel and wondering how he feels. You never know. he might be the one you're supposed to be with, which you'll never get to find out if you sit back and take no risks.
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Okay, me and this guy, you could practically call him my boyfriend, we're not sexual or anything, we just care alot for eachother, and we both know about how the other feels, he goes to a different school. and we had a big argument, and everytime we fight i always go back to him, im afraid im gonna lose him to someone at his school, and this time i told him i was never gonna talk to him again, i want to know how i can have him come back to me?? (link)
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Tell him how you feel. Text him or call him up and talk to him. Tell him you didn't mean what you said and that you're worried about other girls in his school.
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So I left this guy, who I know is totally wrong for me, and I know that I'm better off. But I still love him, and I can't stop think about him, and I just miss him so much. I cry all the time. What do I do to get over this guy? I know I have to, but it's just so hard. All this emotions are killing me.. (link)
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As the saying goes, time heals all wounds. It may take a day, a week or a month to get over him but you know deep down that being with him is not the right thing for you. You cant choose who you fall in love with and you cant turn your feelings off like a lightswitch.
I know it may be hard for you right now, knowing how you feel about him but knowing you cant be with him. But keep your chin up and you will get over him eventually.
Get yourself back out there, meet new people, you'll be surprised how much that helps.
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one of my bestfriends and i got ina fight over myspace earlier. she lies alot and she posted a bullitin all made sayin why does everybody say shes scene and why they say shes obsessed with certain bands and why people think she told everyone she cuts. she knows what scene is she says she is she even looked up on how to be scene. she is obsessed with the bands she says it and shows it. she does cut and i would understand why someone would say they didnt im a cutter too we were helping eachother through it but she TOLD EVERYONE she cut and she was showin off her scars and then she did it on the top of her hands wtf and told everyone. i told her and she went off on me sayin i better not talk to her today tomarrow maybe even next week.
i also screwed up my knee and foot with a broken ankle on the other foot. shes beggin me to come to the skating rink because she doesnt have a ride. i went last week with a broken ankle and my foot screwed up. my friends sat down with me because i couldnt take it skating. and she was saying just leave her come skate with me. my friends got mad at her i got pissed 2 stood up for me.
i cant really trust her before this she lied so bad she does anything to make her life sound so much worse or somedays better. she lied sayin she has over a million dollors in her wallet and another time she said her family is on food stamps. she says all her clothes is from hot topic and then she said the only thing she has from hot topic is bracelets i bought her. and all her clothes is pinks and stuff she says she wear all black everyday which i have never seen her like that(i wear black everyday) for myspace she posts fake pictures of scene people and say their her and she has a pic of me wearing all black and with my guy friends and the caption was me rollin with my homies. NONE of her pics are even of her and she says they are. she got me and my friend in the most trouble any of my friends have ever got in there was authority. she just acts like so many people mainly me and no its not even a little complimentary ITS PISSING ME OFF but i do still love her but i dont know why. the whole time weve been friends its screwed up my life and shes screwin up hers. none of my family or other friends trust her but our friends dont see it. were only 13 what can i do?! this has caused me so many bad things i lost alot of old friends but most of them will only like me when im not around my friend. i dont get this ANY OF IT. please help me with all u can for her sake and mine?! (link)
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You're asking advice on what to do when its plainly obvious? Tell her to basically, get lost. She is not your friend, she has never been your friend and she is never likely to be your friend. She may help you at times, but only if it is beneficial for her. She is a very insecure person and has to belittle others in order for her own existance to seem worthwhile.
The best thing you could do is break your friendship with her.
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i hooked up with this guy i like, but he told his best friend, who is one of my good friends that i'm a bad kisser so now i'm very embarassed and i'm not sure what i can do to improve, i mean since i'm bad he probably won't wanna hookup anymore. (link)
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Maybe its him who is the bad kisser. Afterall, guys have to take the lead and we really just follow them so he only has himself to blame if the experience wasn't enjoyable.
But if thats the type of guy he is, then you'd be better off without him. Find yourself a good, decent honest guy rather than a tit for tat taddle tail who'll be likely to spill anything and everything you do to his mates.
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I have not had my period for about 2 months now...and i have had un protected sex twice which ya i know is really dumb... if i am seeing spotting does that mean that i am not pregnant?? (link)
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The only way to know is to do a test. These can be purchased at a reasonable price at your local supermarket or can be done at your local family planning clinic or your doctor can do it for you.
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So yesterday, pretty much this morning, around 12:30-1:00 I had sex with my boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it. We had a little to drink and then just ended up making out...and one thing lead to another and we had sex. It wasn't to painful and didn't realize that I had bled until I took a shower this morning and noticed my clothes. So yeah, we didn't use any protection but he said not to worry he didn't cum. I'm kind of nervous but not too worried about it, I just really don't want to get pregnant. We had sex for about 5 mins only; maybe evben less. Do you think I should get the morning after pill or am i ok? (link)
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Unprotected sex means you are never ok. You may drop lucky and not be pregnant or worse, as in you may not have contracted an STD from him but you may have done. You should get yourself on the contraceptive pill and if you still have time when you get this, you should see about the morning after pill.
Never rely on a man to say 'I won't cum' or ' I'll pull out' because they never do. They don't have much control over that part of their body when it comes to ejaculation. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I STILL don't take his word for it.
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i always have sex with my boyfriend but somtimes we do a foursome can i ever get pregnet from any of them? (link)
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Of course you can. You can get pregnant no matter who you have sex with or how. Unprotected sex can always lead to pregnancy or worse, an STD
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I got madden 08 for computer when it came out and there is this one glitch thats rly annoying, during ne special teams play the picture freezes but it still running so i can still kick the ball but i cant see it happen, does nebody kno wat to do about it? (link)
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Take it back.
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i was having a convo with my mate the other day about contenants and all races of the world.theres caucasians black people and asians .i know that indians live in asia but would you call there race asian as appose to where they live.in other words,if an indian person was born in america or somewhere what would you call them in reference to there appearance? (link)
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If you're born in America, you're American. If you're born in China, you're Chinese. If you're born in India, you're Indian. It's based on the country they were born in, not the continenant.
However, you could also be politically correct and call them Asian. For example, I was born in the UK, so I could be British, Welsh or European.
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Okay, there's this guy I like. He's one of those guys that everybody is in love with. All of the girls who like him only like him because they think he's hot (which he is, he's GORGEOUS) but I like him because he's sweet, friendly, funny, smart and kind. No one else likes him for his personality, but I know him really well so I do? How do I get him to understand that I'm the only one that likes him for him?
Thanks for any answers or help! (link)
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You tell him how you feel. You cant make someone have feelings for you. He either feels the same or he doesnt.
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I've been taking birthcontrol pills for almost 7 months or so, the past couple weeks i've been forgeting to take one, but the next day i would take two. I've did it like 8 times already. I was wondering if i could be pregnant? And since i take the pill, will that affect a pregnancy test if i took one? Thank's so mucn :D
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There are a lot of makes of the contraceptive pill that allow you to take 2 tablets on one day if you miss one the day before, but they do not reccommend it on a regular basis. I know what you mean though about forgetting to take it. I've been on them since I was 15 so that's 13 years and every so often I go through a spell where I forget to take them every 3 days.
The only way to know if you are pregnant or not, is to do one of 2 things. Take a test, or wait and see if your period comes along.
I've never heard of a home pregnancy test being effected by the contraceptive pill, but I suppose anything is possible. Also bear in mind that should you be taking anti biotics, this will stop your pill from working, whether you take it or not.
No contraceptive is 100% guaranteed to protect you against unwanted pregnancy so it is always reccomended to have alternative methods, especially if you have sex with people you don't know very well. Pregnancy isn't the only risk of unprotected sex and this is something we should all be aware of if we have sex with different people.
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